When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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im dating a guy, were not boyfriend girlfriend yet though because i said im not ready, again. but the thing is were oppasites and nothing alike so would it work? we have none of the same friends and were in different grades but hes sweet and knows the perfect things to say to make me smile and very buff. he is a jock, muscle head, hunter and somewhat self centered but i like him alot :) ..i am all about art and music, am a vegetarian, and i like to keep people guessing i wont brag or even tell em what they want and he is against smokeing and i smoke sometimes. id be his first girl that is serious, as iv had a few guys in the past. i can drive and he cant, but when we are together nothing matters we can talk about nothing and the smiles not drift off our faces and he always holds me so sweetly and non stop compliments between us, its just amazing. does the good outweigh the bad? we have nothing in common, but we met threw theater i am the main backdrop painter and he is a construction guy and also in track he was a thrower but quit and i am a sprinter still. would it work? what could we do as dates? (link)
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I actually never believed in two people who have exactly everything in common to date lol because it would be so lame, that you just sit and talk with someone who shares everything like you, that would be like really boring, i mean, what would you talk about then, the same things?
Unlike when you're different, and each one has their one life, and when you come to share it, that's the part where its interesting, that you have different things to talk about, and maybe there would come a time, when your fields of interest could come in handy in helping one another.
Being opposites attracts you more, makes things more exciting,more to talk about, more to get to know about each other, and there will come a time, when you'd find little things that you have in common, and that would be nice then.
He sounds like he really likes you, and you do too, so why waste that because your interested in one thing and he's interested in another, what has this got to do with what you're feeling and that your inlove and that you care about each other, that you are even ready to overcome the bad things about him, like how he's self centered, its cause you love him ,and your blinded to see the little flaws he has, and i'm sure he does the same.
I think your perfect together, so don't waste that, cause if you do, you wouldn't find it elsewhere not even with the person you'd have everything in common with.
Hope i helped, please be free to contact me if you need anything else. Best of luck :D
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17/f boyfriend is 17/m. i forget when, but my boyfriend and i had an intense make out session [with ALL of our clothes on] and i somehow ended up on top of him grinding or whatever you would call it but not like intense grinding where its like rough..you know? okay well anyways, im not on birth control because it can cause cancer so my mom wont put me on it, and he wasnt wearing a condom but he did cum. i was ontop of him where he cummed. there was a spot on his pants that was wet [i dont remember how wet or how big or if it got on me] but it was there. so i got off of him. and i have been freaking out that im pregnant because i have not gotten my period this month, and i usually get it at the end of the month, but now im not? and its almost the end of the month. i am seriously freaking out. i cannot be pregnant like this wouldnt be fair so i researched the topic alot and found basically the same information on each one that said..
Q: We had sex with our clothes on, could I be pregnant?
A: No. If you had sex in your jeans, shorts, underwear or bathing suit, there's no way you can be pregnant. Sperm can't swim through clothes and continue traveling into the vagina. Sperm can only swim in liquids--like semen and vaginal fluid.
but i didnt have sex. thats the thing. and i did have underwear AND jeans on and he had boxers and his jeans [plus our shirts and stuff]. im seriously bugging out. i am such a good girl, i hate myself, i dont know what came over me. and i talked to him about it and told him that if i am pregnant, i am getting an abortion and he doesnt believe in that. and i will be forced to break up with him and ill never be able to leave the house again. and please dont tell me to take a test. thank you. please help me. my back hurts from time to time, my boobs have hurt for like a weekish now and thats it. i dont have my regular period symptoms like feeling wetness in my vagina or a lot of discharge or cramps... and i am freaking out. i cry every day, its horrible. thank you for taking the time to read this. (link)
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Honey you are not pregnant I PROMISE u that, because its impossible. And its impossible that when he cummed, the semen wet his pants and that made a spot, and then the semen passed from inside the pant through the spot to your vagina and inside it, what the hell? no way, think realistically. Its impossible. To the extent that i wasn't even considering to tell you to take a test, cause it doesn't need a test to confirm whether you are pregnant or not, cause you are NOT.
And about you feeling back pain and your boobs hurt, honey i get these symptoms when i get my period, and not just because you know that you experience these symptoms when you are pregnant, so your mind just played tricks on you, basically psychologically making you think that you are experiencing these symptoms. You are scared, and stressed and worried and that is what is causing your period to come late, but its going to come, as soon as you just relax.
And some suggestions that would release your period, is that you can drink cinnamon,with milk or cinnamon tea, and maybe take some iron tablets (vitamins). But most importantly, is to relax, cause your stress is stopping your period from menstruating.
I don't want you to worry at all, its going to be alright.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else ,please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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So me and my bf have been together for a year and at the beginning, i always told myself that i wouldn't be that stereotypical clingy girlfriend. But I find myself demanding or wanting more attention lately. I don't want to be annoying, so how do i tell him that i want him to hang out with me as opposed to his friends (for example) in a good way? (link)
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Well first of all, being too clingy is not a good thing,it usually drives people off, but there is good clingy, where you and your boyfriend just love each other that you don't mind spending all the time together away from everyone else, you just can't get enough of each other.
You can tell him that you love him or that you miss him, or that you can't stay away from him, or that you want to spend every minute with him, or that you want him all by yourself, but the thing is, how you say it, don's say it in a way to give him the feeling that you are clingy or that you are stalking or something, just say it with love and if you really want to be with him all the time because you love him so much, he'll feel that. And besides, no matter how sometimes, he'll hang out with his other friends, he'll always be there for you if he really loves you.
And sometimes, they say that distance makes the love grow more, so being together all the time sometimes makes you get bored or you wouldn't have much to say or do, so sometimes its better when you miss each other, so then there would be love next time you meet.
Its not wrong that you want him all for yourself, and you want to see him all the time and you'd rather he spent the time with you than with his friends, its a normal feeling and its a good feeling, its cause you love him so much. You wouldn't be annoying if you tell him about it, maybe he'll compensate, maybe he'd go out less with his friends, and see you more.
Or maybe you should consider going out with his friends, if its like a group of guys and girls, maybe you'd get to know his friends and you'd like them and get along with them, and then it would be a chance for you to be with him more.
Hope i helped, if you need any other help, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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what's something you can say to a guy to make him yours forever, well not forever but just to make him stay with you. (link)
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Ah there is nothing you can SAY and there is also nothing that you can DO, but its something that you feel, and how you express that feeling and show it. Its to love this person, to really love him from your heart, between you and yourself, and then to show him that love by what you do, or what you think, or being thoughtful, or listening to the little small details that he says, and showing him that you do, and that you care, and that your there. And you would stay together forever, but there has to be real love from both partners, you and him,that even if you have your little fights every now and then, you'd get back together.
So just be sure of your feelings, and his too, and you being together is not a plan you think of plotting, its a feeling you express and you feel from within you.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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18-female. i've always had feelings for my good friend but never implemented i wanted to go further because i knew it would just make our friendship more complicated. i just don't even know if he's the "good friend" i thought he was, but then when i think about it i have doubts..
we go to different schools. he's best friends with my guy cousin - they go to the same school. recently my grandma passed away (also my cousins grandma) and i know my cousin told the guy that she did and he told my friend she was in a better place blah blah .. but the thing is he never once called or even texted me to see how i was doing or to even say sorry to me about my grandma. to me, that doesn't seem like a good friend. although he talked to my cousin, he couldn't bother also talking to me about it? if his grandma were to pass away the least i would do would text him saying hey sorry to hear about your grandma, always here for you or something like that.
what do you guys think? am i overreacting about this or do you really think he's not being a good friend.. (link)
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No honey, I don't think you're over reacting, I think that he's being a really good friend to your cousin, but not to you. And I might've told you that you are over reacting if it was in normal situations, but for something major like your grandma passing away, which i'm so sorry for by the way, he should have definitely been there if he really was a true friend, but here, i'm not gonna tell you that he's a bad person or not a true friend. He is a good person, and he is a true friend, but not a true friend to you, maybe to other people, but between you and him, you are not best friends and you are not even close. And maybe you thought that both of you were something, like really close and tight, but thats not what he thought about it, maybe in his own mind, he just sees you as a friend, not close enough to be there for you and to care that much and remember. And that doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you or bad about you that would make him not want to get close to you, its just how he feels, and not every friendship is meant to be, and if it is, sometimes you're not meant to get close.
Maybe one day you'd get closer and he'd actually be there for you, but for now, your not, and don't waste your time trying to make something out of nothing, if something is meant to happen it will. You just act normally for now, the way you've always acted, and don't even question him about why he wasn't there for you, and don't expect him to be, and don't get upset or stop talking to him or anything. Just be normal, that's the only thing you can do.
And i'm not even gonna talk about the having feelings for him part, because you are not even close as friends, you are not what you thought you were.
And ofcourse its another case if you want to get closer to him intentionally, you'd have to talk more, hang out more, try to show interest in his stuff, and he'll show interest back, you get my point? Show him that YOU are there and you care,and that you want more, as friends, to be closer friends.
Hope i helped, if you want to talk more or if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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18f. one of my grandparents passed away about a week ago, basically the first person ever close to me to pass away. well i get really freaked out about death and ghosts and stuff, and ever since the wake and funeral i can't sleep, i wont allow myself at night because i'm terrified. everytime i close my eyes i see my dead grandmother in her casket, or the casket at the cemetery .. and it truly is frightening who wants to keep being reminded of that? or at night when it's really dark i feel like a ghost is in my room and every sound i hear i get freaked out to the point of me breaking a sweat in the verge of crying. i won't go to sleep until like 7 in the morning when it gets light out because i feel at least more comfortable but this no sleep thing has really been taking a toll on my body, i feel so sick :( i still live with my parents but they can't do anything about it. i go sleep with my mom in the morning when my dad goes to work, because i feel safe with someone. my dad won't sleep in my bed, haha embarassing i know but honestly i don't know what to do .. i'm terrified and i need sleep !
is there anything i can do.. (link)
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I know how you feel, and if i were you, i would've probably felt the same way. You know when my grandma died, her body was left at home for a whole day with us, and my mom would go and sit beside her and hold her hands, and it was just so freaky, just sitting there beside someone dead, like, has no life in them,I have no idea how my mom could do that lol. I would never come near a body, no matter who the person is lool But here is the thing, come to think of it generally, this is not a scary movie and no matter what, the body will not get up and kill you, and who are we even talking about here? its your grandmother and you were close and she loved you, and she would never come back to hunt you or scare you. Think of her, her when she was alive and with you, and how nice she was, and how there is nothing about her that would scare you.
I don't know if you believe in god, but if you do, pray for him and pray for your grandma before you sleep every night and maybe talk to her, tell her nice things, and remember the good about her, and i promise that praying would make you feel better and safe before sleeping instead of thinking that a ghost might come out or your dead grandma might come back, thats not gonna happen, your grandma loves you, and even if she was a ghost, she would never be an evil one hehe
Its just a phase, it'll pass i promise. Try to sleep elsewhere, or sleep with the lights on or if you have a tv in your room, put it on.
Hope i helped, please be free to contact me if you need anything else. Best of luck :D
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~Male,15~ . I met this girl at a military ball on Saturday (last weekend).Then on Monday we started talking more and we start going to the basement of the school ever since Monday to Hug up on each other ( other peoples be down there sometime to). Here come my first problem i don't know when the right time to kiss her and i don't want to talk to her about it ( so any advice on that am thankful for). Now i got her friends walking up to me threaten me.Today her friend told me to keep my hand off her ( the girl i like). I ignored her and walk away and i still didn't keep my hands off and my girl don't know nothing about her friend walking up to me cause i didn't tell her. Me and her business is spreading around the school like HIV. here my last problem i don't know if she playing me or if she for real ( she don't got a phone). I been told she be on lock down after school. So i don't know she got a lot of friends ( boy and girls). i don't want to talk to her about it. Cause if she is playing me i rather just not know about it ( but i want to find out :(. cause i had past relationships problem. and my heart can't take another heartbreak
Thank :D ( sorry if it to long) (link)
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Well I kind of think that the girl you like goes around telling her friends what you two do together, and her friends don't like that, so they come and threaten you, whether she knows about this or not, it wouldn't really matter.
And honestly, i don't think this is serious, cause you've only known each other for like a couple of days, and you hugging each other is completely nothing serious, and you don't really know anything about her to trust her, and it doesn't seem to me like you do anything but hug each other, i mean, if she doesn't even talk on the phone with you, then when do you actually talk or get to know each other.
I think you should be careful, and you should know the person you say that you like before you actually get serious about her.But from what you said, there is just something about her that you can't trust it, and yes its like she's just fooling around or having fun, not actually liking you and being serious about what you two have together.
So my suggestion is to back out, cause she's not the one, or if your convinced and you see something different here, then know her first, try to talk to her more, in school or something, ask her things about her, about her family, try to know her friends, maybe if you know them, they'd like you and you'd like them. And try to actually make your business official, not something that you hide in the basement, maybe thats why her friends think its wrong or think that you are playing her.
And don't kiss her, not just yet, give it time. And there are no steps on how or when to kiss her or when is the right time. A kiss comes out of love and feeling, which you obviously both don't have yet.
Hope i helped, please be free to contact me if you need anything else. Best of luck :D
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thank you so much lola..thats wat am going to do just ignore her ..she aint worth it..
hey can i ask you another question ?? (link)
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Sure ofcourse, you can ask me as many questions as you want any time, and I'll gladly answer them all as soon as I get to them.
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hey! am sorry if this is too long..i just need some help! ok am a girl and there is this girl that hates me so much. ok this is how it all started. we were in school in algebra and before algebra we have lunch. when we come back from lunch this girl is always late to class. the door of the classroom is always locked. she always comes late and expect somebody to opened the door for her. well me and my friend always sit next to the door but we dont open it for people because they should get to class in time. well when somebody opened the door for her she came in and started saying this "stupid B****** dont open the F***** door . they are so R*******"..she just kept on arguing. we just ignored her. this all happened on november of 2009. now she always stares at me in class,and sometimes when am walking down the hallway she looks at me or when am sitting down and she comes inside the classrrom she stares at me..and i herd her talked about me..i really dont know what is her problem seriously..i dont want to go up to her because i know something will ahppen because she has anger issues and so do i..so can you please tell me a good advice because this girl is getting on my nerves :( (link)
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Well, my main advice would be for you to just continue ignoring her, as long as she doesn't physically or verbally bully you, except for that very first time when she dissed you, then just continue to ignore her, and don't even look her way, and don't show her that you care that she's talking about you, cause she's probably just saying some shit that no one is gonna believe, and why do you care what other people think? i mean your friends know you and know that whatever she's gonna say about you, its not true, and whoever else will think its true, when they know you, they'll find out that your different.
Other than that, maybe you should give a heads up to a counseller or a teacher, just an elder figure in your school who is responsible for student affairs or problems, and you can tell this person about her. They wouldn't really do anything to her cause she doesn't really do anything to you, she just stares at you, it was just this first time when she bad-mouthed you. So you could tell this person just for him to be aware of the situation incase further on she does something, which i'm telling you she won't, cause she has nothing against you. What happened was old news, and she's just the type who holds grudges, but if you completely ignore her and don't even look her way, she'll start seeing that she's so childish at what she does.
And don't go up to her and talk to her about it or about anything, cause yes that will only cause trouble.
I really hope i helped, and if you'd like to follow up with me concerning this problem or if there is anything else, please be free to contact me.Best of luck.
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I'm 15 and I recently started talking to this guy, lets just call him matt for now, and he seems really, really nice. His mate was being a dick to me and he stood up for me. He always flirts with me and always seems to find excuse to touch me (not in the rude way :P)
I think I really like this kid and I think he has some feelings for me too.
My parents are kinda strict. They dont want me to go out with this nationality because they're like this and like that. And if they catch me going out with someone from this country or that country they'll skits it at me.
They have like a list of nationalities that my boyfriends cant be.
and Matt unfortunately is on that list.
I don't want to say what he is or where he's from because I don't want to offend anyone.
I dont know what to do. I like him alot but his nationality kinda scares me because of the stories that I hear.
I know you shouldn't believe everything you hear but I can't help it.
I like him and I want my parents to approve of us going out. I want them to like him but if they find out his nationality I don't think they'll give him a chance.
I'm really confused.
Any help or suggestions will be greatly appreciated.
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First of all, if you between you and yourself think that its okay for him to have this nationality and for you to be with him when he has this nationality, then its your business and no one can stop you, you could lie about his nationality to your parents, and when time passes and you get involved with him, and then you have to tell your parents the truth, it would be hard for them to reject this after all this time and after you being so inlove and committed, and they'd see that you went to his length to be with this guy meaning that you really do like him. But you have to be convinced with what your fighting for, to be convinced that its okay with yourself to be with him.
I know your parents might be mad then when you actually finally tell them, but between them and themselves, they'd know why you did this and that you really do love him. But let's just hope that things are really serious and that you really LOVE him, cause if its not, then your just involving yourself in something that is not worth it and lying to your parents and stuff. Is he like 'the one' or is it just that you have this crush and so you think that he's the one. Cause usually when you do get to know someone really closely, you sometimes don't find him as what you thought he'd be, and maybe you wouldn't like him that way, as in dating him, maybe you'd then rather he was just your friend, and besides, your still too young, and its not like a love story and that you have to be with him cause you can't live without him, so i'd rather you didn't cause trouble with your parents at a young age.
I'm sure their are many other guys who are on the good list of your parents and would like you and love you and want to be with you and, being with them wouldn't cause you so much trouble. So try to think about this again, and i'm sure even if not now, but by time, you'll see that this was just a phase and a crush, and it wasn't really worth it.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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So me and my ex are friends. I really miss her and want to show her I care. This month is really hard for her because her mom passed away 2 years ago. What can I do to show her I care and I am there for her? (link)
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'Be there' its simple as that. Call her up alot( but not in a stalking way :P) and ask about her. And maybe if she visits her mom at the cemetery or something, you could actually offer to come along or surprise her by being there when she shows up, and bring flowers or something, maybe say nice words about her mom.
You can ask to take her out, just to hang out to make her feel a bit better instead of her staying home and crying or something.
You could also tell her that you care and that you want to be there and that your making an effort, and if she needs anything that you'll readily do for her.
Its the matter of showing that you care is the most important, not the actions, and she'll appreciate it and be grateful, and maybe she still cares about you too, and maybe her mom's thing is a good way of rekindling back what you once had, so don't lose that chance.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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15/f.
I really like this guy. We've been talking for almost everyday in the past few months. We talked to much and always got the conversation going pretty deep. My friends knew I liked him, even they said that it seems like he liked me too, but the problem was that he sends mixed signals. I missed my chances of telling him, and no I wasn't scared of rejection. I was scared of loosing him as a friend. Then at around January, we just stopped talking. We were so close too. We trusted each other and understood eachother. I don't know how to make it the same. We're extremely good friends. Although at school, he never says Hi to me. (never did). Hardly, but he says Hi and talks to me in the classes we have. I really think I should get over him, because girls are always flirting with him, it drives me insane. I don't like the feeling of envy. I don't know how to get over him without ignoring him, because when I do, we just won't be friends anymore. People told me to just think of things you hate about that person, but the truth it, there isn't anything wrong about him that I can think of. It really bugs me.
So how can I get over him without ruining our friendship?
Thanks a bunch! (link)
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Sometimes there are things we just simply have to accept, there is nothing that you can do about it, its a feeling and it sucks, and the only thing you can do is to adapt.
I'm not really sure about the mixed signals or that he might like you, but from the information you shared, it doesn't tell me that he likes you or feels about you the same way as you feel about him, I think he's just being friends and this is his way of being a friend, and when sometimes you think he's sending a signal, no, he's just having a bit of fun or fooling around, but not with the intentions of liking you and that there might be something, cause if there was, he would've told you or been more obvious instead of suddenly you stopped talking to each other, and its not like he's in a relationship or there is some other girl, its just you and there was plenty of space for him to come forward and express his feelings, but he didn't, and that sucks i know. But the only thing you can do is just to accept it, try enjoying his company of just being a friend, because you never know, because if you ever did get together, maybe things wouldn't work out, and you would find that you don't really like him that way, and that you were better off as friends. So you really never know, cause going from a friendship to dating this person is a complete 180 degrees change and it changes everything. So sometimes we just have to appreciate what we have, and be grateful that you have him as a friend instead of neither a friend or a lover.
So if it really really hurts you being friends with him while having feelings for him, then maybe you should just start to back out really slowly without being obvious about it, and eventually you'll just drift apart, as if it were naturally, and you don't have to ignore him completely, cause thats not really an easy thing to do since you already see him and it will also be hard on you. Other than that, just accept how it is, and i promise that if you do, after time, you'll find that you moved past your feelings and you'll just be glad that you have him as a friend. So just try not to think about it, and maybe try to get to know new people, or someone else, just anything or anyone to distract you and occupy your time.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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All of my life my mom had told me to take HOT showers to help get all of the dirt and germs off of me. I always try to take the hottest showers possible. Well, recently, I passed out (I sometimes do) in the shower and my boyfriend said it was because the water was way too hot to be in and that I should be taking warm-to-cool showers even. Who is right? (link)
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Well your mom has a point in the significance of using hot water while showering, but i'm sure she didn't mean to use really hot water to the extent that you wouldn't be able to breath and you'd pass out. You could make it hot at first and then start warming it gradually, and hey, it wouldn't hurt to take a cold shower every once in a while, they're usually really refreshing especially in a very hot summer day.
So you really have to be careful not to use too much hot water cause you could once suffocate and fall down and hit your head or something and die, and i'm not telling you that to scare you, its real and it happened to people i know. So you have to be careful.
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My Dad keeps trying to get me to take some vitamins he bought for mre recently. He says they will keep me healthy and give me the nutrients that I am missing in my diet. I don't think I need vitamins at all because I eat pretty good foods. I eat fruits and vegetables almost every day. Why do I still need to take vitamins? (link)
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The Better Nutrition article (to be referred to as BN) stated that "your idea of a 'good diet' may not include all the essential nutrients" and that with pollution, stress, chronic illness, drugs and food of low nutritional value (presumably from conventional farming methods), it is reasonable that "a number of distinguished nutrition experts" believe that we should take supplements.
MY ANSWER: It is no doubt true that many peoples' idea of a "good diet" is inadequate. The nutritional orthodoxy believes that enriched flour is entirely adequate even though many nutrients are removed by processing and only a few are replaced by enriching. But this does not mean that supplements should be taken, but rather that proper foods should be chosen! Also, there is no proof that pollution and stress increase vitamin needs. If drugs increase vitamin need, the obvious answer is to discontinue their use if at all possible. Drugs have many harmful side effects besides increasing vitamin needs.
Also, the mention of nutritional values of foods grown with today's conventional farming methods brings up an important point. Plants synthesize all the vitamins they need from carbon dioxide, water and sunlight. Therefore, foods grown conventionally will have the same amounts of vitamins as those grown organically.
Finally, in all respect for the "distinguished nutrition experts" who believe that supplements are needed, it would be far preferable to choose the proper foods; many equally distinguished experts support this position.
And this is where I got the information http://www.rawfoodexplained.com/vitamins/do-we-need-to-take-vitamins.html
I copied it and pasted to make it easier for you.
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I saw an article in the paper today that said something about there were dangers in eating or drinking High Frucstose Corn Syrup. I don't really know what it is but I looked on my can of soda today and saw it was an ingredient. Is it like aspartame then with the same harmful side-effects? Anybody know??? (link)
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High-fructose corn syrup is a common sweetener and preservative. High-fructose corn syrup is made by changing the sugar (glucose) in cornstarch to fructose — another form of sugar. The end product is a combination of fructose and glucose. Because it extends the shelf life of processed foods and is cheaper than sugar, high-fructose corn syrup has become a popular ingredient in many sodas, fruit-flavored drinks and other processed foods.
So far, research has yielded conflicting results about the effects of high-fructose corn syrup. For example, various early studies showed an association between increased consumption of sweetened beverages (many of which contained high-fructose corn syrup) and obesity. But recent research — some of which is supported by the beverage industry — suggests that high-fructose corn syrup isn't intrinsically less healthy than other sweeteners, nor is it the root cause of obesity.
While research continues, moderation remains important. Many beverages and other processed foods made with high-fructose corn syrup and other sweeteners are high in calories and low in nutritional value. Regularly including these products in your diet has the potential to promote obesity — which, in turn, promotes conditions such as type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure and coronary artery disease.
If you're concerned about the amount of high-fructose corn syrup or other sweeteners in your diet, consider these tips:
* Limit processed foods.
* Avoid foods that contain added sugar.
* Choose fresh fruit rather than fruit juice or fruit-flavored drinks. Even 100 percent fruit juice has a high concentration of sugar.
* Choose fruit canned in its own juices instead of heavy syrup.
* Drink less soda.
* Don't allow sweetened beverages to replace milk, especially for children.
And this is where I got the information http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/high-fructose-corn-syrup/AN01588
I copied it and pasted to make it easier for you.
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I have this friend that recently threw away her microwave after she read some book about it being really dangerous and harmful. I know that she has returned food at resturaunts with me when she found out they had been microwaved too. I don't want to sound stupid if I ask her what the dangers are but I am curious. I don't really have time to sit down and read a whole book about the harmful effects of using a microwave. Does anybody know why it's bad (brief me, as they say) or can point me to some quick information online (maybe even suggest a video)? (link)
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In general, when me and my siblings were young, our parents always told us that microwaves are harmful especially when you stand infront of them or close to them when they are heating the food, and thats because they give off radiation that leads to cancer.
But this is some actual information here that can help you;
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Are_microwaves_harmful
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19/f this guy in my art appreciation class, whom i think likes me, we started talking today about some stuff & he told me he was a fitness trainer & i didn't believe it so he gave me his business card, and it has his cell phone on it, and i kinda called him from a block number a few times. but anyways he smiles at me whenever he sees me outside of class, we talk a little bit in class, and we talk on facebook, when i had one but only about art appreciation class. but my question is would it be weird if i called him? & how long should i wait because he gave me his card today! please help! thanks!! (link)
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Well you could call him on the basis of you wanting to ask him if he gives fitness classes cause you were considering and you've been wanting to join one for a while. So you could like, ask him for details of his classes and stuff,even if you don't end up joining in the end, just to trigger conversation.
And hey, this whole waiting for a while before calling, i'm just not convinced with, that's only in movies, but in real life, if you like him, then call him, even if its the minute he gives you the card lol. And I mean, since you like him and you think he likes you, then why not.But make sure he does have feelings for you, not just being nice to you or anything, so don't rush into things till you know and don't jump to conclusions, just get closer to him and take a step forward as being friends and tight, and then let things fall to place on their own, see what happens.
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So there's this guy that i've had a crush on for forever. He moved and I got a boyfriend (together 9 months) and i forgot about him. But he moved back and my feelings for him returned too, but i also love my boyfriend. The other guy likes me too so he asked me to hang out with him. I wasn't going to because i didn't want to hurt my bf, but i decided i would just to see if i felt anything. So we were hanging out and i let him put his arm around me, he tried to kiss me but i didn't let him. We didn't do anything else. It turns out im not as crazy about him as i thought. Anyways, would this be considered cheating? Should i tell my boyfriend about it? Am i a bad person for doing this?
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Well yes its kind of considered cheating, and its actually not a very nice thing, because i mean, you can't just go try how something feels when you are committed to someone else, you know what i mean? Like for instance, you can't try having sex with someone just to know how it will feel with this person or if you will like it with him, you know? Its pretty much the same, and i know you didn't do anything major, but you still did something, and its enough that you even went there, and to let someone else hold you and touch you.
You don't have to tell your boyfriend if your 100% sure that he will not find out about it, because telling him might cause you to break up cause he will never understand your excuse, cause its no excuse. And its good that at least you found that you don't have feelings for the other guy, but what good did it make for you now?
You are not a bad person, you just made a bad decision, and every decision has consequences, if i was you, i would come clean with my boyfriend and tell him the truth, or else, you'd feel so guilty and you'd try to make it up by being extra sweet and nice to him. Just try to be honest with him, and if he really loves you, he won't leave you, or even if he does for a short while cause he'd get upset or something, he'll come back and he'll forgive you, because thats what people who love each other do, they forgive each other and make excuses for each other and try to forget.
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me and my boyfriend broke up a week ago and i found a new guy but i dont no if he likes me or wants to be with me. should i ask or should i go back to my ex who is like heartbroken because of the break up? help me i dont no what the right thing to do is? (link)
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Well, first of all, going back to your ex depends on why did you break up in the first place, and whose fault was it, and if it was a major problem or not.
While about the other guy, you don't really know him, and you don't know anything about him, he might like you and he might not, and even if he did, maybe when you know him, you wouldn't like him so much, and you wouldn't want to be with him as a date, maybe you would just rather wanna be with him as a friend. So if you want, you could get to know him and take a step as being just friends with him first.
Other than that, if your still inlove with your ex and you think that you could work things out, then why not, it depends how you feel about him and if you still like him and want to be with him. You didn't really mention why you even broke up, so i can't say anything at that part.
Just try taking a break to think things over to be able to make the right decision, and hey, sometimes being single is not that bad :P
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Hi,
I'm a 23 year old female and I met my (then) best friend in college a few years back. Right off the bat, we became super close friends. We hung out all the time, talked on the phone almost every night, and not to mention saw each other in class almost everyday. After a few months, we started becoming flirty with each other -- staring, tickling, hugging, jokes, etc. I tried not to do it so much because I knew he had a girlfriend but I still couldn't help feeling the way I did. About 6 months into our friendship, he confessed that he liked me and wanted to date me. I resisted at first because I knew he was in a relationship but he insisted that it was over and he wanted to start over with me. I ended up confessing too and agreed to go out with him. We decided to hang out at his place a few nights later and I ended up drinking too much. The next thing I know, we're making out like mad but didn't have sex. The next day, he calls me and tells me that he's back with his girlfriend and that I didn't do anything wrong, but wouldn't explain why he got back with her so quickly after being with me the previous night. I became angry and embarrassed and felt completely heartbroken. After that, our friendship completely changed. He still called me, but I ignored his calls and made excuses not to hang out with him anymore. I became mean with him and tried to pretend like he didn't exist, to try and push him away, even though we still saw each other almost everyday. As time went by, he started ignoring me too and all communication ceased. But a few months ago, we started talking again and little by little, our friendship seemed to come back to life somewhat. We don't call each other often anymore, but we do talk alot more at school and whenever we see each other around town. While this makes me happy (I have missed his friendship horribly), the confusion is returning because he has become flirty again and makes suggestions about us hooking up. He is still with his girlfriend and living with her. She knows nothing about this. I believe that I am in love with him, and I believe that he still likes me, but I do not want to be used or destroy a relationship. I actually like his girlfriend, but my feelings for him are always tempting me. I have never felt this way before and I am tired of it, because it is nothing but a struggle for me. Should I get him out of my life completely? Or just ignore his flirting and try to continue to be friends like before? Being around him makes me happy, but the constant sadness is making me miserable. Please help me.
Brokenhearted (link)
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Hey there,
I know how that feels, and it feels really bad, and the situation really sucks.
At the start of your problem while reading it, i first thought of him that he loves you, but can't be with you cause somehow he feels committed to his girlfriend and to his life with her and its as if its too complicated for him to break up with her for good, for whatever reasons they may have.
And about what happened between you too could be feelings he had for you all along, and when he finally broke up with his girlfriend, he felt that he can finally freely let them out and share them with you, and he did.
But then along the rest of the problem, i thought differently, that he's just playing around, fooling around, having fun, that he doesn't really love you, in the meaning of being with you as a lover. He does love you as a friend, and you get along really well and share alot, but not as a lover, it sounds more like he wanted to experience the feeling of being with you, and he experienced it that day, and then the other day, he was back again with his girlfriend, which makes me feel like he never even broke up with her, but he just told you that, cause that was the only thing that would make you agree. And its not that he didn't enjoy making out with you or having that feeling of being with you and sharing your company as a lover, but its just not the way he feels about you. He does like you so much, but as a friend. And usually in life, the person we most get along with and share everything with is not the person who we end up with in a relationship or choose to be with.
Don't lead him on! You were doing fine ignoring him, why did you go back to talking to him? And a more reason that proves that he's just playing around, is that he's back doing the same thing after what happened, and after how he hurt you, and this time, when you know that he's with his girlfriend. So here is the thing, you either make it clear to him that you do not want to continue with this flirting and things, and that you are just interested in being friends, and that nothing more can happen between you because he has a girlfriend. And because between you and yourself, how can you trust him again after what he did last time. I mean, if he left you once, can't he do it again? ofcourse he can.
Second option is to just limit your friendship and contact with him ,and move on, and just talk to him diplomatically from a distance, and try to ignore him as much as you can like you use to. And i choose that option cause its better for you, because even if you remain just friends with him, there will always be this tension, or this complication, and feelings for him, and that will hurt you and make you struggle, seeing him with someone else and not being able to do anything about it.
You can't love him or be with him, its a fact, and sadly there is nothing that you can do about it, you can't change that, but you can just accept it and you can also find someone else, cause there are so many guys out there who would wish to be with you, and would belong to you, cause he doesn't belong to you, he belongs to her, to his girlfriend, so don't hurt yourself or make yourself miserable, you don't need him or her or whoever, you can have your own relationship and someone who really loves you.
Hope i helped, if you need to talk more or if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck.
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