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I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.












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I'm 19 years and been really skinny and somehow ever since I've been down with diseases I havnt gained my shape or gotten better,and fact that in short I look about five years younger!help what do I eat to kinda get my thighs and ass back on?all suggestions welcome please



Ensure will do the trick.

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I have been seein someone for abt nine months,he was wonderful at first,thn cheated on me thn we got back,he started changing and took less notice of me,n gave me funny ass excuses so in that I had startd havn feelings for this other guy I study with n I knew him from abt the time I started dating my boyfriend he liked me ever since till today and he broke up with his girl.this other guy cares for me bigtime and now I feel I like him more and just when I want to break up with my boyfriend..not because of this other guy bt because of his own faults,but then suddenly his more than sweet to me.n im nt sure if I like him the same anymore.plse advice



The golden rule;
-once a cheater always a cheater-

Never take someone back who cheats. A relationship is almost barely fixable after a situation like that and trust always lays a thin line.

You need to figure out who is best for you. None of us can make that choice but as for the cheater, cut him loose he is not worth it.

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Hey me and my boyfriend text a lot and sometimes we run out if stuff to talk about. We are 14 and just need some good topics. Any ideas?



This is the problem "me and my boyfriend text a lot"

The kiss of death is not allowing one another space. Being in contact constantly starts to burn the flame...

Allow him to breathe, Go a day or two without talking or tone down the amount of time you spend together and you both shall have something to talk about. If you trust him as he shall trust you then going a day not texting is not going to kill you.

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or not go to jail but still have your record in place?


would it be better for a 22 year old female to serve a four month sentence in county jail then have your record cleaned or not go to jail but have your criminal record in place? Both cases you have to pay restitution and probation. What is the better thing to do here? Is jail as bad as TV makes it look? Would four months in jail be worth it?



If you have the option to get something expunged then get it done. Nothing is worth going to jail for. Also at your age you do not want a prison record. Prison record can prevent you from getting a job, house etc. rather an expunged is granted off your record and shall not be held against you.


Been there and done that

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Can you Really buy a vibrator at Walmart or Spencers Because I read you have to be 18 or older I need one but I'm not sure if I can buy one because I'm only 16




As far as I know Walmart does not sell vibrators.

You could probably get away with ordering one online but it may require age verification. Yes, Many places have an,age requirement of 18+

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So I met this guy a year ago and we dated for 2 months and then one day he randomly stopped talking to me. I was so infaturated with him so I was completely heartbroken. As pathetic as it sounds it took me 11 months and I'm still not completely over him. He was never a sexual person when we dated and so when he texted me on his birthday asking for sex I freaked out on him and told him off. We hadn't talked for 5 months exactly and he texted me yesterday and apologized for the way things went last time and we had a good conversation thennnnn he turned it sexual again, I've missed him so much that I jumped at the opportunity to get with him. I don't doubt he won't talk to me again and he knows i'm not usually easy but I just feel so disappointed in myself. How could I be with someone who didn't even remember anything about me or likes me when I'm in love with him. What should I do from here? SHoud I text him? By the way we are both 20 years old!

Thanks so much in advanced for any help!



Talk to him and tell him how you feel.

If you both rekindle things tell him you want to take it slow. Don't rush things for his sake. You need to do what you want and are ready. Never let someone else make a choice for you. If he is genuine and meant to be then he will learn to respect you as you respect yourself.

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Im 12 years old my boyfriend proposed to me hes 17 we are inlove can I get engaged at my age ?



No


There is something very wrong with a 17 year old dating someone who is twelve years old. In many states 17 is considered an adult. Do you realize if he were ever charged he can be in trouble for enabling a minor, rape, and be forced to register as a pedophile? Sweetie think about it, seventeen year old man dating a twelve year old...There is something very wrong there.

He is too old for you, he is taking
advantage if you and you are a minor. Stay away from that and date someone who is your age!

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Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months and we're in the 8th grade. We've been having trouble with coming up with open-ended questions and good conversation starters. The other day, we were walking outside after school and I said guess what and he said what and I said u now have a free ticket to ask me anything and he said I think I'll hold my ticket.. ? What did he mean by that? Does he not have feelings for me anymore? Should I dump him?


Commication is important in relationships. How often do you both spend time together or text? Spending 24.7 together in person or through a phone can be the kiss of death in a relationship. People need to breathe, The spark will burn out fast if you both don't give one another space. Space is what keeps the spark and gives you something to talk about the next time you see one another. My advice is too give him space for a day or two, If he doesn.t show interest after then you know its time to move on.

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I'm a 13 year old girl and have a 16 year old boyfriend. He lives in Illinois, and i live in Georgia. I met him through a friend. He started texting her, and then she stopped texting him and she asked me if I wanted his number so i said ya, and we texted and we "going out/boy friend & girl friend." We sext back and forth,(im just messing with him & he starts it.)So my question is, is he serious about our relationship?
P.S. I don't want to just ask him straight up.


Nope just like I said in your other question.

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I'm 13 & I have a 16 year old boyfriend. I live in Georgia & he lives in Illinois. We can only text and we have't called each other yet. We have know each other for about 2 weeks. I'm not sure if he is serious about our relationship. I need ways to ask him this without having to ask him straight up. (We sext back & forth i'm messing with him, but he starts it.)



Of course it is not a serious relationship.

You are 13, this kid is 16 and you live how many miles apart?

You don't drive, You don't work and likely in the 7th or 8th grade...

Sweetie it's a faze, no its not forever.

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I'm 16, I've been with my boyfriend for a couple of months now, but somehow I feel like he still has feelings for his ex girlfriend. He has kept her texts from when they were together, all the texts she has sent him about feelings, there all on his inbox. I know she still texts him, especially when she's had a drink because he's told me; I'm not sure what he texts back to her though. I know he does text her back. I've asked him if he still cares about her, but when I've asked before, he kind of went mad, but he said he didn't. I'm so confused because why would he keep all the messages from her, why would he still text her? I don't really say anything because I know it'll cause an argument between us. It does get to me and I really do get jealous, I know it's the wrong thing to do but I did go through his phone and see on his inbox all her messages from when they were in a relationship and I saw some recent ones. I didn't have time to go through his sent messages though! I'm really confused...



Everyone is different but in my eyes if someone truly got over an ex then there should not be any reason why they would be in contact. I think its rude of him to get mad instead of understanding how you feel. I would be upfront with hoe you feel, do not accuse him of anything but let him know that it bothers you and you feel it interferes with your,relationship. Here is a fact; someone cannot truly move on if they are still hung up on someone else. Sounds like he is hiding his feelings for his ex from you and gets mad because he doesnt want to face it?...

If I were in your shoes maybe I would go my own way. Tell him you arent a package deal and will not be his rebound. find someone who has the time for you and only you. Not you and someone else..

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I need some advice from anyone who will respond no smart remarks or judgement please... Me an my wife have been together since we were 16, we're both 20 an we married at 18. I'm in the military an she has always been supportive of my decisions an actions but the other week we had a falling out which has been happening a lot lately. She wants a divorce cause she says she can't do it anymore an that she is no longer in love with me... We have never broken up an she has never left me but I'm not gonna lie I haven't been the best husband an I have a short temper which has always been the cause for all of our arguments. I AM THE CAUSE IF THIS I REALIZE THAT NOW AFTER ALL THIS TIME I'VE BEEN SO NIEVE TO THE SITUATION AN OUR MARRAIGE! She is my life an I love her more than she could possibly imagine I wanna make this work! I told her I'm gonna get help (anger management) an also marraige counseling I wanna do anything that will show her that I can change an be the man that she fell in love with.


Marriage Counseling.

I am going to be straight forward but you both were and are still young. The columnist below had good advice but one thing I would point out is you cannot win someone over by bribery. You need to gave a sit down with your wife and discuss where it went sour. Sometimes the distance between two people can play a role. if you want to fix things then go to counseling but remember it takes two people not one.


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Ok me and my bf had been dating almost three years and aparently meant nothing :,( he and i went on a break bu were still technically together... He moved on within a day and thats no word of a lie, he actully had done it and then a few days later after not being able to get in contact with him hes on the phone saying he wants to be mates... Honestly i told him that it was way way to hard on me right now because i absoultly loved him with all my heart and i really want to be friends but i heard its the worst thing you can do... I want him back... He also rang up another time after and messed with my head saying one minute he really misses me but hes falling in live with his new gf then hes bringing up our happy past and saying that he loved it when id fall asleep on his cheast listening to his heartbeat :,( omg im soo torn up, im crying just talking about it :(



Cut contact with him. maybe you have strong feelings but you are doing yourself more harm then good by still playing his games.

A man cannot truly love someone and give a relationship its best if they are
hung up on someone else. if you both took a break then as you may know he moved on quick which tells me he took advantage of your relationship or maybe at one time cared but fell out of love.

My advise is to end contact so you can begin the healing process and meet someone else


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There is this guy I like so I messaged him on facebook trying to start a conversation with him but he never responded but i know he saw the message because facebook has this thing where it shows that the person saw your message and it showed you the time they saw it then the next day he updates his status but he still didnt respond to my message. Should I take it that he doesnt like me? And if he doesnt like me then why when hes around me either acts creepy always staring at me or is sometimes friendly and talks to me? I thought it was because he liked me maybe I'm wrong what do you think?




Well as I only know one half of the story I will give my two cents


If I had written a message to someone and got no reply back within a week I would probably start to think they just weren't interested. Does this guy know you? If someone I did not know sent me a message then its very likely I would not respond. How well do you know him? Maybe this guy has an interest in someone else? Does he have a girlfriend? Maybe he has someone he is talking too. Its hard to say but seeing he has read the message and didn't respond I would probably just move on and leave it at that. Next time I would maybe try talking to someone you know. Not many people reply to messages from strangers.

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i am really worried about messages saved in sopt light search in my ifone 4? i want to delete them permenantly.. it disturbs my privacy. so plz tell me how to delete them. otherwise i have to change my cell phone.



How to delete text messages would depend on the cell phone carrier you have. Some cellphones allow you to slide your finger across the text and delete and others are done more manually. If you are referring to deleting a text message to hide data information, that's impossible.


A cellphone is like a computer. If you send something to someone else you can delete it yes, but your computer still stores data information. Meaning, that information you deleted can still be retrieved. Therefore there is no permanent way to delete something unless the cellphone was completely destroyed. Computer wise you would need to removed the eternal hard drive as a computer is more complex then a cellphone.

Short answer- there is no way. If you want to block a number from sending text then you should contact your service provider

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Hi guys so i have been dating my bf for a year and we are in a long distance relationship ... i watched porn a few times jsut because sometimes when i did get in the mood he was not here ... n usually we have webcam sex .... but just today i asked him if he watches porn n he said "i dont watch as much porn as i used to" ... then i asked him if he still does n he said ya ... i felt soo uneasy .. cause i thought he watched me on webcam n was happy in that .. but now i find out he watches .. i feel weird ... i know guys do that so its a normal thing .., n since i also watched it a few time.. it should be fine ... but i dont want him to start expecting things from meh like do that or that ... n now m like all the things he tells meh to do on webcam is a way of making him reach n he is making me do what they do on webcam like show meh this in this way... n recently he said we do it too much on the webcam ... well if he is watching porn n doing it with meh then ya maybe its too much for him .. while i only do it on webcam with him .. n watched porn only a few times n i dont rll like em that much ... now i dont know how to react on this topic .. pls help meh out .. i know m insecure ... i dont have the perfect figure like those porn stars do .. m jsut soo worried ... n i dont want to lose him!! thx



Watching porn is completely normal as long as the guy doesn't watch it so much to the point where that is all he does. You are making this out to much more then it is. Him watching porn doesn't mean he is not happy with nor does he not enjoy watching you on webcam it just means he is being a typical guy.

Guess what? I watch porn and I am married. Does this mean that I do not enjoy my husband? Absolutely not. Porn is normal

You watch it, so why is it a problem if he does? If you dot want too loose him then my advice would be to chill out and stop being so jealous over something so small

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Ok so now I'm 12 and had sex with my boyfriend a couple of times and I had sex with two other guys and don't give me a lecture about that! Anyway I didn't get my period last month and I'm late this month and don't think I'm gonna get it. I've bEen feeling really sick lately and been having stomach cramps and been feeling tired. I've also had headaches. Is it possible that I'm pregnant? We didn't use a condom any of the times we had sex


Why the hell would you go and have sex and NOT use a condom? You are 12... This right here shows me just how gullible your generation is now days.

I don't give two flying shots if you cry or can't handle lecture. Don't expect people to be nice and sweet on your own stupidity. You just ruined your childhood, You selfishly and carelessly bought a child into this world you CANNOT even care for.

Basically, It all comes down too a fact if truth that your judgement was completely moronic and I hope you learn a valuable lesson and SMARTEN the fuck up kiddo

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Bff's that what i thought me and my friends were, me and my ex-best friend had been friends for 3-4 years we were really close told each other everything and never lied to each other. recently i fund out that she has been spreading rumors about me and lying to my face about everything in a journal i found in her room she wrote i want a new best friend. After all this i told her i don't want to be friends now should i still keep her secrets or get revenge by spilling her secrets like she did with mines
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What does revenge solve? Nothing.

Your friend was dishonest and sure it feels hurtful. Seeking revenge on her for poor judgement is only going to prove nothing but show that you are just like her. Fact is, The bigger person is the one who acts mature in situations like this. If your ex friend wants to bad mouth friends then likely she will do so with other friends. Sometimes what people need is a bit of a reality check and yours is too move on and meet new people. 'Revenge' is the worst when others see one happy. If you show her it doesn't bother you, Then what would she of gained from all this? Again, nothing! The only thing she got was one less friend and in the end hurt nobody but herself ;)

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Me n her messed around b4 n then we were messing around n when I pulled out of her there was precum on the tip of my dick could she be pregnant. ( we don't use a condom
17 m



It amazes me sometimes how people can have have sex without the proper education. Yes, precum can contain enough sperm to get someone pregnant. Why are you not using condoms? It's way better to be safe then sorry and the pull out method is one of the most failed methods out there. Protect yourself, nobody needs a kid at 17

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18/m .M and my girlfriend,we had sex last night for the 1st time.I pulled it out on time.I was not using a condom.And in few minutes we did it again.Now i am scared whether she should take birth controlling tablets.




The pull out method is one of the biggest failed methods out there. If you do not want her too fall pregnant then start using a condom seriously. What you did is asking for it, There is nothing better then birth control and condom use as you can never be sorry for double protection.

All it takes is ONE time, If you are scared then you need to smarten up and be safe from now on.

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