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How do you clear the "history" on Internet Explorer? I'm fairly computer-literate, so you don't have to explain what's what or what's where && all

thx

Okay, to start with you need to open Internet Explorer. Next find 'Tools' and click on 'Internet Options'. At the bottom of that box there will be a section titled 'History'. There will be a box labelled 'Days to keep pages in history', set that to zero. Then click 'Clear History' and a box will pop up asking if you are sure you want to etc, click 'OK'. Now click 'OK' on the main 'Internet Options' box and you're done.

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I have a younger sister, she is 23 and I'm 27. We've never gotten along and I really wish someday that will change.
Part of the problem is that she has always been jealous of me. She is obese, at least 50 pounds heavier then me and is shorter by 4 inches. She's never had a boyfriend or alot of female friends, and I have.
I try to phone her sometimes and have a nice conversation but It's hard for me to be nice to her, because she'll say things like '"what do you want", or "stop calling". She's even been as rude as to correct my grammer.
She has a university degree and all I have is a highschool diploma so she likes to rub this in my face.
The latest thing is that I was asked to be a bridesmaid in my cousins wedding and she wasn't asked. I've always been really close to my cousin and she wasnt, but I think this pissed her off even more and it wasnt my fault.
How can I ever have a relationship with her if she's going to keep treating me this way? I've really been trying. Does anyone have any ideas?

This is a really difficult situation, but I'll try my best.

I don't get along with my sister either, but it's nowhere near as serious as you and your sister's situation as I'm 14 and she's only 11.

However, the technique I use to end arguments with her could work with you as well.

There are obviously at lot of problems between you and your sister that need straightening out before you even begin trying to be friends. I suggest you call her/finding some time when you two can have a talk and just explain to her that you hate not getting along with her. Tell her that you want to be friendly with her and that you're willing to talk about the problems you have with each other in order to do so.

You need to tell her that you are hurt by her behaviour because you do try and make an effort and it gets thrown back in your face.

Jealousy is obviously a problem here so talk about that to her, just arrange a time when you can have a good heart to heart to sort things out.

It will probably be a long time before you get along well and all that but it can happen, you just have to stick it out.

Good luck.

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I have a little crush on Adam Brody from the OC. Is it normal to get a crush on an actor as long as you don't go nutso (which I don't)?

It's completely normal for you to have a crush on someone famous, we all will/have at some point in our lives, I should know. I have a huge crush on Anthony Kiedis of the Red Hot Chili Pepppers.

It's when it goes from being a nice little crush to an unhealthy obsession where the problems start. So keep it as a crush, don't get too wrapped up in your fantasy because it can cause real problems.

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Ok so my friend told me that when you get your peroied that your boobs get bigger. It that true? Thanks for all you help :)

During your period your breasts may get slightly larger, yes. However it's usually not very noticeable and isn't permanent.

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There is this Halloween dance at my school and my friend is not sure what to be! Could you help me out? Pictures would be really nice too! So would detail! Thanks for your help! I will rate high on good answers!

I'm in a Halloween question mood.

Here are some ideas and links to pictures for costume ideas:

Devil http://www.greathalloween.co.uk/shop/media/21308.jpg

Vampire/Vampiress http://www.greathalloween.co.uk/shop/media/21787.jpg

Witch
http://www.welovecolors.com/images/kwp/witch_costume.jpg
http://www.costumesinc.com/Costumes/images/3162-1930704000.jpg

Dark Fairy
http://www.nightmarefactory.com/DG2300.jpg

Fairy
http://www.costumesinc.com/Costumes/images/05101-std.jpg

Dead/Corpse Bride
http://www.halloweencostumes4u.com/Merchant2/graphics/00000003/56160.jpg

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Ummm for Halloween I am going to be a Gothic Fariy but I am not sure what I should wear as far as accseires or make-up! Could you help me out? Pictures would be really great too!Thanks I will rate high for good answers!

Well I hate this type of question but as I'm being a Gothic Fairy as well, I suppose I can help you out.

I'm planning on using black, silver and purple in my eye make up. Anything with those colours would look good. Try using black eyeshadow on your eyelids and along your lower lash line and then outline your whole eye in silver or purple eyeliner. Just go wild with it, it's Halloween, it doesn't matter how over the top you go.

I think white powder would also look good as a base for all your make up. Just get a powder puff and apply it all over your face before you do your eye make up.

Black, purple or silver lipstick would look pretty awesome as well.

You might also want to draw some fake scars or cuts on your face, but that's optional.

As for accessories, dark beaded jewellery would look good, rings, bracelets, necklaces, anything really. Like I said before, it's Halloween, it doesn't matter if you look really overdone.

Just use your imagination really.

As for accessories

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Ive been friends with this guy, Michael, for 9 years. When i talk to him online, hes sweet, and it kinda seems like he likes me .. as more than a friend. But when we r with a group of our friends (we have the same friends) it seems like he ignores me. Is that normal? What do yu guys think? Please help, i rate high

He's probably just shy, it's a lot easier to talk to someone when you're not face to face with them. So what he's doing is pretty normal.

Try starting a conversation with him and see what happens, he should start being less shy if he sees that you're making an effort.

Good luck.

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i have read about programs that claim anybody can
increase his/her heigth by doing some exercises and eating a good diet and sleeping well and ...
i wanted to know that if they are scientific or
just ads.

Well to grow, the body needs a good diet. regular excercise and enough sleep. That's why the children you see in poverty in Africa on the television are all so small.

That's just basic keeping yourself healthy stuff though, yeah it can help you grow in the long run but it's nothing particularly amazing.

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Ok, well... my best friend is a guy, and his name is Chris. He's really awesome, and we're really close. I've always thought of him as a brother to me. But lately everyone has been asking me, "Are you two going out?" and "Do you like him?" and everytime my answer is "no." but lately I've been thinking, and I feel weird whenever I talk to him now. Whenever he comforts me about stuff, I just feel... really really happy. Rediculously happy. Almost..fuzzy inside? I don't know, but I keep thinking that I'm starting to have feelings for him. But we're just friends.. friend's arent supposed to crush on eachother. But I can't help myself.

SO MY QUESTION IS: Am I in love with him? and if I do why do I feel so uncomfortable?

Signed..
JUST FRiENDS

I've been in a similar situation.

I had an incredibly close male friend who I didn't have sexual feelings for but everyone thought we were a couple because we were so close.

In the end, I did start getting feelings for him.

Getting a crush on a friend is really normal, most people have felt that way about a close friend before.

It sounds like you are starting to get feelings for him. Although Sometimes it's hard to distinguish close friendship from actual attraction to a person, especially when you're very emotionally close to them.

However, I doubt that you are in love with him. If you were in love then you wouldn't be questioning it, you'd just know.

You feel uncomfortable because you are confused about your feelings and you think you like him, which is probably subconciously making you feel awkward around him.

I suggest you stick it out until you are 100% sure of your feelings for him. Then, when you are certain that you have feelings for him and if you want to, I think it would be worth talking to him about how you feel.

It might be a bit embarassing but just explain to him that you think you like him and that you don't want things to be strange between you but that you want him to know how you feel.

If he doesn't feel the same, then don't worry about it too much. Tell him you don't mind and that you want to continue your friendship with him. Try to move on and eventually you will.

However, if his feelings are mutual then I suggest you think very hard.

A sexual relationship can make or break a friendship.

You remember the guy I talked about earlier? I ended up dating him on and off for a while. The last time we gave it a go, it was more serious. But it felt uncomfortable and we broke up. At first we were okay as friends again but we soon started to drift apart.

We got on each other's nerves and it just wasn't the same.

So make sure that the relationship will be worth it. You need to work out whether you are willing to risk the friendship you have with him or to just keep things the way they are.

Bear in mind that it might be exactly the same as before if you broke up, but it might not, so be careful.

Good luck.

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Ok well me and my boyfriend have been going out a very long time and i really do love him!! But then i have this friend that he really doesnt like and she is like my best friend and shes alwayz with me!! well yesterday we got in a arguement about it and he says he doesnt no y i hang out with her and i dunno but i dun think he wants me to be her friend so its him or her i dunno what to doo but i want them both?

You don't have to choose between them, just divide your time up so that they both get to spend time with you.

You're not forcing your boyfriend to spend time with your friend so it's a bit odd that he has a problem with it as it's not affecting him.

Try talking to him about it, ask him what exactly his problem is with your friend and make it clear that you don't want to have to choose between him and her.

If he's still difficult about it and won't let it go then it'd probably be best if you ended it with him. At the end of the day, guys will come and go, friends will always be there. If he seriously has that big a problem with you being friends with someone he dislikes then he can't be worth it.

I had a boyfriend who I liked much more than all the ones before him but he was part of another social group. At first I spent time with my two best friends as well as him and it was alright, but as I got more into him, I started spending more and more time with him. It got to the point where I spent literally no time with my best friends.

Obviously, my best friends really disliked my boyfriend because they felt that he was taking me away from them.

Eventually I fell out with my best friends and ditched them, even to this day I still haven't completely fixed my friendship with them.

Your situation is kind of similar except that the roles are switched. Your boyfriend is the one who dislikes your friend. Don't make the same mistake as I did and choose your boyfriend over your friend. I broke up with my boyfriend and my ex best friends just laughed at me, and they had every right too. I was convinced that I would be with him forever, and it might seem that way to you too, but your friends are the ones who will be there always. And if worst comes to worst and you have to choose, then choose your friend.

[EDIT] Ah...That helped me to understand it a little better. I don't know if you'll read this added bit but it's worth a try.

If your friend is doing stuff like that then it's understandable that your boyfriend dislikes her, I'm surprised that you want to keep her because it's incredibly rude of her to show guys pictures of you in your underwear.

If she doesn't stop doing stuff like that then she seriously isn't worth it. The friends worth choosing over guys are the faithful, caring ones, not ones that show you no respect. And this girl doesn't seem to be showing you much of that.

If you really want to put up with that then go ahead, try keeping them both or get rid of the boyfriend. But I really don't think that a friend who treats you like that is worth giving up a guy you really do love.

I guess you just have to do what you think is right, no one can really tell you what to do, it's up to you. [/EDIT]

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how do you know for sure you are ready to have sex?

You'll just know. If you are even the tiniest bit unsure then you're not ready. When you are 100% sure then you'll know.

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Is semen and sperm the same thing and if not whats the difference?

Semen is basically the liquid sperm swims in.

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Damn I have nothing funny to read on this site anymore. Why do you guys have to ban all the funny people? Do you have to take them so seriously? Or just ignore them?

We ban people who cross the line. There's being funny and then there's telling people to kill themselves. If you find that funny then I suggest you find another site.

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Take a look at this:
http://images3.orkut.com/images1/album/6/558/944558.jpg
And you know what's freaky? His -actual- initials are OB.

Okay well this is hardly a question but whatever, I'll answer it anyway.

I can see why you think he looks like Orlando, he does a tiny bit. But not enough for me to see him in the street and think 'Woah, that's Orlando Bloom.'

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ok well im not aloud to date n im 13 years old is that like to young to date i mean cmon i am not little ?????

I see where you're coming from here, 13 isn't too young to date really, but I guess it depends on who you are.

I had my first kiss when I was 11, going on 12, and I started dating people a little while after that. I started my first full on (meaning actual going out, kissing etc), long term relationship when I was 12 but most people begin dating when they're around 13 or 14.

You didn't actually ask for advice on how to be allowed to date but I'm guessing you want it anyway.

Try showing your parents (or whoever is responsible for you) that you are mature enough to be allowed to date people. Do what they ask you to, when you go out with friends, make sure you're back when they ask you to be. Once they see that you are old and mature enough to date, then try talking to them about it. Approach them when they're in a good mood and say something like "I might go and catch a movie with this guy from school at the weekend, would that be okay?"

It sounds a lot better than storming up to them and demanding their permission as that will do nothing to show how mature you are.

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whats oral sex ???

Oral sex is when someone uses their mouth on another person's sexual organs. It is commonly referred to as giving head, sucking off and a blow job.

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hey i was just wondering if ugg boots were still in style.. im going to wear them anyways i was just wondering so i dont need something like 'you shouldnt care wear what you want' so thank you anyways haha alright byee thanks

Well technically, no, but it depends where you live.

Right now victoriana style lace up boots, faux fur boots and cowboy boots are in style.

But style is what you make it.

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Okay, I have two questions:

1. If you have sex with a girl then are you still a virgin? (If you are a girl too)

2. Does anyone know how to view conversations people have had on AIM? Because I want to look at my sisters and brothers conversations, and delete my own, but we don't have an AIM log, and I don't know how.

I will rate good for a decent answer.

This should have been two seperate questions really.

1. Yes, you are still a virgin. You are a virgin until a penis enters your vagina, even if it's only for a few seconds.

2. Unless they keep an AIM log, then there is no way of viewing past conversations, sorry.

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okay well i was wondering if the people who no longer get their periods because of eating disorders can still get pregant even though they dont get it anymore?

It's not very likely that you'll get pregnant if you aren't getting your period, although there is always a risk. Athletes usually have to take time off their sport if they want to get pregnant as they have to wait for their periods to start again {heavy sport causes them to stop}. So I suspect that it is similar with eating disorders.

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hey is it better to have sex for the first time with a virgin or an experienced guy

Sometimes it is better to have sex for the first time with a virgin because you'll both be in the same boat and you wont get as embarassed. That said, some people prefer to sleep with an experienced person the first time so they can guide them through it and show you what to do.

It's up to you. If it was me then I'd go with a virgin because it'd make it easier and he wouldn't expect so much from me.

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