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Gender: Female
Location: Los Angeles
Age: 17
Member Since: May 29, 2005
Answers: 29
Last Update: July 15, 2005
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Elle19
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Why do people like romantic themes in stories? It's not that I don't, I'm just curious, what do people find attractive about love stories? (link)
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hope.
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hello, im a guy and im 14. i have always been kind of quiet in school and stuff. i was just wondering, what should i talk about w/ girls? like i don't know what to say in person except like hi, how are you. and on line i just say hey, whats up, and then the conversation kind of goes quiet, i need real help. (link)
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don't be afraid! i'm serious. when you think "ahh if i say that then people will think i'm weird and it's totally out of context" then that kills the conversation. just say whatever comes to mind, even if it's weird and nonsensical. just do it. don't be scared.
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what can you do that makes a guy like you or want to go out with you ?? (link)
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be assertive and confident, know your style and yourself. if you think you're worthy of his attention and you truly believe it, then he'll perceive it. people pick up feeling subconsciously, for instance if he knows that you know that you guys should be together, he'll start to believe it. also look in his eyes intently when it's appropriate. this tricks the brain into producing oxytoxin which is the hormone that triggers love.
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one of my really good friends is anorexic... she just admitted to us ((me n my friends)). We really want her to stop but don't know how, she said she'll talk to us, but i don't know *exactly* what to say to make her realize she needs to stop... now... what should we say???
thx - *troubled friend* (link)
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tell her that around her, you feel really uncomfortable. tell her that your friendship is in jeopardy. if she says "well you should accept me for who i am", then tell her that you want to, and you're willing to, but the real her is being killed by herself. she really is kiling herself, and you can't be around somebody who hates themselves so much they're willing to slowly kill themselves and starve themselves. this doesn't generate a healthy relationship between her and her body, and this in turn doesn't generate a healthy relationship between you and her either. you can't be friends with someone who is in battle with themselves, because you don't know which side to help! it just gets too confusing, tell her that you can't support her because it's too harmful for both of you.
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i feel like im the only person my age that doesnt have a boyfriend. im 14/f and it feels like everyone around me is together. because all year this year ive heard oh my gosh my boyfriend this and oh my gosh my boyfriend that and i was lookin' around and everyone was like holding hands and stuff. i have a few friends who dont have bf's and we feel like we are the only ones.... IT SUCKS! is there anyway i can get a guys attention or should i just wait. is this a thing that everyone is just trying out? ITS SO SCARY ITS ANNOYING! and any guy that likes me is a nerdy guy! its gross...
PLEASE HELP I RATE 5'S IF YOUR ADVICE IS GOOD!
thanks alot (link)
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the fact that you don't have a boyfriend is probably one of the best things that can happen in your life. you'll feel so motivated to become a better person, physically and emotionally. at first it'll seem like you're doing it for the sake of getting a bf, but eventually you'll only be doing this for yourself. you'll gain confidence, look better, feel better, be soooo utterly attractive inside and out. this is because everyone else has a bf, and you feel like you're not as good as everyone else. so this is your motivation to start improving your life. the results will amaze you. don't become desperate and look for a boy, you don't need him to make you feel better, or to help you fit in.
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Latelty I've put on a bit of weight.
And too much weight for my liking.
I think I'm becoming somewhat obsessed with the way I look, I've started dressing in dark clothes and baggy jeans to hide what I've put on although I know that you can see it anyway.
It's too hot to wear what I'm wearing when walking home from school and I sometimes feel faint from the heat but if I wear something else, it feels like people are staring at me.
I have thought about not eating but I've heard it can just make matters worse so I just kept excersizing and dieting but it's not working! I've been at it at a month and it isn't working!
I don't want to go to a doctor because they'll send me home saying I'm not overweight which I'm not but I don't like the way I look.
I want to skip meals but then I'm scared it's accidently going to get into my head and it's going to become a regular thing and I don't want that. I'm trying hard not to make myself sick after every meal and I'm trying even harder to actually eat.
I just need advice on how to cope.
I don't want to tell my mom, so please don't suggest it. I honestly don't want to tell anyone I just know I need some help.
-- I am NOT doing this to get attention, the only reason I'm asking on advicenators is because it's the only place I know that lets me stay anonymous so it is not for attention and please, if you have nothing helpfull to say please do not say it. (link)
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sweetie, i know exactly how you feel. i used to be so insecure that i'd wear jackets everywhere to cover up everything even if it was too hot. i've been through the same thing. this is how you deal, step by step. i hope this helps!
1. you'll soon learn that confidence shapes the way you see things. for instance, when you gain confidence, the person staring at you on the street will seem like they're thinking "gee, she's really pretty" instead of them thinking "ew what is she wearing??"
2. do sit ups, and run. definitely eat. if you don't eat, then you'll get really moody, pissy, depressed. no one will like you, and you'll feel even more insecure. when you snack, eat fruits and veggies.
3. lastly, always ask yourself why you care if people look at you or stare at you. for instance if you feel like you're being judged, think "why do i care if they judge me??? they're not going to do anything but think some stupid thoughts, and that's shame on them. they're wasting brain power" or something of the likes.
4. wear things that you feel beautiful in. the key here is that you want to feel beautiful, but you don't, because you've gained weight. if you keep hiding yourself and wearing baggy clothes, does this take you anywhere closer to being and feeling beautiful? no, it doesn't. so flaunt what you have!!!!
if you need more help, please feel free to email me.
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This isn't really advice but I need a favour.
I need you to give me ALL the beauty/health tips and secrets you know off the top of your head.
It's for a thing at school (uhm, my teacher..weird much?)
Don't give me sites please just tell me the ones you can think of off the top of your head and if you think of any more you can easily edit your answer.
It's an easy 5.
They can be
Hair, make-up, nails, fitness, health, etc tips AND/or secrets. (link)
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DON'T RUN! running makes your calves humongous and unattractive.
pilates works wonders
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how do i find my perfect look? i mean one day im wearing baggy pants a tee shirt and converse hightops then the next day im wearing a skirt and some heels. should i choose one style? or do i just wear what i want? i dont wanna look weird... im going into highschool next year and i dont want to get made fun of cuz of the stuff i wear.... thanx so much i rate high (link)
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that's great that you can work different styles. i say just wear what you want, and eventually you'll end up finding a compromise. no one's going to make fun of you for wearing what you want to wear.. if they do, then they're losers and need to get a life and probably are just totally insecure.
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well...here is the thing. i have a boyfriend and we've been dating for a while now. when we have sex it feels very good to be honest but one thing i dont like about my boyfriend is when i give him head...he seems to enjoy it SO much he "tinkles" a little in my mouth and it is the most unatractive thing in the world....how do i stop it? (link)
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hmm.. that's biologically impossible. the passage way in a penis is shared between ejaculation and urine. when a man is aroused, the channel for the urine is shut off and opened to the ejaculation. i think what you're talking about is pre-cum. it's natural, he can't stop it.
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ok im 15 and sometimes i feel like my boyfriend wants me to do more than just making out. But i dont think im ready and i dont want to yet. We've been together for 6 months and some people say thats a long time. But what should i do? is it bad for me to be 15 and not wanna do anything yet? is 6 months along time?
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sweetie, i'm proud of you for sticking with your decision to not do anything past making out after 6 months. doing anything else is up to you, it's your personal choice. it's great that you are true to yourself and know what you want to do, and what you don't want to do. i suggest you stick with your gut instincts. it doesn't matter how long you've been going out, it doesn' matter if he wants to pressure you into doing anything. you're not obligated to. if you go beyond your personal comfort level and are untrue to yourself, you'll feel ashamed and lose your dignity. it's great that you have respect for yourself, which is something a lot of girls in this world lack. GOOD LUCK
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Is it normal for sunburns to itch? I was just wondering because I got burnt on my lower back, my upper arms, and my chest, and lately they've been itchin a whole lot. Last night I had to take benadryl (sp?) just to fall asleep, also I think I burnt my thighs too because they itch like mad.
Do you think the sunburn in the reason that I'm so friggin itchy? If not, what do you think is? And either way, how can I stop the itching???? Or is benadryl (sp?) the only way.
I know this is a weird question, but the itching just won't go away. Thanks in advance. (link)
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it's definitely the sunburn. when the skin becomes irritated and dry, it'll itch. use aloe vera, or even better, get some aloe vera lotion for your skin. slather it on and it should help significantly with cooling the skin and stopping the itch.
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Okay, I've almost always been like this, but now I want to know if its just me, or if its a common isue. I have a hard time with grammar. I don't know when to use correct words, tenses, etc. I used to be very smart as a child but ever since... 5th-6th grade maybe? I've had difficulties. Like, yesterday... I said "I got to drove them home" and it didn't sound right... but I was thinking to myself, I don't think thats right... if its not, how do you correctly say it (Then I realized it was "I got to drive them home"). But its little stuff like that. And I often mess up on sentences. If I'm talking about a girl and a guy, and I'm quoting the girl, I'll say "He was like..." and then I quickly say "She was like...". Its like my brain isn't messing up on little things. Is this a common problem? I'm 16/f. (link)
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brain farts happen occasionally, i too have short periods of time when i can't tell if i'm using correct grammar. but they usually pass. unless you have done some serious brain damage and it happens A LOT, then you should go to a doctor. if you smoke weed, i say stop because it kills your brain cells. don't hit your head on walls, try not to drink too much!!
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I need to lose a few pounds!!! Is there any way to lose about 5 or 6 pounds in a week or two? Health tips, Fitness tips, even Beauty tips... I need them all! Please help! Thanks
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run every single day, for about 45 minutes because at 30 minutes, the fat burning begins. drink lots of water, cut out excessively fattening things, mostly eat things that are negative calorie foods (fruits, veggies, etc). wear black, that definitely gives the effect of losing a couple of pounds, wear vertical stripes.
good luck!
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I've been losing alot of weight lately & I hate how it's leaving stretch marks. Any pointers? (link)
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it helps to use scar medicine. rub it in 3 times a day on your stretch marks and they'll fade away, and hopefully disappear eventually! try mederma
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do girls where condoms? (link)
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yes, either a femidom or a diaphragm. when a female visits her gyno, she can get fitted for a diaphragm. a diaphragm is different because it stays in for a long period of time and is personally fitted, whereas the femidom works just like a condom does.
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Hello,I'm an over weight girl 13 years old, and I really would like to go out with a guy at my summer camp. But since I'm fat they only see that, and not the true me. I mean I've lost about six teen lbs total this summer. There are girls two - three times my size.... Does any one have a clue how to attract a guy to me, like flirting ideas, or just to get them to notice me???? Please I need tons of help for this????? (link)
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you said it yourself, they only see your physicalities and not your true you. so make him see the true you. talk to him, laugh with him, giggle, show him the true you that you know so well. also, don't be afraid to be assertive. if he asks for help, be the first one to raise your hand, be enthusiastic, always find opportunities to work near him, or with him (which would be better) and then make sure you make it known that you're a great, funny girl, and stand out. soon he'll forget about your physical stature and focus only on your inner beauty!
best of luck!
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Okay, I made a new friend at the beginning of this previous school year and we are pretty close. Well, she can get very annoying sometimes and be really aggravating alot. Well, is it normal for me to want to spend time away for her? (link)
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absolutely. i think a break would probably be the best thing for you, seeing as she's probably driving you crazy! take a break, see how you like things, and if you still want to be friends with her, then you can start hanging out again. but most importantly, this is for your sanity, so i suggest you do what's best for you.
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i really need help with my makeup..i have light skin, blue eyes, and light blonde hair. Like what color of eyeliner and mascara do i need to wear, b/c i think black looks to harsh with my skin..brands and colors would be helpful! thanks so much!! katie_xx (link)
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you should go with brown eyeliner and mascara. any type will do. first put on the eyeliner and smudge it so it doesn't look so harsh on your skin, and then apply 2 coats of mascara. i think more specifically, for your skin tone, try a light honey eyeliner or just a light brown/taupe type. any brand should do.
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Does anybody know any good work outs to help tone you thighs to make them look nice and not flabby? (link)
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running strips the fat away from your thighs so they're nice and lean. run every 2 days and you will notice a significant difference. they'll be so slim everyone will be jealous!!!
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is it possible for your metabolism to increase over time? bc i'm losing wieght and i'm not relaly trying to. its good, but i was just wondering if age or something has to do with me losing weight. (link)
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no, it's not your metabolism increasing. this happened to my friend, and she just started exercising a lot and she would lose her apetitie because her metabolism was decreasing. she lost a lot of weight and she became clinically depressed. there are a lot of factors in this weight loss, it doesn't exactly have to do with your metabolism. also having a fast metabolism does not mean that you lose weight, it just means you process food faster and get hungrier and must eat a lot but you still maintain your original weight.
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