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2 years ben threw a lot
I have been with this girl on and off for 2 years. Her last gf caused her to lose her job and her apartment. She has had money troubles I mean who hasnt. We got an apartment together, but my family didnt like me being with a girl and money was always a issue so I moved back to my moms. I sometimes regret it but now she is living with a friend who one day says shes gotta move then the next she dont. I feel bad because my gf doesnt have her own place and she is looking for a job and her own place but its hard. I sometimes feel im losing my feelings towards her because I am the one whos always buying and paying for everything I dont ever get to feel what the feels like is this normal and what should I do?
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If money is a source of stress, cut her off for now. It's not a healthy sort of relationship to get into, where one person is dependent upon another. It's normal for you to feel a degree of resentment, and she might feel awkward about it too.
Try stopping the money flow, and find things to do that are free. If your girlfriend loves you for you (as I'm sure she does) then that won't be an issue.
Do what you can to help your girlfriend without actually forcing her into anything. See what you can do for her that will help her to get where she wants to be.
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Have you tried talking to your girlfriend about how you feel? What is her reaction? You can't make anyone get out there and try, All you can do is try and motivate her to get out and better herself. If she isn't willing to do her part in the relationship then move on, Relationships don't work if only one person is willing to put in the effort. No, It is not normal to pay for everything all the time in a relationship but if your girlfriend IS trying to put in applications and get herself out there all you can do is support her.
If you feel that money is a baggage of stress, You need to talk to your girlfriend. Let her know money is tight and that you want to start doing things that are cheap or free. If your girlfriend loves you for you then money shouldn't matter. If it is something you feel you can no longer handle then maybe it's time to move on and focus on you.
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