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I am scared he thinks I am a bad kisser
18/f
I have had my fair share of kissing guys but I'm really worried when I made out with this one guy I did something wrong. I haven't made out in awhile and I was really intimidated by him, and when we were kissing in the car I rubbed up and down his chest/stomach. I wrapped arms for a little and also grabbed/squeezed/rubbed his hips and pulled on his shirt where his hips were. He kissed my neck and put his arms around my neck, but I never kissed or touched his neck at all. Basically, I am scared he thinks I am a bad kisser or is annoyed that I didn't kiss or touch his neck at all. Is rubbing his stomach/chest and where I put my hands on his hips turn off? Is it a deal breaker where I put my hands and because I never kissed his neck/wrapped my arms around his neck?
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Hi,
I really doubt that you did anything wrong. If a guy is kissing you, he obviously likes you and the way you kiss, otherwise he wouldn't have his lips on yours. Or he would probably pull back and tell you how he likes it/what was wrong. If he doesn't, just ask him how he wants to be kissed and I'm sure he will be happy to tell you. Any kind of physical contact, a guy usually loves. Him kissing your neck and putting his arms around you was a good sign that he was into the moment and felt connected.
If you are worried that he may think you are a bad kisser, next time just start the way you normally would and then part way through, if he seems unsure, just ask if your doing alright (and smile at him). As you may have heard 'every guy is different' so you can ask him what he likes or see how he reacts when you try new things on him. If he keeps kissing you when you touch him, he likes it. If he holds eye contact, pulls you closer, smiles, or kisses you more, he likes it. A guy will tend to mimick your movements as well, so if you like a certain thing, show him it and he will likely do the same to be in sync.
Where you put your hand isn't really a turn off or a deal breaker as long as he is okay with it. If he kisses you, it is only cuz he wants too! He may like it more if you put your arms around his neck, you never know unless you try :p and there isn't really a "bad kisser" for se, just a bunch of guys that prefer different techniques/ways. Find what works for the both of you and keep it going <3
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As far as guys are concerned, if they're making out with you, they're happy. I'm sure he's perfectly happy with where your hands and mouth were :)
You don't necessarily have to do the same things to him that he does to you. If he wants your hands somewhere else, he'll let you know by putting them there.
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No, dont think that ! guys enjoy when you do what you did to him [like where you placed your hands and stuff]
guys arent expecting you to just kissing and touching their necks all of the time.. switching it up isnt a bad thing.
and no, its not a deal breaker at all. its what you felt comfortable with doing and if he didnt say anything, it didnt even cross his mind. so dont worry about it, its totally fine.
good luck ! have fun, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo. :]
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If it's a deal breaker, then he's an asshole that doesn't deserve to make out with you.
Chill out, you didn't do anything wrong. Nothing you did was a turn off. Kiss his neck next time, and see what his reaction is.
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No i don't think you rubbing his stomach or chest
and where you put your hands is a turn off i'm sure
if he wasn't enjoying what you were doing to him he
would of stopped you and told you and he wouldn't of allowed you to continue i think if you did do
something wrong he would of told you and made you aware of it but if it's making you feel uncomfortable not knowing the truth you can always ask him nonchalantly and bring it up so that way you'll have peace of mind and you'll feel at ease no i don't think it's a deal breaker where you put your hands and because you never kissed his neck or
wrapped your arms around it you were caught up in the moment i wouldn't worry to much about it i'm sure you did fine :)
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