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This might be a dumb question, but whenever my boyfriend gets mad about something, or when he is in a bad mood, he always takes it out on me, and he's just in a bad mood so it makes me in a bad mood, and i was just wondering what I should do about it, like is there something that i can do about it to not get so upset about it, or like tell him or anything? I just don't know what to do. The help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks. ♥
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I guess he hasnt learned interpersonal relationship skills...You have to tell him, when he is in an approachable mood and when he seems compliant enough, that it personally offends you that he takes things out on you. Not only that, but you find it ruins the mood you were currently in. Tell him that its understandable to be upset or angry, and validate him enough so as he strays far from jumping onto the defensive, but make your point known that you havent done anything wrong to deserve this, and its IN-validating your being. Be assertive, give altimatums like-- "if this doesnt cease, I wont stay to hear about it", or something that would be threatening to him, that you know he wouldnt want to lose. This way he will rethink his taking crap out on you. Also,make it known that you both are in this relationship for many reasons--one being talking to eachother so as to allow venting, as opposed to bottling up certain urks, and things that when placed in the subconcious come out worse later on. Most likley he feels close enough to you to treat you like a sibling, make it known you feel too...Good Luck,dude..
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Well if it is not violent then just listen to him and then later on when he cools down go and talk to him about it and very nicely explain why he shouldn't take it out on you or anyone else for that matter
Hope that helps
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First of all me and my boyfriend do this ALL the time. If he is in a bad mood he ALWAYS takes it out on me and usually I just try to ignore it or like not talk to him until he is in a better mood. If i were you I would just tell him that when he is in a bad mood you dont want to talk to him because you dont want to make things worse I'm sure he will understand. Hope I helped.
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Explain to him how you feel. Tell him that he should look to you for support and comforting, not for someone he can take down with him. It isn't fair for him to take out his anger on you. Maybe he hasn't realized what he's doing, and when you talk to him he'll change and stop bringing you down. But, if he continues taking out his anger on you, I think you should put a stop to the relationship. Because right now, it may just be he's putting you in a bad mood, but later on, his feelings may escalate, and he may end up physically abusing you.
I hope the advice helps, and I really hope that it works out!
----> Maureen
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Talk to him about it some, but eventually, you're going to have to be more understanding if the relationship is going to work. Some people are just like that. When they get grumpy, mad, or upset, they tend not to be quite so caring towards others. Don't expect him to change. That would be a big mistake. If you have a hard time dealing with it, it is probably a good idea to break up with him. I think that the relationship can work, so don't give up just yet! I hope I helped you and good luck.
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Whenever he's in a bad mood try to leave it alone for a couple minutes and if he doesn't stop taking it out on you, ask him if the problem has anything to do with you. if the answer is:
Yes: Ask him what his problem is and try to work it out.
No: Ask him why it should be taken out on you because it always puts you in a bad mood too. Just tell him the same thing you put on advicenators and he should understand
Hope I helped!
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I think you should try talkin to him about how him taking his anger out on you hurts you and try to find another way to have him vent his anger. Also if he is no just yelling i don't know if i would stay with him.
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Youi should break up with him!! You are to good for him! He might eventually turn abusive. Get yourslef out before it is to late! I bet there are a lot of great guys out there that would treat you right.
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If i was you i would talk to him about it and let him realize that whenever he gets mad he takes it out on you and you dont like it at all. He will understand.If you dont talk to him about it then he will just keep getting you in a mad mood.Alright,well i hoped that helped.
<3 Brittany
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I think it is best if you talk to him about this.
Tell him that it is wrong of him to take it out on you especially when you are his girlfriend. He should be able to talk to you about what ever is going on not bring you down with him.
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