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A breakup ... kinda
me and this guy friend of mine kinda had this fling going on recently, where we werent quite going out but we both liked eachother and knew it and acted like we went out it just wasnt offical. He lives like 30 minutes away, so thats why we werent official, we hadnt gotten a chance to go on a date yet. Anyways, last night i told him that i didnt want my firt real boyfriend to be someone i barely see. And i do like him and he told me he loved me, but when i told him he said he was thinking the same thing and thought it wasnt the right timing. So i guess what im asking is how can two people love eachother and just leave the relationship? And well he said everything will be fine and that we could always go out when the timing was better, but i cant help feeling really depressed and guilty and i dont know like im making a mistake. how am i sopposed act with him now? please help i rate high and im really confused!
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Well with the whole acting around him thing, act the same. He likes you because of who you are, not who you think you should be. If you act all different around him he might think u want him to ask you out or somehting like that so just be really good friends with him. Act just the way you do now and he shouldn't think anything different. Hope that helps
Love Meggs
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hun think about it 30 minutes is not that far at all.. Ive had relationships with guys 45 mins to an hour away.. Just ask your parents for rides down there And him the same..
Tell him what you think.. it may just set off a lightswitch in his mind or he may be wondering the same thing..
if you really like him enough, distance nore time should get in the way
good luck
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The way I always saw it was there where TRUE love was concerned, people never just give up.
To be honest, 30 minutes is nothing in the gran scheme of things when you imagine that there are married couples out there who even work in different countries, yet have a healthy, faithful, loving relationship.
I guess what I'm getting at is that if you really do love each other, you will both be prepared to cope with a half hour journey to see each other.
If it makes things easier, perhaps there is somewhere you can meet halfway? A leisure centre or something of a similar variety.
If you really don't think you can keep the relationship going, then the best thing to do will be to call it a day and move on. If this is what you choose, you'll have to accept that it might be difficult to be around each other, for a short while at least but there is no reason you cannot salvage a frienship from it, if you're both prepared to.
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That sounds alot like what I'm going through right now. Except I haven't talked to the guy since July. If you both feel like it isn't exactly the right timing, look and see if there is anyone else you like until the timing is better. Sure, you might feel depressed now, but you both agree that this relationship is really hard, and since you didn't really break-up, you still have a chance to go out with him.
Aww, I feel for you, and out of personal experience, I really hope it works out!!!!!!!
------>Maureen
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