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hey ok well here's the deal...my mom will let me go out with friends no problem. but whenever i m going w/ just a guy FRIEND she like makes sure a million times we are JUST FRIENDS. and we are. so no problem right?? but heres the Problem; she'll let me have boyfriends but she won't let me go out anywhere with them! whats the point of having a b/f if i can't go anywhere with them? how can i get her to lighten up and let me go out with a guy who is a little more than a friend????????? HELP!!! -and please dont say sneak around her i'd feel really guilty!-
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tell her that your are a mature young woman and she should be able to trust you.
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of course i would never sneak. I am going to tell you to talk to her i mean tell her she really needs to lighten up. But dont be mean say it in a nice way
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what you need to do is sit down with your mom and tell her,she can trust you.lots of parents are very overprotected.all you need to do is make her trust you.
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My parents DONT let me date at all and they dont let me talk to guys either. I have to constantly sneak around and for you that would be a problem. So I would say that the best thing you can do is have a talk with your mom and tell her that you can be trusted and that she should trust you to go places with your boyfriend. If that doesnt work then try compromizing with her. Hope I helped.
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I agree with a lot of the other advice. If you invite the guy over and let her get to know him, after a while she might ease up on you and let you go out places. Also, the group thing is a really good idea. If you go out with a big group of friends that your boyfriend happens to be in, you get to spend time with him without sneaking around. Whatever you do, don't start huge fights about it. If you go about this all maturely and try to understand her side and make it known you're trying to understand, she'll be more willing to listen to what you have to say. She's just an overprotective mother because she loves you and she's afraid of letting go and letting you be alone with someone who she doesn't trust to be respectable.
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Tell her you think you're old enough to start dating, see what she says. If she doesn't agree than just try to convince her as much as you can to start going out with your boyfriends..I'm sure she'll understand but I don't know your mom so sorry if she doesn't lol good luck!<333
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maybe you can start out going out with a group of friends plus him and then gradually make the group smaller over time. when you wanna go like one on one let her know and she should be cool! invite him over your house too so she can trust you more knowing that your at home<33
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A good way to ease your parents into the allowing-to-date mode is to invite your boyfriend over for dinner. This allows your parents to meet them, understand their character, and hopefully, start building some trust in him. Make sure you introduce him to both of your parents, and try to start some enriching conversations. This way your parents will get to know him and won't be so uptight about letting you go places with him.
Once you DO get to go somewhere, be trustworthy. If your parents tell you to be home a certain time, try to be home five minutes or so early. Always call them if they tell you to, and always abide by their set rules of dating. This way your parents will TRUST you.
I hope these couple of tips help you. Ask me if you want any more advice on this topic.
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It's very understandable why she won't let you just hang out with guys all alone. All parents worry about that so you're not the only one that has to put up with it. You have to show your mom that she could trust you. If she knew you she should know that you wouldn't do anything stupid with a guy and that you know your limits. If she says no still then alright, but as you grow more and more she will learn to give you some space and she will trust you more when it comes to situations with guys. Show maturity and responsibility. I think it would help if your mom actaully got to meet those guys and see how they are. I know you might go nuts over it but when you invite a guy friend over let your mom talk to him for a minuite or so. I don't think it's you that she doesn't trust, but it's the guys because you know how guys are and their hormones.
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