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Family getting involved.
This is a really hard time for me, I'm still young.. and I guess it's understandable why my Mom and Dad are stepping up to the plate. But, my boyfriend and I are seriously unseperatable. We are both eachothers source for happiness. Since he is older, my dad wants me to stop talking to him, and It's not like I can go behind his back and see him because the police are actually involved in the situation. All I can do now is sit and mope, but I really don't want to.
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Well I think you should respect your parents decisions for now, since you obviously arent old enough to tell your parents they have no right. And since the police are in it, I would let the situation cool down,as crazy as you feel your going, it'll all work out.
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Even though I don't know of you and your boyfriend's age difference, I think I'm going with your dad on this one and before you skip on to the next answer, let me tell you why.
When you are dating young, having a person about 2 or 3 years older than you is really too much for a teenager because you are so young and that person is in a different place in their life.
People who are married and about 10 years apart is ok because those people are older, they are adults. It's not a high schooler dating a middle schooler or a college student dating a high schooler. Dating years apart as a teenager isn't a good idea, things begin to change a lot more as you both grow together. While you are a Freshmen in high school and he's a senior, he will probably start thinking about sex while you are just learning more about sex and then you've got him wanting sex while you feel rushed into it. I'm not telling you that this will happen, but that is an example of what a young person is thinking about in a relationship, and what an older person is thinking about.
First off, don't convince yourself that you aren't able to be happy without this guy because you are capable of it even though it doesn't feel that way right now in time. Time will heal you and your heart and bring you back happiness and might even bring you back someone closer to your age that your parents will support. You can truly find happiness with someone else and without him. I know that you probably don't believe this and having someone tell you that is going to help, but I think you'll feel better when you know that everything will be ok.
If this age difference is big enough to where the police are in the situation, then I definetly think that you shouldn't be with this guy either. Theres no reason why this guy can't find a girl his own age either rather than picking on someone too young. Don't convince yourself that this guy is your soulmate and that you are miserable without him because he's not even close to your age from what it sounds like. Now, this break-up will be tough, but you should reach out to your friends and family for support to come over your feelings for this guy.
-TheTeenGirl
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If the police are involved then you have no choice but to try and get over it. If you go out with him he is bound for jail. I'm sure you don't want that to happen.
Depending on your age it could be years before you are old enough to see him. You will have to try to get over him and move on with your life. :)
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