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lately i have been so stressed and worried about one of my classes. i used to force myself to study all day for 5 days in advance of a test (including saturday and sunday) so that i would get a "good grade". its gotten to the point where i see a therapist and take medication. my mom is concerned, so she is only letting me study 2 hours a day so that i wont be overstressed, and she said that if i dont do well on tests that itll be her fault. my question is, is it better to cry and panic all the time and get a good grade or to enjoy life and not study as much and get a lower grade? (link)
i have totally been in that situation and you should relax and enjoy life it's better to get a lower grade than panic and worry about being an honor student and all that stuff to get you praised in school i dont mean to sound like an Asshole but it's true. i dont even know you but i really dont want to see you f**k up your life by doing this.

I hope I helped,
We_Are_Unwritten


where can you get those cute sweatpants that say "pink" on the butt? like i heard you can get them at victorias secret but idk. thanks and i rate! (link)
i know EVERybody elese has said this, but it is true, victoria's secret is where to go


how does someone get raped/kidnapped over myspacve? i dont reallt get it? is it even true? (link)
if you say where you live or give personal info some perv will stalk you (if you give out personal info like i just said)


Is it normal to start your period in gr.6? another question. If your start having periods in gr.6 and don't have one till gr.8 is the normal? (link)
the earliest ive ever heard of a period happening is 4th grade, or around 8 years old. not gettin gone for 2 years is pretty irregular. your supposed to get it monthly (duh), but some peopel can get it 6 mos late. you should talk to a doctor/gynee. (are you sure you got it in 6th grade, because its VERRRRY normal for ppl to get it in 8th grade)


You know on how some layouts they give you the code thing that makes it all pretty when you do this
< b > text here < / b > & all the others. Well when I write in my new web blog or whatever, i do that, then i have the BOX CHECKED ON HTML. And hit summit. But it still gives me the code. And I basically tried everything but i just don`t get it. what am i doing wrong??

Any help would be great. (link)
spaces or not when you write that it doesn't really work. I've done it before. You have to hit the button "B" next to the I and the underlined U. It gets pretty annoying.

Hope it helps

------> Maureen


Tomorow I have an early morning practice for volleyball, and you have to shower afterwards. Well, I'm on my period, and I'm not yet comfortable with tampons. I don't want to be bleeding in the shower infront of all the girls so I was gonna wear a tampon with a bathing suit just in case. Well my flow is really light right now, so I don't want to use a tampon, but I don't want my bathing suit turning red or me bleeding in the shower! What should I do? =D (link)
They make tampons for girls with a light flow. You could try that. :)


how do you ask a younger guy you work with (who your friends with) to your prom? (link)
forget the whole "younger then you" part.
It doesnt matter, Just ask him "Will you go to prom?"
dont make it hard on yourself/


Me and my boyfriend have been together for alomost a year & a half. We are (were) supposed to get married next month. Last night we were talking and he told me something that he had been holding in since last summer that he wanted to get off his chest. I was pregnant last summer and miscarried, he told me he doesnt believe I was ever pregnant. This has hurt me so much, we are not little kids, in fact I am older than him (21 & 23) I would not make up such a horrible story, I was crushed when it happened and still cry at night sometimes when I think about it. He says he cant marry me till he has proof. Getting "proof" isnt a problem, but i feel now as though I cant marry him becuase he doesnt trust me and Ive always been told if you dont have trrust you dont have nothin. I Love him more than I could ever say and the thought of losing him upsets me to no end, but at that same time i feel so betrayed by him like im some kind of monster that would make up a story like that. What should I do? please help Ill rate!! (link)
Honestly, I'd give him the proof needed.
And tell him, that your hurt, that he doesnt trust you. And yes trust is important, But maybe he's still in shock that the whole thing happend. Or paranoid about the marriage, Maybe you too should have a real talk. But really dont give up on all the trust.


I have a boyfriend who I have been with for about a month and a half. He's only a year younger than me but since my birthday is at the start of the month (JAN 06) and his is at the end (NOV 24)it sounds like a bigger age gap (I'm 17 and he's still 15) I really love him and I know he cares about me. But theres this voice in the back of my head telling me its all wrong. Please help me I don't know what to do.
PS I rate really high (link)
Age is just a number. You dont need to hear anybody opinions on the age gap. Its all about, the relationship (and everything that comes in a good relationship, like trust) and how mature you are. So dont worry, and i honestly dont think it makes a difference.


Okay i have got stetch marks all over my upper thighs, hips and bottom. i have been using palmers coco butter everyday since january and still have seen no change/improvement

so does it really work?

or is there anything else i could use to help fade them a little?

i know you cant get rid of them completely (link)
It has worked pretty well for my friends, only it took quite awhile.
Just keep using it, or ask your mom if she knows anything good you can try.


Okay so theres this girl on my bus lets say her names Kayla. She is SO ANNOYING!!! I cant stand her! shes a real popular girl (I dont know why!) and she is so mean. She has never done anything to me, except just make me mad. anyways, theres another kid on the bus lets say his names greg and hes a grade younger than her. Noone really likes him on the bus except for the real shy people who dont stick up for anyone. I personally dont know him and he doesnt know me. Kayla says the meanest things to him, like that hes fat and ugly and makes fun of his friends and stuff. I can bearly take it because I feel so bad for him. All these kids pick on him and he has a hard time sticking up for himself because there are so many mean kids on my bus. Shes actually mean to everyone that doesnt wear "the latest and greatest fashion". She was mean to one of my good friends because she didnt like the smell of her hand sanitizer. HAND SANITIZER!!! She needs to grow up desperetly. I really want to stick up for these kids. She actually hit one of these kids one day. The worst part is, our bus driver doesnt even care.

could you help me think of something to say or do?!?

ACE

P.S i rate high (link)
This girl sounds emtreamly immature and shallow. And its realy messed up that she is picking on people for no reason at all. Maybe next time she says something mean to someone you could respond with something like "Its pretty sad that you have to point out other peoples flaws to try and hide your obvious ones." Maybe point out the fact that it is truely immature to make fun of others and that she should feel lucky to still be in school because that behavior will get you nowhere in the real world.

You should stick up for the others too. There was this kid on one of my bus routes and everyone hated him and amde fun of him. I was so sick of it I just straight up told everyone that they need to knock their immature crap off otherwise I was gonna kick their asses. They took me seriously!! lol

But i guess if all else fails just tell someone, like your principle or counsilor at school. If someone like that knows about that behavior she may get kicked off the bus and the bus driver may get in trouble for ignoring it.

Good luck.


is kelly and her twin sister from "8th & Ocean" the girls from that contact commercial a little while ago? they both are like, "we're twins. which one has the contacts in?" or something like that. (link)
i acually believe they are...they look alike. and they sounded alike. but the twins in the commercial looked so much alike you couldnt tell the differance and i can tell the differance between sabrina and kelly


is kelly and her twin sister from "8th & Ocean" the girls from that contact commercial a little while ago? they both are like, "we're twins. which one has the contacts in?" or something like that. (link)
I dont think so.


ok i think getting high would be worse than getting drunk, but my friend doesnt belive me. do any of you know which one is worse for you?

thanks (link)
Its pretty much even, both make you do stupid things, and look stupid.


I like this boy that is 3 years older than me and he says he likes me but he makes fun liek jokingly /flirtingly by saying your so young try not to fall in lvoe with me n stuff like that. hes 17 years old but i dont think it matters he is obvously more experianced and he says that he could get me to hook up wit him the first day we hang out and i tell him he could never .. does he liek me or does he want to get in my pants i dont knwo what to do HELP PLEASE i rate high (link)
I say he wants in your pants.
He seems pretty jerkish anyways, I would go find a guy who seems a tad more mature.
And since he says "he could get me to hook up wit him the first day we hang out"- pretty much proof he'd like in your pants.
Good luck with it anyways


Hi. This is F/14.
My problem is (If this is a problem)I Have no pubic hair on my armpits and around vagina. My skin there is just like 8 year old girl. I started my periods one & a half year back. Is this a big problem. What may be the reason? I am worried about any future disease. Please advice?
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Honestly, your normal & lucky. Really.
But you dont get pubes under your arm, that some call "armpit hair" or, just regular hair.
But if you dont get it by sixteen, go see a docter.


G/16.
I am living in a happy family. My father has a very nice personality, he is very loving, caring, calm & cool man. He never gets angry. I like him very very much. He also loves me a lot and take care of mine. I am very much attached with him. During the day many times I kiss & hug him. Since long when I was a child he pats my back and hips in a very gentle and lovely way, when I hug him or come closer. I feel I am addicted to his hand. He never tried to crossed the limit. To be honest I ‘’ve seen (I know its very bad) him making love with mom and I cant tell you how they enjoy the every moment and how nicely he treats mom.
The problem is that I always want to see the same personality attributes in my boy friend, but I never find and break out with the guy. The boys have no such traits. I should realized this fact but I cant. What should I do? I am very upset.
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I'm concerned that I might be mis-interpreting your question. Some of the terminology you used seems unusual to me.
I don't want this to sound rude but is English your second language?

I debated what to say to this one.
First of all, if you are having incestual feelings towards your father, you need to talk to a professional. That topic is out of my league. However, I'm going to assume you are trying to describe a strong desire for non-sexual affection and I'll try and address that¦

They say girls either want a man exactly like their own father or completely opposite. I'd say that you are looking for a replica of your dad. Since you mentioned you are 16, I should remind you that you are trying to compare young men to an adult man. I'm sure your father was different when he was the same age as your boyfriend. In addition, fathers have a completely different relationship with their daughters than with their partner/wife. Be careful not to try and compare a "FATHERS affection for his daughter" with a "BOYS affection for a girlfriend."

It's possible you need to clarify what advice you are looking for because I might be mis-interpreting your question. But my advice is to stop comparing 16 yr old boys to your father. There ARE nice guys out there; you just probably haven't noticed them. The "nice guys" are seldom appreciated at your age. It's the "bad boys" that girls your age tend to migrate towards because they seem more interesting and more of a challenge. I don't understand why you feel angry. You should enjoy being your age. Be grateful you have a good relationship with your father but be careful with these feelings you described. He is your FATHER.

Let me know if this helps. If not, perhaps more information will help me understand your situation more clearly.

Much Love, Mrs S




ok ... well i got my period in 6th grade. im now in 8th grade and i don't use tampons. is this bad? should i start using them? how do i start? i'm kind of scared to .. i tried once but chickened out. all of my friends that have their period, even those who just got it, say they use tampons. with the summer coming up &all .. should i start? thanks (link)
Dont use, them if you dont want to.
You dont have to go swimming on the week of your period, just stay out, or tan.


ok this may sound a bit strange but does any1 know about the average bra size 4 a 13 year old because i get really embaressed getting sized up!! (link)
everybody is different.
Im 13, and im an 36C


Okay i downloaded bearshare and i guess i can`t use it because i have some sort of spyware on my computer..

Can somebody help or tell me some other music thing i can put on here if you help it will be greatly appreciated..
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In all honestly, just paying for it so much easy to me (itunes)
But if you must, not pay for it try aries, i heard its pretty good and my friend uses it.




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