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Best friends Forever: should i get revenge by spilling her secrets like she did to me?
Bff's that what i thought me and my friends were, me and my ex-best friend had been friends for 3-4 years we were really close told each other everything and never lied to each other. recently i fund out that she has been spreading rumors about me and lying to my face about everything in a journal i found in her room she wrote i want a new best friend. After all this i told her i don't want to be friends now should i still keep her secrets or get revenge by spilling her secrets like she did with mines
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Ever hear the adage; "Two wrongs don't make a right." This is just the right situation for the adage. I know you have been hurt by her and whatever rumors or lies she has been spreading.
This is an opportunity for you to be the bigger person and just ignore her while going about your business. Your friend will she this and while you may think otherwise they will eventually see who is right and who is wrong.
By not doing things to hurt or embarrass her she will also see you are being the bigger person and by be this she will stop what ever it is she is doing for it will make her look bad in the eyes of your friends and hers. If asked why you do not retaliate against her in kind, as it is called. Simply answer, I am not going to stoop to her level. That very simply says it all and places you above her in the eyes of anyone who understands what you said.
I hope I have helped.
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dont. please dont. trust me, Im going through the same exact thing right now. just dont be her friend, and, Im searious, dont tell everyone her secrets for revenge, It'll just snap back at you. im sorry, good luck.
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What does revenge solve? Nothing.
Your friend was dishonest and sure it feels hurtful. Seeking revenge on her for poor judgement is only going to prove nothing but show that you are just like her. Fact is, The bigger person is the one who acts mature in situations like this. If your ex friend wants to bad mouth friends then likely she will do so with other friends. Sometimes what people need is a bit of a reality check and yours is too move on and meet new people. 'Revenge' is the worst when others see one happy. If you show her it doesn't bother you, Then what would she of gained from all this? Again, nothing! The only thing she got was one less friend and in the end hurt nobody but herself ;)
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Dont do it. I have been in the same position. What i did was suck it up and hold the secrets in. Let her know you can be trusted. When the fight is over it'll be worth it. Maybe you should make up. Give her a hug and say your sorry it is better and more wise to be the bigger person. Telling her secrets isnt worth losing your friendship. It is pretty much your decision wich one do you care about, her or revenge?
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As much as you would want to spill her secrets, I suggest you be the bigger person. You should confront her and ask her why she was lying about it. If you don't want to show that you read her journal, try to find proof that she's lying without it and confront her and tell her you're not interested in her friendship anymore.
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