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My boyfriend and I are completely in love. We've been dating for 3 and a half years. I really see a future with him..but we don't agree on a lot of things. For example, I don't want kids and he does. I want to someday live in another country and he doesn't. He's Jewish and I'm Christian. These are HUGE differences that we share, but we really love each other. What should we do?
~Age 26
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you guys aren't going to agree on EVERYTHING. you have to make compromises in relationships. if you wanna live in the country and he wants to live in the city, then live in the suburbs. when you get married, he's gonna have to convert to chritianity or you're gonna have to convert to judaism. maybe if you don't want kids and he does, adopt or just have 1. if you truely love each other, then everything will work out.
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I think there are too many basic incompatibilities for your relationship to work as marriage. Compromise is fine and good, but no one should be compelled to change their religion for the sake of another, and certainly no one should be having kids who doesn't really want them.
If it is part of your plan in life to get married someday, you're going to have to make it someone besides this man you're in love with. Love is wonderful, but if it's the only thing you have, it may not be enough.
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what i think you guys should do is sit each other down and have a long talk. you guys should both express your feelings and thoughts and maby come to some compramise. like maybe you guys could have kids and then live in another country. or that maybe he could take care of the kids and you could go to work. a huge part of dating and getting married is to make comprmises to make each other happy and not just one. my last resort to you is to maybe brake up. couples who make huge sicfrafices for love can end up in divore, wrongful love affairs, and unhappyniss, although i think you guys could work it out.
hope i helped and best of luck
bigboy13
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Since you two are deffinetly in love and you really see a future with him then you two should find some sort of compromise on these differences, even if they are really big. because thats kind of what love is about, making sacrifices for the other person, but he should make some sacrifices for you too. Hope i helped!
<3 Jess
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Come to a compromise, love always finds a way...
Talk to him about it, there has to be some mark in the middle you both can settle on...
For example...
Maybe you could have 1 kid, and you could move to another country.
Or maybe you could have have no kids, and stay in the country you are in right now...
You'll figure it all out, i promise. :-)
Hope I Helped
Tyler~
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