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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
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28/f.
Long story as short as I can make it:
I'm currently unemployed. My unemployment runs out about the end of May. I'm graduating with my Master's in Clinical Psychology at the end of July, but I won't be licensed until late August/early Septemberish. Between the end of May and the end of August, I have NO income. I live in an apartment, alone, and my family can't help.
Come late August/early Septemberish, I will begin my doctoral program, where we are not allowed to work past the first semester; I'll be able to take out loans for living expenses.
I am so terrified of the prospect of being flat broke and further in debt, I can't think straight to apply for scholarships, or to other/better schools, let alone any job prospects, even temporary ones. On top of that, I have three degrees, so I'm overqualified for everything.
I had one job prospect, but it fell through rather quickly, so now I'm discouraged as well as scared.
I have no idea what to do. Everyone around me has a fall-back, or could go home. I have no cushion. It's just me.
Any suggestions would be appreciated at this point. Thank you all.
The first thing you need to do is to stop and step back from everything. You are so close to everything you are being overwhelmed. If you take a moment to think about it your training will tell you that I'm right and that you do have options.
Let's start separating the problem(S)out. Applying to other better schools. Not knowing why you are at or settled for where your at it is hard to advise you on this. That being said there is no reason why you shouldn't apply to better schools especially if those programs can help you financially.
When my niece was working towards her Doctorate she worked as student teacher. The money she earned as a student teacher gave her some funds to help with incidentals that scholarships didn't cover. Also since she was not far from Reno she worked as a Cocktail Waitress part-time as they needed her. Other programs may allow you to work during the program. So applying to other schools may be an up thing to do.
The other option you have is to take the license you will receive in September and work full time while starting your Doctorate program on a part-time program. It will take longer but you can earn an income while you earn your Doctorate. My Brother in-law did this and now has a Doctorate in Nuclear Physics.
IF you chose to stay where you are an look for a part-time job then yes with three degrees you are overqualified for most jobs. The thing is you are what most employers are really looking for in both full and part-time help. The thing that disqualifies you is if you expect to be compensated or give them the feeling you expect that your three degrees mean a higher compensation.
You can nip this in the bud during an interview by explaining to the interviewer this is a part-time job for while you are in school and that you do not expect anything more than what they would offer the average applicant for this position.
In an interview you need to sell yourself to the interviewer. Use your training to sell yourself to the interviewer. Show them that by training you may look over qualified but that should not eliminate you from contention. Part of your over qualification for a part-time job is you age. most college students are 4 to 6 years younger than you so you need to explain this as well just so the interviewer does not get the wrong idea that once you become an asset you will leave for the first full-time job in your field comes along.
So my boyfriend keeps having dreams about me being pregnant and not like first months. It's the full 9 months im giving birth and we are taking the baby to meet family after that. He Says it's a baby girl. We have been active these past couple of months but i have gotten my monthly cycle every month.
But out of both of us he's always the one talking about becoming a family and having a baby, he always saying we should tell his mom I'm pregnant just to see what she will say
I'm just curious on what it means
You did not say how old the two of you are so answering you is a bit difficult. From what and how you have written I would guess you are both teenagers living at home.
To answer your question, it my opinion your boyfriends sub conscientious is running away with him. It is are sub conscientious where our dreams come from. Just what it means is questionable. It could mean absolutely nothing or it could mean he wants to have a baby with you. Given the latter interpretation you need to make sure that besides using condoms, hopefully you are, that you are also on birth control. I'm not saying your boyfriend would intentionally get you pregnant by putting a pinhole in a condom though the possibility is there.
Hopefully you are over 14, if so you have the right and medical confidentiality to ask any doctor to prescribe birth control medication for you. Being you are sexually active I whole hardily recommend you do so if you are not on birth control medication.
If you are not using condoms or birth control medication you are playing Russian Roulette with a fully loaded Pistol. If you are using the pullout method or the rhythm of birth control these two methods have the greatest pregnancy statistics. With the pull out method there is enough semen in in the pre cum to make you pregnant. The male has no control over the precum as it is emitted during intercourse even if he emits some during foreplay.
You can get birth control because of a law passed by congress called HIPPA. Within this law is a section covering young people 14 years of age and older. It gives them medical confidentiality over the reproductive systems. Meaning you can see any doctor for any reason be it a question or a problem that is related to your reproductive system without parental knowledge or permission. Congress did this not to permute sex in teenagers but to protect teenagers who may be to embarrassed to go to a parent with a problem relating to their reproductive system. Because of this a female may request birth control medication and the doctor must prescribe.
Anyone 14 years of age and older just has to say the words I invoke my rights under HIPPA and any exam which includes the examination of your reproduction system is protected by confidentiality. Mom can not be in the room with you and cannot know of the results of the exam or any treatment without your written consent to the doctor.
You may go to any doctor or clinic of your choice. This includes free clinics and they will provide the medication for you.
Hi. I'm 21 and i think I've been fingering too much. More like 2 to 3x a day. Is it normal? Will there be problem if I don't stop? Any suggestions on how to stop it? I've tried to do distract myself but I still end up doing it before sleeping. I've had sex before with a woman but we didn't touch our *yknow* just kissing and stuffs.
Masturbation is totally normal and a safe way to relieve pent up sexual energy. Fingering yourself two to three times a day is well within the realm of normal. Masturbation only becomes abnormal when it is all consuming. Meaning you would rather be home masturbating then doing anything else. Doing so two to three times a day is not nearly all consuming so relax and enjoy the relief you are receiving.
I was having sex with two different men when I got pregnant here are the details which one do you think is more likely to be the father?
My first day of my last period was feb 10
My cycle is 27days
I had sex with guy a on feb 20&21
I had sex with guy b on feb 25
I took a morning after pill with 3 days after guy a but since I waited so long it was less likely to work j think 70-80%
Guy b said he pulled out but that's up to speculation
Using ovulation calculators they are both possibilities....I think guy a has more possibility.
I understand this will raise unwanted comments towards me. I know I messed up I'm 25 and it was a drunken mishap and I'm aware I can pay to have a prenatal paternity test done.
Based on the fact that most women ovulate between the first and twenty-first day of their cycle the first guy is most likely the father. The fact that you took the plan B pill throws a curve into this theory as the pill is about 80& effective at the time you took it. Guy B is just a hair outside the theory window but is possible depending on just which day you ovulated.
The only recommendation is to have paternity test done with both men once the baby is born.
NOTE: The pullout of birth control is the least effective form. Even if he did pull out the precum he emits during intercourse has enough semen in it to impregnate a woman. Therefore even if he did pull out he is still a candidate for the father of the baby.
Men, would you prefer a virgin female or a non-virgin female and why?
This is somewhat of an awkward question as it depends on circumstances to a degree.
I would be hesitant to take a girls virginity who has been saving it for Mr. Right if I'm not interested her in that way. If I was interested in her in that way then I would be very appreciative and want to make it a beautiful experience for her. If I were interested in her in that manner it wouldn't matter if she was a virgin for in today's world it is rare for a man to find his future bride to be a virgin.
For even the bride that are virgins they expect their husband to be experienced in the matters of sex to make their first time a wonderful experience. While I admire those women that have the fortitude to wait until they marry. I also think it is a double standard for a man to think his bride should be a virgin if he is not and that standard went out the window a long time ago.
Short answer to your question is. To me it doesn't matter for I believe in today's society both male and female are entitled to a sex life before marriage. since your question was nonspecific as to when should the female be a virgin a chose to answer in this manner.
Hey so I saw that you have answered a lot of peoples questions and seemed very experienced. I am very new to this website and was just wondering if you had any tips on how to answer questions, or just any advice on it in general.
Thank you.
The one thing you cannot do is give out medical advice. We are not doctors and even if we were we cannot examine someone in this type of forum so do not recommend anything other than seeing a doctor. Even though you may have experienced something similar no to people experience pain alike and no two medical problems may be alike. So the fall back position is to encourage them to see a doctor.
The rest is usually fairly easy. You can generally find the answer they are looking for in the question. The problem is they are to close to the problem to see the answer. I find it is best to lead them in the direction of the answer and let them make the final decision especially in the area of love and marriage.
Chose the questions you are comfortable with and don't be afraid to disagree with another advisor. None of us have a corner on the right answers.
i was just wondering how can i stop blushing when im talking to my crush and how can i stop liking my crush
thanks
Blushing is something you have no control over. It is a physical response to something you feel about him or something he says or does when around you. If it is something you feel about him you can try seeing him differently. IF it is something he says or does you are just going to have to get use to whatever it is before you stop blushing.
My name is Rachel and I am 27 years old and I am at my wit's end . My mom has physically and verbally abused me all my life and I am sick and tired of it.
I was also molested by my dad when I was 3 and he died when I was 12 years old . My mom is disabled she has bipolar and has trouble walking now and has this problem for several years now but any way let's get to the point. This morning I went outside to smoke and my got mad because I woke her up going outside and she calls me an idiot and a funking bitch so I called her one back and then she picks up her cane and hits me in the head with it so igrab the cane so she can't hit me again so she knocks me down ont he floor and pulls my hair because I grabbed the cane . Then she punches me in the face so I Granger hands so she can't hit me or pull my hair and she calls me a funking bitch again. I can't go to the police because she is raising my niece and nephew and they would put them in foster care and I would never see them again and she doesn't abuse them just me. I can't move out because I don't have the finances to help what should I do?
You are 27 years old; your mother is not abusing you she is assaulting and battering you. It is a legal technicality but a major one. Mom may be physically disabled and suffer from bipolar disorder it does not excuse her from breaking the law. He bipolar disorder should have nothing to do with her physical disability. Though her physical disability could be exasperating her bipolar disorder.
I doubt you want to have your mother arrested but I believe you do need to get her some help. I believe her bipolar disorder is not under control. IS she being treated by a psychiatrist who is Board Certified in Psychiatry. IF not she needs to be as they are they ones best qualified to do so. IF she is then as her caregiver you have the right and the need to speak with her doctor. Tell the doctor how she acts around you and how she may act with your niece and nephew when your not around.
You may also need to call Child Protective Services (CPS). Even if mom is not abusing them, the environment they are living in watching mom assault and batter you is not healthy for them. Since you are capable of caring for your mother I would think you are capable of caring for them.
If caring for them is strictly a financial problem for you CPS will pay you just like they would pay a foster family to care for them. IF at all possible CPS would rather keep the children in the home they know and remove the problem instead. Removing your mother to someplace where she can get the care she needs and see to it she is compliant with her medications may be in the best interest of your mother as well as you and your niece and nephew.
My advice is: Take your mother to her doctor who should be a board certified psychiatrist, if not schedule a visit to one. If mom refuses to see a doctor tell her you are calling CPS. She will probably tell you that you are to old for CPS help and she would be right. Your niece and nephew are at an age the CPS will step in and I fully believe they need to if things are a toxic as you have written.
I believe you mom needs professional care. Care that of the type you can't offer. Child and family services can be a big help in seeing to it you mom gets the help she needs and that the children are safe and secure in your custody.
Is it possible for a second grader to get pregnent.
I sincerely doubt a girl in second grade could get pregnant. In second grade she would be 7 or 8 years old way to young for puberty to start which is when a girl comes of age and can get pregnant.
Hi, i'm a 24 yr old girl and i've never had intercourse. i've been a virgin all my life except dry humping and the occasional head my ex used to give me.
Now the problem is on one occasion, while humping, i felt the head of his D in me, it is average sized like a menstral cup and it came out immediately, i didn't bleed or have any pain.
When i checked my hymen with a mirror, it looks like a microperforate hymen with a small vagina opening, but when i spread my legs wider and stretch/widen my vagina lips i could see a tiny split by the upper side like a side ruptured hymen although with smooth edges..I'm just confused because I've never checked before until now, so I don't have what to compare it with. I'm a christian and we have strong rules about virginty.
I'm worried...the split is not evident until I spread widely and stretch my vag lips wider....also, I don't know how wide a virgin's vagina opening should stretch....sometimes when I check and spread widely and stretch, it would widen that I think it would fit my ring finger to the second knuckle, i've never tried to put a finger in though, and its not as wide as the cover of a 50cl table water bottle, I'm just freaking out of mind. My hymen looks slightly different from all the pictures online of a virgin hymen, except one when they said it could look like a side ruptured hymen.
Without a physical exam it would be impossible to say if your Hymen is still in tact or not. Though as Razhie has said an intact Hymen is not the only definition of virginity.
Today the definition of loss of virginity is the sexual penetration of your vagina by a penis. You wrote, "i felt the head of his D in me, it is average sized like a menstrual cup." By todays definition of virginity the moment his penis enter you, passed your labia you lost your virginity.
Please why is my virgina too tiny that no finger can penetrate into it?
First just remember what comes out of the vagina. The vagina will stretch and at the moment the muscles of the vagina may still be locked. It is also not uncommon for the vagina to be tight especially if your Hymen is still in tact.
The average Vagina Size Relaxed is Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches Diameter 1 Inch. Aroused Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches. I'm sure if you were able to measure your vagina it would meet or exceed these dimensions.
The problem you feel you have as I see it has more to do with age the with a problem with your vagina. If you are younger than 15 or 16 and have not had regular periods yet then I would say you have nothing to worry about. If you have had regular periods and between the ages of 11 and 14 I would still not worry as puberty determines when your vagina will be come stretchable.
If you are really concerned then you should see a Gynecologist(GYN). IF you are 14 or over a Federal Law called HIPPA provides for young people to have medical privacy over their reproductive systems. This means you can visit any doctor, clinic or hospital ER for any problem, question or concern about your reproductive system without parental approval or knowledge. Parents can never be told why you visited The visit will be covered under any health insurance you parents my have that covers you. a doctor.
The question you have presented definitely falls under the reproductive system. We are not doctors though we strive to give you great answers. For the question a GYN can give you the right answer.
So basically my sister went to a hair salon and 5 minutes into the hair styling the lady was criticizing my sisters hair and giving her hair tips on how to improve it. My sister didnt take offense to that cause it was just hair tips. then all of a sudden they lady asked my sister how many times a day she showers, she said once but twice if shes out the whole day, the lady said shes a women she needs to be showering twice a day and that starting now as homework she must shower twice a day. So a couple days later the lady calls my dad to speak to my sister my dad was kind of weirded out by it but gave the phone to my sister, the lady asked my sister if shes done the homework she has asked her to do my sister compeletly forgot what it was so the lady reminded her that the homework was to shower twice a day. My sister said she does when shes out the whole day and the women got mad and said no you must shower twice a day. So my mom found out and was pissed she said that, that women was using code to say my sister smelled bad, my dad was denying it saying no she was just giving my sister womanly advice and then my mom got even more mad and said how dare she tell my daughter to shower twice a day and then call her to make sure she is doing that, shes basically telling her she smells!!!. Anyways i was wondering if someone said that to you do you think its code for them telling you that you smell or do they just genuinely feel like giving advice, also if you are a mother or a father how would you feel if a hairstylist said this to your child and then called a couple days later to make sure your child was doing what they said?
The hairstylist was out of line telling your sister she had to shower twice a day and them calling to see if she was doing so. I'm sure her heart was in the right place still it was not her place to say something to your sister especially if their only relationship is as customer and stylist.
Now is telling your sister to shower twice a day a code word for telling her she has body odor. I would certainly take it to mean that. If anyone were to know if your sister has body odor it would be you and your family. It would be your place to tell her as a family member if it were the case.
Now there are some nationalities that even though they shower daily they do not use scented soaps or deodorants. They have natural body odors that some people find offensive but not people of their own kind. To them it is natural.
Like anything else there is good body odor and bad body odor. The bad washes away with any soap and water leaving the good behind though it can still be offensive.
The short answer to your question is: The stylist was wrong and yes I feel it was a code word. The rest of what I've written is just to justify these last few sentences.
Where I live, it's a very diverse middle school. I'm in seventh grade, some kids started dating. There's a lot of kids from all races (white, black, hispanic, arab, asian,jewish, etc) so it's common. A jewish boy dating a white girl, a black girl dating a white guy, a white girl dating a black guy, asian dating a hispanic, hispanic girl dating a white guy, etc. No one cares! And a lot of people are mixed. Black with white, black with indian, asian with white. It's so stupid though people in other places are like "eeeewwww n-word lovers!1!1!1" why?
Children are born without prejudice. The prejudice they develop come from their parents, their extended family and their social circles.
There is really no reason for any prejudices for under our skin we are all the same. If cut we all bleed the same color. IF you need a blood transfusion the hospitals do not match the blood to the color of your skin only to your blood type which can come from any person of any color or nationality.
Some of the prejudices we have today are new and some are as old as mankind. Prejudices are born of our unwillingness to understand differences between us. In actuality just because someone's skin color is different thon mine or yours does not make them better or worse than us. It is all a perception based on a preconceived prejudice long ago born of unreasonable reasons.
Your question says to me that their is hope that your generation may finally do away with these prejudices and see all people as one. IN this I will support you in anyway I can and also say thank you. There is no reason for prejudices and like anything else it only takes one person to stand up for what's right to get the ball rolling. Stand up for what you believe in and others will follow.
My dad died about a year ago. My mom is rushing me to sign a paper and get it notarized. It will give all of his inheritance to her. I am not a minor. Being that I know almost nothing about wills and inheritance, what information should I learn before signing this document? I have not seen a copy of the actual will.
Do not sign any for legal document before reading the document you are signing for. You might just be signing away something your father left for you.
Since you know nothing of wills I would find an attorney to read the will and the paper your mother wants you to sign and explain to you what you are signing. This should not cost you more than $150.00 for an hour of an attorney's time. The attorney should not be the attorney you mom used to draw up the paper she wants you to sign. Find your own attorney.
If after reading the document the attorney feels your rights are not being violated. That by signing the paper mom wants you to you are not giving up anything your dad left you. You can sign the paper in the office with the attorney witnessing it and most attorneys have Notaries in the office to notarize your signature.
I'm not saying mom is trying to cheat you out of something. But when ever someone rushes me to do something friend or relative. I stop and find an expert to advise me of what action is in my best interest. Which is what I'm advising you to do.
In this instance have a lawyer read the Will and the paper mom wants you to sign. Then listen as the lawyer explains what is written. The lawyer will advise you what to do that is in your best interest. Don't be afraid to ask questions either. Make sure you understand before you sign any legal document.
If you can't afford an attorney go to the legal aid office in your County.
My mom just completely freaked out, yelled at me, and cancelled a trip because I drew on myself. To me, it seemed like she had overreacted, because she talked about how stupid it was and compared me to a baby. I'm 16 and female. I just don't know is this behavior is normal. I feel like it isn't, but she is always insisting that this is how it's supposed to be. I just don't know what to think.
Did mom overreact? Without being there and seeing what you drew and the circumstance surrounding her actions it would be hard to say. Remember there are two sides to every story.
Mom may feel drawing on yourself is immature. I on the other hand may not. so if I were to judge her simply on the grounds that you drew on yourself then I would say she over reacted.
What you need to do is find out what mom really felt. Was she really upset at the fact that you drew on yourself or over what you drew. If it is the later then she needs to explain why she found it offensive.
There is also the possibility that you drew on yourself because some of your friends are doing so. While my mother would have said just because Jane jumps off the bridge doesn't mean you have to follow her.
What I'm saying is maybe there is a reason you have for drawing on yourself. Maybe you wanted to see what it is like to have a tattoo. While the thought of a tattoo will really freak her out the ink you used will wash off a tattoo is permanent.
Do you see what I'm getting at. Mom has to hear why you did what you did. You need to find out why mom freaked out and we need to hear both sides of the story to tell you if she went to far.
Would I have cancelled a trip? That depends a lot on the other side of the story but it would be an extreme punishment for an extreme misdeed and at the moment I don't think you have reached that point.
Im a high school student (M) and the two best friends of mine have started going out. Due to our school being quite far away, all 3 of us have always travelled together back home. This takes around 1 hour. Since they have started talking now, I have started drifting off from my girl bestfriend who is now dating my other best friend. On the train, I cannot do anything besides going with them. When I try avoiding them to go alone and not witness them doing all these flirty stuff, they try finding me and force me to come with then. I act awkward around my girl best friend nowadays, since the thought of betraying my best friend is always lingering in my mind. Although this is not true and I am certain my best friend is fine with me being alone with the girlfriend of his, it doesnt feel right anymore. What do I do?
I understand where you are coming from, you feel like a fifth wheel at times or as the old saying goes; "Two's company, three's a crowd." While it is understandable that you would feel this way you need to understand that if they did not want you around they would find ways to avoid you. In a moment I will tell you a short story to prove a point.
There is one thing about going to public school that has it all over being home schooled is that public school inadvertently teaches social skills along with the educational values it supplies. It has to because of the mixing of all the different students and their backgrounds and nationalities.
Your friends may be dating but they don't want you left out. This is an opportunity for all three of you to learn a very important social skill; “How do you handle and exist in awkward situations. I'm sure in some way they are aware you fell that you are intruding though they search you out because they want you as a friend. You need to learn how to accept their friendship in this new relationship. They need to learn how to make things less awkward for you when the three of you are together.
When I finished high school I joined the Air Force. Two of my Friends went off to College and later married and had babies that kept them out of the draft. The Vietnam conflict was in full bloom at the time and this was how they stayed out of the draft. I joined the Air Force rather than wait to be drafted.
You want to talk about awkward; one friend married the girl that lived next door to me and the other a girl I had dated in high school. I was invited to both weddings. Fortunately it was a bit hard for me to come home from South East Asia and I was able to dodge both of those awkward invitations.
I couldn't stay in Asia forever and eventually I was discharged and came home. I had to learn to deal with the four of them for a very different plane than you are on. You three are on the same plane with the same interests. There is a commonality between you three on which join together and have a friendship on aside from their romance.
For me it was entirely different. I came from a whole different world then they were living in. They were safe and comfortable as was I stationed outside the war zone. Well I was safe anyway. Though I saw and experienced things they would never see and experience. I had to learn to deal with my friends on their plane as I could not bring them into my plane it was not fair to them to do so.
You may not think my story appropriate to your situation though it is. You are me; you’re the one not involved in a romantic situation at this time. They are my friends. You cannot expect them to come into your plane so you need to learn how to exist in there plane; with their help.
Now should you enter into a romantic relationship things will be easier for all as you will be on level plane. Being on a level plane the four of you can interact in a more comfortable much less awkward way.
I hope I have helped you some.
Hi, I have a big problem and you are probably gonna think it's ridiculous, but anyways, I am 12 years old and I don't know how to divide. This is a big problem because everyone in the grade knows how, my dad is gonna ask me to show him if I can divide in front of him and that's a problem. It's not really my fault I don't know how to divide, nobody ever told me how. I know how to divide like, 25 divided by 5 and stuff, but I mean the long methods like 2678 divided by 568 and that kind of stuff.
Please no answers like "You should know how to divide by this age" or "Ask your teacher" only professional answers, or you are getting a 1 at rating.
On your profile, which I can see as a moderator, it says you are 20; thought in your questions you say you are 12. Which is it 12 or 20? Whatever your age I will answer because this question is relevant if you are 12.
Youareloved gave you a very good answer which I cannot improve upon. Long division should not scare you as it is really not any different than short division though harder to do in your head. I can do singe and possibly some double digit long division in my head and get the right answer or get an approximate answer. But if I want an exact answer I need pencil and paper for anything over single digit division which in reality is just the reverse of multiplication.
Yes by your age you should know how to do these problem and is probably why your dad wants you to show him you can do them. Division should have been taught back in elementary school and reinforced throughout elementary school.
For reasons probably not your fault you may have missed the basic introduction to division and have been playing catch up ever since. If you are going to pass high school math you need to know how to divide. Let you dad know you have this problem. He can then meet with the school and find out why they have not brought this to his attention sooner and not taken any corrective action sooner.
Whatever the cause it is not your fault it is the school system and the teachers for not realizing you were in trouble with this and giving you the extra attention you needed. With dad now knowing he can demand the school give you the attention you need to master this problem.
I'm no math wiz though trust me when I say with a bit of help and some practice you can quickly make up for whatever you missed. It's not that hard once they give you the basics to build upon.
mothers day is right around the corner may 8th to be exact, and i need gift ideas for someone who is like a second mom to me, ive already gotten her candy, gift mug set, slipper/pedi set, personalized mug…any other ideas? Id like to have the items mailed to her, makes it more of a surprise. thanks for any ideas.
I have been in the position you are in actually having 3 moms. Two moms I could go to when my mom was not home because they were stay at home moms and my mom worked.
I realize it may be to late to actually make something with your own to hands which is what I always tried to do. It seemed my actual mom and my day moms preferred something I made for them. If you have the time or if you have something she may like that you made then that is the gift.
The other suggestion is to see if she collects anything that you can add to. Does she have a charm bracelet. IF so look for a charm that would be meaningful from you. Look on Amazon or any Jewelry store will mail your gift. My mom was easy she collect salt & pepper shakers so when stuck for a gift my sister and I would look for unique ones to add to her collection. Drove my Uncle crazy all those salt shakers and no salt in any of them.
One thing I do know is she will cherish whatever you give her just stay within what you can afford.
My mother caught me looking at my celebrity crush aand i'm very embarrassed because I was about to masturbate but then she came in my room and I didn't close the webpage and now she knows that I have a crush on this person. I'm 14 years old.
I wouldn't be embarrassed as it is natural for both boys and girls your age to have crushes. It is also normal and perfectly healthy to masturbate. Using a picture of a crush or celebrity or even of some porn is also normal.
In fact even though parents tell you that masturbation is wrong or a sin they know it's not. The reason they tell you this is simple. We know once a child starts masturbating the feeling and the relief of sexual tension brought on by puberty the child is going to want the real thing. Most children start masturbating about the same time puberty hits which is way to young for actual sex. We also know that no one has ever gotten pregnant from masturbation or gotten an STD from it either.
Fact is we also know that about 85% of us masturbate. Us meaning parents and children of your age. When parents do it includes mutual masturbation as part of foreplay or singular masturbation as well. Yes your parent most likely still enjoy an active sex life. In a household of 4 it would mean 3 out of 4 of you masturbate.
Masturbation is not a sin and most organized religion condone the practice but preach differently to keep you as your parents want from experimenting with actual sexual activity.
If mom did realize you had a crush and were getting ready to masturbate to the picture she was probably relieved to know you were a normal child. Something she would never admit to you but take some comfort in knowing.
My suggestion is not to be embarrassed as there is nothing to be embarrassed about. In the future you should always have your door closed when in your room and ask your parents to knock before entering. You are of an age where you are entitled to your privacy just as they are and the courtesy of knocking and waiting to be given permission to enter. This of course is something to discuss with your parents.
Your parents have still have the right to enter your room when they feel they need to. The only difference is when you are occupying it. They should give you the right to your privacy due your age and knock before entering.
My parents don't buy me anything. I sound like a spoiled brat, I know, and I should be grateful for what I have but i'm truthfully not. I'm not trying to be rude or anything, it's just that i'm sad. For Christmas last year I got a phone which I really did not expect! It was really a suprise and the first decent present in years. My sister walked miles just for it and I thank her for that. 2 years ago my Christmas present was deodorant and hair gel (My hair is very, VERY short). The same year for my birthday I got deoderantt, once again.
I know it sounds funny and all but i'm really serious. Three years ago I got MORE deodorant. I'm starting to get a feeling my parent is trying to insult me or something.
In my family we have one computer and a laptop. The laptop is my sisters (only for educational purposes) and she has 2 tablets but generously gave one to me. My dad is an administrator, but not me. I use it the most yet i'm not an admin. I have to play childish games which don't need to be installed. Just before I wrote this I was playing flash games. If I asked my dad for the password he would get angry and refuse and that would really bug me. I'm a gamer. So I get angry a lot . sorry have to go.
There is not enough information her along with not knowing your age to really give you a definitive answer. I will admit though giving you deodorant as a present is a bit strange. You did get a very nice present for Christmas. Which you say you are thankful for and that your sister walked two miles to get it for you.
I cannot explain why your parents buy you the gifts they do. The one thought I have, at least for Christmas is the deodorant is their version of coal in you stocking.
Think about the difference between this past Christmas and the preceding year and the Christmas before that and that preceding yea. What were the differences. To receive a cell phone instead of deodorant must mean something as the cell phone is an expensive gift. What changed in your life? Are you doing better in school? Really compare the two years and you may find your answer.
Other than that I really can't give you any other answer. As the saying goes; "You can pick your friends but not your relatives" Your parents are who they are and they are not going to change.
The only other suggestion I could make is to ask them why.