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my boyfriend and i never have anything to talk about anymore
my boyfriend loves his ps3 blacks ops game. most of the time its what he talks about. finally i told him i don't care about black ops. and then it was like, we don't really have anything to talk about. we have been together for about a year and a half and are both 16 in highschool. i love him, i really do, but i get scared that we will split up because we never have things to talk about. other than the same old, how are you, how was your day, we don't really have much to talk about anymore. should i look for topics to think of to bring up in a conversation? but that seems desperate because we've been together, its not like a first date. but it feels like it. :(
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Try going out together to do new things you guys should have common interests if you been together that long. and try to just be yourself and talk about anything.
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i think everyone runs into things like this. if theres nothing to talk about find something to talk about . school classes your friends but since he is a gamer start with that first since you do not like the game he loves playing suggest someother type of game you both like.
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Yes i do think you should find topic's to talk about it doesn't seem desperate seeing as your in need of things to create conversation with you could ask your friends or family members to give you some suggestions maybe ask your boyfriend some things you've been wanting to know about him that he hasn't already told you that way you'll get to know him better you could look through the newspaper or watch the news to find things to talk about current events happening in the world you could ask him how he feels about what's going on or maybe tell him facts about yourself that he doesn't know if your having trouble ask those around you for help i'm sure they'll be happy to :)
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Relationships take work, A lot of it.
Communication is what keeps the relationship going, If you find your relationship with your partner is failing then you two need to sit down and talk about how you both feel. Small talk is not going to get you anywhere and neither is fishing for things to talk about. You are right, It is desperate and it also a great way to kill your relationship.
You and your boyfriend need to get out more, Start doing fun things together. I don't know what state you live in but go to the movies once a week, There should be a day of the week where movie tickets are discounted for lower prices. Make dinner together, Watch movies, Go for walks, Even just going to the mall to look around is a great way of spending time together. Doing things together is what will keep your relationship alive. Your boyfriend playing ps3 all the time is NOT going to help your relationship.
Does your boyfriend play it 24.7?...Guess what, Relationships take effort, It won't work if it is a one way street. You both need to commit to it. Do you have other things in common? Music? Shopping? Cooking? ..If you do, Then try doing more of those things together. If you both don't have anything in common at all then I hate to say...You two probably aren't meant to be in a relationship.
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All relationships tend to reach a point where you're stuck in a rut. I think maybe its time to get talking about your relationship more.
Are you both putting in the effort equally to keep the relationship interesting? Do you make an effort to get involved in activities thats important or fun for either of you? Do you have things in common anymore?
You're still very young. At sixteen youre constantly growing, maturing and learning about who you are. People change and can drift apart, especially in formative years.
Maybe plan a few more romantic meals, exciting days out and romantic nights in. You'll soon know whether you're still right for eachother or not.
You can still deeply care for someone yet realise theres nothing left in your relationship, that theres no future for the two of you.
Chances are you'll have other boyfriends and he's not the one you'll settle down with. This is a problem that even many adult couples face: whether the relationship has a future or not.
Even if it doesnt work out it doesnt mean that you cant still be friends and it doesnt erase the meaningful and significant time you've spent togeather.
You're sixteen. There's plenty time for a committed relationship. Both of you figure out what you want from yourselves, the relationship and go from there.
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