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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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does anyone know any good layout sites with cute layouts?

something like createblog and myhotlyts.

here's what i like.

- default layouts
- animal print
- hearts
- stars
- dark colors

thanks in advance!

Pretty much any MySpace Code sites you search in Google will have cute layouts. :) You could also just search for layout creators on MySpace.

i just told my boyfriend that I've been with for a year and three months that i made out with my ex who he hates and he broke up with me he took me back but still doesn't know how he can ever trust me again what should i do?
i was with him yesterday and we were having a great time and then he just got all down
i hate the fact that i cheated on him and i know he would never do it to me
i don't know why i did it
i don't have any feelings for my ex anymore i lost those feelings when i broke up with him
please help me?

Your boyfriend shouldn't have to deal with your shit. He shouldn't have taken you back after you told him you cheated. I can guarantee if my boyfriend cheated on me, the relationship would be done and there would be no attempts to fix it.

He can't trust you, and that's a problem. No trust = no relationship. You guys should just stay friends. He deserves better.

why does my lowr right side hurt it hurts when i lay to my side and it hurts if i lay down or sit or walk could it be my apendix im really scared

We're not doctors. Therefore you should go see one.

Tomorrow, I will be smoking weed for the first time, I know it can't kill you, but I will also be smoking black milds for the first time, my question is, "Can smoking a "black mild" for the first time hurt or kill you ?

Nope. Can't hurt you.

Okay it's Saturday I live in an apartment complex the office is closed so I can't call and I have sugar ants GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR. I wanted to know if Lysol disinfectant spray helps keep these suckers away and kills them? My apartment is clean, Yes I know raid works but I haven't gotten to the store yet which I plan on doing soon but in the meantime will Lysol work at all? Also I heard salt and water kills these things too is that true? Help please!

Until you can get to the store to get Raid, this site has ways to get rid of them. I would use these tips in the meantime.

http://www.getridofthings.com/get-rid-of-sugar-ants.htm

well i am 15 and my gf is 24 and we had sex for 1st time and i used a condom but the 1st time we did it it was for maby 60 sec top and then after a bit we tryed agin and it was for a bit (with a comdom) and then we stoped for like 30 sec and she took the condome off and then she wanted 2 go agin but she didn't want me 2 put a condom on and i asker her like 3 times and she sed its fine i won't get pregnat and she sed that there was only 1 day a month a chick can get pragnat and its rite befor they get there pearoid...but i never busted in her wile the comdom was off but i know quite a bit still got in there and now i am kinda scared...

p.s. the reason we didn't do it for like no time at all and then stoped and then did it agin is beacuz it was bolth of out 1t time and i know i popped her cherry beacuz it blead a bit...

No. Absolutely not. NO.

End this relationship. It is ILLEGAL. I don't care how cool you think you are, how much you think she loves you, or how much you think you love her - your relationship is SHIT. DUMP HER IMMEDIATELY.

This is very illegal. I'm not sure what a 24 year old is doing with a 15 year old but that needs to end. It is statutory rape & if anyone finds out, she can go to jail for a very long time - especially for having sex with you.

Also, she lied to you. Girls can get pregnant ANYTIME of the month. I don't care if it's a full moon or if the sky is purple, SHE CAN GET PREGNANT.

So not only is your girlfriend messed up for dating a baby, she's also a liar. :D Dump her. This relationship is illegal and can only get worse. End it before you get yourselves into serious trouble.

I just had sex wit someone who just came on her period,I had a condom but what are my chances of getting a STI or HIV/AIDS. I also pulled out when I ejaculated while the condom was still on.

They're pretty slim. You wore a condom, and if you used it properly, the chances are small.

I'm sure you'll be okay. However, if you're still unsure, you can go to Planned Parenthood & get yourself tested. :)

okay. i have this really kute boyfriend but we have been through our ^s & downs and he thinks we need tew go fast and im not comfortable with it wat should i do?

Tell him. Let him know that going too fast when you're not ready makes you uncomfortable.

If he doesn't accept what you have to say, dump him. Don't ever let anyone make you do anything you're not ready to do or anything that makes you uncomfortable.

My friend can get on my last nerves. Anything exciting I tell her s do she has to have something exciting all of a sudden too, she is also a pretty big liar.How do I solve this.

If I were you, I'd stop being her friend. It sounds harsh, but I absolutely HATE liars and would never be friends with one. The first time a person lies to me is also the last time because I'm done with them. I don't understand why anyone would wanna be friends with a liar, but it doesn't sound like a good friendship to me.

Your friend is insecure and therefore sees lying as an opportunity to make herself look & sound more appealing to everybody else. She also 1UPS you everytime you have something to say that's considered good.

No way would I deal with someone like that. Tell her straight up it's annoying or end the friendship. You have to tell her because if not she'll keep doing it.

14/f almost 15

I've been cutting since I was in 8th grade. I'm going to be a sophomore. I hid it from my parents forever. A couple months ago I like had some weird panic attack or breakdown or something. I was crying like almost screaming. My brother came knocking on the door asking if I was ok. Then my dad started banging on it and almost broke the door down and I was screaming, "OK I'll open it!" I did and my dad grabbed me and looked at me. I was all cut up. I mean my thighs and my arms were horrible. Then he took me out to my mom and they both were screaming at me. I wasn't still bleeding so they didn't want me to the hospital.

Before that I was crying to my friend on the phone. She ended up coming over begging my dad to let her see me.

My dad took everything away from me. My phone, my computer, my mp3. He even took away my church and wanted to keep me away from my friend that came to help me. He hates her. And doesn't want me to have anything to do with her.

I don't understand. I don't know what to do at this point. They expected me to stop after all that. Like taking my stuff away is gonna help. Not seeing anybody for the whole summer?!

What am I supposed to do? I cut myself before because of everything. To be honest I didn't hate my life. I just mostly hated myself. I thought I was ugly, fat, stupid, ect. I know I'm not but I made myself believe it. Because that's what my parents told me. It made me feel horrible. Then my mom had drinking problems going on. My brother was stealing things and I was failing a couple subjects in school and...it just came along to me.

My dad thought I was suicidal. When he was yelling at me he mentioned that he would help me kill myself because he doesn't care if I was dead because if I'm gonna do this to our family it was my choice. Then in another lecture he said the same thing.

Now all I do is cry every night. That's not what I want. Really. All I have is my friends. I actually have time to get on the computer when my parents are at work. So I always wondered what happened to unconditional love. That night when he was talking to me he told me I could tell him any problems that are going on. How am I supposed to tell him anything when he just tells me its ok to die. He mostly said "yeah I would be upset later on but I would realize that's what she wanted anyways" This makes me feel so bad.

Anyways, they just... I just don't know what to do at this point. My friend told me she went through the same thing but her parents got her help. I was told I had depression. It makes sense but I just haven't really talk to anyone about this except my friends.

I know my dad cares...sorta. I thought he did but after hearing that he would be ok if I was dead then it makes me not care about him anymore.

I just keep getting made fun of in my family. My mom calls me bad. My dad calls me stupid, crazy, and once, he called me a zombie. This doesn't make me feel great.

Anybody know what I can do?

I'm really sorry that your parents are so strict & un-supportive of you. I know exactly how it feels because I used to cut too. Thankfully, I stopped last year and haven't cut since. I've had urges, but my life is too good to go & slip & fall back into my old habits.

I know that even though your father has said that you're better off dead, he doesn't mean it. He does love you, he just doesn't know what to do with you. A lot of parents don't deal with this type of thing, and then when they have to - they don't know how to. I'm not even sure cutting is in a parenting book. But that's not important.

You need to tell your parents sweetie. Tell them you would like help for this because you need it. If you don't get the help you need, your problem will only get worse. You can die from cutting whether killing yourself was a plan or not. It can happen, so you need to get help before it escalates even more.

Tell your parents how you feel. You have to tell them calmly. Explain that you love them and that cutting isn't because of them (fully) and that you would really like help for it. Tell them that they shouldn't blame themselves for it. Make sure you tell them how you think they think of you. You have to be straight forward with them. You also need to ask them not to get angry or overreact when you tell them because it can only make things worse and that you'd like their help and their patience/understanding so that you can get better.

Your parents are saying what they are because they don't understand you and they don't know what to do with the situation, but you need to approach them and tell them so that they do know. Trust me, if you approach them asking for help, they will get it for you.

If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here for you. If you'd like to e-mail me with more questions, or if you're just looking for someone who understands, my e-mail is: 123abchristina@gmail.com

I am more than willing to listen to you and talk with you. I definitely understand how you feel. Make sure you approach your parents ASAP. I really hope you get the help you need sweetie. You can overcome your depression and your cutting.

14/female, my boyfriend is 18/m

okay, well on august 13th, my boyfriend is going to jail for 6 months, minimum...and I decided I'm going to stay with him while hes in, anyone gone through this before ? any suggestions on how to make it work ??
thanks :)

You shouldn't even be with your boyfriend. Your whole relationship is illegal.

He's going to be in jail. Leave him alone.

Do you usually use pads or tampons? Do you know any brands that work good?

I use tampons. I absolutely hate pads & haven't used them in 2 years. I used pads up until I was 16 but I used a tampon & have completely stopped using pads ever since.

Anyways, I really like Tampax Pearl. I use the scented ones because they keep you smelling fresh & the applicator is very smooth so it's easier to get it. It's a very comfortable tampon and it's a good brand. :) I would definitely recommend it to anyone.

However, if you do decide to use tampons, then you must remember TSS. Toxic Shock Syndrome is a serious & fatal disease. It can happen when you use the wrong tampon absorbency or when you leave a tampon in for too long. You should only leave them in for 6-8 hours. It's better if you switch to pads every so often when on your period.

My mom won't let us get a dog because she thinks were not responsible and she's alerigic so how do we get both?

You can't. If your mother believes you are irresponsible then that is her belief. There are probably things you could do to make her believe you're more responsible but it may be hard.

Another thing, if she's allergic to dogs, then that's more than a good reason to not allow them. Her decision is NO and her foot is down. To even try to change her mind would be disobeying her. Respect your mother and her decision. You can't have a dog & that's that.

Why is it that this is turning into a site for just teenagers? All they know about is boys, and sex, and makeup, and periods, and discharge, and tampons,etc. Why aren't there more sensible people here?

I think I should start off by asking you a question.

Why is it that you think that every teenager is an idiot who knows nothing about life except periods and sex and boys/girls & makeup? Why can't a teenager know about more stuff than that?

Not every teenager asks about stuff like that. Not every teenager is limited to knowledge about just those topics. I'm 18 and I can bet that I'm smarter than you'll take me for.

It isn't fair of you to generalize teens as a group of people who know nothing about life. I've been through a lot during my life and I know my concerns in life happen to be none of those. Right now, my problems are about college, my job, and making it on my own.

I've browsed columnists on this site a lot, and I can honestly say that there are a lot of interesting, and very intelligent teens on this site.

You cannot sit there and generalize the whole site (or teenagers) into one group just because someone who was younger than you upset you. If you're going to be butthurt about stupid things such as this, then you need to go somewhere else. Your question is insulting and makes you seem like you're of a lower intelligence. You may be older, but you're lacking when it comes to intelligence. And I don't care if that offends you. Take your ignorance somewhere else.

how can you tell if a boy likes you

I gave my boyfriend a handjob and he cummed and i wipped it off but i didnt wash it and about 40 minutes later i masterbated... can i be pregnant?

No.

What are good sex positions?

okay, me n my boyfriend were at the movies and i gave him a hand job and he came. then after he came, he went to the bathroom and washed off his hands and dried them, then he came back, it must've been about 4/5 minutes. then when he came back, he fingered me. is there a possibility that i could be pregnant?

Nope, you cannot get pregnant. Here's a list of pregnancy questions with the answers. :)

http://www.americanpregnancy.org/preventingpregnancy/pregnancyfaqmyths.html

im 15 (girl) and my boyf is turning 19 in december...
i have no idea what to get him... any ideas??

What does he like?

If he likes sports, you can get him a jersey for his favorite team. If he has a certain baseball team he likes, you can get him a personalized baseball jersey from that team. It costs around $100, but it's definitely worth it. :)

If you guys take a lot of pictures, you can make him a scrapbook.

Maybe you can buy him a necklace as well. Clothes would work too so if you see something at the mall that's his size, I'd buy it for him. :)

is pot and weed the same thing?

Yeah.

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