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dont want to be her friend
ok so me and my "bestfriend" ashley have been friends for a couple years now and we grew apart so much but she told my friend jen that she doesnt think we grew apart at all but i dont no what to do to let her no that i dont think we should be friends anymore its not that shes mean or i want to pick a fight i just dont have fun with her anymore i get so bored when im at her house so i need to find out how to not hurt her feelings or get in a fight and ill rate 5s as long as you dont say talk to her cause that will hurt her feelings
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Just like start to not be as friendly with her/. LIke dont be mean but dont e-mail her or call her or hang out stuff like that. Then she will probably come to you and be like do you not wanna be friends. And then just explain to her.
xoxJess
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This is a hard one, if she invites you round maybe just say im going somewhere else she then might realise you have other friends and start to loose interest in you, or you could find her a new best friend!
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Well, I think that if you don't want to talk to her, there isn't really much more of a way. You could ignore her, but then that would be worse, and I don't suggest it. Maybe you could just start slowly to just not being so tight with her. Like, don't hang out with her as much, or don't talk to her on the phone as much. Once that happens, she'll probably realize you two are going your seperate ways. The best way really is to talk to her, but if you're not up to that, the second best way is just to let things cool down with her, and to maybe start hanging out with other people more. I hope this helps.
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Unfortunately, as we get older, we really do effectively 'grow out of' some of the friendships we used to have. It sounds as though this is what has happened here and I'm afraid to say it might well happen a few more times. The sense of fun you had with that person changes, or the problems you have grow more mature and you find you can't discuss it with them. It's just one of those things.
You may not want to talk to her but I can assure you any other way of hinting to her you no longer wish to be friends will be far more hurtful to her. You could just speak to her and tell her you think you have changed too much to maintain a proper friendship with her and that you think she might be better off finding other friends.
If you really do not wish to speak to her, you could always try to point her in the direction of some people she might fit in better with. Try to find something she is really interested in and recommend she goes to a class or something for it. Or introduce her to someone you think she would be better friends with. This is really the only way you can do this without speaking to her directly and without hurting her feelings.
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Well if she wasnt paying attention enough in your friendship to tell that you grew apart, then she isnt worth your time. Its not mean at all to not want to be friends with her, just say it in the nicest possible way, explain how you feel, but talk like "I feel this way.. when you do this... and i get bored.." nefer say "You are boring, yyou dont even know me anymore" because it usually goes a lot smoother when you tell how you feel by saying things with "I". Does that make sense?
But theres probably no way that your not going to hurt her feelings, but she'll understand & she will get over it.
hope i helped.,
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If I was you and I really didn't want to be friends with ashley than I would just gradually call her less and less. Don't make plans with her and don't be like " Ashley your so cool, I love you!" if you know what I mean. Don't act like you are her best friend, but don't act like your her enemy. I hope everything works out for you!
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