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This guy that is harassing my gf has pulled up at her house and asked her and a lot more he's also harassed me and and some friends when we were bike ridding I just feel like if I tell a parent he'll get worse but when we were bike ridding I feeling came over me I just wanted to kill him I was thinking bout doing but no cause I'll get in heaps of trouble but I was going to punch him but my 2 friends grabbed my hands but shielded me,so maybe when were alone we'll fight
List of things he does think what if he was doing it to you and your gf and friends
1 harasses friend gf and friends
2 goes to gfs house and harasses her and try to take her shirt and bra off and all that that's the 1 take just put me over the line


So help please I wont ways to settle this with words but harsh words or I'll go in there fist first i also so boxing

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You need to tell a parent and let them handle the situation so it gets solved correctly the right way violence isn't the answer and it isn't going to solve anything the only thing that will happen if there was a fight would be the people that were fighting would get badly injuried if it got bad enough and none of you want that to happen explain to whoever's parents that the guy is harrasing your girlfriend and harasses your friends and he goes to your gf's house and harasses her and tries to take her shirt and bra off explain the whole situation to them everything and don't leave out any details they'll be able to handle the situation once you tell them yes you have every right to feel angry seeing as she's your girlfriend but there's better ways to solve your problem and violence isn't one of the ways fighting isn't going to get you anywhere and it would be ashame if one of you did get hurt if you were to fight the problem can be solved if you simply tell a adult what's happening and allow them to handle the situation the correct way in the meantime while your trying to get the situation straightened out do
your best to avoid the guy that's doing the harrasing the last thing you need is for more problems to start :)

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I've been texting this guy and he definetly wants to hookup and he wanted a picture and everything (i didn't send him one). but it's weird because he said he just got out of a 2 year relationship and didn't want anything serious at the moment. but when I told him I wanted to wait to get to know him better before/if we have sex and that I didn't want to send him a picture because I didn't know him that well and he didn't try to force it out of me or anything he just accepted it. and he said he didn't want anything too serious but he stayed up texting me until 2 in the morning. I'm really confused what do you think he wants? he also goes to school an hour from me and doesn't have a car. i like him obviously and I want a relationship but I don't want to be pushy.

I think he wants to be friends with you for right now seeing as he said he doesn't want anything serious at the moment and he just got out of a two year relationship himself him admitting that is a good thing i don't think he wants to just hookup seeing as he didn't say much when you mentioned sex not to mention his past relationship him accepting the fact that you didn't want sex right away and you not wanting to send the picture is also a good thing it's a advantage for you i think he wants to get to know you better so the both of you don't end up rushing into things and taking things to fast he seems sincere about what he said i don't think you'll end up being pushy i think you should continue to text him and see where the conversation leads between you two it's worth a shot there's no harm in you continuing to text him and getting to know him better :)


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Well this guy is one of those guys that think there cool when there not so he knows I'm going out with her and he keeps saying hot bitch go out with me or ill hurt your bf (me!! Ah) well she told me and said that she will go out with him so I don't get hurt but I said no at the moment no

Me and this guy we hate each other we've had 5 fights all broken up by our group (guys we hang out with) my group was thinking to have a fight 1vs1 every1 gets 1 guy cause I'm 1 of the valuables of the group and gf we set them up with girls and boys,give them advice etc his group is thinking the same thing so there's going to be fight if my gf doasnt go out with him

Should........* gulp*......... let her or not

No i don't think you should allow her to fight if
someone is harrasing her you should tell a teacher so they are aware of the problem and can solve it correctly violence doesn't solve anything and it isn't the answer the only thing violence is going to do is cause whoever's fighting to become badly hurt if it gets bad enough if she doesn't want to go out with him then that's her choice there's no need to start a fight over it it won't solve anything the person who's wanting to fight needs to realize that you him or anyone elese can't make the girl go out with him it has to be her choice and her choice only nobody can force her to do something she doesn't want to i don't think fighting is a good idea if whoever were to fight on the school's property they could face getting suspended or have other disciplinary actions be put on them and they'd be getting themselves into more trouble it really isn't worth it :)

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so I messaged this guy in one of my classes because I had a question. Then we started talking and he said he wanted to hangout before he left for vacation (he left today). He didn't give me a date though he said we'd just play it day by day because we were getting a huge snowstorm both days he was gonna be home(which we did). I gave him my number and told him to text me and let me know. He texted me right away saying "so what do you wanna do ;)" and we were texting for awhile, basically he wants to hookup. then 2 days after i texted him just saying hey and we talked for a little:
him:what's up
me:nothing just trying to fall asleep this bed is so uncomfortable and everyones asleep :/ haha
him:awww what are you getting at hmmm haha
me: maybe i could use some company :p
him:hahahaha
me:hahaha :)


so my questions is do you think he actually wants to hangout? he says he does but i kinda hinted it and he just laughed. and how much should i text him? i don't want to come off as obsessive but i want him to know I'm really into him lol. thanks! oh and also i'm 18 he's 20 if that matters.

Yes i do think he want's to hangout with you
it seems like he was joking when he said what are
you getting at and wasn't serious about wanting more it's worth a shot you hanging out with him there's no harm in you doing so i don't think you'd come off as obsessive seeing as you just started texting one another and you haven't been texting long i could see if you were texting him for a while then you'd have a reason to worry but i think your fine when it comes to that i don't think you should worry about how many times you text him yes i think you should continue to text him and see where the conversation between you two leads so you can make sure he knows you don't want to just hookup with him and you do want to hang out with him get to know one another better and make sure he doesn't get the wrong idea take things slow at first and don't rush into anything :)

Good luck!

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I'm 18/M


So my girlfriend of almost 9 months called me a week ago, and told me she kissed another guy. The big issue is that this one guy is the only person I've ever had a problem with in her life, and there's been a lot of issues involving him. About 4 months ago, she told me she had kissed him before we were dating, after she lied to me and said they never had. She violated my trust once, but I forgave her and told her, if there's anything else, this is your only chance to tell me and I'll listen. Well she promised me over and over that was it, and I believed her.

So she called me, told me it was on a night we watched a movie, and I said to her "That's after we started dating" and she kept saying it wasn't. I didn't believe her, so I made her call the local movie store and ask when that movie was rented, and sure enough it was after we started dating. It was also 4 days before my birthday. He kissed her, and she kissed him back for several minutes. What makes this worse is I was there that night, she kissed me many times that night and looked me in the eyes, kissed me goodnight, I left her house and she had him sleep over. She lied to me for 9 months. She promised this was the only other time anything happened, then after questioning more, I find out there was a 3rd time, when we were establishing our relationship, about a week before our first kiss. She said they kissed and he kissed her neck, then she again told me that was all. Then I find out, he took her shirt and bra off, kissed her chest, she had her hands down his pants....And she told me she had never done that before in her life. She lied to me about everything...Things that she had done before, and ever having any relations with this kid.

I was in love, and I got crushed. She kept lying over and over and yes, she cheated on me a few weeks into our relationship but then there was 8 months of perfection. I found it in my heart to try and forgive her and try to make things work, under one condition. This kid was to be out of her life completely, no matter what. She agreed, and a few days later she changed her mind. She told me I'm an awful person and completely unreasonable for making her choose between him and me, because he is a family friend. I told her it's me or him, and I want to know, do you think I should have taken her back, and am I being unreasonable telling her not to see him anymore?

Also,
He has also pressured her into drinking, and taking her shirt off for a stupid game, when he kept saying no. He texts her telling him to break up with me all the time, always talks bad about me, he talks bad to her, and always puts his hands on her.

No you shouldn't of taken her back after all of the things she put you threw from her cheating to being with the other guy and lieing to you you don't deserve any of that you were faithful to her which is how it should be she was the one who wasn't none of this is your fault it's her's she did all of that on her own no your not being unreasonable you have every right to tell her not to see him anymore you gave her chances and forgave her and she did those horrible things to you you deserve someone better who will be faithful to you and who's trustworthy she did something wrong and she has to suffer the consequences of loosing you her behavior and the way she acts shouldn't be tolerated you shouldn't have to put up with it for so long like you have been don't allow her to twist things around and make it seem like all of this is your fault it isn't your best option is to end it before you end up becoming more hurt by her behavior and bad actions :)

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my boyfriend loves his ps3 blacks ops game. most of the time its what he talks about. finally i told him i don't care about black ops. and then it was like, we don't really have anything to talk about. we have been together for about a year and a half and are both 16 in highschool. i love him, i really do, but i get scared that we will split up because we never have things to talk about. other than the same old, how are you, how was your day, we don't really have much to talk about anymore. should i look for topics to think of to bring up in a conversation? but that seems desperate because we've been together, its not like a first date. but it feels like it. :(

Yes i do think you should find topic's to talk about it doesn't seem desperate seeing as your in need of things to create conversation with you could ask your friends or family members to give you some suggestions maybe ask your boyfriend some things you've been wanting to know about him that he hasn't already told you that way you'll get to know him better you could look through the newspaper or watch the news to find things to talk about current events happening in the world you could ask him how he feels about what's going on or maybe tell him facts about yourself that he doesn't know if your having trouble ask those around you for help i'm sure they'll be happy to :)

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About a year ago my ex lost his mother and then a couple weeks later his brother followed. And soon after that we ended up breaking up. I thought he had moved on because i found out that he was back with his ex girlfriend a month or two after we broke up. I was happy for him because it meant that she could help him cope with everything that had happened to him. We last talked in August and he was really rude so I never again tried to make contact with him until about a week ago he text me and we started talking again it was fine for a couple of days he seemed like his old self until a couple days ago he starts getting really depressed about his mom and brother and I try to talk to him and he shuts me out... But heres the thing he was with his ex for 7 months after his mom died how come he could act so cold towards me but have a real relationship with her? I don't get it.. I want to be there for him but I don't want to get screwed around either.. What should I do?

I think you shouldn't talk to him and let go he isn't allowing you to help him and he shuts you out it isn't right your offering to help him and he isn't taking it if someone's offering to help him he should take it so he'll be on his way to becoming better there isn't much you can do if he's refusing the help your offering i know he's going through a tough time right now but you don't deserve him acting cold towards you or for you to be reminded that he had a real relationship with his ex and not with you it isn't worth it i think if you continue to make contact with him you'll end up getting screwed over you don't know for sure if his behavior towards you is going to change if you were certain he was going to change then that'd be a different story but you don't your best option is to let it go before it's to late & you find out that he screwed you over & you end up becoming hurt from his actions :)

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17/f
i dont know what the hell happened to me but after like getting involved in a relationship when i was 12/13 of two years ever since im an emotional wreck. like i cry at EVERYTHING. and like its ruining the relationship with my current boyfriend like im just so over emotional for no reason. WTF IS WRONG WITH ME. I think i cry atleast once a day. Today i was crying because i missed my boyfriend and we just didnt hang out for a day HELP ME.

You could be over emotional because your keeping
everything your feeling bottled up inside and your
letting it build up until you can't take it anymore and you cry i would talk to either a therapist or your parents whoever you feel most comfortable with and tell them how your feeling it isn't good to keep everything to yourself you'll feel better once you get it all out in the open for someone to hear you'll feel as if it's all been lifted off your shoulders so to speak it could also be your hormones acting up which is causing you to cry and feel over emotional maybe it's your current boyfriend that's making you feel the way you are those are some suggestions it could be a number of things i think your best option is to talk to someone about how your feeling you'll feel better afterwards when you don't have everything bottled up inside and you can speak to someone knowing they'll listen :)

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Due to my own lack of trying, I was dismissed from college before I could begin my second semester. I failed four classes and boy was my father was upset, and with good reason too, of course.

He told me to find a new job or else I'd have no car, no phone, or Internet, all essential things for me, or I could join the guards and retain that. Not an option for me. So I found a new job, and I now hold down two.

But then, today, he said that if I don't work full time, which is impossible with two jobs, that I will be walking to work, which is also impossible as both places are miles away, and it is Winter.

How do I handle my dad and fix all of this?

You need to make your father realize your doing the best you can with what's being asked of you and you can't make miracles happen your doing what's expected of you with the expection of you working full time explain to him you made mistakes and your only human and you learned from them and by him taking away your car he's jeopardizing you being late to work seeing as you'd have to walk and both of the places are miles away also him taking away your phone you wouldn't be able to contact him if a emergency were to happen and you weren't near a payphone or any other phone that goes for the other things you need them there's something's you can do and something's you can't and you working full time while having two jobs is something that you can't your dad has to accept and realize that out of the things he's wanting you to do you've done one out of the two things he's asking of you and you working full time while having two jobs is just something you aren't able to do :)

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I was with my boyfriend today and we went to the store to get some snacks, right when i went to get out of the car, my dad pulls up next to us so i put my hood up and my boyfriend drove away. my dad called me over and over so i didn't answer until i got home about 3 minutes later. He texted me saying that i'm lying and that he'll never buy me a car or anything like that. I'm 16, my bf is 17. I think i have the right to do what i want at my age. I live with my mom, so i don't get why he cares what i do when its not his visitation day. Ive been with my bf for 13 months. Should i just tell my dad or should i keep hiding it? I plan on moving in with my dad next month, but now im scared. He said he'll kill any guy who touches me, blah blah blah. and the thing is, that he's serious. how should i handle this? i'm so scared :(

I think you should come clean about you having a
boyfriend and tell your dad you can't keep hiding
it forever and pretending like your boyfriend doesn't exist you'll make life easier on yourself if you tell him you need to explain to your father that you've been with your boyfriend for 13 months and reassure him that he won't hurt you
tell him you were afraid to tell him the truth seeing as you didn't know what his reaction was going to be you'll be able to be with your boyfriend more freely and you won't have to sneak around once your secret is told he cares about what you do because he's your father and he wants what's best for you you'll be able to gain back his trust if you tell the truth he'll respect you if you continue to keep it a secret your making problems for yourself when you do move in with your father next month they'll be tension between you and your dad it's best to get everything out in the open for him to hear so then you can move on from it without their being tension :)

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7 months now I have had a really strong long distance relationship. I'm so confused on what to do. We are only in high school and everyone thinks its too young to "Love Someone" but I think they're wrong. However what if we do break up in the future its gonna crush me. Should I just go ahead and do it even though we both love each other. Why does everything have to be so hard... why does love have to be so hard

Your age is just a number nothing more don't listen
to what others have to say if you don't think your
too young to love the person your with then that's
the only thing that matters don't allow others to
influence you or tell you otherwise i wouldn't break
up with him seeing as your relationship is strong
yes of course if you break up in the future it will
hurt you it's normal but given time you'll move on
i think you should continue to stay with him seeing
as you feel so strongly about the relationship and
you feel confident about it plus it's strong :)

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18/f

I have had my fair share of kissing guys but I'm really worried when I made out with this one guy I did something wrong. I haven't made out in awhile and I was really intimidated by him, and when we were kissing in the car I rubbed up and down his chest/stomach. I wrapped arms for a little and also grabbed/squeezed/rubbed his hips and pulled on his shirt where his hips were. He kissed my neck and put his arms around my neck, but I never kissed or touched his neck at all. Basically, I am scared he thinks I am a bad kisser or is annoyed that I didn't kiss or touch his neck at all. Is rubbing his stomach/chest and where I put my hands on his hips turn off? Is it a deal breaker where I put my hands and because I never kissed his neck/wrapped my arms around his neck?

No i don't think you rubbing his stomach or chest
and where you put your hands is a turn off i'm sure
if he wasn't enjoying what you were doing to him he
would of stopped you and told you and he wouldn't of allowed you to continue i think if you did do
something wrong he would of told you and made you aware of it but if it's making you feel uncomfortable not knowing the truth you can always ask him nonchalantly and bring it up so that way you'll have peace of mind and you'll feel at ease no i don't think it's a deal breaker where you put your hands and because you never kissed his neck or
wrapped your arms around it you were caught up in the moment i wouldn't worry to much about it i'm sure you did fine :)

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Yea, weird I know.

Anyway, it's kind of strange. I'm in 10th grade, he's in 8th, and whenever I see him he'll always try to push me over and sit on me and a couple times he tried to keep me against the wall for some reason. So it seems like just plain bullying, right?

But then he'll pull out a chair for me or get my phone number or stare at me when we sit close. If he ever actually hurts me he will apologize so I have to wonder if he wants to be friends or something. It doesn't really annoy me and I don't think he's a bad kid, so should I just tell him to shove off 'cause it's bullying or let things go on as usual because he means no harm?

I think you should tell him in the nicest way possible that you'd like to be left alone even if he
does mean no harm him always trying to push you over and him sitting on you even trying to keep you aganist the wall isn't right it shouldn't be tolerated you should never allow anyone to do that to you and that includes him he's invading your personal space and if he is bullying you then it needs to stop there maybe more that meets the eye
with him sure you may think he's doing harmless things and he isn't a bad kid but things aren't always what they seem to be you never know he could do something more serious in the future seeing as he's done those things to you already so yes i do
think you should tell him you need space so his
behavior towards you stops :)

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I'm a girl. I dated this guy for a month and then hey broke up with me for some other girl. He also did this to the girl he broke up with me for. Recently my friend and him have been going to the movies and hanging out and flirting. It really hurts and I just got over him after 4 months. He will not talk to me? She's not really my friend I acctually don't really like her she gets annoying. I deleted his number and deleted him off facebook because I could not stand him writing about her . I also deleted his number. What should I do?

To start off it's good you deleted his number and
deleted him off of Facebook keep it that way if you do happen to talk to him or her you'll most likely become more upset and you don't need that right now the last thing you need right now is to speak to either of them what i would do is keep yourself busy either if your in school or if you've got a job do something so you aren't sitting around when you sit around it gives you time to refect on it but if you are busy and are doing other things then your mind will be focused on whatever your doing at the time yes it will hurt that's normal but evenually the feeling of you being hurt will go away and you'll move on find activites you love doing & do them or maybe hangout with your friends to keep your mind off things until you fully move on you could also try new things you haven't experienced before :)

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I love blue october, and as silly and it sounds i would love to send an invite for my wedding to them. Does anyone know the address of where the fan mail would go?

At first i didn't know what you meant by Blue October but then researched it and realized it was
a band haha :)

I found the fanmail address your asking for...here
it is

Blue October
c/o Rainmaker Artists
10486 Brockwood Rd.
Dallas, TX 75238
USA

Enjoy!

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We'll I had a bad childhood an I've seen alot of stuff a kid shouldn't. See and I have really bad flash backs of things and it seems to make me very paranoid what do I do PLEASE help i also have anexiety

I think you should tell someone how your feeling if
it's affecting you that badly either tell your parents or go to a therapist someone who you feel most comfortable with keeping everything to yourself
and bottled up inside isn't a good thing
to do you'll feel better once you start getting it all out in the open for someone to hear once you start talking about it you'll feel as if it's all
been lifted off your shoulders so to speak you could
even go to your doctor and see if they'll be able to
help you seeing as you've got anxiety and feel paranoid but i think your best option is to talk to
someone you'll feel better afterwards i'm sure all of us have seen things we shouldn't have and we've all had rough times in our lives that's normal so you aren't alone when it comes to that :)

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My mom doesn't know how to save money! She'll get paid on Friday, we live like were the richest people on the planet for the weekend and then she pays all the bills and then tere is nothing left. My brother is on this basketball team abd she is going out even more. We have even less money. I've been living off soup and noodles for the past two weeks and I've lost 15 pounds. Today, I called her to ask when we were going to the store because I'm starving. She's out with her friends, I don't have a car or any money and I'm literally eating soup for the 15th day in a row. I have a job, but she always takes my money, and says she'll pay me back but never does! I'm so sick of this and her, next year I'm probably even going to move out because at least every day I'll know I have somethig to eat besides soup. I don't know what to do anymore, she won't listen to me abd then she even commented how I look kind of sickly lately. And it's like hellooooo all ive eaten was soup.

You need to make your mother realize what she's doing is wrong it becomes a problem when your health is being affected and your loosing weight you need to sit her down and tell her she needs to stop spending money and needs to start saving it tell her you look kind of sickly because you haven't been eating well lately and that your health is being affected by you only living off noodles and soup make her realize that your health is more important then her being out with her friends your her child and you should become before anything elese your being neglected you don't deserve that let anyone elese it isn't right she needs to get food in the house so this doesn't continue and you don't starve maybe once she realizes your health is bad she'll change what she's doing and focus on saving and going grocery shopping if you can't convince her on your own then ask one of your family members to help if you've got to be somewhat harsh with her
then so be it do whatever you've got to do to make her realize that the situation is serious and shouldn't be taken lightly or as a joke as far as her taking your money is concerned if she
asks to borrow it you could not allow her to or
you could hide it in a place where she won't find it and you know it's location you deserve to get the money she owes you back she went aganist her word and said she'd give it back but she hasn't and that's wrong :)

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Ok sp this nerd at my school likes me his friend told me and hes in every class of mine, and he stares at me all the time! he is wierd I don't mean to sound me but fat and red cheeks little wierd round glasses and he crossed his legs in his chair like a girl also he crys all the time! well he just gets on my nerves staring litteraly all the time and I can't help it I know its mean but I always look at him and roll my eyes then tell my friends that he likes me and stuff and I am always huffing and rolling my eyes at him what do I do he is such a wierdo!!:( I hate saying that but I can't help it! a lot of times to he smiles at me when I am not looking and my friends tell me when he does! but gosh he is so annoyingggg please help! Thanks! :D

I think you need to tell him in the nicest way
possible that you don't like him and aren't interested in him there's no need to be mean about
it but make sure he gets the hint and takes you
seriously by you not confronting him and just huffing or rolling your eyes your avoiding him and that isn't solving the problem your allowing him to think that you like him but by you telling him yourself your ending the problem and making sure
it's known to him that you don't like him so i think
you should confront him get it over with and then move on :)

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Well, I had a fight with a really good friend of mine. Actually several fights. We had the kind of friendship where we would be friends then fight, then friends, then fight etc. Well, we finally had a big fight a few months ago and haven't talked in ages. He's a guy and i'm a girl and we used to like eachother. I miss talking to him, because we used to talk about everything. I think I still have some feelings for him, but I don't know what to do. I'm too embarrased to send him a message and even if I did, I don't know what I would say. Please help. Any advice is appreciated. :) Thanks ♥

I think you should message him and say that you'd
like for the fight to end and that it has gone
on long enough also that you miss talking to him
you two used to talk about everything you both fighting isn't getting you anywhere your problems
are being left unsolved and aren't being resolved you both can't hold grudges aganist one another seeing as that will only make things worst you've
got to forgive one another at some point you can't
stay mad at him forever and the same goes for him he
can't stay mad at you it's time for you to set your
difference's aside end the fight for good so both of you can become friends again and talk to one another :)

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When i was a child i thought that i have a happy family. i thought that my best friend is my mother just like the other teenagers say. But when I reached college, all of that changed.

I realized that im not happy when im in home and im happier when im with my friends. It feels like i own the problems of the world when im home. im not close with my brother. we always fight to everything. im not close with father for he is always serious. the only one i can talk to some things is my mother. But my mother is sometimes been negative to what im saying. She judges me/or the story im telling her.
She thinks also that im not kind. That i have a bad character. She only sees the wrong in what i do. I seldom hear her saying good things about me.

my mother is very supportive when it comes to my studies and i dont have issues about it but when it comes to emotional support, i cant feel it. When i need an advice, im always not satisfied with what i get from her unlike with the advice form other people i know.

i am pretty much paranoid with my attitude. i am very aware with it. and nobody knows even my family that i need help in changing it. Until the day my mother told me that im not kind! i dont have a good or kind character!

what am i gonna do? what is wrong with me? my family?

Before i start let me say iv'e been going through what you've been for a while so you aren't alone i don't think anything is wrong with you we've all got flaws and things we aren't happy with your aware of what you need to change and are planning on changing it so that's a good thing truth is siblings fight that's normal i think you should sit your mom down and tell her how you feel she won't know unless you speak up and tell her make her realize the negative things being said to you is hurting you and you aren't liking it tell her you'd like it if she wasn't so harsh and negative with her words and you'd like it if she was more positive towards you hopefully once your mom realizes what she's doing is affecting you she'll lighten up and go easier on you i'm sure you aren't a bad person parents say things they don't mean as far as your father and brother is concerned maybe they aren't aware that your wanting to become close with them because you haven't told them i think you should tell them that you'd like to become close with them and that your wanting to spend time with them maybe once your with your dad he'll start to loosen up and become less serious :)

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