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how do i tell her ?
16/f
well to start off, its takin me a while to build up trust with my mom again. shes caught me with drugs and drinkin in the past, and now im finally on her good side. the only thing recently is that she found out me and my boyfriend are havin sex.
now heres the problem, i have to tell her im pregnant. my mom means the world to me and im scared to break her heart, plus she could fuck over my boyfriend because we arent legal. shes the kind of person that you need to let her think before you talk to her about somethin, so i was thinkin i would slip a note in her purse tonight for her to read tomorrow and then ill talk to her after work. orrr, id wait for school to start and send her a text.
what do you guys think would be a good way for someone like my mom, whos very fragile and needs to think about things for a while before you discuss them with her ?
thanks !
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absolutely not..... that is the most childish thing you can do/// you got pregnant you take responsiblity... if you are to tell your mom over text or letter... she will not see your reactions and you will not see hers... it will be more likely for her to take legal action if you are not there to calm her..... its gonna be scary but something you have to do
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Hey,
Honestly, I think if you were mature enough to have sex, then you should be mature enough to break the news to your mom.
Texting her in the middle of work could distract her from working because I'm sure once she finds out, that's all she's going to be able to think about all day. And get stressed out.
Since this is such a serious thing, I think the best thing to do would be to tell her to her face. Almost every mom tells, and us dissapointed for about an hour. THEN, the realization will hit that she can't change it now, and she will switch from "upset mom" into " mommy mode" and start talking to you about getting things ready for the pregnancy. Taking you to doc's appointments, etc.
Just tell her. If it was ANYTHING else, I would say to leave her a note or something, but THIS is something that needs to be talked about as soon as possible because there are important things that need to be done RIGHT AWAY, like your first doctors visit, and starting your prenatal vitamins.
I hope this helps I know pregnancy can be a scary thing for a young person, heck I'm 21 and I'm terrified of childbirth. :-/
I'm here for you. Email me if you want to talk about it or need some support. =]
Stephanie.Ellick@gmail.com
Steph
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I mean, if you really think that's how you mother is, the note or text might be a good option. But with something so serious, it seems like it would be a lot better to handle it straightforward-like.
I feel like if I was a mother and my daughter got pregnant, I would much rather her say something like, "Mom, I need to talk to you about something. I really don't want to hurt you, and I'm sorry, but I took a test yesterday, and I'm pregnant."
She'll find out either way, of course. But it seems like you could handle it better if you talked in person about it. I mean, it's a very serious situation. It's not like you got suspended from school for a few days and you don't know how to tell her, so you leave her a note.
But, hey, I'm not a mother and I'm not your mother. So if you really think that's how she would like to find out, I would do the text thing. The note in the purse would be okay, except for the fact that it might get pushed further down or she might leave in a rush and not see it all day.
Then she could randomly find it at any time and if you happen to be home at that time, she's not going to have much time to think about it. So if you do think that she'd rather find out at work, send her a text once you're at school.
It just seems strange to me that she'd rather find out through a text in the middle of work, then in the comfort of her home face-to-face with you. But, you would know, I suppose.
good luck,
Darby(:
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