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Age
Everyone seems to have a problem with age I dont see why its just the some person being born a different time. What do you think?
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I think the older you get, the less age matters. This summer I worked at a camp with counselors aged 16 to 21, and it honestly felt like we were all the same age. When you're outside of that structured school system, it's easier to be with people who are older or younger than you.
Also, I know for a fact that I don't usually act my age. I tend to act like a little kid, and the people I like tend to be younger than me. At first I was uncomfortable with it, but I figure, if I get along better with them, then why not? A year or two doesn't make a huge difference.
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Age for me is kind of a big thing.
I won't date anyone younger than me. I've done so before and I just don't think dating younger guys is the thing for me. However, the oldest I'll date is 7 years. As an example, my boyfriend and I are 17 years apart. I am 18 and he is 25. I honestly see nothing wrong with it because it's legal and we're pretty similar so I don't mind it. But that doesn't mean other people will agree with it.
Anyways, I think that if you're a young teen, you really shouldn't date more than 2-3 years older, as Jack said. As for people who are older (like 20's & up), they can date anyone older because age is just a number. However if it's a 20 year old dating a 13 year old, that'd be wrong.
You see how that works? I think as long as it's legal then it'll be okay.
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well it's not just age that's in question, it's maturity. i'm not really sure if you're talking sexually/relationships or not but it's illegal for anyone over 18 to do anything sexually with someone under 18. kids under a certain age shouldn't be exposed to things like that so there are laws to protect them. if someone who is a lot younger is in a relationship with someone much older, they might be pressured to do things they are not ready for simply because the older person is ready for them. older people tend to be more mature and have more experience. but in a sense you are right. i believe that age shouldn't matter if you are truly in love. :) hope this helped
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It all depends on the individuals and their maturity level. Sometimes people with an age difference work out well because they're at the same level of maturity. Other times, it doesn't work out well because the people are at different positions in their lives.
When you're a teenager, age is quite the big deal because even if it's a 3 or 4 year age difference, that makes the difference between being in junior high or high school or college. People change so much mentally in their teen years, and are doing different things physically. Someone that is 18 might be graduating high school, going off to college, and working. While someone who is 15 is not even able to drive or work yet in most cases.
It makes relationships difficult because each person has their own agendas that they need to follow, and when they're that different, it's hard to fully relate. Usually 18 year olds are into different things than 14 or 15 year olds are into. And they should be because you shouldn't act like you're 14 when you're 18.
Not to mention the part where it's illegal for someone 18 or over to do anything sexual with a minor.
-Darby
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When you're a teenager, age difference is very important.
I'd say the most you should be apart is 3 years.
But, if you're older, ten years, or even fifteen, doesn't matter.
If you're 13, the oldest you should be dating is 16.
If you're 33, I wouldn't really care if you were dating a 46 year old, or maybe even older. It's perfectly legal, and I guess whatever floats your boat.
It kind of goes case-by-case, and I've never really had a rule for ALL ages.
--Jack
(17/m)
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you know, child molesters say things like that..... anyways, it doesn't matter unless the age difference is ridiculous, because then social norms come into play. people start calling you or your spouse a "baby-toucher", cradle robber, etc.
the acceptable age gap widens with comparative age(ie: 19yr old with a 14 yr old against 31 yr old and 48 yr old). the first isn't looked upon nicely, and the second example is just normal.
me, I could care less what age a chick is, as long as two criteria are met: she's not old enough to be my mom, and she's not legal.
other than that, the world is my oyster.
-gunner
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I'm going to assume you mean the an age difference in relationship?
Sorry if I'm wrong. You could also mean the age loosing your virginity, but I'm really not clear...
In a legal sense: Age Matters.
And yes, even if we are talking about two people who are above the legal age of consent:
Age still matters.
It's not about the time of birth. You are right that the number of years on this planet is somewhat arbitrary and irrelevant. It's about what happens in those years.
Age is a common standard by which experience many of life's milestones. It is a fairly accurate measurement that describes what you've done and what sort of things you'll need to do in the near future, and it's a loose measurement of your self awareness.
But even that experience and self awareness is not the really the issue that makes not the chronological age that makes relationship with a large age difference a problem. Among young adults, until about 25 years of age you simply AREN'T the person you are going to be for the rest of your. Biologically, your brain is still undergoing one of it's biggest shifts and learning periods.
Ask anyone: The person they were at 18 is NOT the person they were at 25. It is difficult enough for two people close in age to survive this period when they are going through it together. Imagine if only one person was changing, and the person at the other end of these 4 to 5 years was completely different then they were when the relationship began. Clearly, that kind of evolution in values and temperament and goals could seriously challenge a relationship.
Even among people past this age, a difference in age can cause a HUGE difference in values and goals.( I will say that after about 21 I'm all for people dating whoever they damn well please, regardless of age, by the time you can drink you are certainly old enough to risk your heart however you'd like as well)
Think of this situation: A twenty-five year old man and a thirty-five year old woman. They both want a family, but the man is still in school, and not certain what his career will be. He knows when he graduates he wants to focus on that career for a a few years, and not have kids right away. The woman on the other hand has been working for about 10 years now. Her career is in a good place, and all the medical information she reads tells her that if she wants to get pregnant, she should do it before she turns 38 or it gets dangerous. Compromise is a pretty word, but in big life decisions, it's not always an acceptable plan.
Those are the sorts of real problems that occur in relationships with huge age differences. Obviously, some couples wont experience them, but they are the reason that even when you are an adult, people will advise you against dating someone where there is a huge age difference, and it will be good advice, even if you decide not to take it, and live happily ever after with someone 15 years older than you.
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If you are talking about age in general, It's not that big of a deal. However, If you are talking about a relationship with someone it is a big deal because it is illegal and not appropriate.
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I agree completely. If people are comfortable being around each other, then nothing else matters.
I think that it makes some people uncomfortable and that's why they make a big deal about it. Also cause they don't understand and they haven't been in a similar situation. I know from experience that age doesn't really come between people.
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What do you mean? If you can get back to me and explain your question or be more specific it would help...
If you're talking about just age in general, well most people have a problem because being a different age to someone means you're a different type of person. If you've lived less or more, different lives and experiences, and therefore elders are often concerned about age gaps between youngsters in relationships. This is mainly because what one has come to learn about life through experience cannot compare to the naivety of the other and therefore conflict and worry will arise.
Get back to me if you feel like being less vague =]
If not, hope to have helped in some way..
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