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he hurt my gf
so there was this party the other night. my girlfriend went with her friends but i couldnt because i was working. there were kids from other schools there too. well the way i heard it was that this one dude was messing with my girl all night. flirting with her and stuff and that about halfway into the party he grabbed her ass. she slapped his hand away and i guess he flipped out. he pushed her over and kicked her. i want to kill him. shes got this huge nasty bruise and she scraped up her arm and hand when he pushed her onto the pavement. i dont think ive ever been this furious. i feel guilty too that if i had been there to protect her, it wouldnt have happened. i know who he is because ive played him in football, and i want to kick his ass. it would upset my girlfriend who told me that i shoudl just leave it alone. but at this point i would rather kill this kid and have her be pissed at me then just sit around and let him get away with it. im thinking about just doing it and not telling her. he should have the balls to not go crying to anyone about it right> might not be a good idea though... what do you guys think?
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Firstly, try not to feel guilty. I know it's kind of unavoidable, but it was in no way your fault. You had no way of knowing that such an obnoxious creep would be at the party, literally hitting on your girlfriend.
Secondly: don't kill him. Maybe just let him know how furious you are with words rather than actually physically hurting him; you don't want to get in trouble. Your girlfriend would probably prefer that, too.
Thirdly: way to be chivalrous (:
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dont kill him but if u see him on the street why not confront him and show him a little something...no guy should ever hit a girl!!
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Although I would totally kick his ass if I were you, I don't think it's a good idea.
You can have some crazy charges thrown at you all for some petty revenge that he'll probably never learn from anyways. You need to comfort your girlfriend & take pictures of her marks from what he did to her. I would personally take it to the police & get him in trouble.
He has no right to put his hands on anyone, especially a female, and he needs to learn a lesson. While kicking his ass would be the fun way to do it, it's even more fun to watch someone you hate go to jail over something that could've been prevented.
Call the cops, show the evidence & have him charged with assault. That would be considered a felony on his record & that would pretty much fuck up his life. A felony is pretty much equal to being kicked out of the military. :)
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I think that's a really good idea.
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whoop his bitch ass. nobody fucks with chicks and gets away with it. just don't hit him after he hits the ground, you can go to prison for that. while he's standing, everything is still game on. try hitting him broadside with a chair to start off, it usually stuns and disorients them. then keep hitting him with it until he falls over. then walk away.
just make sure that there aren't any witnesses.
-Gunner
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Please, please, don't retaliate. All it will accomplish is you getting in trouble for assault. I know it's tempting but it's really not a great idea, when viewed from my perspective.
Also, it's NOT your fault that you weren't there. You said it yourself, that you were working. YOu didn't say "I'm not going to go so that a guy I know from football can hit on my girlfriend".
Instead, take care of your girlfriend. Talk to a trusted adult if possible, and see if there's anything you can do to this guy in terms of assault charges and whatnot.
I know that you care about your girlfriend, and even though you threatened violence against someone else, under the circumstances I can understand why. You seem like a really nice guy, so do the right thing here, alright?
Revenge, although fun to plot, is rarely worth it. Did you hear about those four women who Krazy Glued a guy's penis to his body because he cheated on his wife with three other women? They're all sitting in a jail cell now ;].
-LM
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Not a good idea to fight him. It seems like he would have the balls to not go crying to mommy and daddy or the cops. But this type of guy is the exact type that would call the cops and get you arrested for it. Then your girlfriend will be mad at you, probably your parents, and you'll be in juvy with some hefty finds and a criminal record on your back.
But you shouldn't just lay down and take it either. There's nothing wrong with getting a friendly message across to him that he's extremely damn lucky that you weren't at the party and that your girlfriend is filing charges against him. (even if she's not)
It will scare the piss out of him that he might get sexual harassment and battery charges against him. He will likely not do anything like that for a while.
Your girlfriend may not want to tell her parents about it because she was at a party and they might not have known about it; but I think she should. It would be worth it to get a restraining order against him and get some money out of him. Plus, he'd get a criminal record if he got convicted of it.
If your girlfriend has proof and witnesses, she should go to her parents, then the cops. She should say that it happened whatever night, but she was too afraid to go to the cops right away because she was so shaken up and just wanted to get straight home or that she was afraid her parents would find out she was at a party and be angry with her.
It's always better to use the law against people; it hits them a lot harder in the long-run than a few punches.
Darby(:
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