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Tell my dad about my boyfriend?
I was with my boyfriend today and we went to the store to get some snacks, right when i went to get out of the car, my dad pulls up next to us so i put my hood up and my boyfriend drove away. my dad called me over and over so i didn't answer until i got home about 3 minutes later. He texted me saying that i'm lying and that he'll never buy me a car or anything like that. I'm 16, my bf is 17. I think i have the right to do what i want at my age. I live with my mom, so i don't get why he cares what i do when its not his visitation day. Ive been with my bf for 13 months. Should i just tell my dad or should i keep hiding it? I plan on moving in with my dad next month, but now im scared. He said he'll kill any guy who touches me, blah blah blah. and the thing is, that he's serious. how should i handle this? i'm so scared :(
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The best thing is to talk to your dad and speak to your dad in a gentle, mature manner. He'll sort of get the vibe when you talk like that that your growing up, and you need more freedom to decide for yourself. Tell him that your getting older, and that he can trust you not to make any bad decisions..Tell him that you want to hear his opinions, you just don't want him to decide for you. Tell him that he raised you right, and that he should be able to trust you. Tell him that your a responsible young adult that deserves more respect. Don't be scared. It's part of growing up, your dad should understand. I hope this elps!Good luck!Rate my advice if you'd like:)
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Your father is being a typical Dad, He is protecting you. Explain to your Dad that you have been seeing your boyfriend for over a year, Assure him that you know all the rules of safety. Although your Dad might not exactly want to hear it but letting him know may make him feel a bit better. Talk about it casually, The more the subject gets bought up the more he may gradually adjust to the fact that you are 16 years old and have a boyfriend. If your Dad adjust to the situation bring your boyfriend over a few times for dinner. Introduce him to your father and let him get used to the idea and let it work it's way from there.
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Your father is being protective of his baby girl. Sit down and have a talk to him. Tell him you saying you will kill any guy im with makes me scared to tell you about I guy I really care about. Then explain to him how long the two of you have been together apoligize for not being truth ful about the situation you just didnt want to upset him I would also include that you would like for your dad to meet your boyfriend
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I think you should come clean about you having a
boyfriend and tell your dad you can't keep hiding
it forever and pretending like your boyfriend doesn't exist you'll make life easier on yourself if you tell him you need to explain to your father that you've been with your boyfriend for 13 months and reassure him that he won't hurt you
tell him you were afraid to tell him the truth seeing as you didn't know what his reaction was going to be you'll be able to be with your boyfriend more freely and you won't have to sneak around once your secret is told he cares about what you do because he's your father and he wants what's best for you you'll be able to gain back his trust if you tell the truth he'll respect you if you continue to keep it a secret your making problems for yourself when you do move in with your father next month they'll be tension between you and your dad it's best to get everything out in the open for him to hear so then you can move on from it without their being tension :)
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i dont see the big deal about telling your dad about your boyfriend you just say dad im sorry i didnt tell you that i had a boyfriend i was scared to tell you becuase the things you say about boys being around me, you seem serious and i dont want to go through that. im sorry you had to find out that way i get that your mad, but im real glad you know now. maybe telling him that how long you have been dating him for isnt so great beacuase that will get him mad.
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