I love to help people, many of my friends come to me for advice. I have had my share of relationship problems and friendship problems and can offer insight into other peoples.
A little about me... I'm 16 and currently in high school. My favorite color is green and I listen to anything rock..
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Age: 16
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sorry if this is long...
okay i'm 14 and i like this boy alot. i went out with him before and we had a really good relationship. but then we broke up because my parents didnt like him. he'd gotten in trouble for stuff and they didnt like the idea of that. since they didn't approve i was never really allowed me to see him except for school. so i broke up with him but i still liked him and i felt really bad about it and i wanted him back. but my best friend told me it was for the best and that i would get over him. she said not to go back out with him and that we would end of breaking up agian for the same reasons. its been almost 4 months since him and i broke up. he's changed since then. he says he really cares about me, knows how to make me laugh, and i always end up thinking about him. i still like him alot and really want to go back out with him. but i know my parents wont approve of it. i dont know how to explain to them that i really like him and that he's different now.
ahh help!
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You need to sit down and have a talk with your parents. First of, you have to tell them that you have strong feelings for this boy and they haven't gone away since you broke up with him. Then you and your parents have to reach an ultimatum, or agreement. Maybe they would approve more if they got to know him better, of course the guy would have to be willing to agree to this too. Ask your parents if you can invite him over for dinner, that way your parents and him can get acquainted. Maybe all four of you could sit in the living room and watch a movie.What's the harm in that? You can work on building the trust between you, your parents, and your ex from there.
Everybody deserves a second chance, and theres no reason why your parents shouldn't be willing to give him one.
Good luck with everything!
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Can you please tell me how old you were when you went on your first date, and the first time you made out?? (link)
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14 for both and still with that guy :)
(im 16 now)
But don't use what other users say to judge yourself. Everybody is different. I have friends who havent had a boyfriend or even kissed yet. So be patient.
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I like this guy, Nick F. I think hes realy hot and I think he like me. But theres a problem, he cheats on all of his girlfreinds. Hes realy nice to me and I realy like him. But my freind wentout with him and she says that he abused her. But she has been nown to lie about her boyfreinds. So I dont know what to do. Please help.
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Re-read what you just wrote. This guy could potentionally abuse you and cheat on you. You don't need that, no matter how much you like him or how much you think he likes you. He is not worth it. You could find a much better guy than him without putting yourself through the pain of this Nick guy.
Dont do it.
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this seemed like the best column to me, sry if it's not in the right place.
i have serious trouble sleeping. for example, right now it's midnight and i am dead tired. so far i've layed down to go to sleep about 4 or 5 times. every time i do, within 15 to 30 minutes i start to feel very restless. i toss and turn, i try different positions, i sit up and lay back down, and various other things. what should i do? should i go so far as to see a doctor?
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-Taking a warm shower or bath before bed may help to relax you enough to fall asleep.
- Another thing to try would be listening to music softly. My dad did it growing up and now he listens to radio shows. If you close your eyes, lay in bed, and focus on listening, it will probably aid in helping you fall asleep. Sometimes i put on soft classical music.
-Drinking warm milk or tea
- Laying in bed with your eyes closed, breathing in deep and with each breath you let you relax your body from top to bottom letting go all muscle tension; Become like a rag doll. I did this once and I felt like I was floating and had no desire to move whatsoever.
- Reading or writing in a diary may be a good idea or it may not, since both those activities require light and that may make it harder to fall asleep.
If the problem persists, just go and see a doctor. it may be stress related, or something else.
Good luck!
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heyy.
im having trouble with photoshop.
what i wanna know is if anyone can help me make a collage of pics on it.
if you know what i mean can you please explain to me how to do it, or help me.?
thanks in advance.
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I have JASC but all those programs have a lot of similarities. I'm assuming you have a basic knowledge of the program..
A simple way to do this would be to resize the photos you plan to use. They will need to be kind of small. Once you have the photos you need to make a large, blank canvas to work with.
Then copy paste all the individual photos itno different layers so you can arrange them how you would like. When you're done crop the collage so there is no empty spaces.
I hope i didnt make it too confusing :\ good luck!
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Ok i'm 15/f and i haven't done anything with a guy exept kiss and its like a peck not like making out or anything. i feel like a prude but i think i would be ready to have sex if the opportunity came up. I have gone to a catholic private school all my life and next year will be my first year at a public school. My question is will things be different will ibe pressured into things more so than at my old school? (link)
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You're just 15, having sex as young as you could be a mistake that you'll regret for the rest of your life. There's always the chance of pregnancy, even if you use a condom. And a chance of contracting an STD. NOt to mention the emotional end of it. Chances are the guy you did it with will not stay with you until marriage. Can you imagine how you'd feel if the guy you completely gave yourself to left you?
You may be pressured into smoking, drugs, sex, and other stuff but don't let yourself cave in. Think of the consequences. You never know, so just be ready.
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I just started my marching band training today, and my calfs get very soar really easily. Does anyone know any exercises I can use to strenthen my calfs? (link)
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I know how you feel, my freshman year in marching band I thought I was going to die from the pain.
An exercise that we use is to put your feet together, and lean a little forward. Slowly lift your heels off the ground using four counts and hold it for a sec, then lower your heels using the same tension you used to lift them with four counts. Make sure you use all four counts. Repeat that a couple of times and then use 2 counts to go up and down. After 2, use one count. After 2 counts, go on the balls of your feet and just stay there. Trust me, you'll build muscles.
You won't feel anything right away, but after doing it for a little bit you'll most definitely begin to feel it.
MAKE SURE YOU STRETCH BEFORE ATTEMPTING ANY EXERCISE!
Have a fun year in marching band :)
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okay so theres this guy who i really like i mean for the first time im actually in love. i liked him since the begining of the year and we barely EVER talked but i knew he liked me a little so yeah. and about 2 weeks ago he asked me out over myspace and we've only went out for about 7 days then he dumped me to be with another chick. at first when he dumped me i didnt have any feelings but know i feel like dying so bad i mean i really love him ALOT. cuz everytime i talk to him i feel so diferent and its such a great feeling and now being dumped by the guy i really love just hurts so bad. half of me hates himand half of me loves him like crazy. how can i get ovr someone who i love alot and if you can try to give me a great advise ill rate you very high! thx
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Ah, the pain of falling in love. I know it well. I'm sorry something so crappy had to happen. Being dumped makes you feel pretty low, but it will get better. Stay away from him, you can't get over someone if you're constantly talking to them or hanging out.
It also doesn't help if you're sitting around feeling heartbroken and depressed. Go out and spend time with you're friends. When you're alone with nothing to do, you tend to thing about what happened but if you're out having fun with your friends..it gets your mind off of it. Trust me.
You'll be as good as new in no time. :)
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i heard you can take college classes online..is this easier than taking college classes on campus? also, they say that you take exams and tests online too. what stops you from cheating on them, then? thanks! (link)
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Whether it's easy or not depends completely on you.
You should be able to take a class online if:
- You are very knowledgable, familar, and comfortable with that subject
- You can learn and understand things on your own
- You work well by yourself
- You pace yourself and get things done on time
- Responsible and organized
However, it's always easier to actually be in class and here the lectures, be able to ask your professor questions, and get their notes.
About the tests... I'm not sure if this is how they do it where you are or even in college but the tests are generally harder than what they would be in a class AND each question is timed.
For example, here if you take ytour permit test online each question is 60 seconds and if you dont answer within that time limit too bad for you.
I hope I heped a little!
I'm sure there is someone you can contact at that campus for more information on virtual education.
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i have a boyfriend, lets call him [ X ] and my bestfriend is telling me she really likes this other guy, lets call him [ A ]. but everytime i'm hanging out with my bf X and my bestfriend, she's always flirting with him. and i think she might like him, but i dunno how to tell her to just stop w/o hurting her feelings.
anyone have any advice for a nice way to say "stop flirting with my bf!"
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Don't embarrass her by confronting her in front of everyone. You never know, she might be unconciously flirting with him and in reality, have no feelings for him whatsoever. However, her behaviour is making you uncomfortable, so you need to take her aside and explain to her how the way she's acting is making her feel.
i.e "Ashley, I've been kind of noticing that when X, you, and I all hang out together you start to flrit with him. To be honest with you, it makes me really uncomfortable."
She's your best friend, she should understand.
As someone else already said, telling your feelings to your boyfriend could only help. Chances are he either feels the same way as you, or doesnt even notice, or care, that shes doing this.
Just remember, your boyfriend chose YOU, not your bestfriend :)
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we're going to cedar point on monday and i really really really WANT to go on a rollcercoaster but i'm SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Scared!! all my friends are trying to help me but i dont know if i can do it. Last time, i almost broke out in hives and fainted cuz i was so scraed. what is some advice from former scared-people or anybody? Know anything i can repewat to amkeme more confident.. I've been tryign to go on one all my life. HELP (link)
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As other people have said, if you are really nervous, start out on smaller rollar coasters and work your way up to the larger ones. Normally the things you are most scared of, are most worth it. At Busch Gardens I was scared to death of Sheikra and almost didn't go on it, but I did and I don't regret it at all. In fact, it wasn't even the worst rollar coaster I've ever been on.
you might go on and have the best experience of your life or you might go on and have the worst. You don't know until you try.
(I suggest you dont go on a wooden rollar coaster though, they tend to give you whiplash)
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When blocking someone on myspace, what actually happens? Will the user be sent a message saying so? Im not too sure on what it means. Would it mean that if they went to anothers myspace, and you were within the comments, they wouldnt be able to see you or something? Please explain : ] (link)
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"Blocked users can still view your profile, but they cannot send you a message or communicate with you. There is no way to prevent someone from seeing your profile."
from the help section at myspace.
If you set your profile to under 16 years old, I believe, then anyone older than that can't see you.
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Well my bestfriend moved away from me a long time ago and before she lefted she said we would always befriends and i cryed for 3 hours and she kept going to the same school as me and then i thought yea our friendship we never break in half. so then my bestfriend just stoped coming to school so my mom called her mom do ask what happened so her mom she yea Janice moved to another school. i was so sad i started to cry again . since she moved to another school she have not been calling me all the time sometimes she dont even call me its like she forgot all about me. i asked her a while ago we should go to the movies or hang out or something like that and she was like no i was kind of shocked. now when she calls me she talks about her friends and how they do all this stuff together and how she have all these friends and i feel sad cause i know now that we are not bestfriends any more like me use to and that makes me cry because we was always going to stay bestfriends until the end! now what do you think i really need yall help. (link)
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Stuff like this has happened to me before-- it has happened to everyone. It's hard to keep in contact with a person after they move. They meet new people, their interests change, soon you both have nothing in common. She's moved on and that's the best thing you can do right now. You'll miss her, but you'll have all the great memories together of the time when you were friends. I'm sure you will find the perfect person to be your best friend in no time.
Go and spend more time with your other friends and less time thinking about this.
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Please help me!
Ive been friends with this girl for about 2 years now and all she does is copy me! Im gettin so annoyed because everytime she copies something i do i always have to change just incase people will think im copying her or that we are trying to be twins or something! I really hate her now shes doin my head in, i want to smack her. I know you will probably say 'you should feel flattered' but i DONT! She takes everything away from me!!!
Ive told her i dont like it when she copies me but she still carrys on. PLEASE HELP ME!!!! thanx by the way im 13 and im female (link)
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Tell her exactly how you feel. If you don't tell her to stop, she never will. Explain to her how you are both different people and that you want to be an individual and that she should too. That she needs to develop her own style instead of taking yours. Mayybe you should try and find out exactly why she is doing this, and if it's just simply because she likes your taste, go shopping with her and help her pick out clothes that do not make you twins.
If talking to her directly doesnt work, you can try and talk to your parents about it and see what they have to say or just stop being her friend.
Good luck :)
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I told my "Best friend" that i might be gay only because she said if i told her that nothing would change and that we would still be friends nomatter what but after i told her everythin was cool after the frist 4 day but after she didnt even wanna talk to me i told her that after i tolder she had changed and she said that she hadnt i really want to still be friends with her but i kno we may never be the same now she just dosent say nuthin to me she dosent even sit next to me what can i do to make her just lissen to what i have to say about it???? (link)
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This might be a lot, or even too much, for your friend to handle. She may just need time to be by herself and think about what you said.
If she just never comes around, then just let it be. There is nothing you can do about it if she doesn't accept you the way you are, then you should forget the friendship. I know it's hard to lose a good friend, but you'll be able to make new friends that won't ignore you when they find out that you're gay.
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My boyfriend is the best person I have ever met he loves church, Me, and his family and I love is personalitiy but he is not all that cut i mean he's cute but not sexy the thing i hate most about him is his eyes and lips there big big but i dont want to break up with him because his mom just died and he need someone to talk to more than ever now cause he is goin through a lot what should I do signed CONFUSED. (link)
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If you look at him and see only the surface which you consider flaws you should reevaluate your whole relationship. This guy may not be boyfriend material for you but he definitely sounds like he can be a really good friend to you and you need to get over his looks. As a user already stated, you can't choose what you look like- you are born that way. If you can't get over that, you should tell him that you just want to be friends. You shouldnt be leading him on. You can be his friend and still be able to work out his problems with him.
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I absolutely love to read. Can anyone give me lots of great teen books (novels are great!) that you absolutely loved...Most likely if a lot of people have read it, ive read it too. so think of some good ones that not many have read. some examples of my faves are Looking For Alaska, and Hard Love. Just looking for some more options!Thanks a bunch.
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I LOVE to read and many of the books I wouldve told you have already been suggested such as Memoirs of a Geisha and Sisterhood of the Traveling pants...
Angels and Demons and The Da Vinci Code are by far my most favorite books of all time, once I started reading them I could not put it down. Angels and Demons is a thriller about a harvard symbologist and a scientist as they try and save Vatican City from being obliterated. Great twists. The Da Vinci code is about the same Harvard symbologist as he tris to unveil the secrets of the Holy Grail.
Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson is a superb book and movie so I would read that if I were you. It's about a girl who is an outcast at school. She has a secret that she cant find the right words to get out about an event that had happened in the summer.
Go Ask Alice- Anonymous is a teenage drug addicts diary and if you want to read about her spiral into the world of drugs and the devastating effects on her life then this is a great read. It's a real eyeopener.
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I was wondering if anybody knew how to make a free website online and if they could tell me how? (link)
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Hey!
In addition to what was mentioned below there are also websites like bravenet.com, angelfire.com, tripod.com, and expage.com (not recommended).
Geocities is my personal favorite though.
I would start out with that- they ahve a great page builder much like piczo.
Here are some websites you can go to to learn more about html ->
funky-chickens.com
htmlhelpcentral.com
webmonkey.com
lissaexplains.com
Have fun :)
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Does proactiv really work and get rid of all or most of your acne? A girl told me it was great for her and her friend, but other people say its junk. I just wanted to know cause I always have acne and i want to know if this stuff really works. (link)
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I think it really depends on your type of skin. It might work better for some people than it does for others. I used it but then after a while mu skin became used to it and it stopped being effective. you may or may not have the problem.
You should try going to a dermatologist and they would prescribe something for your specific skintype and every so often, if they see it stops working, the doctor will change your presciption.
Although more expensive, prescription drugs work wonders if you have a bad problem. Minor stuff will go away with over the counter medications.
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Ok. So I have this ipod, fairly new. I have never had trouble with itunes. Heres the problem. I downloaded (purchased) many many songs. 100 dollars worth. They are all on my ipod now (along with some other CDS I have)
My computer crashed, so I re-installed windows, where everything was gone. So today, I hook up my ipod, and I go and buy a few songs, and it wont put them on, without erasing EVERY current song. Is there away just to put new songs in the libray? (take the old songs off my ipod and put them in the library?)
Please help me!! I rate 5's! (link)
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I don't think you can..well there's no official way. You may be able to download a program or something to hack into it.
I searched the Help section of my iTunes
"Be sure to make regular backups of your music files (in your iTunes folder in the My Music folder) by copying them to an external hard disk or other media. If your hard disk becomes damaged or you lose any of the music you've purchased, you'll have to reimport all your songs and buy any purchased music and other items again to rebuild your library. You can also make an audio CD of the songs you purchase so you can listen to them in a consumer CD player."
and then there's
"Note: You cannot transfer songs or playlists from iPod to iTunes. "
Before giving up you should email apple support to see if there's anything they're willing to do.
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