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Anorexic
one of my really good friends is anorexic... she just admitted to us ((me n my friends)). We really want her to stop but don't know how, she said she'll talk to us, but i don't know *exactly* what to say to make her realize she needs to stop... now... what should we say???
thx - *troubled friend*
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troubled friend,
the thing to say would be you know we realy care about you and love you but you need to love yourself which you aren't right now, you are beautiful and you need to know that. stuff like that which will mmake her realize people care if it doesn't work i'm sorry hun but you probly can't help
much love
x3 mari
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tell her that around her, you feel really uncomfortable. tell her that your friendship is in jeopardy. if she says "well you should accept me for who i am", then tell her that you want to, and you're willing to, but the real her is being killed by herself. she really is kiling herself, and you can't be around somebody who hates themselves so much they're willing to slowly kill themselves and starve themselves. this doesn't generate a healthy relationship between her and her body, and this in turn doesn't generate a healthy relationship between you and her either. you can't be friends with someone who is in battle with themselves, because you don't know which side to help! it just gets too confusing, tell her that you can't support her because it's too harmful for both of you.
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well you shouid tell her that she is not fat..and she looks good the way she is now..and maybe you shouild help her start eating more.. i no it sounds mean but you might halft to get her parents involved..or you shouild say that if you dont stop ill tell your parents or an adult..i no it sounds mean..but this is really serious...you hear about mary-kate olsen???she was anorexic!!but she had to go rehab..so just try to do the best you can and helping!!
hope i helped..
love always,
ilovepink101
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This problem is way to big for you to deal with. What should happen is her mother needs to be told so she can get the professional help she needs. Even if it means her being mad at you for awhile. She will get over it once she is better and realizes you told for her own good. :)
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Honestly there isn't anything that you or your friends can do except tell an adult that you feel you can truly trust. Like your parents or hers. And have them get her help.
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Charmed-Cherry21
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I was anorexic, for about 2 and a half years, and it's a completely mental disease. My friends realized it without me telling them, but it was a certain teacher who noticed I was eating less and less, then nothing at lunch, and then she contacted my parents, and I had to get help.
But the only way to help is to tell an adult, because what your friend needs is a proffesional. I saw a "shrink" for about a month, then got transfered to one I saw for about a year, who was the only one I really liked and could open up to, then I got transfered to some guy who just put me on medication, but somehow I snapped out of it I guess, the meds were just to help me mentally, but I didn't like that guy at all, he was kind of creepy, I would only go in there with a parent because for some reason I didn't trust him. So if your friend does get proffesional help (which she should) talk to her and make sure she likes whoever is helping her, or at least feels comfortable with them, because it's hard to open up when you don't trust, or feel all comfy with the person.
There seriously is nothing you can do but tell a trusted adult who will know how to get your friend help. This is a big thing to deal with, and you and your friends can't be expected to deal with it, she needs help, and it's your duty as a friend to get her help, which in this case means going to an adult if her parents don't already know.
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Hun, there is nothing you can say to her to make her stop.. anorexic people have very set minds and they feel the need to be skinnier and skinnier.. you need to get her help- immediatly! Tell her parents, tell your school counselour.. tell somebody and fast! She needs immediate help!!
<3 Maddie.. hope that helped!
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There's not much you can say, really. And the burden of this should not fall upon you. I understand that you want to help - and that's a very good thing. But no one can expect you to find the "answers" and to be able to stop her behavior.
As hard as it may be, the best thing is to let someone of authority know. Be that a teacher, your parents, or even her parents.
While not exactly the same, I had to make a decision when I was 16 on what to do when my at-the-time girlfriend was seriously contemplating suicide. I realized that it was beyond my power to "save her" and so, as hard as it was, I told her father about it - and he was able to get her the help that she needed. -- And it sucked, it was the one of the worst times of my life having to deal with that. But as hard as it was, I think I did the right thing and while it took some time, she realized that I did the right thing, too.
As her friend, the best things you can do are be there as support and continue to be her friend. But the burden of getting her to correct her eating disorder should not be yours - don't try to take that upon yourself.
Good luck.
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