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Okay, so I'm in a bit of a weird situation. I haven't been in this situation since ninth grade, and I'm in college.
So my friend likes this guy...and this guy likes me...
Where I am is, I'm TRYING actively not to like this guy because I don't want my friend to get hurt, but he's talking to me and hanging out with me more and more, and I feel like I'm losing my battle.
We started hanging out because he and I have one HECK of a lot in common - like, it's scary. We all went out once and we ordered the same thing...in unison. Lol...
Yeeeeeeah.
So, um. I guess my question is, what do I do? My friend likes him, and he likes me, and I hate to admit it, but I'm starting to kind of like him, too.
I won't tell her I like him because, for one thing, I teased her ENDLESSLY about liking him, and I'd never hear the end of it. For another thing, that would cause such awkward friendship crap...I have, however, kind of half admitted to him that I'm starting to kinda like him...
So help me out, guys! (link)
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Well. This is what happened to me and my boyfriend and my best friend.
My boyfriend, let's just call him Josh, used to like my best friend, and let's call her Brittany. Anyways, he asked her out, and she said no, even tho she liked him because they went to different schools. And she still liked him quite a bit.
Well, she went away to visit her family for the last month of Summer, and him and I started talking. A lot. And before either one of us knew it, we liked eachother..more than you can ever imagine.
When she got back from her trip, I told her everything he and I had said to eachother, and that we liked eachother. And yes, she started to cry..but she wasn't angry with me, she was angry with him. Which I don't really understand still to this day. But anyways, so one day she called him up and told him she doesn't want him to like me, that we can be friends, but she doesn't want him and I to be anything more.
Of course, he didn't take it lightly, and neither did I. But I just kept it to myself.
But I realized, she had her chance and she turned him away. Just because she likes him doesn't mean he's never gonna like anyone else ever again.
So, I think that if your friend is truely your FRIEND, she'd want both you AND him to be happy.
You can't force people to like you, and people need to learn to live with that.
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ok so theres this dude in my school lets call him phf wel phf and i hooked up a million times and he was like a jerk like hook up as just fool around and tell no one well he kept blockin me for odd reasons and this time he had blocked me and then we hooked up and he didnt unblock me and i sent him an email and he was like ur dumb why would i say something that neva happened or something coz for some reason the whole highschool knew bout it and i was like fine blablabla and i got a boyfriend and i havent talked to him in like ages but i wasnt quite sure if i over phf and today he asked if i wanted to hook up and i was like where are you? and then i was like who do you think you are? and he was like im so sorry okay first of all i blocked you coz i thought you were gonna freak out afta we hooked up and i was like no and then there was this thing going around that he asked 3 girls for head the same day we hooked up and well its actually that a girl offered him head and shit and i was like i cant do it sorry and we walked away and like now im textin him and i dno i dont think im quite over him and i have a boyfriend !!!!!and my boyfriend is sorta wierd but i still i dont kno but i think i still like my boyfriend !!!!!!!what can i do? i havent ever gotten over Phf and its been now like 8 months of hooking up and me gettin hurt and its been a month that we didnt even talk and i was doing great but then at the football game i saw him and he was lookin straight at me and i was like dude and i got feelings for him again !!!so lets say that 1 of those 8 months is the only time i didnt hook up with him and now the one month is increasing but im scared ill want to again! well help me please i will rate high! just help me with anything! any smart things! theres soo much in there youve got the choice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Okay. Well, I went through this exact same thing.
Literally, it's scary how similar our situations are. But anyways. I think that you should pay attention to the past and realize what it is he did to you, and may continue doing to you.
And trust me he'll keep on coming back. You've just got to be strong and tell him that you don't need this, and you don't. No one deserves to be used.
And anything he says to is lies. All of it. So don't listen to anything he says because it's probably just so that he can get some again, and it will all just continue to happen over and over again.
Sorry if this isn't too helpful, but believe me, you don't deserve that from him.
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