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My mom won't let me date till I'm 18 whicu basically is never cause once I'm 18 I can date anyways so its never I want to tell her 13 is a good age but I'm too scared of a NO and I just need advice on how to tell her and what I should tell her like reasons point and ideas please help I do not want to get my first bf and 30 or my first kiss at 28 please help me...
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Well im 13, so i know what you mean. She sounds a little overprotective, but then again you ARE 13, so you might wanna slow down. but my cousin is too overprotected, and she wanted to do stuff like date before i did. have you ever heard the saying, "you always want what you cant have"? well, just tell your mom first thing that you want to reason with her. dont diss her parenting skillz though, that will get you a NO right away. just say that you think you're ready, but if she still says no, then show her how responsible you can be, then ask again later.
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I'm almost 14, and I have already started dating. See, it took me a while, but you have to get them to trust you. Then... You have to pick good places to go. Moms don't like movies, and cool places. Stick with the mall and school to start. Tell your mom the mall is a public place, constantly surrounded by people. Fight saying, movies are dark, and usually independant from other movie goers. Once your mom starts trusting you, and you have already hung out at the mall, try bringing the guy to the house, and stay in non-private areas of the house. Get your mom to warm up to the guy. Then go to the movies. Ask her if she wants to go, either to see a different movie at the same time, or the same as yours not the same row though. She'll finally declare you responsible. After a while, she'll stop caring, and start trusting you. And if you're boyfriend has a problem, show you're mom you're responsible, and dump him. if he can't deal with family he isn't worth it. Hope I helped!
Krystal :)
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Yeah i wouldn't want to either but you should probably wait for a guy you really like and really know to come along to have for your first boyfriend. not just want one because 13 is a good age. if you have that talk about him with your mom; let her know he's a really good friend and you really like him and you aren't goona make any stupid mistakes. let her know your independent and you want to be responsible for your own actions and even if she thinks it's a bad idea ane she just doesn't want you to get hurt tell her you have to make your own mistakes. otherwise you may just end up being rebelious and doing something you'll regret. tell her you need to be able to think for yourself; you have to grow up and decide what's best for you, what will make you happy and stronger and more independent(etc.). bottem line talk to her, don't worry. i seriously doubt your first kiss will be at 30.
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Well,
Your never gonna know if your aloud to date when your 13 unless you ASK. So if you really want to know if your aloud to date at 13 then ask.
Hope I Helped!
molly
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Tell her that at 13, dating is just like having a close friend of the opposite sex. tell her you will go with a group and you can learn to make good choices that will help you when dating is real. that's how i got my mom to let me... i was 14 tho. you're going to have to compromise but i promise you that dating isn't real till about highschool so you are not really missing out on much. <3
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I can see why you'd be frustrated about your mom not wanting you to date, but thirteen does seem a bit young to me. I would wait till you're fourteen, maybe even fifteen, till you start dating. If you start dating at too young of an age, you'll be bored with it by the time you reach sixteen, when all your friends have just begun dating. Then what will you do? I highly reccomend not dating just yet, and please don't fight your mother on the topic, it will just end badlly. Just hang out with guys, maybe be a little flirty, but dating is certainly worth the wait.
And in your defense, eighteen is a very long time to wait. I don't think you (or anyone for that matter) should have to wait that long.
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My parents used to tell me the same thing when I was your age. Give it a while & they'll come around. In the mean time show them how responsible you can be. [:
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A lot of parents say...ohh you can't date until this age. But, you do have to realize, you are only 13 right now. Most girls don't date or have first boyfriends by then. Maybe you can compromise with your mom and tell her that 16 would be a better age to start dating. You are able to drive at that age, and that is legally the age that you are allowed to stay home alone, so it being a big year and all, and you having matured and not being a kid anymore, you should be allowed to start dating. Hopefully it works.
-Teacup
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You have to tell her that she's got to let go someday,now is the time,you won't be able to share your stuff with her if she tries to overprotect you,she had a boyfriend so why can't she let you date,lots of girls that are your age have a partner,that you're young,youth goes out very soon,you want to be able to enjoy it,and that if she really wants to see you happy then one of the things she could start with is letting you date.All parents know that their kids are going to have to make their own life, and their own decisions even if they don't tell you it's true.
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Explain to your mom that you would make sure you're responsable, and that you wouldn't go against her rules if she let you date.
Maybe try writing out all the reasons and giving them to her on a card, that way, you'll get you word in, and she can see all of the good reasons right before her eyes.
There are no experiances, neither good or bad, if you do go out and live life.
Take a crack at that for her,l ol.
Good luck, Write if you need anything!
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13 is far too young in my opinion. I think 16 is a good age to start going out on dates, for mature teens anyway. When I was your age I agreed with you totally and thought my mom was a total bitch for impossing those rules on me. Well guess what? Now I'm 24 and I am surrounded by single parents and divorced friends everywhere I turned. Why? People get into relationships before they are old and mature enough to really make intelligent decisions. Listen to your mother!
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