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13 and want to have sex
My boyfriend is 15 and I just turned 13 a week ago and he's turning 16 in june well anyway I finger myself every night that I'm not busy with anything if a friend sleeps over or I sleep at a friend then I don't but my boyfriend and I have phone sex and I get dressed in front of him I do modeling btw and we've been dating for a year now but he's only watched me finger myself and I've seen him touching himself but we haven't done anything but we really want to!! I'm feeling so horny while I right this I always am :'(
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to be honest i think thats kind of smart you guys can see each other naked without you getting pregnant
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your too young and you might regret it later on if you do have sex with him. if you really want to have sex you need to consider do you think you will be with him and marry him? can you see a future with him being the father toyour kids later in life?if not your gonna regret it honney.i lost my virginity at the age of 16 and i started dating him when i was 13 and im still with him
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I understand how you feel. when i was thirteen i was curious too, but thats all it is....just curiosity. Those feelings will pass and you will realize that sex is not necessarily the best way to go. Fingering yourself at 13 is also normal. Its another sign of curiosity. Do NOT have sex with this boy no matter how much he says he loves you. Think about what the possibilities are...you could get pregnant, or get an STD. Dont throw your life away. And before you say SHUT UP OLD LADY IM THIRTEEN AND IM ALL BIG AND BAD! im 14 years old and i felt the same way you did. I even thought of having sex with a girl just to get rid of my urges. I thought " Hey i wont get pregnant if its with a girl". also my best friend recently got pregnant. She is super worried about her college plans. She is in the eighth grade and was already being scouted by stanford for basketball. Now she is going to have to take care of a baby. Think about this and please just wait on sex
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I totally agree with adviceman49.
You should really listen to what he said.
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I agree with the user below-you are too young in my opinion as well-its better to do it out of love than lust.
The thing is, you've just written a paragraph and theres no question there at all. So, seeing as this is an advice site, I don't know what exactly you're trying to ask? I suggest you rephrase this and ask a question-whatever you want to know again, because there are people on here to help you, myself included, but we can't if theres no question!
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Time for a little grandfatherly advice. Since I am of that age I will offer some. You are way to young to be even thinking of having sex or dating a boy 3 years older than you.
First the age difference. If you were 23 and 26 the difference in ages would be no big deal. At 13 and 16 the age difference is tremendous. The difference in you maturity both in body development and mind is huge. He has 3 years more worldly experience than you do. This experience is important to your social development as well as your sexual development.
First: Sexually you are still trying to figure out just who you are sexually. Puberty is playing hard and fast with you. It is why you masturbate whenever you can. There is nothing wrong with masturbation it helps you relieve the sexual tension brought on by puberty as well as explore you inner sexuality.
If word gets out at school that yo are having sex, and it will; as boys are horrible about keeping those things secret. You will be very popular for all the wrong reasons. You will be labeled with words you will not like. Then you will be writing us, as others do on a daily basis on how to live down those words.
Second: Is the fact that your body is still developing. Yes you may have developed early and have a womanly body. Yes you can even get pregnant. Yet with all that your body is not yet ready for sex. For one thing it will be extremely painful for you at this time to accept a boys penis into your vagina as it is not ready. Second of course is the fact of unwanted pregnancy. You are to young to be on or get birth control except for medical reasons.
Third: Life at times is like an algebra problem. You cannot skip a section of the method and expect to get the right answer. This is very important when it comes to proper development of life skills. You need to develop the life skills that come with dating boys your own age. Skipping over this period will cause you to miss out on a very important developmental process.
Going 1,3,4 instead of 1 2,3,4 is very important and will pay great dividends later in life. Something you will not understand now but please trust me and the wisdom of my age when I tell you this. If it were possible to jump from one to another without doing the middle everyone would do it. It just cannot be done in any part of life we are pursuing.
Right now you are both in love and infatuated by the fact that an older boy has an interest in you. I believe and I have been proven right to many times. That his interest in you is simply one of getting from you what he can't get from a girl in his own age group. Why is this so. Simply because you are so young and you have not developed the skills the older girls has. It is also part of the infatuation you have developed by having such an older boyfriend.
These are facts not fiction. As I said in the beginning if you were both 10 years older my advice would be entirely different. I would be suggesting you follow your instincts. Trusting you have properly developed those instincts by following the proper path to maturity.
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