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Rejected.
I really really liked this guy; however he told me that he didn't see me as the girlfriend type for him cause were to close of friends. But I can't keep my mind off of him, everything I think about him. What should I do? I seriously still like him but he doesn't feel the same!
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If he doesn't feel the same way about you then just move on. What's the point of liking someone who doesn't like you back? Just let it be. If you are really close friends with him then keep it that way. Sometimes it comes in handy to have a really close guy friend. You can't force him to like you. Being upset about a guy not liking you is understandable but don't let it consume you. Maybe you need to distance yourself from him for a little while to allow yourself time to heal. You'll find the right guy for you someday, just wait.
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If he doesn't want to date you then you should just leave it alone. Trying to force a relationship on him will just tarnish your friendship alltoghether, You tarnished your friendship enough just by telling him you like him.
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I have been there and done that. My friends kept telling me to just get over him. He broke my heart when he told me he didn't like me as more than a friend, or he "didn't want to ruin the friendship". It took me 2 years to realize I wasn't going to be more than friends with him. Flirt and have fun. It's okay to still like him, but be willing to move on if someone else with potential is interested and wants to be with you. If he is a good friend to you, be okay with just a friendship. At least he wants that. There are a lot more people that will be just as amazing as he is, if not more. You just have to be patient. You'll know when you have truly fallen in love too. That's when things get complicated. It will go back and fourth where you think you're over him, then you realize your not. Just know you'll be okay. :-D Good luck and I hope I helped!
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Unfortunately, if he doesn't feel the same then there's really nothing you can do to change that. I know it hurts but if you try to change his mind, chances are you'll only push him further away.
Which leaves you with the rather more difficult option of getting over him. It is a hard thing to get over anybody you really like but when it's a friend it's harder to do because it means you'll see him on a regular basis and eventually you'll probably have to accept that he will get himself a girlfriend.
I have to admit that I really only have one answer to this situation, other than the old "it'll get easier with time" charm. You need to allow yourself a time to feel miserable about him. Get yourself a nice big tub of ice cream (or whatever your comfort food may be) and wallow for two days. Allow yourself to think about him constantly, cry, scream, hit things if you like (as long as they can't hit back or press charges) and when you're done, that's it. You get up, do whatever you need to to make yourself feel like you look great and go out with a big smile on your face. People are naturally attracted to smilers and it will help you to move on if you are surrounded by friends right now.
You'll be okay. There is someone out there for every girl. You just have to find him.
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I think that even though you like him you need to back off, especially if you want to keep your friendship with him in tact
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