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Ok well me and my boyfriend have been going out a very long time and i really do love him!! But then i have this friend that he really doesnt like and she is like my best friend and shes alwayz with me!! well yesterday we got in a arguement about it and he says he doesnt no y i hang out with her and i dunno but i dun think he wants me to be her friend so its him or her i dunno what to doo but i want them both?
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Okay, well who matters more? Your friend, who will probably be with you for years, or your boyfriend, who you will most likely break up with....?
BUT, but if you're not really good friends with your friend, then maybe your boyfriend if more important to you.
Then again, if they're equal....You could hang out with both, just at different times. It's not really that complicated. I guess if he wants you to totally ditch this friend then just tell him no, that's it's YOUR friend, not his, and that you don't see the big deal unless he's hanging out with her, which he won't be if you use the last piece of advice i gave.
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remember the saying. chicks before dicks. you should nevvvvvvver not be friends with someone because your boyfriend doesnt like her. you telll him im not choosing, and if you really do love me you wont care. dont hangout all 3 of you spend time with both of them eaqually.
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A boyfriend should never get in the way of a friendship. Girl friends are forever, we need them to get through all the crap that guys put us through.
Is this girl friend a good friend to you? If she is than why even consider getting rid of the friendship. Now if she was a bad friend, I might consider it.
Never let a guy dictate what friends you can and cannot have. If keeping the girl friend is important to you, than you need to let him know this. Let him know that if he cares about you he will do his best to resolve his feelings towards this friend. If he doesnt care to do that, than maybe he is too selfish and is not the right guy for you. If he trully cares about you, he will try.
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You don't have to choose between them, just divide your time up so that they both get to spend time with you.
You're not forcing your boyfriend to spend time with your friend so it's a bit odd that he has a problem with it as it's not affecting him.
Try talking to him about it, ask him what exactly his problem is with your friend and make it clear that you don't want to have to choose between him and her.
If he's still difficult about it and won't let it go then it'd probably be best if you ended it with him. At the end of the day, guys will come and go, friends will always be there. If he seriously has that big a problem with you being friends with someone he dislikes then he can't be worth it.
I had a boyfriend who I liked much more than all the ones before him but he was part of another social group. At first I spent time with my two best friends as well as him and it was alright, but as I got more into him, I started spending more and more time with him. It got to the point where I spent literally no time with my best friends.
Obviously, my best friends really disliked my boyfriend because they felt that he was taking me away from them.
Eventually I fell out with my best friends and ditched them, even to this day I still haven't completely fixed my friendship with them.
Your situation is kind of similar except that the roles are switched. Your boyfriend is the one who dislikes your friend. Don't make the same mistake as I did and choose your boyfriend over your friend. I broke up with my boyfriend and my ex best friends just laughed at me, and they had every right too. I was convinced that I would be with him forever, and it might seem that way to you too, but your friends are the ones who will be there always. And if worst comes to worst and you have to choose, then choose your friend.
[EDIT] Ah...That helped me to understand it a little better. I don't know if you'll read this added bit but it's worth a try.
If your friend is doing stuff like that then it's understandable that your boyfriend dislikes her, I'm surprised that you want to keep her because it's incredibly rude of her to show guys pictures of you in your underwear.
If she doesn't stop doing stuff like that then she seriously isn't worth it. The friends worth choosing over guys are the faithful, caring ones, not ones that show you no respect. And this girl doesn't seem to be showing you much of that.
If you really want to put up with that then go ahead, try keeping them both or get rid of the boyfriend. But I really don't think that a friend who treats you like that is worth giving up a guy you really do love.
I guess you just have to do what you think is right, no one can really tell you what to do, it's up to you. [/EDIT]
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