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Is it cheating?
So there's this guy that i've had a crush on for forever. He moved and I got a boyfriend (together 9 months) and i forgot about him. But he moved back and my feelings for him returned too, but i also love my boyfriend. The other guy likes me too so he asked me to hang out with him. I wasn't going to because i didn't want to hurt my bf, but i decided i would just to see if i felt anything. So we were hanging out and i let him put his arm around me, he tried to kiss me but i didn't let him. We didn't do anything else. It turns out im not as crazy about him as i thought. Anyways, would this be considered cheating? Should i tell my boyfriend about it? Am i a bad person for doing this?
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it wouldnt exactly be cheating if you didnt let him kiss you thats actually a good thing , if i were you i would not tell your bf because he might get jealous and get mad , i know i wouldd, i wouldnt tell ihm i would just let it go anyways you really iddn tdo anyhtign with that other guy so your safe , for now. good luck :]
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It can go both ways, Yes and No
You should of not of gone, You have a boyfriend and you are already committed to him. How would you of felt if your boyfriend had a crush on some girl so he went to hang out with her to see if the feelings were real or not? Wasn't exactly the smartest thing to do..
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Well yes its kind of considered cheating, and its actually not a very nice thing, because i mean, you can't just go try how something feels when you are committed to someone else, you know what i mean? Like for instance, you can't try having sex with someone just to know how it will feel with this person or if you will like it with him, you know? Its pretty much the same, and i know you didn't do anything major, but you still did something, and its enough that you even went there, and to let someone else hold you and touch you.
You don't have to tell your boyfriend if your 100% sure that he will not find out about it, because telling him might cause you to break up cause he will never understand your excuse, cause its no excuse. And its good that at least you found that you don't have feelings for the other guy, but what good did it make for you now?
You are not a bad person, you just made a bad decision, and every decision has consequences, if i was you, i would come clean with my boyfriend and tell him the truth, or else, you'd feel so guilty and you'd try to make it up by being extra sweet and nice to him. Just try to be honest with him, and if he really loves you, he won't leave you, or even if he does for a short while cause he'd get upset or something, he'll come back and he'll forgive you, because thats what people who love each other do, they forgive each other and make excuses for each other and try to forget.
Hope i helped, if you need any other advice, please be free to contact me.
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first off; no. you are not a bad person.
second; if you believe it was cheating, then it was. if you believe it wasnt, then it wasnt. everyone has a different view on what is considered cheating, and what is not. i think that in your case, you were just curious, as many people are, and you acted upon your curiosity. but you didnt do anything like hook up with him.. which would DEFINETLY be seen as cheating.
however, did your boyfriend know that you hung out with him ? does your boyfriend know the history between you and this guy ?
.. if you didnt tell him those things, you should tell him before he finds out on his own. its always better to come clean then wait it out. it was good that you didnt let him kiss you. and its good that you realized that you still love your boyfriend.. and that youve maybe found that you love him more than you think you do. and when you tell him what happened, let him know what you have discovered.
but its your choice if you want to tell him what went on. if he did what you did, would you want him to tell you about it ? .. put yourself in his shoes and really consider his feelings. but dont be so hard on yourself. you didnt hang out with that guy with the notion that you were going to cheat on your boyfriend. its okay.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo. :]
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To answer your questions. no, yes, no.
If you two didn't even kiss then it's not a big deal, there was no cheating involved. You may have cheated on your boyfriends trust in you, but that's about it. You should also tell your boyfriend. He deserves to know. Plus you don't want him to find out that you've hung out with another guy alone from somebody else. THAT would be bad. You should explain that he tried to kiss you and you pushed him away. He should be happy with you for that atleast. He might be a little touchy that you hung out with another guy, but if you two have a good enough of a connection, then he'll understand and subsequently let it quickly pass.
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Well, it wasn't the best idea you've ever had, I'm sure, but I wouldn't say it makes you a bad person. You just made a poor choice, that's all. Don't tell your boyfriend. What would it solve? You realized you don't like this guy like you thought you did, so nothing more is going to happen. Telling your boyfriend would only make him more insecure, and maybe even jealous. If you did tell him it would be to ease your own feelings of guilt, and that's a little selfish. If you truly love your bf and you're not going to be with this other guy again, let it go. Chalk it up to a bad decision, forgive yourself, and be grateful for the relationship you and your bf have. Some things should just be kept to ourselves. I'm married and even I think that.
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