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im 15/f and me and my best guy friend went to a party n both got a little drunk among other things. anyway we ended up having sex and since then i've found out im pregnant and i know its his and i told him about it. hes basically demanding i keep it but see i dont want to b/c its going to destroy my body, reputation,i know i wont be able to keep my gpa above a 4.0, and my mom will kill me. so should i just go behind his back or what?
Tell a parent, get input.
Because, I dont agree with abortions at all,
and I understand your a teenager, and you have your whole life ahead of you.
& you cant make this decision on your own, so tell a parent, and tell the boy how you feel and stuff.
I'm really skinny, except I have a big stomach. When I wear tight shirts like Abercrombie shirts, it hangs out. & Also my hips are really huge and I think I'm a little too wide.
What could I do to get a flat stomache besides a good diet, crunches, and situps. And what can I do to make my hips/waist smaller?
Well you cant get a flat stomache without eating healthy and exercising.
You need to talk to a fitness trainer maybe, and ask what they think you should do. Because everyone's body is different, so you cant give specefic things to do.
Hey guys sup?? Well I've been working at my local Dunkin Donuts for the past 4-5 months for extra cash. Recently my boss has been a real dick and given me a real hard time about everything. He even talks behind my back when I'm not at work saying how bad of a worker I am. The ironic thing is that he hasn't fired me yet..He's really rude to me all the time and even curses at his workers, becuse he has a really bad temper. Maybe he really likes me in a sexual way and that's why he doesn't want to fire me...(he's 50 and I'm 16) I really don't know. Anyways last night I even hd a nightmare abut him that he was like yelling and screaming at me. I'm really afraid of him...
I feel like I should quit but what should i use as my excuse?? Should I be truthful or should I make up some bs and leave?? Or should I try to stick it out even though I'm really scared of him?? Please help me..I'm facing the Devil here. lol. Thanks in advance!!
Aw, well if your scared that he could harm you. The best thing to do is leave, and you dont need to give him any reason, its none of his buisness.
But if you want to give him an excuse, no it doesnt have to be honest. I'm usually all for honesty, but in this case, he doesnt seem deserving, and if you told him the truth, it could make his temper really bad.
I hope i helped if you have any other questions,
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Hello :)
Okay, so yesterday I saw one of my friends do something I've heard about for a long time, but never actually seen...lie. Yes, he lied. And it was pretty obvious, and also..pretty scary. You see, pretty much ALL YEAR I've heard one of my tightest friends talk about how he's changed, and lies, and so on..and ofcourse I belived her, but I guess it never really sunk in. Because when I actually experienced it for the first time (him lying straight to my face) it freaked me out. I was sp sworried for him, I wanted to cry. I was about to, but didn't. It hurts to see someone I've looked up to for such a long time lie. They're BIG lies too. And he should know that we can't possibly belive all this, it's crazy. And we basically have prrof that he's lying, but confronting him wont work, it's been tried already. And it didn't help, if anything..it made things worse, he had to lie even more to excuse his lies, and it was just..really bad. He was basically shaking when we were questioning, it's like he doesn't WANT to lie. But he still does it for some reason. I cant think of a reason WHY though, attention? I'm just really confused, you know. I really can't talk to him about this, and my friends have already tried. So what do I do? Just ignore it? Or stop ebing his friend? Tlak to his family about it? His other friends? Pleease help me, because I want to be able to help my friends (it's making them feel EVEN WORSE)
Well lies..are tricky. Because once you start lying, sometimes its hard to stop. Your friend who changed and started lying, probably is lying because he's noticed that something inside of him has changed too, and he's afraid about what you would think of it. I can tell you exactly what is the reason for him lying, but its most likely personal to him, and confrontation is the best way, even if it didnt work, keep trying, but when you do it, say "It seems like you've been lying to me, please dont deny it if you are.." and so on, just explain to him that you realize he's lying and that he's not very good. Tell him that it hurts your feeling, if you really care for him and he cares for you he'll eventually open up.
Feel so misarable..lost my only love..have no words to describe how i feel inside.Do not wish such misery even to my enemies.Bit by bit losing my last hope,he won't be mine any more..I need him back..please help
Well I dont really get what happened, did you break up? & your age would be helpful.
But anyways, if you broke up, and you really love him and want him back.Try to get him back, tell him, talk to him, explain how you feel, and how strong your feelings are, if he doesnt love you back like that, he isnt the one for you,you deserve to be loved just like you love him.
I've been in this situation before,and it really takes a lot of time, and people being available to talk to you to get over it.
ok to tell it all short my brothers going to court and may be sent away .my moms in the hostpital she has been for 3 days .my other brother is named the good child.my family has 5 people in it and im the only girl so i clean cook and do laundry.i cnat believe my mom has done it for 20 years ive done it for 4 days.i have so much gratitude for her and ill never mesure up.i am slipping on my grades at school witch i was already strugiling and is at resk of failling my grade.i dont want to have my mom as an excuse for my homework.i stayed home today to catch up and no one knows that.
im under my head and no one to turn too.
what do i do.
plz help me sorry its so long
katie
Well I am so sorry about everything thats happening. I think the best thing you need to do is tell a teacher whats going on, tell a counsular, someone, because we cant do everything on our own, we need help.
And if you believe in God, He will never give you more than you can handle, and it may seem like a lot now, but someday you'll be able to look back and think it wasnt that bad, and know that God is always by your side.
This is a really hard time for me, I'm still young.. and I guess it's understandable why my Mom and Dad are stepping up to the plate. But, my boyfriend and I are seriously unseperatable. We are both eachothers source for happiness. Since he is older, my dad wants me to stop talking to him, and It's not like I can go behind his back and see him because the police are actually involved in the situation. All I can do now is sit and mope, but I really don't want to.
Well I think you should respect your parents decisions for now, since you obviously arent old enough to tell your parents they have no right. And since the police are in it, I would let the situation cool down,as crazy as you feel your going, it'll all work out.
I was wondering if theres something wrong with me right now.
- For the last two weeks, I've been very agitated, little things push me over the edge and everythings been bothering me. Usually I'm a happy person, and easy going but latley small things like having to repeat myself, running outa something like shampoo, people tapping there pencils, people singing to songs randomly, certain words+songs, and even people who talk to me, I get very angry with them, and just like they bother me, its like, why won't they just stop.
I'm not depressed or anything, its just thats small things are agrivating me alot more then usual in the past few weeks and my friends and family have noticed it too, is something wrong!?
You just sound very irritable.
I'm exactly like taht right now,
If you feel like you think something is wrong,
then go talk to a therapist or school counsular, since I dont know how old you are.
Thats the best way to figure things out.
I recently applyed for a new job,as requierd I submitted a drug screen urine test.Note; I am a 50 yr/old male and have not used any type of illigal drugs sence my teens,and no alcahol in about 20 years,yet the urine test showed possative for methamphetamine,I do take some over the counter meds for sinus & headaches,is there anything out there that could cause this type of negative response in a urine test? From Fairshake and hopeing for a answer.Thank You Fellow Advicenators.
Yes, I got really sick once,
and I had taken severe tylanol cold medicine, and I went to the ER, and my urinalisys (sp..) showed methinphetamine in it too.
So its most likely the cold medicine.
Especially over the counter kinds.
Didn't know whether to put this under relationships or spiruality, but here it is.
Ok, so i was with this guy for 7 months, we broke up a while back and have jsut got back together.
We're both Christians. We had a greart relationship, and I completely adore him, but one of the problems with it was the whole sex thing. We weren't having sex, we're only 15 and fully intend to save sex for marriage but apparently most guys find it harder to control than girls. We went further than we wanted to quite a few times and regretted it later. We've prayed a lot about the issue, and when we're talking rationally, we both know that less is more. We want to keep as much physical stuff as possible for later on. But that's easier to say than do. It often seemed like he wanted to keep going, and I knew we should stop. It was always me that had to say no. And after a while, it makes you feel bad, constantly having to say no to your boyfriend.
So my question is, now we're back together, ready for a new start and really want to make this relationship work, how can we help ourselves to stay in control and put God first in this area of our relationship?
Sorry it's so long, and thanks (:
Well my answer is only my opinion, and its all about how much selfcontrol you have. You need to sit with your boyfriend, and you both need to discuss the situation. Pray about it.
Basically think of an upside down triangle [the point is on the bottom] and thats what my body looks like.
Why is it that im like 50 pounds over weight.. i way about 160.. and yet i wear a size 5 pants and people say i look like i weigh 130 pounds? i know that i should take that as a compliment but it makes me feel worse about my weight and makes me more self concious.
so what im wondering is why are my hips very small and yet i have a stomach and broad shoulders? even though i do about 85 pushups, and run daily, and is there a way to make my stomach smaller?
im sorry this is very confusing
Well. .if you excercise incorrectly you could make your stomache muscles buldge out, and you could just hurt your body that way.
Everyone's body is different & if you arent
happy with it, then the best thing to do is eat healthy, and be fit. Go running 3 days a week, or schedule it all out. But doing exercises in large numbers doesnt make it more effective, the slower you do situps, the more effective they are.
ok so me and my "bestfriend" ashley have been friends for a couple years now and we grew apart so much but she told my friend jen that she doesnt think we grew apart at all but i dont no what to do to let her no that i dont think we should be friends anymore its not that shes mean or i want to pick a fight i just dont have fun with her anymore i get so bored when im at her house so i need to find out how to not hurt her feelings or get in a fight and ill rate 5s as long as you dont say talk to her cause that will hurt her feelings
Well if she wasnt paying attention enough in your friendship to tell that you grew apart, then she isnt worth your time. Its not mean at all to not want to be friends with her, just say it in the nicest possible way, explain how you feel, but talk like "I feel this way.. when you do this... and i get bored.." nefer say "You are boring, yyou dont even know me anymore" because it usually goes a lot smoother when you tell how you feel by saying things with "I". Does that make sense?
But theres probably no way that your not going to hurt her feelings, but she'll understand & she will get over it.
hope i helped.,
I seem to have a really big belly the rest of me is alrite im not overweight i just have a huge bulge and its my belly sumtimes i luk pregnant!!!!
Do crunchs & situps in reps.
Eat healthy :]
ok well i was wondering if the workouts in the seventeen magizne actually work because i dont want to waste my time doing it and then it doesnt work lol but if they dont work is there any workouts on the internet u could tell me about?? well thankzz i will rate 5
To be honest, they are workouts yes, but with workouts you need to eat healthy too.
So I'm sure they do, but you need to remember to eat right as well.
If you smoke Chronic ^Marijuana laced with Cocaine^ is there a possibility that you will become addicted to cocaine alone or both marijuana and cocaine?
Please help i'll rate high for good answers!
Well thats kinda a strange question,
because I wouldnt suggest smoking any of them.
You'd probably become addicted to them all,
because they all are very addictive and deadly.
im a 15/f and kinda a chunk monkey and i want to begin running b/c i played lacrosse this year n ran out of breathe pretty quick. so i was wondering what would be the best way to build up my endurance and lose weight quickly so by fall ill b able to play field hockey and keep up w/ the other girls?
The best thing to do, is start running little by little.
Run 3 times a week, for 30 minutes,
and increase it each time.
hello. i really love the sound of the song "black horse and a cherry tree" by KT Tunstall, but i dont quite understand the lyrics. can someone please help me out?
Its hard to tell,
I have a friend who sings & writes a lot of songs, but I dont get them either.
Sometimes songwriters write personal things that turn out tobe really cool, but not a lot of people understand it.
sorry if that wasn thelpful.
i am 15/f, and i have had a crush on a guy friend of mine for a few months now. We talk all the time, in our group we talk together the most and lately i feel like there is more. For instance, on the way back from school trips on the bus i have put my head on his shoulder and he seemed to like it, when i have put my head on his shoulder while watching a movie with some other friends they told me that they saw him leaning into it. A few other things like when we were getting ready for dinner he would help me out, and he sat next to me and stayed in a pretty cold hot tub with some other couples, which would be kinda awkward unless he liked me right? idk, at any rate he is kinda shy when it comes to romantic stuff and if you could tell me if he likes me, and if he does what should i do now to make him feel more comfortable to initiate things, like arm around the shoulder holding hands type stuff? by the way his birthday is coming up in a couple weeks, should i do something then?
thanks
Well you can never tell if a guy likes you, the only way to know, is to ask.
And i know asking would be risking feelings, but if you are really curoius ask him. & ifyou like him, tell him.
Its best to just be flat out on these things.
And if you want to show him you care, yes do something for his birthday.
Hey guys sup?? Well I've been really into this one guy that lives in staten island ( I live in Jersey) and we really click well together. He lives in this Huge mansion with his parents but rarely has time to come and see me because he works so fucking much. He hasn't asked me out yet but I've only seen him once in the past two weeks..what's up with that. I guess another reason he's not seeing me is because gas prices are sooo expensive now...anyways I really like him a lot but have no idea whether I should start a relationship with someone tht doesn't have time for me. He keeps telling me that once he finishes this college year (he's 20 im 16) he'll have more spare time to see me..but I don't want to keep hoping he's going to come visit me frequently and just get let down all the time. We talk on the phone like three or four times a day and we're a perfect match. I'm really starting to fall for him but I don't want to get my heart broken again...What do I do?? Thanks for your help in advance.. xo>>>
Well there is an age difference, a big one, and I know age is but a number, yes thats true. But age is only a number when you are probably out of highschool. I honestly think its fine to date someone older than you but if your both not in highschool or college, or whatever, your schedules wont fit.
I would just maybe take a break?
your thinking, ahhh no way.
but until he has time for you, then its not worth it.
Me and Ross went out for quite a while, but we called it off. After we broke up, we often caught each other starring at each other, then we'd smile and laugh it off. He hasn't talked to me much since we broke up, and when he found out I still liked him, he told everyone he hated me and liked his other ex-girlfrieng Kaitlyn. Which I know is not true, cause he really hates her, and some of his friends told me he's lying about her. He won't answer my calls/texts, and when I try to talk to him he walks away. I don't like him anymore, but I just wanna talk to him and straighten everything out. What should I do?
I think the best thing to do is leave him alone, because if he is avoiding you he probably has reasons, and anyways the best thing to do is let the situation cool down, I know it may be hard because you just want the conflict to be over, but wait it out, & forget about him, if he still wants to be anything, he'll come to you.