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i really like this guy a lot. and i think he knows that i like him too cause i make it look pretty obvious. Sometimes i would catch him looking at me and sometimes he would stand really really close to me that my back would brush against him. sometimes he would come up to me and say half a sentence but then stop and just leave, sometimes he would ignore me and try not to notice me. he keeps giving me mixed signals which confuses me. and i am too nervous to talk to him to make the first move..we've really never talked to each other before but say hi.
so one day i decided to ignore him when he was walking past me , and i think i kinda hurt him...
i am very confused ...does he like me or not like me?? why does he keep giving mixed signals?? should i make the first move? (link)
From what your saying im not completely sure if he does like you. Because most of the time guys will show that they like you and want to be around you. They make it pretty well known. But, you might want to try talking to him. Get to know him better, because from what you said you don't know much about him. You like the idea of him. You might get to know him and him not be who you think he is. And lots of times, i've done this before, you like someone so you kinda make every little thing that they do into something bigger then it is.
So I think that you should just try to start talking to him. And get to know him better. Because he can't really like you unless he knowns you. And once you too start talking, ya'll will get to know eachother, and maybe something can happen. Hope I helped. Keep my informed on what happens :)




i know of this guy and i think he is soo hot lol. i have a friend that is friends with him and we're hanging out soon. should i ask about him? how should i casually bring it up. i want to meet him soo bad. any ideas without making me sound desperate/creepy lol. (link)
I think you should just ask her about him. GO FOR IT! Just casually bring it up in conversation. Maybe ya'll can start talking about guys and you could just bring him up. And ask about how they know eachother and tell her you think he's cute and would like to meet him. Most people like hooking other people up, so maybe she'll even make the effort to fix you to up. Hope I helped.



im recently single and my friends keep trying to get me with my best friend who already has a girlfriend. me and him are close enough to talk about anything in the world but friends try so hard to the point its not funny any more we used to joke and hed hold me as they freakout. he trusts me that i like him and his gf together, their perfect. i cant convince my friends to stop how do i? their mind is set, but so is mine as im not gonna be with him him and his girl are amazing together. im proud of him (link)
You need to tell your friends how you feel in a serious tone. Tell them that you are honestly happy for him and his gf. And all you want it to be friends with him. They need to understand that it has gone to far. If they are your real friends they will understand how you feel and hopefully stop.



he’s going to be a senior next year, and she’s starting her freshman year of college in mid august. this guy knows i liked him, and he kinda strung me along for a few months before dating her. what im trying to ask do you think their relationship will last long? she’s also running in college, and its a D1 school so it’d be hard for them to see each other. though the school is only an hour away. im not trying to be immature, when he told me they were dating i genuinely wished him the best. im just plain curious. i don't know what to do. he was literally begging me to still be friends with him. (link)
as harsh as it sounds, he obviousely isnt interested. If he was, he would have started dating you, but that didn't happen. So be friends, if it SHOULD happen, it will :)


im looking for a two door, front wheel drive, automatic car to get. id buy it used and be atleast from 2004 but am looking to spend far under 10,000 if possible. what could i get thats best for my money? and gas wise (link)
i tried looking on the internet, but have you tried Autotrader.com?
You put in exactly what you want, and it shows you all the cars for sale, and distance from your zip code. Hope i helped :)


im looking for a sports car to get but to start i dont even know what kind i want haha. i lovee the rx8 its my favorite car, but i need a front wheel drive car. i also like porsche bmw camaro, all thoes types, but none are front wheel.
im 16 and a girl. id buy the car used and buff it up, i already work on cars as in rewiring, painting, and vinyls, all that type. i go to a few car shows for my brothers scion. if all else fails il get a scion tc but he wants me to get a cool car we can use, but i need a front wheel sports car. itd mainly be for school, work and going with friends out alottt, not many car shows. can you help me pick good kinds of cars to look for? front wheel drive, sports car, and is there any other cars that have doors like the mazda rx8 as in two big doors then two tiny innerdoors? (link)
I dont wanna burst your bubble or anything, but I AM 16 also, i'm a guy, and for my first car i've always wanted a sports car. So my dad bought me a brand new g35 coupe for only 14k. It was a good deal and i was happy that i finally got the car i wanted.....until I got a job and started paying for gas......

Sports cars, ESPECIALLY the rx8 get horrible fuel economy and you find yourself having to fill up gas every 5 days, and it costs you a fortune. for me, since i have a nice car that everybody would want, i try to keep it as luxurious as possible and drive alot less, that way i can save on gas, keep my wallet happy.

Sorry for kind of avoiding your question, but especially for being 16, and if this is yoru first car, i highly suggest you start off with something simple, like the new honda accord, honda fit, kia soul, or even a scion tc, something simple and that normal teenagers would have for their first car. But, if your parents are filthy rich and they pay for you gas, insurance, maintence, then hey, go for the BMW.


Hey. I am a 15 year old girl who has had problems with self harm for over 2 years. I just moved back to my hometown 2 years ago from Spain. I moved to a new school and didnt know many people until i once met a boy who got into my head and started to control everything i did. He made me self har. He has mentally abused me and left scars upon my body for the rest of my life. I am still seeing a councellor to this day. I have been hospilised 3 times. All because of self harm. I need more help because these councellours dont seem to help. My mam has threated to kick me out if i dont stop and she doesnt like me to see people. She scares me when she shouts. But i need help i cant do this anymore. I feel like i dont belong here anymore Would you know anything that i could do? (link)
I used to cut myself for about 2 years. I was very open to my psychologist about it and I found that that really helped. So, you need to actually talk to your psychologist.I also had a friend that did, so I had someone to talk to about it so I found that it helped to talk to someone that wasn't a perfessional.One day I just decided that I had to stop and I havent cut since. It's not up to anyone else, I went to a psychiatrist and i've been to psychologists. But, it's something that you have to decide you want to stop on your own. No one can make you. The hardest part I found was getting read of what I used. Because I was scared to not have them there just in case. So, that will be the hardest part in my opinion. But, you need to just throw away and get whatever you use out of the house, and everytime you think your going to; go to a public place either in your house or somewhere else. That way you can't. You might want to take up a hobby that you find releases stress that way you can just go pick it up when you feel like your about to harm yourself. I hope I helped. If you want someone to continue to talk to about it you can email me and if you ever need someone to talk to about anything. My email is marissalee39@yahoo.com




when i oversleep, (which is alot) i tend to wake up with lower back pains.. why? how can i fix this probleemm cause it doesnt go away for an hour or 2 after i wake up (link)
that happens to me aswell. But i had other backpains aswell. Turned out i had vitamin D and calcium deficiency, and now im on medication for it, and it helps- sort of (i dont have much time to oversleep anymore!). Ask your doctor, or simply wake up earlier? :)


I am 5'7" and I weight 127 pounds. Is 5'7" too short to be a model and if I were to weigh 120 pounds would I weigh too much to be a model? (link)
you can be anysort of model, like, a hand model, a catalogue model whatever, at any size. But as a catwalk model, you need to be atleast 5'7"-5'8", and you need to be skinny- thats the type of society we live in unfortunately. I know, its not the "make the person feel good about themselves" answer like below, but atleast im answering to the point :)

hope i helped :)


I am on a diet and I exercise and eat healthy. I walk 2 miles a day and I do cardio once a day. I lost 23 pounds just doing that. Is that weird? Or is the 23 pounds water weight? (link)
well water weight would be gained through food and drink, and so if you have been drinking plenty of water and eating healthily, i doubt its water weight. Your goal should be to lose body fat, not just weight, which could be water, muscle, etc.

It takes about 3500 calories to equal one pound of fat. This means for every 3500 calories you eat above what you are burning off, you will gain one pound. Likewise, if you eat 3500 fewer calories than you burn, you will lose one pound. It will be easy for someone that is eating thousands of calories a day to lose a pound or so everyday, as its easier to cut out calories (as a %).

What im reading in articles, is that such a weight loss would be unsustainable, and the reccomendation is like, 2-3lbs a week. If you are worried, go to the doctor? hope i helped :)


Does anyone know any REALLY good iPod touch apps. Perferably free. But if it's not free than it don't matter but please say that the app is not free. Thankyou. (link)
It'd be a better idea to just go into App Store, and tap "top rated", and see which are the best rated by people who have them? But i like,
touch hockey - free
tetris - i cant remember, free i think
Boomshine- free
flood it - free
bejewled - free
Custom hypnosis - $$$
amazon&ebay - free
find me tv- $$$
Facebook - free
tap tap (revenge, dance, gaga etc) - some free, some $$$
theres LOADS...the best thing is to get the ones that sound good, and if you dont like them delete them. Which is easier with free apps. With paid apps, the best thing is to read all of the reviews.

Enjoy :)


when you dream off someone is it cause they went to bed dreaming of you? or when you think of someone is it cause they are thinking of you? (link)
Im afraid not. The meanings of dreams sometimes take over people lives. I reccomend you ignore it, you have atleast 20dreams a night, only 1-3 of which you usually remember. Thats 116800 dreams in your lifetime, assuming you live till 80, so it really doesnt mean anything, just (like the answer below me said) you subconscious 'coming out to play'.
:)


I cant seem to remember the name of the song.. All I've got is "princess pink pom pom dress".. Or something along those lines. Its a song from 2000-2006/7.. I sorta remember the video, its with the singer, a lady with dark hair and she's walking down the street, the music has some good drum beats, and in the lyrics she mentions something about "pink pom pom dress" or something like that.. I cant remember if she was wearing a pink tutu or what...
Please help me and put me out of this misery! Its just been bugging me!!
Oh and she has a good voice, strong and a lil deep, I think.. I'm sorry if I'm not giving enough clues or whatever.

Thank you in advance!!! (link)
ive searched and searched and searched, but can find anything. What i normally do is type into google the lyrics you do know, followed by the word "lyrics", and that will usually show something. But nothing? i havnt even head it! sorry?
:)


I want to make my boyfriend some really comfy PJ pants for his birthday in 2 weeks (he's turning 20). But I'm not an experienced sewer. Does anyone know of EASY online guides?? Or does anyone know the best way to do it? Thanks in advance! (link)
Well first you want to find the fabric.

Then the measurements, measure his waist, and the length from hips (or wherever they would sit) to an inch or so above the ground. Then cut the shape, and turn it inside out. Sew it using a machine. When cutting the fabric, save extra space around the edge, because you will be sewing it. Also some around the waist. You can either put elastic , in which case you will need to make the waist larger, to allow the elastic to stretch. Or you can put string, in which case you dont need to make the hips much larger. this sounds abit confusing? I say you go and buy a cheap pair, or look at a sample, and see what the design is.

or just go on this:
http://www.instructables.com/id/How-to-Sew-Your-Own-Pajama-Pants/

hope i helped :)


So, I bought this external drive and it will not let me copy files on to this external drive. I have a personal Mac OS X MacBook Pro. I'm hoping that there is a way to fix the problem. At first I plugged it into my Windows computer and grabbed some files. NEED HELP. (link)
i tried the website, but i dont know what model you have, etc. But heres the support website for seagate external drives:
http://www.seagate.com/www/en-us/support/

hope you find what you need :)


so my boyfriend has this friend who used to cut herself and now she has scars on her arms from where she used to do that. she was wondering if there might be any way to remove them? if scar remover would work? if so, which one would work best? any ideas? (link)
i was also gonna reccomend bio-oil, but looks like someones beat me to it!

It works, so yeah, reccomend it. It can be a bit pricey tho :)


I'm 15 years old I know Im young but I don't want to hear about it. What's done is done. on the uhh 18th I had sex unprotected and he busted in me. I'm supposed to start my period on the 2nd.. what'd the likelyhood on pregnancy. And what do I do ? (link)
what do you mean what do you do? You said "whats done is done" indeed, that is certainly the case. But If your wondering about pregnancy, you should have thought about that before? Condoms aren't expensive ya'know? But heres some advice:

85% of all couples who have unprotected sex will become pregnant within the first year
All the sperm has to do, is look for your egg, and get in. Now there were MILLIONS of sperm cells released when he "busted in you", and this is so there is a higher change of becoming pregnant, and carrying on the Human population (god forbid). Therefore, it varies depending on the strength of those lil critters. If you miss your period, don't panic, you can take a pregnancy test, usually after 2 weeks.

Hope i helped :)
And please, buy some condoms!


I just recentley graduated high school i am 17 years old. When my Senior Year started my parents would constantly remind of getting a job, going to college, doing this and that for college. As my senior year was ending i would be reminded everyday which got annoying. However when we would have these talks somehow my boyfriend would come into the conversation they would tell me how i just worry about him and nothing else. I'm sick and tired of hearing it. One night i came home and we got into another arguement about getting a job-I know I have to it's not easy anyways i got really upset and told them they didnt have to worry about it cause i was going to move out soon and live with my boyfiend they got really pist and took away my phone, computer, and kept me from seeing him. I dont know what to do? What do i tell my parents? I reallllyyy want to move out! (link)
You may not realise this, but your parents are doing whats in your best interest. You have to get a job to get money. You have to get an education, to be successful by getting a good job.

You shouting "you dont have to worry because im moving out with my boyfriend" further re-enforced what they though - your boyfriend is a distraction to you. Theres nothing wrong with being in a relationship as long as it doesnt affect school etc.

Why do you want to move out? Do you have a job to pay rent? Groceries? Bills? how about a car? TV? insurance? Do you think your ready to be independent when you don't even have a job?

I understand that right now your boyfriend may be 'the one' and you may be in 'love'. But how can you gaurentee this? you cant, and so why do you want to risk it, and do something stupid like moving out on your own, at this crucial stage in your life. This is the first step to becoming in adult. If you don't act like an adult, you cannot be treated like an adult by your parents. If you want to move out with him, because your so madly in love, can you not wait? Is the love not strong enough to withstand whats best for you- ad education, and/or a job to get experience and money. If Love conquers all, then this wont be a problem. Im sure you can wait a few years when you have money, and a good education and then move in with your boyfriend.

I know this may sounds like a lecture from your parents, but it is indeed the truth. I hope you realise and understand this :)


i have been babysitting for my niece since her mom started working.i have been babysitting her monday-friday from seven until she goes to school at 12:40. i have been chargingmy brother and sister in law $50.00 a week to babysit her. but now that shes out of school and im watching her monday-friday from seven in the morning to four in the afternoon. i think its only fair to charge a little more since im watching her all day. the only thing is im not sure what is a fair rate to charge. they both work full time by the way. thanks for your help (link)
you babysat for more than 27.5 hours a week before. £50 divided by 27.5 is $1.82 an hour.

Now you are babysitting for 45 hours a week. $1.82 multiplied by 45 is $81.80.

Thats what the maths says. I dont know if you want to change that much though? Hope i helped :)


I’ve been working at this place for a long time now and there’s this guy on another shift that has given me really vicious, hateful looks almost everyday since he’s started there, which has been only a couple years. Now, I have absolutely no idea at all who this guy is, I’ve never worked with him, and have never even spoken a word to him. I didn’t even know his name, at first. Sometimes he’ll pass by me and if I happen to look at him I’ll politely nod my head in a friendly gesture at him, but still receive a hateful glance in return. Also, there have been a few moments on some days when I’ll pass by him and he’s standing around with some other coworkers and I happen to notice he is staring at me and talking about me to the other folks, and I know this because they will all stare back at me and all them are wearing sly grins on their faces. Plus, almost every time he comes into work he seems like he tries to avoid me while giving me those hateful glares. Naturally I blow it off, not that big a deal. But recently, I have just discovered the source of his hatred toward me: he has been telling people that I am gay and that he would love to beat me up. I had finally asked someone from the next shift (the one he’s on) if they knew what his problem was with me (which is how I found out his name) and this person told me this. Now, I’m not offended as I have a few gay friends, but it’s simply not true. Like I said, it’s no big deal, I have no idea who this guy is, never spoken to him or anything, therefore he doesn’t know me, and as far as I know I’ve never given him or anyone else a reason to think I’m gay, not that that matters as I don’t care what other people think anyway. Most people I work with know me well enough anyway, so that doesn’t bother me, it’s a pretty grade school thing happening here. So, I can blow off a rumor, yet because it’s something that has been started and a vague threat has been made, I would hate for this to escalate to something worse, such as me ending up being a victim of some misguided hate crime or something outside of work, let alone one or both of us losing our jobs over something so pointless and immature. I know that may sound extreme but it could be a possibility and if there’s a chance I can prevent any further complications from this, how should I deal with it? Continue to blow it off and let it run its course, or should I confront this guy about it? (link)
If what you want is me to re-affirm that you should blow it off, then this answer will be of no use to you. What would I do? I would confront him, but heres a step by step guide as to what I would do, feel free to use the advice, or simply ignore it:

1. Get in close with the people he is telling these rumours to - the people who looked back at you with sly grins. Talk to them. Are you interested in sport? As stereotypical as it sounds, Men do enjoy talking about sports. Talking about sports - a testosterone filled activitiy, will give the contrary impression of what he is saying about you. Now of course, this is not true- Straight men may not enjoy sports, and Gay men may do. But asking "did you see the game" or whatever, will not only give the impression of "manly-ness" it will also start friendly conversation.

2. Once you are close to his 'allies' so to speak, confront them about it. He's new, You've been working there for longer, other co-workers would have seen you around a lot more, and so may be more comfortable with you. Ask "what's **InsertHomophobesNameHere** problem? i see him giving me these wierd looks". If they dont tell you, forget it, dont pressure them.

3. If they tell you, you have solid proof. If not, dont worry, your friend still told you, but it would be better confirming it with the rest. Confront him, when its just you and him. Dont do it when he's with his group of friends, where he may try to impress them by starting a fight or something. Just ask him "What's your problem? i heard that you've been spreading rumours about me?" Now, at this point, it would be useful if there would be only 3 people in the room. You, a friend of yours, and the homophobe. The friend can break up a fight, or act as a witness.

4. If he resorts to violence, its your friends cue to come in and break it up. Dont approach him with your friend next to you. You friend should ideally be atleast a car lengths away, pretending to look busy, and mind his own business. Because you have a witness, it lessens your chance of being in serious trouble if there is violence. But dont initiate the violence. Talk clearly, but not loudly, as to intimidate him, or initiate violence.

5. Hopefully you will get an answer as to the rumours, and the fact that you approached him, may intimidate him.

6. These types of people who are very against this tend to be violent, so be careful.

7. maybe he spread the rumour because of something else. Because if there is nothing you have done to make him think your a Homosexual, why would he spread something like that? I dont know. Maybe he's jealous

Remember, this is what i would do, and not neccessarily what you should. Use your judgement as you know the full situation.

Hope i helped, if you have a follow up Question or whatever, just ask. :)




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