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not good enough
okay there's this guy I've been "good freinds" with for a while now and he keeps bugging me to have sex with him. I really do want to but he makes me nervous! It has always been easy for me to sleep with guys and feel good about myself but this guy intimidates me so much. we always get so close but I get nervous that my body isnt pretty enough for him and he wont like me anymore. I guess its cause all his ex girlfreinds that I've seen have been drop dead gorgeous and Im not quite there. What can I do to make my self feel more comfortable around him where I can have sex with him?
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i think beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, if he finds you "worthy" and wants to anyway then you are already there:) do whatever you want to make yourself feel beautiful, inside and out, try a manicure, pamper yourself:) and have faith and self confidence! every woman is beautiful, dont compare yourself to exes!
miyuki rini <3
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If you're not ready, don't force it. Give yourself time, and then maybe you'll be ready?
Like somebody said below, obviously he's attracted to you enough to be interested in having sex with you. Therefore, you shouldn't be insecure about it. And those "drop dead gorgeous girls"? They're EXs. Meaning he found their flaws, got rid of them, and moved on. Don't compare yourself to them, because obviously, they didn't last.
But if it really keeps bothering you, talk to him about it. See what he has to say, and let him know how you're feeling.
But like somebody else said below, if he's only into you for your body, he's shallow and not worth it.
-Laura (17-f)
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uh, hey, just a quick point, he wants to have sex with you. don't worry if you think he doesn't think you're pretty. you're obviously attractive enough for him to want to play with you in the first place, I mean damn, I wouldn't go around asking girls that I despise if I could have sex with them. wait, I do. but thats out of spite.
-Gunner
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I guess if he doesn't have sex with you because of your body, know that he is shallow, and that he's not worth it.
--Jack
(17/m)
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If you don't feel comfortable with him, don't push yourself to. Those things come naturally and there's nothing you can do to force it. If you were ready to have sex with him, you wouldn't be so nervous about your body. You obviously think he's going to judge you, but if he cared about, he wouldn't do that. Just hang out with him longer until you start actually feeling comfortable around him. You could also try sharing how you feel with him. If you don't feel like you can do that, that's another sign that you're not ready to have sex with him. You should be able to talk to him about things like that, so if you can't, just give it more time.
-Darby(:
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