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should i go for hymenoplasty
I am 23 .I broke my hymen by masturbation.I am very simple girl and only child of my parents.I am having guilty of masturbating.The thought is killing me.I am getting mental weakness due to the thought of my broken hymen and marriage.I am very emotional and leaving a relationship just coz of this tissue will kill me.But telling to my parents is difficult.If i had known about it before.i had never masturbated.i can manage the amount of money needed for hymenoplasty but my heart is saying no to me and also i am not having anybody with me to visit the doctor .I am having sleepless nights just because of this thought.Whole day i just think of my lower part.When my parents talk to me about marriage i totally get irritated and donot lyk to marry anyone.I had study in co-educated schools but never had bf or any other relationship i am totally pure but no proof.I am dying day by day
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Hymen is a very thin membrane, and very seldom stays intact long enough for a girl to lose her virginity. You can break your hymen riding a bicycle or a horse. In all honesty, your hymen has probably been gone for a couple of years by now, since you are 23 years old. Believe me, its perfectly natural for it to be gone. Its very thin and delicate, and breaks easily on its own.
If you were bleeding, it is because you stuck your fingers in a hole not prepared for such an entry. Will you bleed the first time you have sex? Assuming his penis is larger than your fingers, yes, you probably will.
Adviceman gave outstanding advice, and you should really listen to him.
Stop looking at yourself so harshly. You're going to be fine.
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Masturbation is just one way a women can break her Hymen and then only if she uses a dildo or other object that penetrates her vagina.
There are many way for a Hymen to be torn. Use of a Tampon is the most often way a girl tears her Hymen. Then there is the playing of most recreational sport that can cause a Hymen to become dislodged. Horseback riding, bike riding and motorcycle riding to name of few more.
There is an inherent risk to any surgery. Among those risks is infection. Even when using a piece of your own skin to form a Hymen the risk of infection in that area is high and the end result may be to remove the piece of skin to resolve the infection.
There are only a few areas in this world where by custom or religion a man must marry a virgin. The proof a virginity is usually accepted to be a blood stained bed sheet after first intercourse. If you do not live in one of these areas or do not closely follow this type of religion. The man you may eventually marry, should you marry, would not expect someone of your age to be a virgin.
If I were a women I would not consider a hymenoplasty and the risk of infection. For the risk of infection could also end any chance of my having children. A man looking for a virgin wife would also be a man wanting to have children.
Your ffuture husband will just have to trust that even without a blood stained sheet no man has ever touched you sexually. If he can't except that then he doesn't deserve you as his wife.
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im just going to say this outright... even if you hadnt broke your hymen.. there is no proof when you come to have sex anyway. it all feels and looks the same. so stop worrying!!
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