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My name is McKenzie and I'm a freshman at Reedley College, I love to help people out with problems and to write. I want to be a writer someday. I love to make friends. Ask any question and I'll attempt to answer it.


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i just got my computer last christmas, its a laptop and fairly new. well lately its been being kind of slow and it freezes sometimes or takes a really long time to load or send or something. its new so why is it doing this? also when i try to send pictures on email to my friends it says my virtual memory is low and wont let me send it. please help me! sometimes i leave it on for long periods of time when i go away but ive tried to stop leaving it on overnight. and i have a popup blocker/virus scan. i have a lot of pictures so could that be the problem?


PLEASE HELP ME!!! ITS GREATLY APPRECIATED.

Well call the company and tell them what's going on. And don't leave it on for long preiods of time. The fact that you have a lot of pictures on it could affect it as well becuase your computer runs on how much memory it has.
Hope I helped!

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Hello,i'm a 14 yr old girl.Well, i recently broke uop with my ex boyfriend because his feelings has changed for me, i know this because he spoke to me less, never write back to me or anything. So i knew what to do and i let him go. So anyway as i was saying, i can't seem to get over him. He's my first bf, and i'm in Jr high while he just went to high skewl. So i dont know what to do. It seems that i think about him more and more. I have told him that but as i said he never responds. So i have no clue what he thinks. I asked his brother and his brother doesn't know anyting because the new Zelda game came out and my ex won't talk to no one becuz he's so hooked on the game. So please help me. you can also e~Mail me @
little_zelda05@yahoo.com
Thank you.

Get a new beau. Hope I helped hun!

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so the week before christmas i made a discovery. at the very end of my vagina, in my upper, backker thigh there is some sort of bump, not outside but inside. it feels like a hard ball or something and its not acne that i know of because if i squeeze it really hard to 'pop' it than the ball just gets closer to the surface.

please don't write 'go see a doctor' because honestly i could give myself that adcvice and i'm scared out of my mind.

The only thing I'd say is its a cyst but I'm no expert. Ask someone close to you and see what they reccommend. Hope I helped!

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What are some ways to make a guy cum other than handjobs, blowjobs, and sex? Me and my boyfriend aren't ready for blowjobs or sex yet, but we want to find another way for him to cum besides from handjobs. Thanks.

Just play with his dick, maybe squeeze it a little everynight untill he cums. Mastrubate wit him too. Hope I helped!

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Past 2 nights I've very cramped up & light headed. I'm due for my period any day now because of my signs of getting my period- tender breast, cramps, pmsing. Do you think it may be causing dizzyness? I've never had dizzyness like this before. it's not pregnacy either cause i'm still a virgin haha.

Dizziness could be a sign that your period nay be starting. I'd keep a few pads/tampons handy just in case. You period should be over in a couple weeks. Hope I helped!

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okay.female here.
well i`m 17 almost 18.
i`m short like 5 foot or 5'1 who knows really alot of people think 4'11 but i honestly don`t know.
well my current weight that i know of it 118.
pants size is usaully 3-5 i porbably should wear a 4 but those suckers are hard to find.
i`m not completely unhappy with my body just my stomach.
&& i want to lose a few pound to make that stomach look better.
i have love handles thats my main thing i hate.
people say i should not lose weight because of my breast. they are a 38 d.
so i want some ideas on wat you think i should do.
i have an ab louge would that be good.??
& i love food so yes that would be hard to be real strict.
so thanks alot

Your ab lounge is perfect! Just excersize every 2-4 days a week and you'll probably have to restrict your eating. At least no sweets and have lots of veggies. Stay away from greasy foods and fastfood and soda. In a few weeks, you should be happy with your stomach!
Good luck! Hope I helped!

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I want to get my boyfriend a new wallet. He loves the kinds with like the chain thingy..

Does anyone know where I can get one that is black leather and I can get our names put into it?

One with a chain would be cool, but if you know about one without a chain, thats fine too..

Thanks.

Maybe try Hot topic. I dont know about putting your names on it though. Hope I helped!

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(((13/f)) Even though im only 13 I have a lot of trust issues with boys. And because of that its soemtimes hard to open up to guys and show my true feelings.
I really like this guy named Evan. I mean hes sweet funny and totally cute. ((im short)) People alwys seem to make funn of me because of my size i always get mad but when he dos it I laugh so hard. He doesnt say it rude hes trying to be funny ((and he is)) But I realy want to be more than just friends what should I do?

Let him know how you feel. The worst he can say to you is no. Become friends with him and find out what kind of girls he likes. Maybe someday, you'll be a couple.

Hope I helped sweetie!

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15/f

I seem to 'be everything' but 'have nothing/no one.' I have a good personality, good looks and exceptional intelligence. I try to be nice to everyone and understand who they are, but no one does the same to me. In the halls at school people make comments on how good I look, how nice I am and such. But really, I only have one best friend. And no other friends.

I know everyone in my grade. Everyone. I've tried being in every different clique that there is but it never lasts. Tonight, I have no new years plans.

I haven't had a boyfriend for two years now either. Whenever I get close with guys they start to be complete jerks and use me. I am a virgin and have only kissed one guy in my entire life. I didn't even like him and he was 19. He just used me.

I feel like I have exhausted my options. What can I do? I need to be a little more than nice, because I have tried so hard. And I've tried not trying at all. I have made countless plans but I am still missing what I want most. Friendship.

When I invite people to my house they always say they are busy and will 'call me some other time' but never do.

I realize this was a terribly long question, so any comments, insight or answers on any portion of my question will help tremendously.

Thanks so much!
Advice will be rated appropriately.

Well maybe your coming on too strong. That's the only thing I can think of. People are sometimes blind to what's in front of them. Its ok that you've only kissed one guy. I realized that he used you and I'm sorry it happened but you can't dwell on the past sweetie. You're only 15 and the time will come. I only have one best firned too. At least you have a friend you can talk to. Try inviting her over more often and getting to know her better. All you can be is yourself. If people don't like that, let it be their problem. They are missing out on hanging out with you.

Hope I helped!

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if i live in illinois
and i text someone in texas
is it long distance??
i really need to know!!!!

it doesn't cost extra to text long distance. yeah its ok. hope I helped

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My boyfriend knows that I HATE when he drinks. My mom used to be an abusive alcoholic. So he understands.

I`m spending New Years with him, and a bunch of his friends are over & their playing video games. I was taking a shower, and when I got downstairs I was in the kitchen and I overheard his room mate say, "Go get a beer!" & My boyfriend was like, "Well, you know... I just can't. The girlfriend!" So now I`m mad because I`m sitting upstairs in his room being bored while everyone else is downstairs enjoying themselves. I don`t want to be around a drunk & I hate it. I just don`t fit in either. I`m 16 & my boyfriend is 22. =[ Not a good combo. Is it okay that I`m mad though?

Thanks a bunch.

i think its ok that you're mad. You really need to find someone your own age and who won't drink. If your really bugged about it, confront him about it. If he really loves you, he'll stop completely.

Hope I helped!

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ok so i'm 15, bi, and there's this girl at my school who's also bi. she's experienced and is currently with a senior. The thing is, they've only been going out a couple weeks, the girl she's dating is a senior who is not pretty or interesting or anything, and i'm pretty sure she's just going out with her to get back at her ex. Anyways, i like her soooo much! i've never been with a girl, but she's the only thing i think about! unfortunately she's a year and a half older than me! sometimes i feel like she likes me, but we're just kind of mutual friends, we have a class together and talk once in a while but have never hung out alone or anything. Well anyways i'm just wondering whether i should tell her? or not. and if so, should i wait till i get back to school in january or should i tell her on im or something this week. My friend is also friends with her, soooo should I:
1. tell her myself over break
2. tell her when we get back to school
3. see if my friend can talk to her and maybe hint that i like her
4. not tell her at all and try to forget about this because i have no chance with her
5. or not tell her just flirt and stuff- and if you think this is the best option, give me some tips please

I think you should tell her yourself because you can't always know and trust your friends to ask for you. They may not get all of the information right. Ask her to hang out over the break and then tell her what you think.


Good luck hun! Hope I helped

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I don't know if this is in the right category but anyways. I'm 14/f and I'm bi but I'm not out yet. But my 90% of my friends are gay or bi. But anywhos, I don't wanna come out anytime soon because I'm just not comfortable enough to say I'm bi. But getting to the point. There's this girl...let's call her jane. Well, she's a grade level above me and I really like her. We basically met through our good friend who is gay. But that's not the point. I don't know if she's bi or not. It seems like she has a little interest in girls. But I'm not sure. She gave me an unexpected hug today saying I was great with theorchestra (and oh my, no one cares about the orchestra so that comment was a shocker)

I don't know. I really like her and wanna go out with her but I don't know if she's bi or if she's even interested. Maybe she's just friendly. But I need to know if she is bi or not and if she likes me and what not. I was thinking about making a fake screen name and asking her and telling her that a certain girl likes her..blah blah. Is that a good idea? I'm willing to talk online with anyone who gives me their screen name!!

The best way to find out is to flat out ask her. Become friends with her and just casually bring it up. Hope I helped!

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Hi. I want to ask you something.
When you are looking after a convenience store, I walk in and start lookin at porn adult megazines. What would you say to me?

ok its interesting becuz i used to do that when my parents weren't with me. I think its natural to be curious but i wouldn't make a habit out of it. Don't like buy any and stash them under the bed becuz chances are, your parents will find them.
Hope I helped babe!

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Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75

ok wat is that a picture of? from that picture, you are too thin. its also your opinion if your too fat or skinny. this is just advice you can CHOOSE to follow or not. its your body.

hope i helped and good luck!

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Hi, i'm a girl, 15 years old. So i like my best friend(15/male). I've liked him since I was in 5th grade! (I am now in 10th) He says he kind of likes me, but he doesn't know if he wants to go out with me. We've hooked up before, but I want more than that. how can I let him know that I can't be just friends with him, that I want MORE!
thank you!
-jool

Find out for sure if he likes u. If he's still unsure, he may not be worth it. Give it a shot and see what'll happen!

Hope I helped hun!

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I'm a 15 y.o. freshman girl and boys don't really talk to me. I'm sort of shy and quiet in class, so I may come off as snobby or unapproachable. I'm only shy and quiet because I'm afraid they don't like me. I don't think I'm ugly or anything, so I dunno. Should I talk to them? What are some good conversation starters? How can I be more outgoing?

For starters, a really great confidence tip that can help you not be so shy is get pumped up before school everyday. Put a catchy tune on as you get dressed or take a shower or ride in the car and sing along with it.
Queit in class is a good thing, but if you know the answe to a question go ahead and speak up. And if someone makes a joke and everyone else is laughing but you, laugh. It's the little things that you do to join in with everybody else (legal things of course) that makes more guys notice you.
But then again, it's all different for everybody. Some guys like the gals who are quiet and unapproachable. Makes them want to approach you. Some guys like a girl who does all the work so they don't have to.
(I personally think those guys are just lazy pigs and that guys are supposed to pursue the girl, but, it's all different for everyone.)

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Me and my ex were dating for about a year.
I broke up with him on the 19th.

This is because the past month his personality has taken a 180 degree turn on me. He ignored me 2 times, about 4 days each time. Both those times were completley unnannounced, like he just vansihed out of my life. After the first time he ignored me, he decided to break up with me on the 6th. The next week we started talking again, and he very subtly said that he wanted me back, so I thought he wanted another try, another chance. So he asked me back out, and I said yes thinking he was going to put more effort in to be the boyfriend he was not so long ago.

Well, last week, Monday through Thursday, He vanished on me again. Both of these random vanishing eras, he said he needed time to straighten his head out on account of him being very stressed. Weird.

So last Thursday I brok up with him, because I'm so done with his crap and feeling so hurt. And in the past month, he's broken nearly all his promises he made to me during our relationship.
I was tired of feeling so hurt, so I ended it, as I said.

He didnt talk to me Thursday and Friday, but we talked early Saturday morning, and he came over later on in the day. It was awkward. We both knew we had to talk, but nothing was said.

Yesterday online, he spilled his guts and said he wasn't letting something so special to him go, just because he's been an asshole to me... that he still loves me.. blah blah blah.. and some other things I would of wanted to hear last week when he was ignoring me. He sounded very genuine, though. You can never tell in IMs, but he did sound very genuine.

I dont know. I've asked my friends for advice, and I've gotten different answers from each person.
I've thought about everything he said to me on Saturday, as well as his recent actions that have left me feeling so hurt. And I honestly don't know what to do.

He's out of state for a while, so I don't have to make any descisions. But, I really don't know what to do.
We've had soo many good times. It's worse since he's my first love. We had so many plans.

Help?

ok well from your question, I can tell he's not worth it. Guys don't ignore you, dump you, then ask for another chance. There's other fish in the sea. And hopefully, he can straighten out his problems. Hope I helped!

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There this boy and i think he likes me like more than friends and i only like him as a friend and im afraid hes going to ask me out and i wont have the heart to say no... he told this kid that he liked a girl in our school in our grade i think its me... ohto... watta i do

Merissa x3

well I'd give him a chaance. If you don't like it, and he continues to press you, just say no and let him be

Hope I helped hun!

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so latly i have had really strong feelings to hook uo with a girl. and i guess i cant do anything about it because i will proably be looked down on by my friends. considering i am a girl..
i dont really know what to do...
so what do you think?

well if you do have feelings, go for it. Your friends will love you no matter what.

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