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My mom spends money like crazy and then we have none!
My mom doesn't know how to save money! She'll get paid on Friday, we live like were the richest people on the planet for the weekend and then she pays all the bills and then tere is nothing left. My brother is on this basketball team abd she is going out even more. We have even less money. I've been living off soup and noodles for the past two weeks and I've lost 15 pounds. Today, I called her to ask when we were going to the store because I'm starving. She's out with her friends, I don't have a car or any money and I'm literally eating soup for the 15th day in a row. I have a job, but she always takes my money, and says she'll pay me back but never does! I'm so sick of this and her, next year I'm probably even going to move out because at least every day I'll know I have somethig to eat besides soup. I don't know what to do anymore, she won't listen to me abd then she even commented how I look kind of sickly lately. And it's like hellooooo all ive eaten was soup.
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contact social services that you would rather live with another family member and explain the situation. It sounds to me as if your mother isnt going to take your advice.
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You need to make your mother realize what she's doing is wrong it becomes a problem when your health is being affected and your loosing weight you need to sit her down and tell her she needs to stop spending money and needs to start saving it tell her you look kind of sickly because you haven't been eating well lately and that your health is being affected by you only living off noodles and soup make her realize that your health is more important then her being out with her friends your her child and you should become before anything elese your being neglected you don't deserve that let anyone elese it isn't right she needs to get food in the house so this doesn't continue and you don't starve maybe once she realizes your health is bad she'll change what she's doing and focus on saving and going grocery shopping if you can't convince her on your own then ask one of your family members to help if you've got to be somewhat harsh with her
then so be it do whatever you've got to do to make her realize that the situation is serious and shouldn't be taken lightly or as a joke as far as her taking your money is concerned if she
asks to borrow it you could not allow her to or
you could hide it in a place where she won't find it and you know it's location you deserve to get the money she owes you back she went aganist her word and said she'd give it back but she hasn't and that's wrong :)
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wow, i read this and thought "this is unfortunate".
The only rational thing i can think of is to speak to her. Explain the situation. What I've found, is that adults don't like taking advice from children, what what they think are children.
I would recommend creating a cashflow forecast. Its basically noting down your inflow (money coming in), and outflows (money going out). The difference between the two is disposible cash. Heres a guideline:
Inflow
Wages: $xxx
Other: $xxx
Outflow
Rent/Mortgage: $xxx
Gas: $xxx
Electric: $xxx
Water: $xxx
Internet: $xxx
Phone: $xxx
TV: $xxx
Food: $xxx
Other: $xxx
Inflow - Outflow = disposible cash used for clothing, entertainment etc.
Its best to be as thorough as possible. Put this idea to your mother, that way, you may not all struggle as much. Explain that while she goes out, you are forced to dine on soup and instant noodles.
The situation is unfortunate, but remember that your mother is only human, and we all have problems/ make mistakes.
I hope i helped, and if you need any more advice, do feel free to ask. :)
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