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im living for her...
I'm really obsessed with this girl and i really not sure what to do, i know she doesn't like me but i know i still have hope, shes a friend and once in while we hug but i want to get in a relationship. I know its love cause i think of her all the time, sometimes at night i make up stories of her and me. I even cry sometimes... I'm asking please if you people could help me make her interested in me, i know i cant MAKE her like me, i believe that too, please tell me what girls really like and i also would like to make her interested in me without other people noticing what I'm doing... PLEASE HELP!!!
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I have to be honest with you and tell you that if she isn't interested in you, then you need to let her go. There isn't anything you can say or do to change the way she feels about you.
You are being very unfair to yourself and wasting your time obsessing over her. Instead, you could be dating someone who you realize you love more, and who loves you back.
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Hi! I don't want to be too blunt, but 'love' is only love if they love you back. Its between two people. What you are experiencing is a very serious crush.
Now, you've said you already are friends and hug occasionally, which sounds to me like you are comfortable around each other.
If she is your friend, it means she already sees something good in you, which is worthy of friendship.
I read the other advicenator's answer, which is really good advice. Hanging out more to become closer is a good idea. However, you don't want to be "friend-zoned", so doing little flirty things like complimenting her will be an indication that you might have a crush on her. When I say complimenting, its things like "You look really nice today". If she is dressed up for a special occasion you say "Wow, You look beautiful!".
Its not doing creepy things like "You've got an amazing butt", or "I think about you all the time, you are the most incredible person in the world" and "I cry when I think about us never being together". That is coming on really strong and will definitely scare her. Its good to let her know you think of her by sending her a random text like "How was your day today?" or "I saw this _(something that she likes)__ and it reminded me of you :)"
Also, as you said, you can't MAKE her like you. If she doesn't like you, it will hurt and be crap, but it happens to everyone and you have to be strong and move on. There are a lot of girls out there, and you'll find one who appreciates you and loves you back.
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The best thing to do is take baby steps. Just be friends first, then one day ask if she wants to go get lunch. Get to know her, find out her likes and dislikes. Get her something just because it made you think of her. Girls tend to usually fall for there guy friends because they trust them and can tell them anything. Flowers, gifts just because. I really hope things work out for you, take things slow, be yourself!
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