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Jealous friend?
My friend can get on my last nerves. Anything exciting I tell her s do she has to have something exciting all of a sudden too, she is also a pretty big liar.How do I solve this.
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I've gone through this, but I hope your outcome is better than mine.
Just talk to her about it. Tell her you don't appreciate her being fake and making things up. Let her know that just because you have a story to tell, doesn't mean she has to make one up to seem "cool" or anything. Explain to her that it's really getting on your nerves, and is actually having the reverse effect.
If that doesn't work, I agree with Christina. And this is where my situation comes in. I stopped being friends with the girl, and now I feel a lot better. I couldn't stand her fakeness and her inability to EVER listen to ME. So, if she doesn't stop, I wouldn't pursue her friendship any longer.
-Laura (17-f)
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Hey there. I've been through this too, also with a friend. And yeah, it really DOES get annoying :/ But seriously, the way I got over it and solved the problem is to come out with that friend and tell them how you really feel about what they say/do. Because, you wouldn't want it to carry on, as you would get more irritated and eventually just snap at them which wouldn't be good.
What I did was to talk to them about it. After all, a friendshipcomes down to trust, right? So the easiest thing would be honest with them about the matter, and see how it goes. They wouldn't just not be your friend because of it because it's a problem you have and they should at least acknolege that and do something structural about it. Furthermore, they should be glad you were honest.
Good luck and I hope this helps! :)
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Just be straight up with ur friend;
just honestly tell ur friend whats up and lay it down whats goin on. No one can stand fake people. :D
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A lot of people do this. Its because they always want to be better than you, they always want you to think that they are the best. I have had friends that have done this and im sure everyone has too. There isnt really anything you can do about it, just kinda ignore them and hope they stop, or if you want you can even say something to her about it. Try not to be too harsh though.
Hope i helped =]
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Uh, they're not insecure.
She's just comparing what you do to what she does and she feels boring. She wants to have something exciting she can do to tell people about too. She lies because she's trying to impress you or she's trying to make herself sound more interesting.
You can't really "solve it" unless you stop telling her the exciting stuff you do. Then she'd probably quit cause she wouldn't feel like she has to be/do something just as exciting as you.
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If I were you, I'd stop being her friend. It sounds harsh, but I absolutely HATE liars and would never be friends with one. The first time a person lies to me is also the last time because I'm done with them. I don't understand why anyone would wanna be friends with a liar, but it doesn't sound like a good friendship to me.
Your friend is insecure and therefore sees lying as an opportunity to make herself look & sound more appealing to everybody else. She also 1UPS you everytime you have something to say that's considered good.
No way would I deal with someone like that. Tell her straight up it's annoying or end the friendship. You have to tell her because if not she'll keep doing it.
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Dear "Jealous Friend?",
Sometimes when a friend acts like that is because like you said they are jealous. They are insecure in the value of themselves so they try to be like someone else. She apparently sees you as someone of great importance since she has looked to you to be like. In order to fix this you might try encouraging her to believe that she is a great person who people will like if she is herself. How do you do this you ask? Well, sometimes just asking them about themselves works. It shows that you want to hear what goes on in her life which will lead to her believing she does matter. Try to only talk about something that involves you when she is not around unless she directly asks you. The main thing is, is to try to get her to see that she needs to stop being someone she isn't and start being herself. Then people will like her because she is honest and they will know that they can actually believe what comes out of her mouth. This way she learns not only that she is a unique person, but there is not reason to be insecure about herslef because if people don't like her for who she truly is, not like her or dislike her for who she isn't, then they are not worth hanging around. You basically should just try giving her more self confidence. I hope this helps you out a little. Good Luck!
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