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My name is Jessica, im 15 and from michigan. I love giving advice to my friends and so i decided to give advice on here too. ill try my best to help you with any sort of questions like about relationships, friends, and all that stuff.

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well I've asked many questions on here about me and my bf. I'm 14 and so is my Bf. he asks like a kid sometimes (b/c of siblings and he had cancer.) He hasnt made a move at all! we barely ever kiss, and when we do its a peck on the lips, we do hug, and we've only held hands once in the 10-11 months we've been going out. school starts this coming week, and my friends keep saying I have to make a move, because he doesnt! i've gotten advice that says he may be afraid to make a move, like I am.
What are some signs i can used to tell if he still likes me? or should I wait and hold hands and kiss him and see what happens??? I'm really afraid to make any move! Hes my first bf!!! what do you think I should do???
thanks in advance!

I agree with what the person before me said,
if he didnt like you he wouldnt have stayed with you for so long with your relationship being like this. Making a move is scary and no one likes rejection but if you do it you will deffinetly not regret it. im sure he wants to make a move as much as you do. maybe hes even thinking that you dont like him anymore just like your thinking. So just make the move but take it slow. Your relationship is probably going to last a long time because you guys arent rushing into anything and that is a very good thing.

Well i hope i helped

Jess

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15/f
105lbs

im deffinately nowhere near anorexic but i really want to gain weight because when i bend over you can see every rib and vertebre in my back and it grosses me out to think im that thin. i eat a ton of food every day. fattening stuff too. i work at an ice cream shop and we're allowed to eat whatever we want so im constantly eating all day. i dont know why i can't gain weight. it was like this a few years ago i stayed 75lbs for about 2 years and then my doctor made me go on this diet to gain weight and now i've been 105lbs for two years. i've been tested for a growth defficiency or whatever they called it but i don't have it so i should be gaining weight normally but i dont. one day i weighed 109lbs but i went to bed and when i woke up i was down to 103lbs. i lose weight in my sleep!! don't tell me im lucky, i've been hearing that for at least 10years. has anyone had this problem? what can i eat to make me gain weight. im not just talking about muscle...i want to gain fat!


please help

I know exactly what you mean. Im the same way and the first thing i tried was eating every food i could find that was high in fat, but that didnt work. For me eating healthier foods worked and drinking lots of milk, maybe if you try it, it will work for you. Taking vitamins might help too, if your not already taking them

I hope I helped,
Jess

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so i know this kid and we'll call him tom. tom flirts with me a lot. he desont try to make it subtle or anything, either. he gets in my face and tells me that we're going to date one day, and he's going to kiss me, and hugs me every chance he gets. im not a flirty person, and as much as i actually like tom's advances, it;s hard for me to flirt back, especially when people are watching. i mostly end up laughing it off and backing away. last weekend though we were at a party and i told him to stop. i was laughing when i said it, and it's not like its the first time ive ever said it, either. i was jsut nervous because he was telling everyone how i liked him and wouldnt admit it and everyone was looking at me. so after i told him to stop, he backed off. he seriously backed off. like he ihgnored me for the rest of the day until we left at around 9, and then he asked for a hug. he hugged me for a good five or six seconds but he was no where near as flirty as he usually is.

then i went to my friends house at about 1 my friend got on myspace (duhh) and he messaged me asking her asking us to come to his house because its the next street over. we said no and he promised not to touch me. we still said no. i really just didnt want to because i was ready for bed. he was being really overly nice about me and he usually likes to tease me.

i think im bothered that he isn't focusing all his attention on me, and i know thats shitty because i didnt treat him all that well when he did.

but seriously wtf is going through this kid's head and how do i even begin to apologize or tell him that im interested? :[

I would just straight up tell him that your sorry and that after he stopped flirting with you, you realized that you liked him and he will most likely still like you so he should ask you out then.
Well I hope I helped!
Good Luck!

*Jess*

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i had a sunburn..and i peeled the skin on my nose..and now its all red >.< ..is this just new skin? when will it turn back to normal color? is there a way to make the red go away!? thanks

That happend to me a few times. Try rubbing aloe vera on it. it makes the burn heal faster.

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My boyfriend and I are completely in love. We've been dating for 3 and a half years. I really see a future with him..but we don't agree on a lot of things. For example, I don't want kids and he does. I want to someday live in another country and he doesn't. He's Jewish and I'm Christian. These are HUGE differences that we share, but we really love each other. What should we do?

~Age 26

Since you two are deffinetly in love and you really see a future with him then you two should find some sort of compromise on these differences, even if they are really big. because thats kind of what love is about, making sacrifices for the other person, but he should make some sacrifices for you too. Hope i helped!

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14/f...i've been trying to eat less calories and stay thin. a daily eating pattern is this

breakfast -- a vanilla crisp Special K bar
lunch -- one red apple and one chewy bar
dinner -- whatever my dad makes (it varies everyday from hot dogs to pasta)

but all of the sudden my dad has been trying to get me to eat more food. he is always thinking that if i eat too little then i'm going to become anorexic. whenever my dad cooks he makes me eat more then i want to eat to stay thin. what can i do? and today him and my mom started saying that they don't like how i eat a special K bar for brerakfast. they want me to eat something more suitable for breakfast like cereal..but that would put more calories into my diet and make me gain weight.

yea i agree with exercising at night to burn off the calories. maybe you could eat that special k cereal instead of the cereal bars its pretty much the same thing and its good..i like the one with the strawberrys! and if your parents dont get off your back after this you should talk to them. Hope i helped

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I apologize now, it is Long

Ok so, i asked a question a while ago (called Work Guy) about if i should ask this guy from my work out. Every answer i got said to go for it and that it seemed like he was interested etc...
So i went to our work tonight to get a book and then popped by to say hi. When i was coming out of the bookstore, i saw him with this other girl. She works in my department. she's new...( boss's daughter's fiancee's sister), anyhow, they were just sitting down for their break together, so i went over to say hi. I'm friends with both of them. It seemed like the whole time, that she was giving me glares to leave the two of them alone. I didn't want to because i'm absolutely crazy about this guy and i can't stop thinking about him. So i stayed for like 1/2 an hour. We all talked etc. It did seem though like there was this weird lingering feeling as i was sitting there. she seemed like she was trying to flirt with him too and stuff. I really wanted to ask him out and i was all prepared to tonight, but now that i've seen him with another girl and flirting kinda and stuff, i lost all my courage and i can't do it now, and i'm insanely JEALOUS.
I need some help.....
What Can I Do?????

try asking him whats going on with the two of them and if he says nothing then just go ahead and ask him out. if he says he likes her then just back off for a while. Good luck and i hope i helped!

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okay i'd say about seven months ago. me and a kid named 'dylan' started talking. & we went out. about two days into the relationship i got online & his away message said i love you 'melanie'. WHILE we were going out & when i asked him about it all he said was that he was sorry. but he liked 'melanie' more than me. it took a while to get over. beause we actually got along really well. after that i stayed single for a while and about four months ago i started dating my guy best friend 'landon'. well 'landon' and i are good. except he gets a bit jealous. & a few weeks ago at a swim meet 'dylan' was flirting with me a bit. now, i dont like him or anything. but he was flirting. & 'landon' got EXTREMELY mad saying how much i flirt with other people. WELLL we both got over it & its been about a month. & last monday 'landon' went on vacation. he came back on friday but he's been busy and i havent seen him in like 10 days. meanwhile, 'dylan' and i were talking on aim. when all of a sudden he starts to tell me how stupid he was & is for letting me go. & how he'd NEVER hurt me again. & how sorry he is. & how wonderful & amazing i am. and everything. and he's really sweet. BUT i have a boyfriend. & i told him how i couldnt leave my boyfriend and how i didnt exactly want to. but the thing is: i have NO idea what to do. because on one hand, i dont want to just leave 'landon' and throw away everything because i REALLLLY like him. but with dylan. it's like couriosity is a huge. because i never really got to hang out with dylan while we were dating & a part of me wants to. IM SO CONFUSED. please. any advice at all would help.

everyone wonders what it would be like to date someone else while they are dating someone..but i wouldnt give in to this curiosity cuz dylan could end up being the same way he was before and since you dont know if he has changed just stay with landon. it seems like you have somthing good going with him. Good luck and i hope i helped!

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So there is this girl. I've seen her at this resturant for the past 2 years but never said a word to her because i'm so shy. We had a picnic this weekend and my mom's friends daughter came and with her was this girl.After the picnic I was told that she thought I was cute and such a nice person. So I was invited back to the apartment the next day of these 2 girls. We watched 2 movies and ate dinner othing big. So when I got home I text the girls friend and asked if this girl even likes me or what. I got in reply She does but wants nothing serious. How do I go about that? Do I still try to become close and hope more happens or what? Any help is thankful.

well you could just try to get closer to her but you might end up just getting hurt way more. If you want somthing serious and she dosnt, then it probly isnt that good of an idea. it sounds to me that she just wants to hook up, but maybe you should get to know her a little better. Hope i helped!

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I'm going out with this guy. He really loves me and I really love him. I haven't seen him since he asked me out. I used to see him every Sat. at a place I go. He gave me his phone number. I called the next day and for 3 weeks I'd call and we'd talk about normal crap and then I finally told him I liked him. He acted like he didn't like be back so I backed off and just started talking about normal stuff. So, he finally on fourth of july nite said he had a confetion to make and told me he liked me still. And then He asked me out. I said yes! But now I want to know when I see him this Saturday, Should it be more than just a hug?

~Kayla~ ♥

it depends, a first kiss isnt that big of a deal but its ok if you want to wait..he will respect you more for that. i think a hug would be a good idea but if you want to kiss him thats alright too. so its your choice, just see how the day goes and then you will know what to do.

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so i met a boy and we got kinda sexual at first then he asked me out but i dont really know him.. i said yes because we kinda almost lost our virginity together..
and now i want to get to know him
(dont say break up with him.)
but how do i get to know him?
what do i talk to him about?
when we sleep together how are we going to sleep without doing anything..
i really want a serious relationship.
oh and also
is it wrong to not like makingout?
and not makeout with your boyfreind but do other stuff?
thank you so much i rate fives if you try

just get to know this guy like you would anyone else, find out what he likes, his friends, and all that kind of stuff. If he only wants to do sexual things then you might not want to be part of this relationship. and when you sleep together and you dont want to do anything then tell him you dont want to do that all the time and that you want a serious relationship. I dont think its wrong to not like making out, maybe you should try different techniques, there is nothing wrong with doing other things either, other than making out. Hope i helped!

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I know another boyfriend story sorry.My boyfriend is in new mexico we have been going out for 4 months now and he pays for minutes and I know long distance but does it hurt to call me.He told me he would call once a weak. and he never does he did not even call on my birthday i had to wait all day [that crushed me] then i called him and all he said was i'm sorry and i have to go i'll call you back later that was on the 25 of june. I mean he did not even say happy birthday. everyone says he treats me pretty badly all the time with the things he says and stuff he does or does not do. people say i should break up with him. When i get mad at him as soon as i hear his voice i'm notmad anymore. my friends say that that is an abusive relashionship.verbal wise what do you think and should i break up with thanx sorry it's so long.

i dont really think that your in a verbally abusive relationship, its not like he called you stupid or anything like that. but he has no reason not to call you for that long especially on your birthday!! if he said he would call once a week bring that up the next time he DOES call, talk to him about what he is doing and if he keeps doing it break up with him, because its not fair to you. i dont know how he treats you other than this but if you think he treats you bad then end it, only you know whats good for you so dont let anyone decide what your going to do for you. But i hope i helped and happy late birthday!!

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My boyfriend is Constantly working so I never get to see him the last time i saw him was Thursday and I miss him so much im crying! yeah i know well he cant call me either because hes either eating, sleeping or working so I hardly ever get to see or talk to him. i only see him on his days off (which arnt that many) Im sorry if this is a hard question to answer but what can I do? I want to see him SO BAD!! he lives in a diff. city than I do (about an hour away) and I dont know where he works at either so I cant see him or call him because he doesnt have a cell phone and no work phone. I miss him so much what can I do? and im always thinking about him and it makes me cry because i miss him so much. and another thing is sont say something like "go hang out with your friends or family because my family is out somewhere and my friends are out with THEIR boyfriends so theres no where i can go to get him off my mind im stuck at hi\ome with nothing to do, noone to call, and all i have left to do is think about him and its making me depressed. and DO NOT say break up with him because i LOVE him. is there anything i could do? anything that would make me happier? thanks i will rate and leave really good comments!

Nope theres not much you can do here. I know its tough, i have kinda the same problem. im at my moms for 2 weeks and i only get to talk to him on the phone. Deffinetly do not break up with him. Try meeting some new people to hang out with since all of your friends are busy. If you dont want to do that ask your boyfriend if he could take some time off of work to come and see you. or if your old enough to drive then you can go visit him before or after he goes to work. Hope i helped!

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ok to start off i am about to run away.
well heres my story. i had this boyfriend who i loved soooooooo much. we went out for 3 months. but he started rushing things a little much so broke up with him. 5 times. and the final time before we broke up i started liking someone else. now this guy is liked by my two faced good friend!! woo! anyways and me n him really liked each other..so that night we went to the movies and what do you know my ex-boyfriend went too. but that night after me n the new guy talked to my friend and she was like w.e is good for you guys..he asked me out to my face. it was like prince charming. but my ex bf was crushed. i dont blame him. he still loves me soo much. and so me n the other boy went out for a while almost a month. he broke up with me today..hes like well i loved you and i still do and he just doenst make sense. and the two faced girl is making me feel like crap after she was like no no go out!! and she was all nice to me. now she has people thinking im some slut. which is so not me! he was on myspace and he made a buliten sayin oh i lost the perfect girl. wow huh? well its my summer vacation and my ex bf asked me out and like i still love him but i still havent gotten over the other and i don want more problems. any advice??? thank you soo much

yeah just tell your ex bf that you need some time before you go back out with anyone..but tell him your considering it, so he dosnt just give up on you. So just hang with your friends and get your mind off of the guy who just broke up with you, then when you feel like your ready, go back out with your ex if you still feel that you love him..i hope i helped and hopefully everything works out for you!

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hey! well im 15/f
and allright so ive been having boy troubles lately..i was kinda crushin a little bit on this guy and we were flirtin alot until i find out he just got a girlfriend so that went down then drain and now i feel like i cant flirt with him anymore. so i just sit there but he kinda still flirts with me! i mean i spilt somethin on my shorts lol and so i was changin into my boxer shorts in my friends room and i guess he told my friends sister to open the door and pull down the towel i had because supposively he wanted to see my ass and i dont know i didnt start flirting with him because i backed off since i found out he had a girlfriend but he still kinda flirts with me! he is so adorable and sweet and we can have such good talks and i was talkin to him on AIM and hes like jokin around sayin ohh didnt this boy look sexy today and i was like haha real funny! and hes like just kidding but we'll find you a boy dont worry. hes just sooo sweet!! but he really likes this girl and i guess has liked her for awhile but then why does he do this with me?! and like for stuff on AIM or whatever hes always like i love you lindsey?!
soo im just so confused...

I had kinda the same problem, i thought my boyfriend was flirting with his ex so i kinda freaked out at him and then i realized that is how he acts with every girl..so i think that is what this guy is doing to u, he dosnt consider what hes doing 'flirting'. lots of people have different opinions on flirting so his is probly different. im not saying to flirt with him again because his girlfriend might get the wrong idea, like i did. but he is probly going to keep doing this if he dosnt think its flirting, maybe you should let him know that you think he is flirting with you. Good luck and i hope i helped!

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so there is this one guy!! and he is really really cute and seems really funny. ive always had my eye on him since like winter but ive never talked to him because i didnt know how to approach him. well a couple nights ago he I/M my friend and said somethin but she was gone so i was like this is kristen ..shelly is upstairs so then hes like asking me all these questions like what school do you go to..do you know these people? and hes like are you hot? lol and im like uhh..and so my friends brother goes up on his computer and shows him my myspace link and i guess this guy was like shes "aight" soo that kinda lowered my confidence but then i was like wait you play on this baseball team right? and hes like yeah and i was like yeah i was at your game tonight! and hes like yeah we suck but im the catcher..and im like ohh you did good! and then hes like yeah but i got to go take a shower so then he left and i was like allright cya. and how can i somehow talk to him again? i wish he would get my screename from someone and I/M me first because that way i would know he was interested or whatever! i mean ive had my eye on him forever and now i finally got to talk to him! i dont want to request him on myspace or I/M him first because i dont want to feel like a stalker or like him being i dont really even know you?...ive talked to you only once?..

i just dont know! do you guys have any suggestions? and i guess that he doesnt really talk to my friend much they dont hangout at all so i dont think she could help me!

also im so shy and always worried of what people think of me...i know i shouldnt i wish i wouldnt but i cant help it! thats why i dont want to approach him first. but lately this kid is all i can think of!? hes kinda popular so i dont know if he would go for me..since he said im "aight" looking..but i think i could maybe get him by my personality or something??

thanks so much.

The next time your friend does talk to him then have her say somthing to him like, "so what did you think about kristen?" thats kinda the only thing i can think of since you dont want to add him on myspace or i/m him, but if u did he probly wouldnt think your a stalker just tell him that your bored and someone gave you his email or somthing like that. and you could definetly get him by your personality, if he only cares about looks then hes no good..well i hope i helped!

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i really like this guy and i think he likes me coz i always catch him staring at me and smiling, the only problem is he has a gf.
i cant change the way i feel for him and i dont wana hurt his gfs feelings,apparently he doesnt wanna b wit her but he doesnt wanna break up with her because they are really good m8s. Anyway he was looking at me today and his friend shouted 'ohh i no u like her im guna tell michelle (his gf) now im like completely confused n i dont no wot to do plz help me!

I had the exact same problem and i still havnt figured it out yet..some guys are just so confusing. If his gf isnt your friend then you dont need to worry about her too much. I would talk to him and ask him if its true that he really does like you, it seems to me that he does like you. Hope i helped!

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Im 16 and i still havent madeout with anyone. All my friends are very experienced and i get uncomfortable when they talk about that kind of stuff becuz im very inexperienced in that department. I feel so stupid and young because i havent..i mean some 13 year olds have madeout..and im 16! Is this normal and what should i do!?

No there is definetly nothing wrong with you so dont worry about it! I made out for my first time when i was 14 but pretty close to 15, but everyone is different. you just have to wait until you find the right person (corny i know, but true) Also, dont pressure yourself to make out with some random guy, thats not right..its fun but its better to wait until your ready. As for your friends, if they know that you are unexperienced then tell them that you feel uncomfortable when they talk about that stuff when you are around, it should work. Hope i helped

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Well, I live in New Jersey, and there is this really cute boy named Tiger (it's his nickname, lol)

In the beginning of the year, Tiger and I became friends (I did not have a crush on him at the time). Then, I started to notice him, and started to like him. We were friends (Or so I *thought*). Until this aquaintance of mine (after I told her I liked him), she said "Oh, Tiger? I heard him and his friend talking about you. They said that you were kinda mean.

But I told them that you were really sweet" And she kept saying that. So, I trusted her, and basically eliminated Tiger from my life, and (xD gosh, I regret this now) I started being kinda mean to him. So, we weren't friends anymore. Later in the year, I discovered that my aquaintance Callie (the girl I told you about earlier) was a gossip, and she liked him too.

Then about 6 months after Tiger and I weren't friends anymore, our school took a trip to Paris for 5 days. I was in his group (but I had gotten over him by this time). Well, while we were there, we became friends, FAST. It was like magic really. And basically the whole trip, we talked to each other only.

So we came back. Things were a little different, but we were still good friends. And he sure acted like me, and all my friends would tease me on the trip and say "wow..he was all over you" and stuff like that. Anyways, it was pretty clear that he liked me.

I became friends with another girl named Tori. She told me she liked Tiger. I told her that I liked him too, and "Oh...maybe he likes you as well" So she started throwing herself at him. The closer she got to him, the farther Tiger and I grew apart. Then Tori told me one day that Tiger said "I'm glad Lily (me) doesn't like me anymore, because her friends were annoying".

Anyways, school has ended. And my (2) close friends tell me that he really does likes me, and looks sad when he looks at me or whatever.

I don't know who to believe. Next year, we're going to highschool. Should I just forget about? He could be lying. Any help is great, thanks.

It seems that he does like you but dont just assume that he does, this tori girl could be lying about what he said just to get you not to like him anymore..but who knows, i think you should ask him who he likes and flirt with him alot, or have other people ask him who he likes. Hope i helped

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Is coming to visit me & my family in the next 2 days. I recently heard about something he did to my older sister & now I'm really scared of him. He deserves to go to jail. He sexually harrassed my sister when she was around 3 years old and when she was in 3rd grade. Please help me. idk what to do im soo scaredd.

you should be scared! that is very creepy. i would say just dont be alone with him and you will be ok. your sister probly feels more awkward than you do so maybe you should talk to her about it and tell her the same. Hope i helped

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