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Q: This might be a dumb question, but whenever my boyfriend gets mad about something, or when he is in a bad mood, he always takes it out on me, and he's just in a bad mood so it makes me in a bad mood, and i was just wondering what I should do about it, like is there something that i can do about it to not get so upset about it, or like tell him or anything? I just don't know what to do. The help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks. ♥
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First of all me and my boyfriend do this ALL the time. If he is in a bad mood he ALWAYS takes it out on me and usually I just try to ignore it or like not talk to him until he is in a better mood. If i were you I would just tell him that when he is in a bad mood you dont want to talk to him because you dont want to make things worse I'm sure he will understand. Hope I helped.
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Q: Dear GoodAdvice24,
Ive been looking at you are column and you give great advice and i thought u might be able to anwser this one.. im 13/f and i weigh 170lbs yes i know im fat... but ive been losing a lot of weight.. but all my friends are tinylike there only like 100 pounds at the most and i feel so selfconcence(SP) around them and like i feel like they talk about my weight when im not around(but i know they dont) i just feel like really fat... is there anyway that i cant just be not selfconcense around them and i can just be me without feeling fat.... im already on a really good diet so you dont have to tell me to get on a diet.. i need mental help on this 1 ...O ya and since im 'bigger' guys dont like 'like' me they think im just a friend... how do i change their perspective without looking like a slut??. :'(
Thanks so much,
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Ok well first of all be yourself and dont worry about your weight. If they are your real friends they wont care how much you weigh or what you look like. And eventually you will have someone special come into your life but things just take time. Guys arent everything trust me but I know how you feel. Just try to make yourself look good and make yourself feel good...(that doesnt mean looking like a slut. Hope I helped.
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Q: Even tho u asked me .... i lied it is me now you know. I d K what to do n e more but just tlk to me later okay?
Love ya
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Why did you lie to me? It would of just been easier to talk to me about it. I will call you whenever I can. Because I dont know what to do either. All I'm going to tell you is...follow your heart I guess. Love ya to.
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I knew it.....I need to talk to you about this later. GoodAdvice24
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Q: ok so i have this friend and she is reallly close to me. we always tlk on the fone and hang out if we can and things that best friends do. She is tkane and i belive that i am starting to fall in love with her. I think she kind of knows but i dont think she knows how much i love her. she thinks i just like her and thats not true. i love her and she is to good of a friend. what do i doe i mean she is taken and a good firned....do i tell her??? please help me this is very important to me
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Ok well I would keep being friends with her because usually friends turn into more then friends if you know what I mean. Just be there for her and dont let her down. I would definetly tell her how you feel because that can only help you. Hope I helped. Write back if you need anymore advice.
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Q: I've known this guy, Steve, for like 10 years. And we've grown on eachother. I tried commiting suicide a while back, and when I was better, I found out he tried to commite suicide right after I did, because he couldn't go on in life with out me. So after the incident, we decided to date. I don't know what happened but we didn't last long. Now that we're over, he went out with my best friend, but he still leads me on. Like we went to a party together and we ended up making out and I gave him a handjob. But whatever. I can't get over him and I'm still in love with him, and he claims that he's still in love with me too. And when we talk about it he always says that he's really sorry. But I truly don't think he is because if he was, he'd break up with her. I know she's my best friend, but they've only known each other for what, 2 months. Me and him have known eachother for 10 fricken years! That's a long ass time. So should I tell him he needs to stop leading me on, or should I just keep doing things with him... I'm sooo confused! PLEASE HELP ME!
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I would quit doing stuff with him because I mean that isn't fair to your friend you would be mad if she did that to you. I think you should tell him to quit leading you on or tell your friend that he is unfaithful and then maybe she will break up with him and that will give you another chance with him. Hope I helped.
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Q: So basicly sense I was little ive been vergbaly and physicly abused.. and I really cant take it anymore I have gotten to the point i feel so low about myself I could crawl in a corner and hide for ever. I have reported my parents and so have other people but nothing has happend. What should I do now?
Someday something will happen and no one will be able to fix it. Im scared
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Ok well this has happened to me to. I haven't been abused but my dad drinks and he hits my mom and constantly puts me down about everything. I think what you should do is talk to someone who you know will help you and not give up. Or maybe you should try running away to someones house that will hide you for a while so that something bad doesn't happen to you. But you should really try and get help. IM me if you need to talk because I can help. Hope I helped.
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Q: okay i really like this guy like Alot and we were talking durin the summer but kinda stopped cause we go to differnt schools and all so it wasnt working and now i still have feelings for him and all but we agreed to atleast wait till we can drive which is in a month or so but how will i know if he still likes me or wants to still make it work? i dont want to come out and be like do you still like me cause im not that forward with people but what are some ways i could tell him with out making it obvious
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Just hint around and ask him stuff like so who are you liking these days and things like that. And if that doesn't work then your going to have to be forward with him. I'm sure if he really liked you hes not going to loose his feelings for you in a month. Hope I helped.
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Q: well first i wanna apoligize for this being so long!!!!
i sometimes feel depressed and like the world doesnt want me not all the time but most of the time!!!i have fun with my family sometimes but we argue all the time! then sometimes find myself faking injures so i can get medication but when my mom tells me to go get it from the cabinet i take more than im supposed to so it can make me go to sleep so i can hear anymore arguing! Then i find myself ctting constantly over stupid things! Then ill write sucide poems i keep them all in a box and later on when im fine i read them it makes me more depressed. I started smoking b/c i heard somewhere that it calms you down. sometimes i get frunk just so i cant remember what happened last night. i fell like im the worst person ever and i really want to die! does anybody have any advice? plz help
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Ok first of all overdosing on medication is NOT good for you. You can die from stuff like that and cutting yourself is not going to help. I mean sure at first it will make you feel better but when you look back on it its really not going to help. Smoking is not good for you and it doesn't help you calm down. What I would suggest is writing down your feelings and then tearing it up. Also find someone you can really really trust and talk to them about your problems and crying always helps. Talking always helps me but you have to find that one special person who you can talk to. Hurting yourself isnt going to help but talking or doing something you enjoy such as reading or listening to music will. Hope I helped.
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Q: hey im 13/m and theres this guy that plays on my basketball team and he keeps lookin at me wierd now wat do i do beat the shit out of him or just let him do
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Ummm....well I wouldn't beat him up but like I guess you should talk to him and ask him why he keeps looking at you weird because just because he looks at you weird doesn't mean he is gay. But violence is not the answer. Hope I helped.
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Q: Ok GoodAdvice24 This is an additional question to my one before...Do you think I should still be friends with her and call her or should I just give her some space?? Please Help Me!! 13/f
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I think you should give her some space but still be friends with her and be there for her. Don't always question that she wants you to be there for her because then she will become annoyed and not want you around. Hope I helped.
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Q: Ok I have this BEST FRIEND!! We had some problems last year but this year we are really good friends!! And Well like it seems like no matter what I do for her...like stay up late on the phone with her or help her out with stuff or jsut be there to talk to her it seems like she doesnt care or that it just doesnt matter im jsut another friend but see in my eyes it seems like I do so much for her but she just doesnt care...Is she really my friend or is she just using me...Im so confused!!
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Well first of all if she was using you she wouldnt even waste her time talking to you on the phone she would use you for something better. I dont think she is using you. And maybe it could be because of the problems you had last year that it isnt ALL good between you but in time things will get better. Hope I helped.
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Q: Hello. I am a 14/m. A few months ago I made a REALLY bad choice and it got me arrested. :-\ Now everyone of my friends parents hate me.... except for two. Those are the two who have met me. The ones who have met me like me. All the others hate me for no reason at all. Half of them have never even seen me and they hate me. They won't even give me a chance. I regret what I did. But i think I deserve a chance. It just pisses me off so much. Is there anything I can do? Please help me GoodAdvice24. P.S. I heard you are hott ;-)
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Well you can change what people think about you. Try making a good impression on them. And trust me not EVERYONE hates you. But dont do anymore stupid stuff to make the parents hate you. Oh yeah and I'm super hott. Hope I helped.
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Q: Hi, I'm 13/f. I have a friend who cheated on his girlfriend with me. His girlfriend is really cool and I want to be friends with her and I don't want her to hate me anymore. I really regret what I did. Please help.
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Well, personally if he cheated on her with you it would take time for that person to trust you again. I mean that really hurts someone and I dont know it will just take time. In time she will forgive you and you will be friends again but It will take a while. But dont sweat it you'll be trusted again in time. Hope I helped.
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Q: So here's the facts thus far:
1. 2 weeks ago, I meet a girl who I had known just as a passing acquaitence, and I became closer friends.
2. She reveals to me that she really likes me, however, she has a boyfriend, but that boyfriend has been in the Phillipines for the last 1.5 months.
3. This boyfriend and she had been going out since about early August, but he "moved" in right before his trip b/c his apt lease was over and didn't want to resign until he got back.
4. He got back on Tuesday morning. She's called me a couple of times since then about how she's really uncomfortable about him being there, but he's still not getting the idea that she wants him to move and that she doesn't feel the same way as she did before he left for the trip.
5. However, since Tuesday morning they've had romantic "relations"- and she feels about that. (yes, denial i know).
So what do I do? Do I try to forget this girl or not? Is she serious about leaving him? My mind and heart is troubled. What do you think I should do about this situation?
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I think that you should just kind of back off a little bit until she breaks up with him because honestly you dont want to have to live with the guilt of breaking up a good relationship. I mean I think you should be there for her through this tough time and that will make her like you more but dont pressure her into breaking up with him. Hope I helped.
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Q: okay so there's this girl who hates me and she has no reason to hate me...but she does. i mean i have always hated her but didnt say it to her face because im such a good friend! she told me that i was like her best friend then the next day she totally ditched me for this ugly girl..i mean shewas pretty in her own ways..but idk my friends talk about me all the time idk if their jealous or just hate me???? please HELP WHAT DO I DO TO GET THEM TO STOP TALKING ABOUT ME???
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Ok well first of all I admire you for being a good friend to this person even if you really do hate them. But if your friends are talking about you then they obviously arent your true friends. I think what you should do is talk to them and ask them why they are talking about you and if that doesn't work I would suggest finding better friends. Hope I helped.
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Q: hey ok well here's the deal...my mom will let me go out with friends no problem. but whenever i m going w/ just a guy FRIEND she like makes sure a million times we are JUST FRIENDS. and we are. so no problem right?? but heres the Problem; she'll let me have boyfriends but she won't let me go out anywhere with them! whats the point of having a b/f if i can't go anywhere with them? how can i get her to lighten up and let me go out with a guy who is a little more than a friend????????? HELP!!! -and please dont say sneak around her i'd feel really guilty!-
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My parents DONT let me date at all and they dont let me talk to guys either. I have to constantly sneak around and for you that would be a problem. So I would say that the best thing you can do is have a talk with your mom and tell her that you can be trusted and that she should trust you to go places with your boyfriend. If that doesnt work then try compromizing with her. Hope I helped.
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Q: ok. i was going out w/ this guy for about 2 months. we realy liked each other, and everything, but then i realized that i still liked this other guy, and id nevr gotten over. so i dumped him, cuz i thought it wouldnt b fair to go out w/ him wen i liked another guy. well, i immediately regretted it, and i still like him, but he wont talk to me and he says he really hates me. i apologized a million times and tried to talk him into going back out w/ me. he said he still liked me, but he cant trust me, bcuz i dumped him for another guy, and he doesn't want his heart broken again. so wat should i do? i rly rly like him, and i wanna go back out w/ him, but he just dosnt trust me.
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OK this has happened to me a million times. In time he will trust you again you just have to give him time. You have to prove to him that you can be trusted and show him that you really care. He might not go back out with you but at least he will trust you again and it's better then nothing. Hope I helped.
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Q: ok theres this guy we'll call him matt. ok so heres the thing. like when i first met him he pretty much was my world. like i loved him sooo much. we had like almost everything in common. im 15/f and he's 18/m though. ok so he asked me out and i said yes. ok well like 3 days into the relatshionship i felt wierd around him. i dont know if it was the age difference or what..it was just wierd. like he started talking about peverted things which he never use to talk about. and kinda got like really personal. and i dont know i felt uncomfortable about the whole thing. and it was sad cause i just start going out with him. when i was trying to think of a way to break up with him. so i did. then its really weird bc theres this other guy i liked lets call him kyle well he was 15 like me. and i dont know. but he talked about peverted things and i was ok with it. i talked it back and stuff. and i dont know but i didnt feel as uncomfortable with him and talking about it. and now with matt, he is talking to me again and im trying soo hard to like be comfortable with him and all the things he says. but i just dont seem like i can. so i really dont know what my question is. but i just need some advice about the whole situation.anything helps. definate 5's for any advice.
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I think that you feel weird around Matt because he is older then you. I have been in this position before to I once dated a guy three years older then me and he did that same thing but It didn't make me feel uncomfortable. People are different and It must be different for you. Maybe you should try talking to him about it and see what happens. Maybe you are better off with someone your own age. And its not your fault that you feel uncomfortable things just happen. Hope I helped.
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Q: Hello, I am 15 and me and my boyfriend have been on and off for about 8 months. And now we have broken up again. I love him with all my heart, and I know he loves me to, he just gets really confused with what he wants. He says he just wants to be alone, but then a couple of days later, he realizes that isn't what he wants. and now I know he is just going to do this again. What should I do?
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Ok i go through this ALL the time. I mean you really love him but some times you need a break. I mean breaks aren't always a bad thing it helps you to sort stuff out. So when you break up dont worry about it because things will be ok again. But if you dont want to keep doing this then talk to him. Or else break up for good and find someone else. Hope I helped
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I like to give advice and most of the time I really know what I'm talking about so ask me a question.
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Website: Gender: Female AIM: Member Since: December 28, 2005 Answers: 21 Last Update: February 5, 2006 Visitors: 3262
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