I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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At my school, we have a night event called 'Night of the Notables/Nobles', and we have to pick a 'notable achiever/person who made a positive influence in the world' to be for that day. We have to make a presentation in class as that person as well. Well, I'm a sophomore female, and I really don't know who to be! It can be a literary, scientific, historical, or musical, i.e, figure. But people such as Britney Spears and Hitler are out of the question, you know what I mean?
Do you guys have any suggestions as to who I should be? I don't want it to be a boring person either, because the most standoutish people make it to the actual night and get to present and stuff, so, yeah. And everybody's doing Oprah, so yeah, just no. (link)
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What about Jackie Kennedy? She had an amazing influence on America, in particular during the time when she was the First Lady.
I have had a read through this website, which is a basic biography of her life.
http://www.jfkin61.com/biographies/jackie_biography.html
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I really really liked this guy; however he told me that he didn't see me as the girlfriend type for him cause were to close of friends. But I can't keep my mind off of him, everything I think about him. What should I do? I seriously still like him but he doesn't feel the same! (link)
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Unfortunately, if he doesn't feel the same then there's really nothing you can do to change that. I know it hurts but if you try to change his mind, chances are you'll only push him further away.
Which leaves you with the rather more difficult option of getting over him. It is a hard thing to get over anybody you really like but when it's a friend it's harder to do because it means you'll see him on a regular basis and eventually you'll probably have to accept that he will get himself a girlfriend.
I have to admit that I really only have one answer to this situation, other than the old "it'll get easier with time" charm. You need to allow yourself a time to feel miserable about him. Get yourself a nice big tub of ice cream (or whatever your comfort food may be) and wallow for two days. Allow yourself to think about him constantly, cry, scream, hit things if you like (as long as they can't hit back or press charges) and when you're done, that's it. You get up, do whatever you need to to make yourself feel like you look great and go out with a big smile on your face. People are naturally attracted to smilers and it will help you to move on if you are surrounded by friends right now.
You'll be okay. There is someone out there for every girl. You just have to find him.
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Alright so me and my bf broke up 2 days ago but we are still basicly together nd tryin to fix things... the problem is I dont really want to i dont think. I dont know how I would be able to just end it with him without telling him straight out. Im not good with that sort of thing
People always tell me how i can do so much better and that he is just an ass and all this stuff But i dont think I can do better..
What should I do?
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To be honest with you, it sounds more as though, for whatever reason, your self esteem is low and you may be staying with him because, as long as he's there, you know that someone wants you.
That said, the fact of the matter is that you don't know what you want right now. Before you make any more decisions about him, you need to work out what it is you want. Do you really care for him or is it just that even for a while, he makes you feel better than you feel you are?
If that is the case, however difficult it may be, you will need to end the relationship. The problem with low self-esteem is that it often leads to a co-dependent relationship, which is okay to an extent but you need to learn to love yourself before being with someone else, because if you don't it will only hurt more if they go away.
Now I don't know this guy and you haven't said why your friends feel this way about him but there may well be a good reason. If you were to detatch yourself from your situation right now, or maybe even imagine that this guy is treating a friend the way he treats you, I wonder if you would feel the same way about him as your friends.
Either way, if he isn't treating you with respect and care then he doesn't deserve you and no matter what you may think, you CAN do better. All you need to do is convince yourself, throw in a bit of confidence and see where it takes you.
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Umm... I heard from a friend of mine that tall guys love short girls. I wanted to know why because I am six feet tall,not ugly,not fat. I used to say that all the shorts girls steal the tall guys, but its the other way around. Will I be left with the short guys? There is there are few a guys I'd consider dating that are like 3 inches shorter than me. Is that my limit?
Note: Highschool Junior, Female, Bicurious
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There are a lot of men out there who prefer shorter women because they are 'cute'. But please don't let that bother you because there are JUST as many men out there who prefer taller girls. I truly do believe there is someone out there for EVERYONE so you mustn't worry about your height. There are so many women out there who would absoloutely LOVE to be tall and you are exactly that.
Do you know what most men are really attracted to? Confidence. I have never met a single man who hasn't said confidence attracts them to a woman.
So forget your height and forget what your friend said because it really doens't mean anything and hold your head high when you walk around. Remember that you are beautiful just the way you are and you should NEVER let anyone make you feel otherwise.
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So I have a problem ... There's this girl whom i've been in love with for over 3 years but i've never gotten a chance to be with her. Background:
I used to work at a department store years ago when i first met her and sparks absolutely flew and we went out to dinner and we talked for a very long time. She told me things that she's never told anyone. (She advised me of this) but we never actually got together because of conflicting schedules then i graduated high school and went traveling for over 2 years all the while I just thought of her and my feelings grew stronger! I couldnt stop thinking of her. (and I still cant!) So when I came back I took up the guitar and drums again and I've even wrote songs about her! I went to try and find her but she had moved and I was unable to locate her! Then one day I went to apply for my current job and there she was! I saw her! She was working in a little fashion boutique next to the one where I was going to work! I began to shake and I instantly thought of the songs I had wrote and all the time that had passed and my feelings for her had only became stronger. So I went up to her and when our eyes met we gave each other a huge hug and i cant describe it ... it is ... undescribable so we talked and sadly she has a boyfriend but wants to meet up and hang out! I desperately want this chance so i get her # and she gets mine I call her and we go out to dinner we go into a deep conversation and she tells me i look really great and i tell her of my nights that i wasnt able to sleep b/c i was thinking about her ... After that dinner we lost contact again and I try to call her but she doesnt have v/m I see her again last night and we talk a little but she is preoccupied and i try to see whats up and she wont tell me I then tell her that i'm leaving again and she is sad ... I also tell her i've tried to call and she is shocked she doesnt think I have been ... I then tell her I leave in three weeks for indonesia for an unspecified amount of time and she says that we seriously need to hang out before I go ... What should I do ... ANd should I tell her the extent of my feelings ... that I feel she is my "Only One" ? (link)
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I can understand your concerns. You want to tell her how you feel but you just don't know how and the fact she has a boyfriend makes the situation far more complicated.
Having been in a similar position myself in the past, I can only encourage you to do what I never had the courage to do. Tell the person you love that you love them. But, if you do, you must do so while accepting that nothing can happen between the two of you.
The way in which she was behaving after that dinner would lead me to believe that she knew how you felt about her and either did know how to handle your feelings or didn't know how to handle her own. It's possible that she feels the same way as you do but is too afraid to do anything about them. On the other hand, it is possible she doesn't feel the same way and doesn't want to risk hurting you.
The only way you will know how she feels is if you tell her how you feel and ask her. It's a huge leap but if you don't want to spend your whole time in Indonesia wondering what she might have said or what might have been, it's the only thing you can do.
Whatever you decide, I truly wish you the best of luck.
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hey ya'll.ok well im 16/f and im kind of in a mess right now! this is kinda of long but if you bare with me i'll rate high! ok so anyway at the beginning of the year i started talking to this guy and i thought he was really nice and funny and super sexy, and we never really hooked up or anything but now all of a sudden a couple of weeks ago he decides he wants to, but i feel more like a friend to him now. but he got me a valentines day gift and its suposedly really nice says some of my friends. and i dont want to hurt him because i think he really likes me. so thats the 1st guy. then theres this other guy who i met around the same time as the 1st guy and hes realllllly funny and nice and cute and super fun to be around. but i was never really attracted to him he was just such a cool guy to hang around. but now all of a sudden he tells me he likes me too around the same time as the 1st guy, but i dont want to go out with him either. and with the last two guys ive been kind of leading them on the past 2 weeks because i like panicked when they told me, so they think i like them even though im not going out with either of them. then the 3rd guy i met like a couple weeks ago and i really like him a lot! and he asked me out a couple days ago and i said we need to talk before we get together and ive been putting off talking to him because i dont know what to do with the other two guys. what do i do?!?!?!?! helllp! (link)
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You have got yourself into a mess here, haven't you?!
Okay, let's get this sorted out. You don't really feel attracted to the first guy because he's too much of a friend now. You don't really feel attracted to the second guy because you also see him as a friend but they are under the impression you see them as more than that. At the same time, you DO like another guy who also likes you.
So, the first thing you have to do - however hard it may be - is to sit down both the first and second guy separately and tell them that you're sorry if you made them believe otherwise but you see them as great friends, nothing more and you hope it won't wreck your friendships.
Unfortunately, things may feel a bit weird for a while but - here's the part that sucks - you have to accept the consequences of letting them think you liked them. The important thing to stress to both of them is that you see them as terrific friends and it's not that you think there's anything wrong with them but you just don't feel there's any chemistry there. Be careful how you put it all though - the male ego is a very delicate thing.
Now then, the third guy. By all means go out with him AFTER you have spoken to the other two. If word got round you were dating him while the other two thought you liked them, you would hardly be flavour of the month. Now, I don't know the other two guys well enough to make this decision but you need to decide what to do about it. Either you need to tell them that you have met another guy you're interested in and you don't want to hurt them but you need to give it a try, OR you can go out with him and keep a very low profile for a few weeks until it has all blown over. Fact is, if these guys hear from someone else that you're dating someone else so soon after telling them you're not interested, there may be some fisticuffs and nobody wants that.
The most important thing about this is you need to learn from it. Next time a guy tells you that he likes you and you don't reciprocate those feelings, you need to sit him down and tell him the truth. That way, you can save yourself having to go through all this again in the future!
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Help me people, I'm in Limbo.Months and months ago, I briefly dated a forty-seven year old man(I am twenty-two/f) and it didn't really work out. He said he was still in love with his ex girlfriend back in the States(he is American, I am British and living and up until the today we both lived in Britain).
Despite our initial break up, we continued to see each other,and were sporadically sleeping together. The day before yesterday, I got a call from him saying that he was about to get kicked out of the country(long story, but he basically had a dud visa and tried to slip in to the country anyway-result ejection, even in yankee loving Britain)
So we met up-he invited me over to"watch a DVD" (you get it, code for "my c*ck is leaving in thirty-six hours, be on it") and I had the best sex of my entire life. Post-sex, though, I was troubled and sad, as I felt that my need to be close to him was not a feeling reciprocated by him-idk, I'm never sure with him. In the morning he kissed me, was tender and affectionate and promised to call me that night, his last in the country for God knows how long. He didn't call, which hurt me like caustic acid being poured on a wound. I sent him a text which gently admonished him for his failure to call, also telling him that while I was confused in my feelings for him, I thought that I loved him. This morning, just about two hours before he got on the plane he sent me a message apologising for not having called and saying that while he was stressed out, our last night had been a beautiful one for him. The message was lovely except that it in no way responded to my text. I just don't know what to do. I'm miserable and confused-part of me loves him like hell as well as feeling more lust for him than for any of my previous boyfriends, all of whom have been of my own age. But he has a history of emotional difficulties and has made me no promises. He said before he left that he would keep in touch(he is going to try to get back into the country when he can). I guess I just need someone to tell me no you fool, of course it's not going to work. But at the same time, a tiny part of me needs that less pessimistic voice.So what dy'all think? (link)
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This is a tricky one because men like that are difficult to read at the best of times.
Judging from what you have said, however, I can't help but feel that he's not exactly been as forthcoming as a person would expect if they really cared about you and were leaving the country.
I understand that you're upset an I know you don't want to hear this but it sounds as though he either doesn't know what he wants or he knows what he wants and unfortunately, you may not be it. I'm sorry because I know how dreadfully harsh that sounds but at the same time, you have to put yourself in his shoes. You are leaving the country and don't know if or when you may be returning. If you were him and REALLY cared, I'm sure that you would have said you would call when you got there or e-mail when you got home or something.
The reality of it is, sadly, that he found out he had to leave and in the middle of all this confusion, there was a girl there who wanted him and he took advantage of the situation. If he actually cared, he would have made more of an effort to spend the last few hours of his time in the UK with you. Not to mention he wouldn't have avoided giving you any answers in his text.
It is possible that he is just confused about his feelings and detatching from you now to make it easier but to be brutally honest with you, from what you have said, I don't think he is worth your time. I know older men can be wildly alluring but you need to find a man who can treat you with care and respect, neither of which this man has.
The fact is that no matter what happened to him, you can do better and you can find a guy who wouldn't just take you to the airport but also insist you go with him. There really are men out there who are like that! So don't waste your time on the American who dropped and ran away from you and find that man who will treat you like the princess you're meant to be.
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well ever since 5th grade i have gotten more and more that i cant sit still in class and cant pay attention in class........well i have taken quizzes on it and there professional and they all say im ADHD positive but my mom doesnt beleive that i have it and wont do any thing bout it but i just dont no wat to beleive my mom or those things
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It's a difficult one but if you really are finding it difficult to concentrate and you can't sit still then perhaps it would be a good idea to visit your GP. I truly wouldn't have thought that you suffer from ADHD, as there are more symptoms than those described. However, it may be there is a separate issue that might need to be addressed, which is why I recommend you see your GP.
Generally, my feelings on the matter are that if your parents feel there is a real cause for concern, they will do something about it. However, if you really are worried, it is best you get checked out by your GP.
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alrighty... me and this boy have been talking for a while now. he is really cool and sweet. but he has a girlfriend. and last week he tells me that we can't flirt or write notes anymore and i'm like okay?. well the next day he was back flirting with me like nothing happened.. i didnt understand. he comes up to me and gives me hugs and stuff. and when i was sitting down he comes up to me and i said what do you want and he goes you. he was dead serious. but again he has a girlfriend. and we have a dance comming up and he really really wants to go but the prinicple wont let him. and if he was to go he said he would go with me. but again he has a girlfriend. when i was talking to my friend about him (she is friends with his girlfriend) she said that they broke up? i was like WHAT?? then she asked me if they hooked back up? it is really confusing.. please help me. try to make it long. because it is really confusing! (link)
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Blimey! You're right, that is confusing!!
Okay, there are a number of things you need to sort out here.
Firstly, you need to have a real chat with him and find out what his status is with this girlfriend. Are they on or are they off? If they are on, you really shouldn't get involved because that may only serve to make the situation worse. You also need to tell him to stop giving you mixed signals. If he wants to be with you and not his girlfriend, he shouldn't be with his girlfriend in the first place, as clearly he is not fulfilled in that relationship. If he wants to be with his girlfriend, then he needs to start showing her some respect and stop flirting with you (and unfortunately, there are possibly other girls involved here too).
On the other hand, if they are not together any more, you need to ask him why he was telling you they were a couple. Is he afraid to commit? Or was he just playing you? Either way, lying doesn't really make for a good prospective boyfriend.
When you've sorted this out, you need to decide whether he's worth your time in the first place. This guy may well have a girlfriend and yet see's no problems hitting on another girl. Would you really want to be the girlfriend in this scenario? Also, I'm interested as to why your Principal won't allow him to attend your school dance.
Whatever you do decide to do, you need to bear in mind that although his advances may be appealing and the attention is nice and you clearly like him a lot, he may not be worth the effort. You deserve to be treated like the wonderful person you are and you deserve respect. If he's not the sort of guy who can give you that then you may well be better off with someone else.
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When a guy tells you "I just don't want to rush into things" does this mean he is no longer interested in you?
You see there is this guy I met at my friend Rachel's birthday party. He then asked my friend who I was and found me on myspace and instant messaged me. Last week he wanted to meet me in the hallway before and after class. Rachel keep telling me how much he really liked me.... yesterday when we went out to the buses he gave me a kiss on the cheek. Then I went over to his house later and we just sat together on the couch and hung out...well today at the end of the day I barely even got a hug from him...when I asked him what was up he said that he didnt want to rush into things becuase he didnt want to get hurt like he did last time with his ex girlfriend...
Was that just a nice way of saying "I'm not into you anymore"
If it helps I'm 15 and he is 17
Thanks
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To be absoloutely honest, it depends on the person. However, it sounds as though you're moving forward into relationship territory quite quickly, considering you first met not long ago.
Judging from what you have said, it's very possible that he is truly concerned about getting hurt. He's made a lot of effort to meet you, spend time with you and get to know you and it may just be that he believes the relationship has potential but is afraid of what might happen if something should go horribley wrong.
The best thing you can do in this situation is give him as much space as he needs. Leave him be for a bit and let him come to you. If he really does like you, he's not going to let you go completely and if absence does make the heart grow fonder, it may just wash away his fears for good!
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ok so there's this guy.. and i kinda love him.. but he like hates me now. and i really wanna get over him.. and im trying but dont know how.
how do i get over him?? (link)
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Unfortunately, this is one of life's questions that has no definitive by-the-book answer.
I always recommend to people in you position that they get a large tub of Ben and Jerry's (or Haagen Dazs, depending on how depressed you really feel), stay for a day or two in your pj's and allow your time to grieve over the fact that he's not going to be part of your love life any more. Cry, wail, scream, shout until you've had all the grief you can stand. Afterwards, give yourself a good facial, manicure, pedicure (if you feel like showing your toes, because I never see the point in Winter) and step out with your head held high, smiling, even if you don't feel like it and remember that there's someone much better out there for you.
Another recommendation is that you write a letter to him, telling him exactly how you feel about him, everything you want to say and everything you want him to be (obviously within the 'grieving' peroid, otherwise this would defy the point). When you finish it, put it in an envelope, put his name on it and finally.....burn it. For some reason, this just helps to release whatever feelings you may have stored up inside.
When you have done all that and got it all out your system, set your sights on meeting someone new. Bear in mind that if you loved this guy (start referring to it in past tense if you can), you may not be emotionally ready for a relationship but you can at least meet some fun new people who will take your mind off the guy you left behind.
Chin up. You'll be fine, I promise.
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me and this guy friend of mine kinda had this fling going on recently, where we werent quite going out but we both liked eachother and knew it and acted like we went out it just wasnt offical. He lives like 30 minutes away, so thats why we werent official, we hadnt gotten a chance to go on a date yet. Anyways, last night i told him that i didnt want my firt real boyfriend to be someone i barely see. And i do like him and he told me he loved me, but when i told him he said he was thinking the same thing and thought it wasnt the right timing. So i guess what im asking is how can two people love eachother and just leave the relationship? And well he said everything will be fine and that we could always go out when the timing was better, but i cant help feeling really depressed and guilty and i dont know like im making a mistake. how am i sopposed act with him now? please help i rate high and im really confused! (link)
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The way I always saw it was there where TRUE love was concerned, people never just give up.
To be honest, 30 minutes is nothing in the gran scheme of things when you imagine that there are married couples out there who even work in different countries, yet have a healthy, faithful, loving relationship.
I guess what I'm getting at is that if you really do love each other, you will both be prepared to cope with a half hour journey to see each other.
If it makes things easier, perhaps there is somewhere you can meet halfway? A leisure centre or something of a similar variety.
If you really don't think you can keep the relationship going, then the best thing to do will be to call it a day and move on. If this is what you choose, you'll have to accept that it might be difficult to be around each other, for a short while at least but there is no reason you cannot salvage a frienship from it, if you're both prepared to.
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I've been really good friends with this kid...Andy...for 5 years. We started having feelings for each other, and during the summer 2 years ago, we started dating. But at the end of the summer, I found out that we were moving, and so I moved to Ohio and he stayed in Michigan. We have really strong feelings for each other...we can't stop thinking about each other and we talk at least once a week on the phone. Whenenver I visit Michigan, we always hook up but of course, it can never last since I live out of state. Last year, he tried dating other people, but it never really worked cause I was the one he wanted. I also tried dating other people, and again, it wasn't the same. Our feelings for each other were just too strong. Lately, I've grown an interest in two guys...and I want to try dating them, but I don't want to hurt Andy. I could start dating other people...but the thing is--and i know how selfish this sounds--that would give Andy permission to date, and i don't want Andy to date other girls because there's a chance that he could feel just as strongly for them as he feels for me.
Things are so complicated--yet they could be so easy--but I'm not willing to let myself lose him. I could just stay with him...but what if we have to keep our relationshiop the way it is now? On the phone and on my few trips to Michigan?
Or if I do date, I could lose him to another girl.
I just love him too much to let him go.
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You really need to work out what it is that you want here because you're very confused. Unfortunately, nobody can tell you what you should do in this situation, but I would suggst that the best way that you can work out what you want may be to go on a date with one of these guys.
I can understand that the long distance makes relationships very difficult but at the end of the day, if you truly do love him, isn't he worth waiting for? They always say that when it's true love, you don't give it up without a fight. It doesn't really sound as though you want to keep fighting so maybe you're not really in love with him?
On the other hand, maybe it's got to the stage where you just feel as though there's no way it can work and it's time to go your separate ways, even if only for a trial run. If this is the case, you need to be prepared to let him move on too.
It sounds as though you do love him but sometimes loving people means doing what's best for them, even if you might lose them in the process. You need to tell him the truth. That you're interested in two other guys and that although you do still love him, you're not sure you can commit to him given the long distance. See how it goes with the guys you like and then make your decision from there.
Whatever you decide, remember that every action has a consequence and you need to decide whether the action of seeing if the grass may be greener on the other side is worth the consequence of losing Andy.
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ok just for the record i am a girl! ok i really really like this guy i have liked him for almost a year and he dose not know it and i really really want to tell him in person but i can not get up the gutts and we are both home schooled so we are not like just go up and say i really like and what not and he is one year younger and i do not knwo if he likes me and i do not know any of his friends who are my good friends and i just really really like him and i am a christian pastors kid and so is he and so yea he dose not go to my church anymore and it is just like GGGGGRRRRR really really bothering me and i sent him an e-mail on one of my other e-mails and i put that i was (sorry if i spell this wrong) anonomyse and he dose not know and so i just am kinda shy and it is really hard because i know his mom and his dad and it is just GGGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRR for all you home schoolers who are christians i know there are some of you out there please please help me!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Okay, if you are both the children of Christian Pastors then you will have to tread lightly on both counts, as it is usually quite difficult to earn the trust of a parent who is a member of the cloth.
The first thing I would say is that you really will have to pluck up the courage to ask him out. Trust me, I KNOW how horribly nerve-wracking, stomach-wrenching and sweat-enducing it is but if you haven't got anyone to do it for you and if you don't think he's about to do it anytime soon then you will have to grab the bull by the horns and do it yourself. Just tell him that you think you like him as more than a friend and you wondered if he would like to go out with you sometime. The absoloute worst he is likely to do is say no.
If he should say yes (and I don't see why he shouldn't), I would also suggest that you run it by both your parents first. As much as it may suck to admit it, you need to let them know what's going on because they will really really be mad at you both if they find out at a later date.
Just remember that if he does say no, it's not the be-all and end-all because I firmly believe that there is at least one person out there for EVERYONE and that includes you! If he says no, it just means you have more time to search for that someone. So take a deep breath, go for it and I wish you the very best of luck.
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Before almost all things where i have to stand in front of people or just be with a lotta people (dances, parties, answering questions @ school, giving presentations at school...) i feel like im breathing harder than normal and sometimes i get a really upset stomach. i feel my face getting all hot, and even after the moment where everyone looks at me passes i still have to look down for fear someone is still looking at me. sometimes i feel that i would rather die than stand in front of everyone...is that normal? do i have like, social anxiety disorder or panic attacks?? (link)
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It does sound a little like social anxiety and what you are suffering from sounds very much like panic attacks. However, I always recommend that in such circumstances, you obtain a professional opinion.
Social Anxiety is actually very common. It's very debilitating for sufferers but the good news is that because it's so common, there's plenty of support out there. First of all I would recommend you see your doctor for some form of therapy which will help you to deal with the panic attacks and the fear.
I would also like to recommend that you have a look on the web, as there are a LOT of websites out there full of people in similar situations who are more than willing to lenda friendly ear. One of the best, in my experience, is http://www.phobics-awareness.org/
Please don't worry too much over this. Plenty of people do get over their social phobia/social anxiety and there is no reason at all that you cannot do the same. Good luck.
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So me and my boyfriend were making out and he was feeling me up and stuff, and we were obiously really close together. So while thats happening, I feel him start to vibrate. From his torso down I swear he was shaking or vibrating. My friend says he was getting off lol but wouldnt I have felt it since I was so close to him? it just seems kinda werid. I'll rate for decent advice (link)
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Sometimes when we sit in certain positions, it makes us shake. It sounds very odd but if you stay sat down in your seat, raise your heel off the floor and very slowly place your heel back down, when you get to a certain place, it will usually starts shaking quite vigorously.
This is the same for most parts of the body. It's quite possible that he was just a little strained in whatever position he was in at the time.
From what you have described, I wouldn't have thought it was him 'getting off', as you put it. You were absoloutely right in saying that you would have felt it.
Either that, or maybe he had his mobile phone in his pocket!
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ok well heres the thing, i like this one guy {lawrence} alot alot, and sometimes i even think more then just alot alot. so i thought i knew him pretty well. then one day his cousin and him were in a fight and his cousin told me that he was lieing to me about his virginity, and how he never lost it, he was just trying to impress me. and stuff like that. and i told his cousin that i didnt really care if he was a virgin or no, what bothers me is that he lied and stuff. so after that i just went home, and i didnt really care like i honestly didnt. so usually lawrence calls me like everyday just to talk or w/e or someitmes i call him. well for the past few days he hasnt called once. and then his cousin told me that he had told him that he told me about that whole lieing thing. and so now lawrence knew that he told me, so i was like okay maybe he thinks im mad at him. because lawrence knows that i cant stand people who lie.and so now he hasnt called or anything. and i just like want to call him. because i know if like i was in that situation i would have wanted him to call me to tell me he wasnt mad at me and stuff. but at the same time, i dont know...i just dont know why every part of me is telling myslef not to call him. hmm but yea help please =/ (link)
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If you think there may be a problem and you think he has lied to you then the best thing you can do is speak to him about it. Tell him first of all what his cousin told you and then ask him if it's true.
From there, you need to decide what you want. If you think you really like him, then by all means, go on at least one date with him and see what you think after that. However, if you don't think he can be trusted after this then you may be better off staying away.
One important thing to remember is that guys DO lie when they like a girl. It's very possible that he thought you wouldn't be interested in him unless you thought he was a virgin. But if you want to know for sure why he lied, you need to ask him and ask him to be honest about why.
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V-day is coming up. I want to do somethign special for my boyfriend. I want to cook him something to show him that I care and its coming from my heart. And that i also can cook a good meal ;).. I'd do the whole candle light thing. Does that sound good?
Also do You have any recipes?
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That sounds like a truly lovely idea.
Really, what you make will depend on what sort of stuff he eats. If you're concerned that you won't look like a good cook then spaghetti is always a fantastic tasting no brainer. Boil water, stick in the spaghetti with some olive oil, stir occasionaly to make sure it doesn't stick together and then cook some pasta sauce (or bolognese sauce if you wanted to do that). Drain the water from the spaghetti, rinse with water to get rid of the starch, mix with the sauce and serve!
The great thing about spaghetti is that because it takes such a short time to cook, you can make a fantastic dessert to go with it. Normally something which is very chocolatey will go down a treat to follow spaghetti. I had a look for a couple of Chocolate Mousse Recipes and this seemed like a good one...
http://www.bbc.co.uk/food/recipes/database/chocolatemousse_70226.shtml
If you wanted a more simple one, this one is better:
http://www.cdkitchen.com/recipes/recs/39/60_Second_Chocolate_Mousse60307.shtml
I hope that helps but just remember, the most important thing to him for Valentine's Day should be spending it with you, regardless of the food that is or is not served. Good luck!
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How can you tell if a guy really loves you or is just interested in sex? I rate high! (link)
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Generally, a guy who is genuinely interested in you will never rush you into bed. Because he wants to get to know you first, he wants to spend time talking to you, hanging out with you an just being with you before moving onto that step.
If a guy is just interested in sex, most of the talk will be sex-related, his eyes will quite often wonder you up and down when he looks at you and any compliments you receive will be along the lines of how sexy you look, how great your boobs look in that top, how good he reckons you are in the sack etc.
If there is any doubt that a guy wants to just get you in the sack, rather than get to know you and you're in the market for a long term relationship, just tell him that you're not wanting a sexual relationship right now. If he just wants sex, he'll be out that door faster than you can say "get me out of the chastity belt!"
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This might be kind of long, so bear with me please.(This is a real question..so don`t be rude)
About a year ago, my 23 year old cousin died.This guy was unbelivable. He was seriously like my second brother & he was soo funny. Anyways, I went to the funeral and saw all my family members there and you know, I started crying. Months went by & it seemed like I got over it. And I really did.
I have this picture of him(not even big at all) on my wall and I looked at it last night and just started crying. I mean, I stayed up all night crying for my cousin because I just barely realized that I'm not over my cousin's death. And the weird part is that I just started crying after I THOUGHT i was over his death. Totally weird I know. I couldn`t even go to school because I didn`t get any sleep.
I don`t really know what my question is, but I guess I`m asking how I can actually get over his death & cope with the fact that he isn`t coming back. I realize that he isn`t coming back, and I think that`s what makes me soo sad in the first place.Now I feel all depressed. Please help me. (link)
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Oh goodness, that's so terrible. I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It sounds as though you really loved your cousin a lot.
You know, when someone dies suddenly, it can be a huge shock to the system and it can take a very long time for anyone to get over that sort of grief. My theory is that you never really get over these things but more come to terms with them. It reaches a stage where you just have to accept that they are not coming back.
In reality, a year is still not that long ago and it's perfectly reasonable that you should still be grieving for him. There's no set time scale for how long it should take before you stop grieving and you will have to accept that it will ALWAYS be painful when you remember him. That being said, I PROMISE you will come to terms with it. However hard it may sound, it just takes time.
What I would suggest is that you seek bereavement counselling. I know that nobody really likes to seek the help of therapy but it has proven to help a LOT of people deal with their losses and it sounds as though you need to speak to someone.
In the meantime, try to remember what a wonderful person he was while he was alive and invisage him being happy and peaceful wherever he may be now.
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