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Latelty I've put on a bit of weight.
And too much weight for my liking.
I think I'm becoming somewhat obsessed with the way I look, I've started dressing in dark clothes and baggy jeans to hide what I've put on although I know that you can see it anyway.
It's too hot to wear what I'm wearing when walking home from school and I sometimes feel faint from the heat but if I wear something else, it feels like people are staring at me.
I have thought about not eating but I've heard it can just make matters worse so I just kept excersizing and dieting but it's not working! I've been at it at a month and it isn't working!
I don't want to go to a doctor because they'll send me home saying I'm not overweight which I'm not but I don't like the way I look.
I want to skip meals but then I'm scared it's accidently going to get into my head and it's going to become a regular thing and I don't want that. I'm trying hard not to make myself sick after every meal and I'm trying even harder to actually eat.
I just need advice on how to cope.
I don't want to tell my mom, so please don't suggest it. I honestly don't want to tell anyone I just know I need some help.
-- I am NOT doing this to get attention, the only reason I'm asking on advicenators is because it's the only place I know that lets me stay anonymous so it is not for attention and please, if you have nothing helpfull to say please do not say it.
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well it depends on what type of exercise , theres arobic and anerobic , execise(anerobic) like lifting whieghts or pushups or situps aint gonna do you much except make yu stronger
if yu want to lose wheight run(arobic) maybe 1 or 2 miles every day
thats what i did in track and i got real thin and lost a bnch of pounds within a month, it also helps yu sleep better when your well exercised and it will make life taste better i've found ,
trust me youll feel so much better once yu get nto good shape
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well,if you eat right [[and eat lots of fruit..i personally think thats the best thing and you should eat some every day,but thats just me]] and you feel right,then you should be fine. But there are these things in your body that make you happy--the more u have the happyer you are. Like chocolate carries this thing [[i do not no if it is a chemical/or something but,anyways]] Chocolate and sugar makes you hyper and raises your endorphins[[i think these "happy" thinggs are called endorphins..but im sorry if im wrong..lets just call them emdorphins]] So you should eat not a LOT but a very little amount some times.[[not a LOT though. very little amount]] Maybe your bome structure is big. Maybe you should work out 2 or 3 days out of the week..or everyday if you have time. Make a sceduale. And you are pretty in your own way. Make-up increases your features and makes them look very pretty,so maybe go to a store and ask a lady what id the perfect make-up for you. Hair--if you have and oval/round face [[which is what i have]] i would go with hair to the tip of your boob,layers every wear,and lengths in the back. round head-- hair a little under your sholders and side-swept bangs; heart shaped head--any style. I think you could wear clothes from ambercrombie and fitch'areopostale,those places. Carry a purse. You are going to look so hott!!! =)!!!
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well theres a chemical in your stoach that is very stuborn and will not let your "figure" go skinny it was on commercials and stuff but there is a pill that lets that stubborn chemical budge by taking one pill a day and eating right plus excercising also lets it buge baggy clothes aren't the right way to go just here normal clothes and it'll be alright if you where black but not too much black it'll appear to people you have lost weight
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sweetie, i know exactly how you feel. i used to be so insecure that i'd wear jackets everywhere to cover up everything even if it was too hot. i've been through the same thing. this is how you deal, step by step. i hope this helps!
1. you'll soon learn that confidence shapes the way you see things. for instance, when you gain confidence, the person staring at you on the street will seem like they're thinking "gee, she's really pretty" instead of them thinking "ew what is she wearing??"
2. do sit ups, and run. definitely eat. if you don't eat, then you'll get really moody, pissy, depressed. no one will like you, and you'll feel even more insecure. when you snack, eat fruits and veggies.
3. lastly, always ask yourself why you care if people look at you or stare at you. for instance if you feel like you're being judged, think "why do i care if they judge me??? they're not going to do anything but think some stupid thoughts, and that's shame on them. they're wasting brain power" or something of the likes.
4. wear things that you feel beautiful in. the key here is that you want to feel beautiful, but you don't, because you've gained weight. if you keep hiding yourself and wearing baggy clothes, does this take you anywhere closer to being and feeling beautiful? no, it doesn't. so flaunt what you have!!!!
if you need more help, please feel free to email me.
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Don't be so self consious, I know, it's easier said then done. But I'm serious. You were right not to starve yourself. Not only is that unhealthy, but if you do it, everything you eat will immediately turn to fat. I wouldn't tell you to talk to your mother about it, because it doesn't really consern her. Even though she would probably say you look fine just the way you are. "how to cope"? It's not like a different way of life. You really need to learn to love yourself for who you are, not what you look like. If gaining a few pounds has this kind of effect on you, then you really need to take a look at who you really are and what you stand for. That's the advice I have to give, and I hope it helps you.
~IceAngel13
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Maybe this diet and fitness journal will be of help to you. This is the link:
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You don't have to tell anyone, but don't be embarrassed or afraid to. You say you know you need some help. It's just about impossible to get help if you do not tell anyone. Ever thought of that?
Don't ever starve yourself. For one thing, it's really bad because you are depriving your body. Your body DEPENDS on food to keep you alive and working. Without food it will have to work even harder and it won't have enough energy. Do you know why not eating will make it worse? Because after depriving yourself, you will be starving for food. And eventually you'll eat it all back. If you plan to not eat it all back and continue starving yourself, you're just slowly killing yourself and I don't think you want to do that.
The best way to lose weight is to give yourself time. You need to eat a big breakfast, and eat less things as the day goes. It's like an upside down triangle. Never eat food at night. You need to exercise. You need a healthy diet. I'm sure you know this already.
I'm not professional, so I can't tell you everything, but I did look up some sites that you might what to take a look at. If you ever needs more information, just look it up...you'll get tons of results. Here are some links:
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If you don't like the way you look, you either have to be patient and work for it, or accept and love the way you are.
You say you've been exercising and dieting for a week, but it's not working. Are you really doing enough though? Maybe you're not doing something right, or you're not doing enough. Just do some research on dieting and exercising.
Don't be afraid of wearing clothes that aren't baggy or black. Wear clothes that make you feel beautiful and good. Some clothes make you look even slimmer. Just take a trip to the mall and get a change in your wardrobe...it will make you feel better.
Everyone is beautiful whatever their shape or size is. Don't worry about what people will think about you. You want people to love you for who you are, not for your looks. Just learn to love yourself no matter what the outcome is after you diet and exercise. If you do that everything will be a breeze and you will never be disappointed.
Good luck!
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.... first thing i want to say is that i am happy that you are not trying to skip meals or not eat at all.
I think you need to feel better about your body before you can change anything. I'm talking about your body now.
I really think you should just tell a friend. You have no idea how much they can help make you feel better about yourself.
Have you tried different kinds if dieting? One big tip.
EAT BREAKFAST! eating a nice healthy breakfasts like yogurt will nuts or fruit will help with cravings for snaks in the middle of the day. And when you don't eat in the morrining your motablism slows down.
so just say to yourself everyday how gooood you look and eat heathly.
my love
~kooka
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