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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.

I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.

Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.

Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.

I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.

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My boyfriend is 15 and I just turned 13 a week ago and he's turning 16 in june well anyway I finger myself every night that I'm not busy with anything if a friend sleeps over or I sleep at a friend then I don't but my boyfriend and I have phone sex and I get dressed in front of him I do modeling btw and we've been dating for a year now but he's only watched me finger myself and I've seen him touching himself but we haven't done anything but we really want to!! I'm feeling so horny while I right this I always am :'(

I totally agree with adviceman49.
You should really listen to what he said.

K so a few months ago, there was this thing between me and this guy at school. He lead me on and and I initiated some as well. So when he made further plans if we could go on a date and stuff, i of course said yes. But then
when it came closer to the date, a few days before it he cancelled and bailed on me and said that he just couldn't go through with it at the moment cause he still had feelings for this girl that he never went out with. So of course I felt hurt and disappointed , but eventually I moved on and didnt give a crap about him. But then today, he came up to me after weeks of not talking to each other and asked if we could talk. He said that he did a lot of thinking and that he wanted to give us a try again and said that he was really sorry of what happened.
So then he asked if we could go on a date, and of course me not wanting to say no and disappoint him I said yes... It was a spur of the moment kind of thing . So now here after a few hours of thinking I just don't have a good feeling about it.. Like now I just keep doubting that I may not have that same strong feelings for him as before ... Help !
P.s that girl never liked him back in the first place and he supposedly told me that that girl now has a boyfriend and that he and her are now on good terms and are friends

You may as well go on the date. You've already accepted. If you are still having doubts about your feelings for him after the date, then you don't have to see him anymore.

Okay, I met a guy some time back and we are school mates. I'm 16, female. We started off as teasing each other from time to time but now we are really good friends. My palms do not go sweaty when I see him, nor does my heart palpitate as fast as a train. Although when he was absent from school I was pretty concerned.

Is this a sign? I hope not. I need to focus on my studies. And I don't get emotional over him.

So, any advice?

Sounds to me like you feel like a pretty good friend to him? Just because you show care and concern for a guy you are friendly with doesn't mean you have deeper feelings for him.

Hiii
I am not sure if I am a virgin or not? I m not sure if my hymen is broken or not? When I was in gr 10 I iinserted a tempon jus the tip of it den I toook it out coz I was scared I don't remeber bleeding after it but I m not sure if my hymen is broken n I have never had sex can I. Stilll bleeed during the 1st time I have seXx? This hymen thing is very important in my culture so plz I neeed help wat to doo:(?

Actually, your hymen is typically broken before you have sex for the first time. Especially with tampon usage. Hymen is a very thin, weak membrane, and it doesn't represent virginity because it is so easily broken.
Of course you're still a virgin. Being a virgin means you haven't had sex yet. Bleeding the first time has nothing to do with hymen what so ever.

If im 16 years of age is it legal to have sex with someone the same sex as me?? And how can i get tested for STI and STDs??

Yes, it is legal. As stated below, go to your doctor for the tests.

is my wife get pregnat by swallowing or suckin my sperm my age 24 and my wife age20
by sucking my cock is that any problem we are very hygenic and clean persons

That is completely impossible. There is no way she could be pregnant from that.

ok so here goes, i have strong feelings for a married man, about a year ago he started giving me extra attention in work,nothing to much a hug here and there, he did want to come over to my house a few times but he never did as i wouldnt allow it, he also has tried in the past to kiss me whislt we were in work,which i didnt allow, thing is that i have really strong feelings for him and cannt get over these feelings, i have to see him most days in work and cannot avoid him as we have to work together, i dont want an affair with him, but its getting really hard to work with him and lately i cannot be around him because of how i feel about him, at the moment we arent even talking much only if one of us has a work question for the other, its down to me that we arent talking because i have tried to put up a wall between me and him as i cannt conitune acting the way i used to around him because its getting way to hard for me how can i stop these feelings or should i just tell him how i feel and see can we work it out as i said i dont want an affair i dont want to be the other women in his life,

You could try looking at him from another angle:
What a slime ball he is to be acting this way with a woman at work while he has a wife and perhaps children at home.
Remember he's a skeeze of a man.

Um, i am 13 and i want to dye my hair light brown, but i have not started my period yet. ( my original color is medium dark brown ) someone told me that if i dye my hair before i start my period, my hair could fall out. Will it really fall out, or is it a myth? Please help!

That's so not true.
The thing about dying your hair that makes it fall out is dying it too much too often.

We didn't have sex, just a hand job. He said he didn't come but I just want to make sure. Is it possible to get pregnent ?

Not a chance.

Hello, me and my girlfriend are both 20 years old. We are possibly pregnant and currently live with our parents. We are looking to get a place for us to live and start a family. We both have well standing jobs and would have no problem paying a monthly mortage.The only problem both of us have so so credit. We both have credit cards at the limit because of where we live now with our parents we need to help out and spend alot of money. We also have no one in our family that could co-sign with credit. We would probably have a down payment problem to its hard for us to save when we are paying for our familes bills right now. our city has a program that matches down payments and pays closing costs for new home buyers they match the down payment up to 5000 so if we had 2500 it would make our downpayment 5000. We really need a house asap though. Right now we havnt told our parents anything, so im trying to find out something on here. We arent looking for a multi-million dollar home loan. The three houses we are looking at are all under 90,000. We were wondering if anyone knew anywhere that gives loans to people with ehh credit and the rest of our situation? Please help us out!

You just have to go around and check with banks to see who would be willing to loan you money based on your credit rating, for starters.
Then you need to find out how much they're willing to loan you based on your monthly income. Interest rates and escrow per month on a mortgage tend to add up to be quite a bit. (Escrow is what pays your property insurance and taxes.)
You may not be able to afford the payments on a $90,000 home, because monthly payments could be well over $1000. That might sound attainable, until you add in your other monthly expenses- Power, water, natural gas/propane, phone, groceries, gas for your car, etc. So you might have to look for a cheaper priced house that the bank would be willing to loan on.

Theres a guy I met last year. At first he would never talk to me just stare at me all the time. It was little creepy but I didnt mind it too much because I was attracted to him. Then one day he came up and started talking to me and from then we would say hi and make small talk. Over the months he gotten more comfortable around me he talks to me more he jokes around and sometimes he even flirts with me. I feel like he likes me but I'm not sure. I found him on facebook and we became friends on there and I message him on their and he answers me back but he never messages me first. He hasnt asked for my number either. The other day we were talking about basketball and he said he wanted to play one-on-one with me. I asked him when he said anytime just let him know. Could that be his way of asking for a date or he is just asking as a friend. Should I use a one-on-one game as a way to get closer to him. What should I do and What should I think about him being so friendly towards me?

Use the game to see how he acts with the two of you being one on one. Sounds like he could be interested in you, but perhaps might be shy about it?

I'm really obsessed with this girl and i really not sure what to do, i know she doesn't like me but i know i still have hope, shes a friend and once in while we hug but i want to get in a relationship. I know its love cause i think of her all the time, sometimes at night i make up stories of her and me. I even cry sometimes... I'm asking please if you people could help me make her interested in me, i know i cant MAKE her like me, i believe that too, please tell me what girls really like and i also would like to make her interested in me without other people noticing what I'm doing... PLEASE HELP!!!

I have to be honest with you and tell you that if she isn't interested in you, then you need to let her go. There isn't anything you can say or do to change the way she feels about you.
You are being very unfair to yourself and wasting your time obsessing over her. Instead, you could be dating someone who you realize you love more, and who loves you back.

Hi. I cheated on a guy whom i love. I pretended to be somebody. How can i get him back?

You have to ask for his forgiveness and hope he gives it to you. You may not be able to get him back, because cheating on someone is a big deal. It hurt him deeply, I'm sure, and it demolished all trust he had in you.
You need to apologize, ask forgiveness, and hope he is willing to give you a second chance.

Okay. I have this friend. No, not a friend. A bitch. She takes advantage of me and then treats me as if I'm transparent. She was close to me last time but I realised that I was the one giving in to her all the time and she took the friendship for granted, so we became just friends. But she was mean. So once, my friend was chatting with me. At that time my friend was close to her. But I told her, "Maybe you shouldn't tell all your secrets to her. She might betray you when she gets angry. She did that to me."
Then my friend told her. WTF?! And then BOTH of them got angry at me because they said I BAD-MOUTHED HER. They started spreading rumours about me and stuff. I'm serious. She really did that to me before. I'm so upset because they blew this whole thing up and pushed all the blame to me. If she had not done that to me, I would never have said that to my friend. HELP!! What should I do? I'm not patching things up anymore because I've had enough!!!! :(

I suppose it could be looked at as bad mouthing, but in all honesty you were just telling her the truth and giving her a warning.
Really sounds like you need to make new friends.

Ok so Im 13/f and last night, I got a text from the person I least expected it to be. It was this girl named Rachel. Me and her have had some differences in the past and we dont talk often and I never trusted her before and never talked to her because I get so jealous of her whenever Im around her! She texted and invited me with a bunch of other people over to her house after school friday so we can all have dinner and get ready for the dance together. I asked my parents and they said I could go so I said to her sure.

Although, Im really not sure if I should go? Should I tell her I have a family thing and back out of it? I know shes trying really hard to be my friend and get along with me but Im not sure if I wanna be her friend. Shes so pretty and nice and funny but I dont know what to do. She even asked me if peperoni and cheese pizza is fine to eat and I told her Im a vegetarian so she said that we could all just have cheese pizza. So should I hang out with her and a bunch of people from her "group of friends"?

Why should you feel you have to be friends with someone you don't want to be friends with?
If you don't want to go, you need to make up your mind so you can let her know in advance so she can make plans that aren't suited to you being there.

But what if he doesn't realize that she's not his type? What do i do then?

There is really nothing you can do. He has a girlfriend, and you don't want to be the sleazy type who steals boyfriends, right?

I've always considered myself straight - no matter how physically appealing/sexually attractive I find some girls, I haven't had the urge to date any of them before. I just started at a religious university this year where homosexuality isn't very supported, and I think I'm crushing pretty hard on my roommate. I've never felt this way before and I'm extremely stressed because I know my parents wouldn't approve, and my roommate doesn't support gays/lesbians either. I feel sick with worry about what this might imply about my sexual orientation and I just don't know what to do anymore. Any advice would be very appreciated!

All I can say is never feel sick with worry about being who you are. There is nothing wrong with who you are. So others don't approve? Who said you had to share such intimate details of your life with them? Don't be afraid to be the real you.

well it's been like 7months since my ex and i broke up, its hit me well hard at first but like i wouldnt really show how i feel.
I have this feeling that he's going to come back to me sooner or later, do u think he can? he told me before like 1month ago how he was seeing some girl just to forget me, i asked him did it work and he said he didnt know , hes not seeing her anymore we are 'friends' but we don't really communicate, reason being is i don't understand why he came back to be friends if he never ever starts the conversation. Last time we spoke was on new years eve.
I know males have a lot of pride, and he is someone that will never show how he feels even if he feels super low. But you know when you have that instant feeling that you know he still feels the same, when he came back to be friends with me he said he missed our friendship cause even before we started dating we were good friends and during our realtionship we had such an amazing friendship we would be so close with eachother, i know he won't find someone like me and neither would i... i actually fell in love with him i don't know if he meant it when he said it, even though he did say i was his first love... he never treated me bad. I just can't learn to move on from my past, if he came back to be friends was it like meant to be? i think of him everyday of my life, never been this way over a guy before, my life just changed so much after we ended...
would we ever get back?

If he comes back to be friends, then it was meant to be that you are friends. Sounds like you should really just sever ties with the guy and start moving on with your life. Its not healthy to be hanging on like this for 7 months.

I'm a sophomore girl(15) and i'm falling in love with a senior boy(17). He had a girlfriend his first couple years of high school and then this past summer she dumped him. Right now he is dating a freshman that is clearly not his type. I really like him I see him in the halls and I have the same lunch and we got to church and youth group together. I also friend's with his younger sister. what should I do???

Wait until he realizes the freshman isn't his type, then make your move.

19F 21M
So I have been dating this guy for nearly a year. It has always been the way it is. I have just always tried harder. Our first date I offered to pay because he was out of work at the time. Over the summer I worked a lot more at my job and was getting bigger checks. He would take me out to a movie once a month maybe twice after he started working. But I would loan him money like 50-100 because he would go without food for a day or two sometimes and needed money to hold him over. Well he is on his feet now and I am proud that we stuck through that together. He has a place and his own car and has gotten 2 promotions at work. I always feel a bit taken advantage of though. I usually make him dinner since when he gets home he is exhausted. I watch his little boy when he has to run out. I don't mind it because I love him. I took him out to a really expensive dinner to this fancy sea food place and spent quite a bit of money. If I want to go out I end up having to be the one to suggest it and pay for it or it won't happen. The last time he paid for a date was back in September. I just feel like put in more effort. Lately He has been low on cash and I have been buying him lunch. He won't talk to me all day until he wants food. I give him the cash and then he stops talking to me again. I try so hard to keep it interesting and happy but he never does anything back for me. He didn't do anything for Christmas for me and keeps telling me he will take me out and doesn't. But he always buys himself toys and video games and goes out to the bar. How can I bring it up to him that I feel like he doesn't try? How can I make him want to? I really need help I feel like giving up but we have been through a lot I love his son and family so much and I genuinely love him as well. Advice or anything is appreciated.

Have you thought to try not spending money on him? Why should you take him out to fancy dinners when you know you get nothing in return?
I don't know how you can make him want to try to meet you halfway, here, because to be honest, if he wanted to he would be already.
You've got him spoiled, I think.

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