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Incest
Many people have their own opinons on family romance and im curiouse what are your thoughts?
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Your friend's father is a sick, sad, disgusting man.
If your friend is below the age of 18, then I'd be perfectly content to hear that he was tossed into a tree shredder, along side all other pedophiles and rapists out there.
None the less, if she is a minor, he needs to have the law sicced on his bent-minded ass.
Your friend needs to seek some serious counseling, too, because she's obviously been warped and demented by her pervert father.
You asked for my opinion, and there it be.
31/f
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Nevermind the incest, if your friend is the same age as you then what her father is doing is ABUSING her, not having a relationship.
Unless the distance between the relatives is cousins at the very least, incest is illegal. Even with cousins, the chances of genetic defects in any children are significently raised.
There is actually a condition known as Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA) which is sexual attraction between close relatives, such as siblings, first and second cousins or a parent and offspring, who first meet as adults. It's not fully known why it occurs, but theories circle around the fact that because relatives have similar genetics, they are automatically attracted to them.
In any case, incest is illegal and I would be incredibly concerned about your friend's safety and wellbeing. Not only is it morally wrong, the implications of such a relationship are likely to be disasterous. I would strongly advise that you let someone in a position of authority know what is going on.
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NASTY!!!!! very nasty...Her own FATHER..your friend is sick and so is he! they both need help..& your no good in agreeing with them havin a relationship!!
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I think it's disgusting. I'm sorry if I sound rude or harsh, but it's one of the most sickening things on the planet to me.
I don't believe that we are meant to have romantic relationships with family members. It just isn't right.
I think your friend having a relationship with her father (perhaps her CLOSEST family member!) is horrible.
-Laura (17-f)
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being specific would have helped, but thats the least of your worries at this point, kiddo.
anythingthats first cousin or closer is probably a good sign of some brain damage. if its a third cousin by marriage, and no blood, its still creepy for the rest of the family, and society for that matter. find some other possible mate(if its about you) in a different state if you're that worried. I'm going to alaska to find mine and ensure a completely fresh gene pool for the race of warriors that I shall spawn.
-Gunner
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EDIT: In respond to your "additional info," that is not acceptable at all. For your friend to interest in her dad, that is just not right. Even if they are not relative, the difference in age is still too much. You should stop your friend before things become ugly.
Original Answer (before you provide the "addition info):
Depends. What kind of "incest" are you talking about? Is it parent and child, brother and sister (no more than 3 years apart), or cousin and cousin (no more than 3 years apart)?
If the difference of their age are within reasonable range (half your age and plus seven or whatever, depending on their age group [e.g. teen, adult, middle age, etc.]), then, personally, I don't see anything wrong with it. Partially because I am a fairly open person when it comes to accepting something "uncommon," and partially because:
#1. It's not strange to develop a certain feeling toward a person of the opposite sex whom you spent your childhood with. It's part of human nature--the Westermarck effect.
#2. We have accepted people of difference race and religion into our society. We have also accepted homosexual (same-sex attraction, e.g. gay relationship or lesbian relationship). Why can't we accept incest between siblings and cousins? In fact, there are some countries in the Middle East that are still allow cousin marriage.
***Note: I haven't said anything about "having children" yet. I will tackle the argument now:
#3. Alan Bittles, an Australian geneticist, has collected data to show that the risk of birth defects increases from 2% in the general population to 4% when the parents are closely related. 2% to 4%? Not that much, don't you think?
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#4. A woman over 40 has an elevated risk of giving birth to a child with defects. People who with autosomal dominant disorders have a 50% chance of having children with the same disorder. That is A LOT HIGHER than between siblings and cousins. Why, I ask you, are we not banning them from having children?
#5. Again, go back to what I said in #2. It's just all about accepting. Many people are just "going along with the popular belief," just like how, in the past, people did not accept blacks and homosexuality.
Half your age and plus seven--the good-old dating age formula. If it's within that age interval, then I don't see anything wrong with incest. Of course the formula has some reasonable limits, but use your common sense.
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I absolutely think it's disgusting. I don't see the appeal of having feelings for family members. It's something I definitely look down upon. If you want to find someone to be with, it should be done outside of family. Relationships within the family can be awkward, and it can lead to people disowning each other if they're not okay with it.
Also, if they ever decide to have a baby together, the baby has more of a chance to have birth defects & mental retardation because of the way the DNA interferes with each other.
I would never do it, and I definitely wouldn't recommend it to anyone.
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Absolutely appalling. Like, one of the sickest things I've ever heard of.
Yeah... It's immoral.
--Jack
(17/m)
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Well... it depends on the distance between the family members...
And whether we're talking about romantic love or pure lust.
If it is done consensually by both parties I don't see why two people should have a problem with it. But you can't expect the other members of the family to be ok if they knew...
Basically if you don't have moral issues stopping you then I say go ahead =] we only live once.. and there are far worse sins than extra forms of love.
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