Hello, My name is Eva. I am from a small town in Texas but I currently reside in San Antonio. I have been married forever, have 3 children, and come from a big family. Needless to say, I've been through it. Drop me a line if you would like my advice. I love to help others whenever possible, and I will do my best to help you.
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Member Since: October 5, 2005
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Last Update: November 11, 2005
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is being a tease a bad thing?? (link)
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Hmmmm.... lets see. How would you like it?
I dont think it is too bad once in a while but a constant is bad and very frustrating.
Eva J
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ok me and my ex b/f were dating for 17months when he started acting different so i asked him about it. He said that for the last few months he hasnt loved me the way i love him. he said that he only loves me as a friend so we both decided to be friends. the strange thing is that the next day he told me that he feels strange not haven me in his life like that. he asked me if he could still call me at nite and talk to me like we did when we 1st started dating. well he called me that nite and he wants to hang out like we were but not have the tittle as b/g friend. and i asked him what that meant and he wants to still lay together and just hang out with just us two and get to know eachother more then we already know eachother. and i asked him what if one of us starts to kiss the other or sumthing when we lay together and he said that if it happends it happends. he wants was to be close friends but i dont know what he means by that. please help me understand what he wants!!!! Thank you! (link)
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You know... alot of guys have been wanting to try out this friends with benefits crap... I dont know if this is the case here but is that the kind of relationship you want to get into. Guys want to have their cake and eat it too. Nothing is at stake here. If you really like this guy and he has already told you that he doesnt love you in the same way that you love him, I would not let him get the benefits of your love.
When you love someone... your actions are the benefits of that love. If he doesnt appreciate those action enough to understand that you want to make them exclusive to the one who feels the same way about you... then is he worth it.
Good Luck,
Eva J
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hey i have a boyfriend and he cheated on me 4 time i been with him for like a year and a half but i love him to death and the poeple he cheated on me with was my best friends and they dont talk to me anymore and yea they write whore and slut on my locker in school and they wanna jump me cause i am mad at them cause i though they were my friends but they are not anymore now they are getiing all my other friend not to like me and i think that is not good cause now i walk through school with no one to talk to i just wanna leave this LIBERTY HIGH SCHOOL... it sucks....PLEASE HELP ME WHAT SHOULD I DO.. (link)
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Well,,, if these girls cheated with your boyfriend, that cant have been that good of friends. And if they are able to convince your other friends so easily.. the other friends must not be that good friends either.
I have to ask how much time are you spending with these friends... and are you still with this guy. I hope that you know that no guy is worth losing all your friends over.
If you ask me ... the guy is not worth it. If you want to save the friendships ... you might need to put alot more time and energy into it. Find a friend that you can really count on ... and you need to be the best friend you can be to this friend. This way you have someone to back you up. Girl friends are good back up.. You have to really take care of that. Once others see what a good friend you can be... your friendship possy will grow.
Eva J
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my bestfriend and i have been friends for 2 years.well recently at school she ignores me or if l try talking to her she talks to someone else. when l asked her abt it she said we were still friends and that she was just being nice to the other girls but i dont believe it.do u guys think she is tired of being with me.confused im 15 and im a girl. (link)
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Either way... she shouldnt be treating you this way. Ask her about being nice to you.
I have two daughters and they have had friends come and go. What happens is that they will begin to find that they have more in common with other girls so their old friendships seem to phase out... Later on ... they will end up going back to their old friends. You see, you can keep being friends even if you begin to find that you dont have that much in common. Maybe she is feeling that about the two of you, right now. The secret is to not get upset about this. Make new friends, while still keeping the old friends.
You might find that you have more in common with someone else. If you keep cool about it ... I will bet that in time, this friend will be looking you up again.
Eva J
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I'm sure almost all of you have heard rumours that Walt Disney had many right-winged racist views. There are even rumours that he was addicted to pornography. The fact that a man who created such wonderful movies for children, and founded a billion dollar company based on making people smile, could possibly have a dark side is extremly intriguing to me. I've searched online for information about it but for such a popular rumour...I can't find any articles about Walt Disney's "dark side". I even checked out www.snopes.com only to come up with nothing. Can somebody please refer me to a website or even a book I could check out that would give me more information on where these rumours formed and if Walt Disney really did have a dark side? Thank you so much. (link)
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http://www.straightdope.com/mailbag/mdisneyperv.html
:this was interesting to read.. if the link doesnt work just copy and paste to the address line. It should take you there.
Hope this answers some questions.
Eva J
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OK,i have a guy friend named Klint he is 16 right and we were friends until we started liking eachother.....we went out and i cheated on him he broke up wit me and we decided to jus be friends,but after that we started hangin out right well...this is the part that confuzez me...when i'm wit him hangin out he alwayz wants to be all over me lik kissy,kissy and huggy,huggy, i alwayz ask why he is lik this and i tell him were jus friends but he ignores it.another part that confuzez me is that we broke up and r friends but he still treats me lik his gurlfriend.... and i don't want that plz i need advice!!Thnx!
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Since the two of you have dated in the past, he probably feels that this is the only that he knows how to act when he is with you. Still it was his decision to break up, and if dating you again is something that he wants to consider... Well, he needs to inform you of this and discuss whether or not you would like to, as well.
Let him know that things arent going to work out the way things are going now. Tell him that his behavior is confusing and that you would like to fix it. He has to know that if he wants you as a friend, that there a certain boundaries to a friendship.
Good Luck,
Eva J
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I'm doing a spanish collauge,but i dont know what to do it on! it can be anything related to the subject...and im stuck on what to do..it has to be a whole poster,filled.I want it to be really creative and unique,any ideas on what to do it on,what to make it look like? please help! thanks :) (link)
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Spanish is all about the culture... There is so much about the Spanish culture that would make your project interesting...
You could begin with the Food, Then go on to the music and fashion. Their importance of family and tradition. How their culture is celebrated... There is just so much. The Spanish culture is so very colorful. Have fun with it.
Good luck
Eva J
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All right,my sister is 18 and her hair is EXTEAMLY thin,its so delecate,and fine.I feel so bad becuase its so thin you can see her scalp in some areas when its wet.No hair cut will work for her.She has died her hair many times.I can tell shes trying to make it have body,but it doesnt work.I know she is going to try anything to make it look good.When its dry,its thin,and frizzy.I just feel so bad me and my mom talked to her doctor,they did some tests and everything was fine she isnt looseing any vitamins,does anyone know how we can fix this problem and what to do,and hair growing products or maybe even anything she can take to get thicker hair? and i mean...really thicker hair?? (link)
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What kind of doctor did your sister go to?. Is her hair thinning due to hair loss? Sometimes that could be due to stress. She is 18 maybe the stress of graduating high school and going to college or just starting like after high school is stressing her out. This could cause hair loss.
It could also have something to do with her scalp. She might want to try seeing a dermatologist. They also have products for hair loss for women... she might want to look into that ... that is after she has seen someone who specializes in skin care.
Of course if the hair loss is due to stress she may need to speak to a Therapist. What ever the case may be.Good luck, I hope that things get better for your sister soon.
Eva J
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k for halloween i'm being a cowgirl. i have a cowboy hat and stuff but i'm just not sure how i should wear my hair. it's not very long.. it just touches the top of my shoulders when it's straight. i was wondering if i should put it in pigtails or if i should just leave it down? what would go with the 'cowgirl' theme more? thanks (link)
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If you want to look cutsie than go with the pigtails. But if you want to look hot.... why dont you try curls. That is just my opinion... whatever floats your boat.
Eva J
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well their this kid that i been dateing for like a year and cheated on me like 4 time i dont no if i wamms be with him or not but their this really nice kid that likes me and i dont no i need help (link)
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Why would you continue to see someone who has cheated on you four times? You have to feel that you can do better than that. No one deserves to be treated that way, and how is this guy gonna learn that it is wrong to cheat if you keep going back. If there is another guy you are interested in and he likes you ... go for it.
Eva J
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how do you shave under your arms without cutting yourself with an eletric shaver.
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The thing about the hair under your arms is that it doesnt just grow in one direction. It grows in 3 directions. That is probably why your cutting yourself. Do away with the electric razor and use the regular razor. Either that or get lazer hair removal and dont ever have to worry about it again.
Eva J
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ok i only date aboriginal maori or ti or amercains so i only date darker boyz like my bf is aboriginal but when white boyz ask me out and i say no they say im racist cause there never seen me whith a white man im not racist i just dont find them very hot i like them as friends thats it and how can i be racist if my dads family is white and my mothers family is black thats not racist a (link)
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I dont feel that just because you have found yourself to be attracted to certain people makes you racist. These guys who call you that are just hurt because they have been turned down. Being a racist comes from having preconceived notions of people based solely on their race.
Now if the reason you dont want to date white boys is based on a feeling that the boys you do like to date are superior to white boys based on their race, then yes that is prejudice.
If this is not the case then I would not worry so much about the statements made by angry boys who are trying to lash out at you because they dont like rejection.
Eva J
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Okay, so I'm in a bit of a weird situation. I haven't been in this situation since ninth grade, and I'm in college.
So my friend likes this guy...and this guy likes me...
Where I am is, I'm TRYING actively not to like this guy because I don't want my friend to get hurt, but he's talking to me and hanging out with me more and more, and I feel like I'm losing my battle.
We started hanging out because he and I have one HECK of a lot in common - like, it's scary. We all went out once and we ordered the same thing...in unison. Lol...
Yeeeeeeah.
So, um. I guess my question is, what do I do? My friend likes him, and he likes me, and I hate to admit it, but I'm starting to kind of like him, too.
I won't tell her I like him because, for one thing, I teased her ENDLESSLY about liking him, and I'd never hear the end of it. For another thing, that would cause such awkward friendship crap...I have, however, kind of half admitted to him that I'm starting to kinda like him...
So help me out, guys! (link)
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You could not have known ahead of time that you were gonna like him... much less find that you were so compatible. Hey ... this doesnt happen very often and I think that your friend will see and understand all of this as long as you are honest with her.
Just let her know that it wasnt something that you planned and that you actually tried not to like him for her sake. If she is a true friend she will want you to be happy, and she may even wish you the best. That is after she gets past the part that she liked him too.
Good Luck
Eva J
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do u know if they sell chi turbos in stores?
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You might be able to find them in stores like JC Penny, Dillards, or Foleys. If you can't find them there then just ask a hair stylist to order one for you. If you are real cool with your hair stylist, she might even let you get it at her discount.
Eva J
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I have been with my boyfriend for a year we've even planned on getting married, I'm crazy over him but i always find myself jealous over other girls exspecailly his ex. He wasn't a virgin when i met him and i was, so you know where the story goes from there. I cant help but think that he still loves her sometimes. I mean i dont believe he talks to her but i'm just so afraid of losing him to her. On top of that fear, latley i find myself argueing with him over stupid things, half of the time i dont even remember why the arguements started... I even told him i hated him( i was mad and didnt mean it) I think i'm pushing him away or going crazy... whats my problem?? How do i fix it?? Wht do i do about the ex?? The Jealousy?? plz help me i cant lose him........~luvlee~ (link)
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Most of this seems to be about issues that you will need to work out on your own. Honestly... what can you do to control him... the answer is nothing. If you try to than you can be sure that you will lose him. You have to realize that all these things that you are worried about happening are things that can not be controlled. If a guy is gonna cheat, he will, and your constantly getting mad at him for things will only make the possibility of him cheating greater.
Did you know that he wasnt a virgin when you first started seeing him? If you did then you knew what you were getting into. Just try to get past it... we all have a past. You can be the future if you will stop obsessing about the past. Just be the person he fell in love with and everything should work out for the best.
Hope it all works out,
Eva J
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I have a younger sister, she is 23 and I'm 27. We've never gotten along and I really wish someday that will change.
Part of the problem is that she has always been jealous of me. She is obese, at least 50 pounds heavier then me and is shorter by 4 inches. She's never had a boyfriend or alot of female friends, and I have.
I try to phone her sometimes and have a nice conversation but It's hard for me to be nice to her, because she'll say things like '"what do you want", or "stop calling". She's even been as rude as to correct my grammer.
She has a university degree and all I have is a highschool diploma so she likes to rub this in my face.
The latest thing is that I was asked to be a bridesmaid in my cousins wedding and she wasn't asked. I've always been really close to my cousin and she wasnt, but I think this pissed her off even more and it wasnt my fault.
How can I ever have a relationship with her if she's going to keep treating me this way? I've really been trying. Does anyone have any ideas? (link)
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Sisters are usually pretty competitive with each other as it is. In a situation like this she may feel inadequate herself, and seeing the differences between the two of you only makes her feel even worse. Unfortunately all that you can do is continue trying to be her loving sister despite her actions towards you. She will need to figure out on her own that she needs help.
As for her correcting your grammer... that is one aspect of her life that she feel more than adequate about so when she seems to be rubbing in your face.... she is actually just trying to remind herself that this is one thing she is superior in. Try not to take it personal.
Has there ever been a time when you have felt jealous of her. Tell her about it... Let her know that we all feel inadequate at times. Remind her that you love her.
Hopefully she can get some counseling to help her feel better about herself. As for her weight, she has to want to lose weight and she should only do it for herself and her health.
Good Luck,
Eva J
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There is this kid at my school who annoys me and I can hardly focus on my work in the classes we have in common. I told the adults about the sitiuation and they said I had to deal with it.
Im usualy a calm person but sometimes I get pissed. Can any1 help? fives go out to the best answers.Oh, and by the way, he's still 12. (link)
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If the situation is effecting your school work then it is the teachers responsibility to put a stop to it. Those teachers are paid to make sure that you are getting an education and they have to do whatever is in their power to make sure that you are in a good learning environment. Have you told your parents that you have already brought it to the teachers attention and they have done nothing to remedy the situation?
As a parent, I have gone to the school myself, to remind the teachers that they have to do what they can to help. If this kid is preventing you from being as successful as you can in school they should intervene. I would have your parents remind the teachers, vice principle and principle of this.
Eva J
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I had to write a poem for class, it could be on any subject written in any form. I wrote this about my grandpas death. please tell me if its good.
I’m sorry
For not being there when you died
For leaving you alone
For not saying I love you when I left
For all the suffering you went through
For not suffering with you
For enjoying myself while you were in pain
For laughing while you could barely speak
For smiling while you were crying
For being careless while you were afraid
For not being there
I’m so sorry
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I like it... It comes from the heart and that is what makes it great. Teachers should not criticize what comes from the heart. You would get an A from me.
Eva J
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Okay. He's my age (15) and well hes really popular and stuff and I go to a catholic school and hes the public school and I really want my mom to kind of get the hint that I really want to go to public schools because I know more people from the public schools in my area then the catholic school I go to right now. Well hes sooo cute and I just know alot of girls like him and well I went the other night to a football game and he kept coming up to me and saying random things like , " So are you going to go to public schools next year?" and I was like ahh I don't know. And he did random things throughout the night. haha! but I really like him and I want to go out with him so bad but I don't know what I should do to get him to relize I really like him!!! I'll rate high for helpful answers!!!!! Thanks! (link)
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If he took the time to approach you several times throughout the night, he must like you. In a situation like that I would have made sure to ask him a follow up question like, "why? would that interest you?" Anything that would have made him stick around a little longer and drag out the conversation. This would have given you the oppurtunity to do some SUBTLE flirting. It is the subtle flirting that works the best.
How often do you see him? Next time why dont you try and figure some question you can ask him so that you can start talking to him. Then once you get a conversation started ask him if he would like to talk some more like online or on the phone. I think he will realize that you like him then. If he is smart.
Good luck
Eva j
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ok my boyfriend is about 20 and i'm about 16 and my supposelly home girl is telling him that im messing around on him with his best friend but im not and i guess he's believing this because he doesn't want to talk to me or his friend honestly i'm not the type to be doing something that bad and i don't want to break up with him because i liked him for three years and i dont wanna hurt him in ne ways (link)
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All that you can do in this situation is keep being honest with him. Reassure him that what he is hearing is wrong and that you wouldnt do that. Now if he continues to be upset than why are you gonna keep being punished for something that you didnt do. Let him know that if he cant trust you than maybe the relationship isnt gonna work.
But you need to know this yourself. You cant keep going on trying to prove something to him if he wont believe you. If he is that untrusting than maybe he isnt the one for you.
He has to trust you in order for it to work.
Eva J
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