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Triangle...cliche, I know...
Okay, so I'm in a bit of a weird situation. I haven't been in this situation since ninth grade, and I'm in college.
So my friend likes this guy...and this guy likes me...
Where I am is, I'm TRYING actively not to like this guy because I don't want my friend to get hurt, but he's talking to me and hanging out with me more and more, and I feel like I'm losing my battle.
We started hanging out because he and I have one HECK of a lot in common - like, it's scary. We all went out once and we ordered the same thing...in unison. Lol...
Yeeeeeeah.
So, um. I guess my question is, what do I do? My friend likes him, and he likes me, and I hate to admit it, but I'm starting to kind of like him, too.
I won't tell her I like him because, for one thing, I teased her ENDLESSLY about liking him, and I'd never hear the end of it. For another thing, that would cause such awkward friendship crap...I have, however, kind of half admitted to him that I'm starting to kinda like him...
So help me out, guys!
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who cares about your friend? you should tell her that you like him...
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You know.... this is a tough situation. I think you should go for him. I do know someone who dated someone whose friend was interested in the same guy: My mom; to my Dad over 30 years ago. And they are still married. I don't think the girl was too thrilled about it, but clearly the two of them were meant to be.
Whether or not you will end up with this guy forever is besides the point, but sometimes you owe it to yourself to see what the possibilities are.
I think you should be honest with your friend about your feelings. It will probably affect your friendship, but if you are sensitive enough to her feelings and do it in a way that isn't obnoxious or boastful, hopefully in time things between you two will be ok.
Good luck and keep me posted.
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Does your friend have even the slightest inkling that this guy likes you?
The thing of it is, she can like him all day long...but, unless he likes her, she is wasting her time.
If he likes you and you like him then you owe it to yourself to give it a chance. What if he is Mr right? You can't throw away the opportunity to find out.
The friend has to be told. Maybe he should ask her how you feel about him. Get her used to the fact that he doesn't see her that way.
I don't know for sure how but, she needs to know. You need to see if he is the guy for you.
I know you don't want to deal with the drama but, things like this happen all the time. She will get over it and move on. She may be mad at first but she will get over it. :)
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I know that you want to protect your friend and yourself for liking him. You cant help who you like. I know that you dont want to go out with this guy because your friend likes him. The truth is this is not about her this is about you. If you like him to and he likes you to then you should hook up. Best friends support you know matter what decision you make well they are suppose to. She may like him but there will be others for her. Maybeif you get her interested into someone else maybe that will give you a chance with the guy you like.
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even though it may hurt your friend you should give him a chance just to see what type of person he is.try to explain to your friend that he don't want her,and tell her don't beat your ass or call you a bitch and about three days she'll be over him and ya'll will still be together
sign: missloudy
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You could not have known ahead of time that you were gonna like him... much less find that you were so compatible. Hey ... this doesnt happen very often and I think that your friend will see and understand all of this as long as you are honest with her.
Just let her know that it wasnt something that you planned and that you actually tried not to like him for her sake. If she is a true friend she will want you to be happy, and she may even wish you the best. That is after she gets past the part that she liked him too.
Good Luck
Eva J
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Well. This is what happened to me and my boyfriend and my best friend.
My boyfriend, let's just call him Josh, used to like my best friend, and let's call her Brittany. Anyways, he asked her out, and she said no, even tho she liked him because they went to different schools. And she still liked him quite a bit.
Well, she went away to visit her family for the last month of Summer, and him and I started talking. A lot. And before either one of us knew it, we liked eachother..more than you can ever imagine.
When she got back from her trip, I told her everything he and I had said to eachother, and that we liked eachother. And yes, she started to cry..but she wasn't angry with me, she was angry with him. Which I don't really understand still to this day. But anyways, so one day she called him up and told him she doesn't want him to like me, that we can be friends, but she doesn't want him and I to be anything more.
Of course, he didn't take it lightly, and neither did I. But I just kept it to myself.
But I realized, she had her chance and she turned him away. Just because she likes him doesn't mean he's never gonna like anyone else ever again.
So, I think that if your friend is truely your FRIEND, she'd want both you AND him to be happy.
You can't force people to like you, and people need to learn to live with that.
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It's going to be really hard but friendship is more important than guys at the end of the day. What would end in the most hurt? You not getting with this guy and causing you and him a bit of heartache or you getting with this guy and hurting your friend not only because she can't have the guy she fancies but because her friend has gone behind her back and betrayed her. I can understand that you have feelings for him and no one can help who they fall for thats why this is so difficult! In any case (although it's very easy to say) if you two are meant to be it will happen it really will. Hey, she might decide she doesn't like him anymore and she finds someone else! But for now i really think the only thing you can do is leave things as they are however difficult. Good luck
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