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WE'RE JUST FRiENDS..i SWEAR..
Ok, well... my best friend is a guy, and his name is Chris. He's really awesome, and we're really close. I've always thought of him as a brother to me. But lately everyone has been asking me, "Are you two going out?" and "Do you like him?" and everytime my answer is "no." but lately I've been thinking, and I feel weird whenever I talk to him now. Whenever he comforts me about stuff, I just feel... really really happy. Rediculously happy. Almost..fuzzy inside? I don't know, but I keep thinking that I'm starting to have feelings for him. But we're just friends.. friend's arent supposed to crush on eachother. But I can't help myself.
SO MY QUESTION IS: Am I in love with him? and if I do why do I feel so uncomfortable?
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JUST FRiENDS
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I dont think your in love with him. yet.
Honestly, I think he may have feelings for you too. When my guy friend liked me, people asked the same thing. Thats just what guys do. They tell other people, or tell them to ask you. Hes obviosly a little scared about how you may feel.
Since you guys are best friends, you should be able to tell eachother a lot of things. Next time I think you should ask "why"? to a person that asks you if you like him. Because if you think about it..no one would just come upto u and randomly ask you if you like him all of a sudden, right? and a BUNCH of people. You know what I mean? I think he likes you!
So what I would do is wait a little longer and see what happens. But still maybe talk to him about it & say " are we still best friends?"
Tell me how it goes! Sorry this was really long, I try to make my responses short. LOl
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No. You're not in love with him. You answered the question for yourself about 4 times.
You're just friends.
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Well, according to what your saying, I think their might be a start of feelings somewhere. But before (if you decide to) ask him out, make sure this is for real. It may as well might be that since you have been spending a lot of time with this guy, it might just seem natural to start likeing him. But If it is the real thing, I think that you should go with you heart and ask him out to the movies or the mall, just to "hang out". Who knows, this could end up being the next great hookup.
Becca
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Yes when you have feelings like that you are falling in love. A person that you can trust about anything is someone you should be with. You are so uncomfortable because you feel that you should stay friends. You believe that friends shouldnt date but some people who are friends are the happiest couples around. I think that you like him you are just afraid of what might happen if you admit it out loud. Dont let him get away. He might not always be there so you should get him now.
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Yeah, you're starting to like him. What it is, is that: A lot of times, when someone asks you if you like someone, you start to notice them. It happened with me. There's this kid in my class and my friend was like "You definately like him." and I was like "No.." And now that I think about it, I'm kind of starting to like him. It happens. Anyway, you're going to feel uncomfortable because he's like your best friend....and now your crush. I really don't know how it will affect your friendship though. Just don't feel nervous around him. He's your close friend. But you are the one who is going to make a decision to tell him if you have feelings for him, or not. I really can't help you out there, it's up to you. Just think of the possible outcomes: If you tell him, he might not have feelings for you, which would make things awkward. He also may say he likes you too. Which could lead to a relationship & possibly a breakup. You could also just keep it to yourself and stay friends. So you see, it's your decision. I hope it all works out for you =)
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There are two things you can do. I've done this before, and found out that yes I was in love, but a different kind of love. You can 1. try dating and risk losing him forever or 2. just keep hanging out. But make this agreement, if you make out, and you or he says you shouldn't do it again, don't be hurt, you are BEST FRIENDS, and those are hard to come by, so hang on! There is hope....I wish you all the best, this will work out!
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You feel uncomfortable because alot of times people make friends that they end up really liking. You end up thinking..hmm...hes actually kinda cute now that i think about it. You end up thinking about your favorite people to be around and whos there for you the most..and when that name keeps coming up you cant help but wonder why arent we dating? why are we just friends? could i picture us together? would it work out? no one can answer those questions theres a risk youd have to take. The question is, is it worth it?
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Well lets not say love yet. Its more of a like situation. You never thought of him as more than a friend till people started changing your mind. Now when he talks to you, you don't now what to think. The best thing to do is to keep your relationship as friends because you don't wanna risk getting hurt or losing a good friend. I hope my advice was a great asset to your life.
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well that kinda sounds like one of my friends from a camp I went to, his name was David and we always hung out, and everyone thought that we were dateing I told them no and that we are just really good friends, it turned out that he really liked me, but I told him I just liked him as a close friend... he said ok....dont worry it is prob cause where you guys are so close to each other that you feel alll LOVEY DOVEY as my sister says....I would have to say you are starting to really fall for him, thats basicly all I can say...
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Well, you may just be feeling like this for him because other people have put it into your head. That has happened to me loads of times. However, maybe you really do have feelings for him. Because he is your friend you obviously already like him to some extent. Sometimes this liking can grow and you could end up liking him as more than a friend and possibly end up in a relationship with him. You could very easily be in love with him since you've known him awhile, but it may also just be a crush of some kind. You probably feel uncomfortable because you have known him for so long and your feelings for him are starting to change. The uncomfortableness (excuse my made up word) probably comes from your embarassment about liking him differently because you are worried that he may find out. If you think that you are ready to make the transition from friend to relationship and it's something that you want, I would say to try it out. There's a good chance that even if it doesn't work out between you that you will still be friends. Before just asking him out out of the blue though, try to figure out if he likes you as more than a friend too. Sometimes it's hard to detect, but you could always ask him and see what he says. I hope that I helped you in some way and good luck with everything!
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i believe that you are in love with him. i had the same experience. when i was at camp this past summer, i was really good friends with this guy and then all of a sudden i started getting the same feeling you get, sort of fuzzy and i realized that i liked him. the reason i think you feel so uncomftorable is that like you said, he's always been like a brother to you. you're not used to this new emotion and feeling for your friend. don't fight it just let everything fall into place and i'm sure it will work out fine. i hope i helped
xoxo shoshi:)
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I went through the same exact thing with my friend...but were not friends any more, but besides that :p. Ok, so you are starting to develop feelings for him now that you know that people think you do. It seems like...you've realized that you have so much in common with this guy and that he makes you feel so great, is something any girl would want from a guy. Truthfully, my opinion is that you do love him, but as a friend. Find out if he has feelings for you. If he does, then it would be a good start to a potential in a relationship. You probably feel so uncomfortable, because all of a sudden people are making accusations when you two are only best friends. Now, I know exactly how you feel, because my ex guy friend and i were majorly tight then people started asking and saying to us both are u going out, or do you like each other, like, we used to shove each other and one time someone screamed OOOOO YOU KISSED HIM! so...yea :p. Whelp, I hope I helped hun Good Luck!
~Brina
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i know your pain girl.does chris showany idea that he may like you too.i think you should make ysure he likes you back before you do anything about those feelings.if you guys are raeally close and all. and i he doesnt like you back.that may ruin your relationship.
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I've been in a similar situation.
I had an incredibly close male friend who I didn't have sexual feelings for but everyone thought we were a couple because we were so close.
In the end, I did start getting feelings for him.
Getting a crush on a friend is really normal, most people have felt that way about a close friend before.
It sounds like you are starting to get feelings for him. Although Sometimes it's hard to distinguish close friendship from actual attraction to a person, especially when you're very emotionally close to them.
However, I doubt that you are in love with him. If you were in love then you wouldn't be questioning it, you'd just know.
You feel uncomfortable because you are confused about your feelings and you think you like him, which is probably subconciously making you feel awkward around him.
I suggest you stick it out until you are 100% sure of your feelings for him. Then, when you are certain that you have feelings for him and if you want to, I think it would be worth talking to him about how you feel.
It might be a bit embarassing but just explain to him that you think you like him and that you don't want things to be strange between you but that you want him to know how you feel.
If he doesn't feel the same, then don't worry about it too much. Tell him you don't mind and that you want to continue your friendship with him. Try to move on and eventually you will.
However, if his feelings are mutual then I suggest you think very hard.
A sexual relationship can make or break a friendship.
You remember the guy I talked about earlier? I ended up dating him on and off for a while. The last time we gave it a go, it was more serious. But it felt uncomfortable and we broke up. At first we were okay as friends again but we soon started to drift apart.
We got on each other's nerves and it just wasn't the same.
So make sure that the relationship will be worth it. You need to work out whether you are willing to risk the friendship you have with him or to just keep things the way they are.
Bear in mind that it might be exactly the same as before if you broke up, but it might not, so be careful.
Good luck.
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