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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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I have a huge problem. I know it might sound wierd but dont laugh! I want to date men, kiss men,have sex with men,mary a men and have children with a men but i would'nt mind have sex with a girl! Am i a lesbian or not? But i want to mary and have sex with a men but like if a girl came to me and ask me if i wanted to have sex with her i would'nt mind and i'd say yes! So plz help me and tell me if you considered me a lesbian.
thanks

I don't think you're a lesbian. I just think you're curious & there's nothing wrong with that.

If you want to just be with men, you're considered heterosexual. If you want to just be with women, then you're a homosexual (lesbian), and if you want to be with both, then you're bi-sexual.

There's nothing wrong with being any of those. However, for right now I would just consider you bi-curious because you're not really sure which is best for you right now.

I know someone who was caught stealing. Now they have to tell the person they stole from something that will make them believe they would never do it again. It has to be convincible. Has to prove to the person that they deserve a second chance!!! help!!! They are relying on me!

To be honest, they don't even sound like they're sorry for stealing in the first place. If they're going to someone else to help think up a convincing apology, how sorry do you think they really are? They're probably not sorry in the slightest bit.

Honestly, tell this person to handle it on their own. It is not your place to help them get out of something that could've been prevented. They're not sorry so they need to deal with the consequences.

Don't do the crime if you can't do the time. They don't deserve a second chance, so don't help them get one.

I heard that some stores have hidden cameras and two way mirrors. I mostly only shop at stores like AE, Bluenotes, Aeropostale, etc.

Former employees: Do these stores have those?

Because I will only shop online if they do!

I've never worked in either of these stores, but I have shopped there. However, the only store where I've tried stuff on out of these 3 is Aeropostale.

Honestly, it would be highly illegal of them to have cameras and two way mirrors in the dressing room - just like it is illegal to have cameras in bathrooms & changing rooms at school. It's considered sexual harassment because even though they're not touching you, they're watching you & it's just as uncomfortable & awkward.

They're not allowed to do that, and if they did do it, they could have a very serious issue on their hands if someone found out & reported it. I don't think they do, so I think you should be okay. However, if you're really uncomfortable with it regardless, then just order online. Just remember that when ordering online you can't try anything on so you have to be sure if it's going to fit or not based on experience. :)

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So i am getting married in December and as you probably deduced from the title, I have a dilemma.

My Biological father has always been in my life from timt to time. I only saw him occasionally, (like every other weekend) but our relationship has always been a good one. He's never been my provider though...

My STEP DAD has been married to my mother for 16 years, pretty much my entire childhood, and he was the provider and took care of everything I ever needed...the catch? He and I have NEVER had a strong relationship, HOWEVER, he and my mom are divorced now, and since the divorce, he and I have formed somewhat a pretty good relationship, he is still in my life. And helps me when he can.

SO SEE MY PROBLEM? heres a few things I was thinking....let me know what you think.

option 1: They BOTH walk me down the aisle. (i dont really want to do this. It just doesnt appeal to me, but everyone suggests it.

option 2: My dad walks me half-way, step-dad meets in the middle, and walks me the rest of the way, and gives me away at the alter.

now I have thought of another idea, one I really LIKE but I want others opinion on. Its not exactly tradiotional and Im not sure if its ever been done...here it is:

My BEST FRIEND Corey has been with me through everything. What if HE walked me down the aisle, and my dads were both standing at the alter with my Groom, and then when Corey gets me to the alter, he would hand me over to my dads and they would give me away, and Corey would resume his post as the groomsmen. That way they could both give me away and there wouldnt be any drama or hurt feelings??

HOW DOES THAT SOUND?

all opnions and advice would be great. thanks in advance!

21/f

I would take option 2. Like the person stated below, every father wants to be the one to walk his daughter down the aisle & give her away. I understand that you may have a slightly better relationship with your step-dad but your biological is the one who made you, and you should really have him do it.

Just have your step-dad walk you halfway, and then have your biological father take you to the alter & give you away. I'm sure this will make both of them happy, and I'm sure it's something they could probably come to an easy agreement on. :)

Good luck with your marriage, and congratulations! (Even though I'm a few months early with the congratulating, haha)

is there ANY easy way to tell your parents that you lost your virginity.. i mean its REALLY bothering me i cant tell them but i know i have to what do i do?? i cant have a relation ship with them based on lies.. you know?? cause we're starting out on better terms and were trying not 2 fight but i just dotn know what to do.. so yeah. thanks guys

I'm on the fence.

You should tell them because they should know that you're having sex. I mean, while most kids think their parents won't want to know about stuff like that, some parents do. Some parents want to educate their children on topics like sex & how to be safe about it. I hope you're using protection.

And on the other hand, I think you don't really have to tell them if you don't want to. It wouldn't be considered a lie if you didn't tell them. You don't have to share every detail of your life with them. Everyone is entitled to not share certain things. It's not considered a lie, so don't worry about that.

Honestly, you should do what you think is right. If you want to tell them, I would tell them calmly & rationally. Tell them you're using protection & that you're not being promiscuous about it & I'm sure they'll be okay with it. If it does start an argument, just don't bring it up again. However, if you don't want to tell them, then you don't have to either, so just keep in mind that you do have a choice & that the latter of the two isn't a lie if you choose not to share it, okay? :) Just use protection & make your choices wisely. You'll be okay.

okay so all my friends are super skinny and all my guy friends tell me i am fat i don't eat anymore. what should i do? ( i only became anorexic because i like one of the guys that say i am fat)♥ thanks

Stop listening to them. Anorexia can kill you and it will if you continue to starve yourself.

Someone's opinion isn't worth damaging your health over. If he thinks you're fat, then that's his opinion & it doesn't matter. You need to get a thick skin. I know it hurts to be teased or made fun of, but the quicker you ignore it & move on your life, the easier it'll get to handle a bad comment. Thick skin is awesome.

But seriously, go back to eating. You're probably not even fat. Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing he got to you.

I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months and now all of a sudden he doesnt come home or call me to talk to me anymore. What should I think?

If I were you, I'd either be thinking that he's cheating or he's just lost interest all together and to avoid breaking up with you, he just stops calling and coming over and talking to you.

Either way, shoot him a text and dump him. If he's not going to call and do it himself, he doesn't even deserve to be dumped in person. You only do that with people you respect.

Im 15,female.Well my boufriend and i play with each other. he sticks only the head of his dick in. He has never cummed in me but im still scared. im still a virgin and want to know if there is any possibility of getting pregnant? please help me.....And wat are the possibilities? Please answer!!!

You're not a virgin. Him putting any part of his dick in you makes you no longer a version. I don't care if it's the tip, the whole thing, or half of it. You're not a virgin anymore so you can kiss that word goodbye.

You have a chance to become pregnant. There is pre-cum & it does contain sperm. You need to use protection because you can get pregnant. Next time don't act so stupid. Use a condom and protect yourself.

so there was this party the other night. my girlfriend went with her friends but i couldnt because i was working. there were kids from other schools there too. well the way i heard it was that this one dude was messing with my girl all night. flirting with her and stuff and that about halfway into the party he grabbed her ass. she slapped his hand away and i guess he flipped out. he pushed her over and kicked her. i want to kill him. shes got this huge nasty bruise and she scraped up her arm and hand when he pushed her onto the pavement. i dont think ive ever been this furious. i feel guilty too that if i had been there to protect her, it wouldnt have happened. i know who he is because ive played him in football, and i want to kick his ass. it would upset my girlfriend who told me that i shoudl just leave it alone. but at this point i would rather kill this kid and have her be pissed at me then just sit around and let him get away with it. im thinking about just doing it and not telling her. he should have the balls to not go crying to anyone about it right> might not be a good idea though... what do you guys think?

Although I would totally kick his ass if I were you, I don't think it's a good idea.

You can have some crazy charges thrown at you all for some petty revenge that he'll probably never learn from anyways. You need to comfort your girlfriend & take pictures of her marks from what he did to her. I would personally take it to the police & get him in trouble.

He has no right to put his hands on anyone, especially a female, and he needs to learn a lesson. While kicking his ass would be the fun way to do it, it's even more fun to watch someone you hate go to jail over something that could've been prevented.

Call the cops, show the evidence & have him charged with assault. That would be considered a felony on his record & that would pretty much fuck up his life. A felony is pretty much equal to being kicked out of the military. :)

he's 16 turning 17 next month.

recently, me and him kinda got into an incident where things happened and our family got upset. but apparently, i say that his father took it way too far.. he punched him in the stomach, and my boyfriend coughed out blood then passed out. he was already tired when that happened, because he was crying and he had marching band the whole day. and ever since, he said he's been throwing up blood... is there a way to stop him from throwing up blood?

You need to take him to the hospital NOW. If you wait too long, he could really be hurt (if he isn't already). Go to the hospital ASAP!

I have spent so long knowing people talk shit about me behind my back both because of my different personality and my physical appearance. I just want the physical appearance thing to stop ... I can't handle it sometimes ... why are people so cruel? It's not like I am really fat at all, but I'm a big guy ... I just hate how cruel the world can be when even close friends talk shit behind your back about shallow things like the way you look ... why?

Kids in high school are whiny, bratty, self obsessed, shallow imbeciles. If they're not busy worrying about themselves, they're busy dragging someone down for their own sick amusement.

You need to find real friends. I wouldn't even take the time to confront it. Stop hanging out with them, & do your own thing. Find yourself some people who won't talk about you behind your back.

You will find people who will be true to you and who will care about other things aside from your appearance, their appearance, and everyone else's appearance. It'll take a little time, but it'll happen.

And besides, don't worry about what people say about you. As long as you're happy with who you are & how you look then their comments about you shouldn't matter. :)

(sorry if this is gross :( )
i feel so stupid. i cannot for the life of me put a tampon in.
im 16 and ive had my period for three or four years and i keep trying but i cant get the applicator in more than halfway. i know HOW to put one in but it just wont go in! any advice on how to make this easier? thanks

You're probably not relaxed enough. The less relaxed you are, the harder it'll be for the tampon to go in, and the more painful it'll be. If it doesn't go in the first time, don't get discouraged & huffy. Just try again & keep trying until you get it. It takes a few tries. You won't always get it on the first one. :)

It also could be the size of the tampon as well. Try a smaller size (for a light flow, or for a moderate flow - so light or regular tampons).

I have to babysit my little brother whos 10 what else can he do but sit around all day.

Well, considering he's 10 he probably like action figures and building stuff with legos.

I would just play with his action figures with him. If that doesn't work out, take him to the park. He might like that. :)

So...i have been fingering myself since i was like 10 & i do continue doing it (im 14 now) but im beggining to get scared because one of my clitoris is like really large, brown and ugly, and i dnt know wierd. It makes me self councious and i dont know what im goin to do when i have sex or when my boyfriend gets into my pants to finger me. I just get really worried/nervous/scared. Do you know what this is? 14/f
~~~Olie (or u can call me Michii) D=

A lot of people are a little self conscious when it comes to their genitalia but I can assure you that your boyfriend won't notice. If he does, he probably won't care. I'm sure he won't bring it up. Besides, if any guy cares about how your vagina looks then he probably isn't the one for you. A guy should love you no matter what you look like. Understand?

You're okay though. :) Don't worry.

i've done research and i know its legal for me to work as long as i have a permit. but i can't find any places in apple valley, ca that will hire a fourteen yearold with no prior experience.

As far as I know, nobody will hire someone as young as you. Most places are 16 to 17. Some places are strictly 18 or 21. In order to find a place that'll hire at 15 is luck.

You really can't do much with no experience either, which is pretty crappy. I didn't have much work experience prior to my current job, and I applied at a ton of places and nobody ever called me back. I was qualified to work there (I mean, really - how hard can it be to do some of the stuff they ask?) but without experience they wouldn't even look at me.

It's a shitty process because without experience they won't hire you. But it's your first job so you're not going to have experience anyways. How the hell are you supposed to get experience if they won't hire you? It's shit. I know. I think you should just wait until you're a little bit older because right now (even though you don't want this suggestion) the only thing you can really do is work as a babysitter or do some extra chores around your house.

Maybe you could try volunteering at a library. I'm sure they don't really care for age as long as you have an interest in books. :)

Does anyone know where I can find information about the NYC prep kids like blogs online to find out what they are really really like??

Thanks so much!!

If you're referring to a blog they write themselves, I know that on the Bravo website, they have cast blogs. I'm not sure if it'll help you see what these kids are really like, but you could read them if you're interested.

http://www.bravotv.com/nyc-prep/blogs

As far as that goes, I'm sure they're just ordinary rich kids who are too concerned with high social standings & status than anybody else.

Everyone seems to have a problem with age I dont see why its just the some person being born a different time. What do you think?

Age for me is kind of a big thing.

I won't date anyone younger than me. I've done so before and I just don't think dating younger guys is the thing for me. However, the oldest I'll date is 7 years. As an example, my boyfriend and I are 17 years apart. I am 18 and he is 25. I honestly see nothing wrong with it because it's legal and we're pretty similar so I don't mind it. But that doesn't mean other people will agree with it.

Anyways, I think that if you're a young teen, you really shouldn't date more than 2-3 years older, as Jack said. As for people who are older (like 20's & up), they can date anyone older because age is just a number. However if it's a 20 year old dating a 13 year old, that'd be wrong.

You see how that works? I think as long as it's legal then it'll be okay.

Many people have their own opinons on family romance and im curiouse what are your thoughts?

I absolutely think it's disgusting. I don't see the appeal of having feelings for family members. It's something I definitely look down upon. If you want to find someone to be with, it should be done outside of family. Relationships within the family can be awkward, and it can lead to people disowning each other if they're not okay with it.

Also, if they ever decide to have a baby together, the baby has more of a chance to have birth defects & mental retardation because of the way the DNA interferes with each other.

I would never do it, and I definitely wouldn't recommend it to anyone.

16/f
well i took the pregnancy test last night, and yep ! im pregnant. i just turned 16 sunday. i have a 19 year old boyfriend, hell be 20 in october.

i have a few questions that ive been wonderin about since i took the test last night.
1. my first missed period was july 3, that means that im probably already 1 1/2 - 2 months along right ?
2. ive been smokin cigarettes, drinkin monsters, and very rarely alcohol until i found out last night now im not gonna have any of those. but how will that effect my baby ?

thank you :)

You should see a doctor to inquire how far along you are because none of us can be sure. We're not doctors.

Here's a list of what you should & should not do when pregnant:

http://www.bygpub.com/natural/pregnancy.htm

(14/f) Well school is starting in like 3 days, and I just have this funny feeling in my stomach. I'm going to be a freshman, and actually, Friday is just orientation. I'm excited, but I'm also nervous/scared/dreading it. I'm just sad that I have to leave a bunch of friends behind. I have maybe one true friend that's going to the same school as me, but we only have one class together! She's the one I can talk to and go to anytime, for anything... It just sucks. I like making new friends, I'm pretty good at it but I feel nervous and self conscious. If I'm around a couple of my friends, I feel real comfortable talking to others because I'm not by myself. I keep thinking about things, and I don't want to be alone. I don't want to experience high school by myself, where no one understands how I feel. I also sometimes worry about what people will think about me. :\ I've heard that high school is better than middle school, and that it has less drama. I'm not sure if I can believe that quite yet. I'm worried it's going to be MUCH worse. Since there's more people, I'm concerned I'm going to have TWICE as much of problems than in middle school. I really hate drama... I can't stand people who act 'slutty' or want to show off their beauty and stuff. I don't want to be exposed to even more 'myspace whores' or something. i don't say this to be mean, I don't know how else to put it. It annoys me so much, and I'll admit that I get a little jealous of them sometimes. Like i said before, there's going to be more people... More people for me to just look over at and think they're really pretty. So will all the guys and stuff. -.- I don't think I'm THAT attractive. I think I have a big problem with my self esteem and confidence. :\ but you know how people show cleavage on purpose, or stick their booties out just to show off or something? Then they get a CRAPLOAD of comments like, "mmm sexy/this is cute!/you're sooo pretty and gorgeous/Hot body!" It annoys me, but I'm glad that I DON'T want comments like "ohhh niceee body ;)" I also can't stand 'teacher's pets' or 'suckups.' One of my teacher's has played 'favorites' all throughout middle school. I just felt annoyed and offended. Was it because she thought I wasn't a goody goody, or that I don't suck up to her like other have done? I just don't know how I'm going to deal with these nerves. I hate the thought of twice as much of copiers, fakes, sluts, teacher's pets... If anyone gets what I mean. Not only that, I can't stand people who think they're better than others either. D:< I don't like people who think their lives are better than mine, or others. More people can also mean more people that's better than me at something. I feel like I'm not good enough, and that I just suck. I don't want to be the BEST, but I hate feeling like I can't do anything right. As I keep wondering how high school is going to be like, I don't want people to judge me. I think about "what if I'm late to class because I get lost? I don't want to be the only one to walk in the classroom, I'll look like a fool." You know how you walk in the classroom and people just stare at you?! I don't want that to happen, cause I know people will judge me, especially by my looks. Sometimes I feel ugly, compared to many girls out there. I mean, I'm pretty flatchested. -__- I also think about when lunch time comes. How will I find my friends? Like what if I get there before them. I'll be looking for a spot to sit and eat, I'll look like a lonely fool. o.o That thought makes me feel awkward. D: Another thing I'm thinking about is that I have this Keyboard-Piano class during 2nd semester. I keep thinking, "how am I going to do in this class? I bet we'll have to make up our own songs and PRESENT them in front of the CLASS. And probably take tests too... in front of everyone." I'm worried I'm going to get judged by how I can play, or how i do. On the brighter side, this is in 2nd semester. I'm thinking I'll make some great new friends by then! I'm sad that I have to leave my old friends and school behind. I've grown attached. xD I KNOW I have to move on though. Friendships in highschool seem like chaos. I hope I can make some close friends, out of everyone in the WHOLE school. o__o I'm tired of being like the 3rd wheel. I may make friends, but maybe the kind where I'm just the 'backup friend.' :( I might be acting overdramatic though... Maybe I'm overanalyzing things? I can't get over the thought, I might be one of the suckiest violin players in orchestra compared to all these other skilled players. I won't be the prettiest girl around, so guys will always look me over for all the other cute attractive girls... I don't want to be judged. I don't want to be hated. and what about being in a relationship? I don't want to get hurt. There's just SO MANY people in high school to fall for. It can also be easy to cheat on someone. :| It's also hard for me to be myself when someone has the same clothes as me. I'm pretty sure everyone has had that feeling before. It's a small town, and where else are people going to shop? Most likely the mall. x.x I don't want to seem, act, or look stupid or like a fool either. I tried out for the IB program at my school, but I got 'rejected.' It was just a big slap in the face for me because i felt like I was stupid and wasn't good enough. I'm also kind of glad because I don't think I can handle all the work. :| Which reminds me, I'm ALSO concerned about the amount of work. I'm not very good at managing my time. I also haven't read any books in the LONGEST time so I bet my brain has rotted. Can anyone give me any advice on how I can cope with my nerves? I'm sure most people will understand how I feel. D: my friend has told me to think positive. I TRY, but it's not working very well! :\ I have a major problem of letting other people get to me. One little thing, or one person can just get to me and I get infuriated very easily... I need advice... Help! (Sorry if this is long...)

High school can either suck, or it can be amazing. It all depends on how you act, and what you make of it. If you cause drama, talk behind peoples backs, slack off & get in trouble a lot, of course high school isn't going to be a fun experience. However, if you get involved with clubs or other things, take classes you're interested in & do a sport, you'll probably have the time of your life.

Honestly, high school isn't that bad. Jack is right. It can be a lot of fun but you need to be willing to make it that way. Don't be negative about it because with a mindset like that, it'll only make it come true.

Just do all of your homework, join a club or tryout for a sport & don't worry about the upperclassmen. Chances are they won't care about you anyways, and besides, they're almost done with school so you're the last thing they're going to worry about.

Try really hard not to get into trouble. Getting suspensions can really add up and it'll most definitely look bad when a college looks at your record. I would try doing as many extra curricular things as possible because colleges really like that. They also like someone who's in theatre or sports. Like Jack suggested, really try & go for some AP classes. You don't have to have all AP classes, but at least 2-3 because they look good & they show that you're interested in tougher subjects & that you like a challenge when it comes to your work.

High school is awesome if you just do your best at your work & be yourself when it comes to everything else. Don't worry so much. You'll be okay.

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