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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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im 20/f, my bf is 21. We have been together for 2 years and when we didn't live together we had sex a lot. We moved in together a few months ago and it seems since then i never want to. He will try getting intimate and i just push him away. I don't know why i don't want to. I love him very much and i am still attracted to him. I tried taking pills to up my sex drive but it didn't seem to work. Its starting to effect our relationship. what do i do?
You both have gotten used to one another The thing that rings a bell is you mentioned you both had sex a lot. Perhaps you need to spice things up and try new things with your boyfriend. Try things you haven't done.
One another note, Are you on medication? Sometimes this can play a big role in your sex drive as well as birth control.
If this may be a possibility you should talk to a doctor.
I've always considered myself straight - no matter how physically appealing/sexually attractive I find some girls, I haven't had the urge to date any of them before. I just started at a religious university this year where homosexuality isn't very supported, and I think I'm crushing pretty hard on my roommate. I've never felt this way before and I'm extremely stressed because I know my parents wouldn't approve, and my roommate doesn't support gays/lesbians either. I feel sick with worry about what this might imply about my sexual orientation and I just don't know what to do anymore. Any advice would be very appreciated!
If you were to be bisexual, Why would that be a bad thing?
I know this may not help but I really think people under estimate the large variety of people who are gay/lesbian/bisexual. In fact in today's society it is not uncommon and is rather excepted. Of course if you are surrounded by people who do not support sexual orientation other then straight you are going to think the same as they do. If you like your roommate then that's fine, It really is not as big of deal as people make it out too be.
You live once and it should be lived freely. You live for you, Not other people. If you are bisexual then let it happen. Why hold back? You are who you are and again, There is nothing wrong with it at all.
How can I call 911??I am a Pakistani and I am in a big danger.I am 12.Please help me.Please..........
If you live in the United States you pick up the phone and simply dial 911
17/f
ive been seeing this guy for 6 months now. we are both really happy. he is friends with this other girl on the other side of the country (they talk like everyday)she has a boyfriend, but apparently the boyfriend is jealous of max (the guy im seeing). This morning max told me, that at the beginning of the previous year he had promised this girl a visit for a week and he asked if id be alright with that.
i trust him, he is really relgious and i know he would never cheat. i just think its weird to travel the country to see another girl and when she has a bf!.
am i being to jealous? or am i right in thinking its a tad off?
any suggestions on how to approach it with him without starting an argument.
You are not seeing the bigger picture. Your boyfriend may be religious but that does not always prevent someone from cheating. Also, Why would he feel the need to visit another girl when he is happy with you?
It sounds to me there is a logical explanation for why this Max is jealous. Your boyfriend did not consider your feelings, he thought about himself.
There may be more going on then what you want to believe. I would call it quits
So, I was giving my boyfriend a hand job and he cummed a little on my hand. I didn't wash it off right away and about 10 mins later I went to the bathroom. Can I get pregnant by wiping if I had it on my hand?
Very unlikely
Please read up on sex education. Nothing against you, but people who ask these sort of questions apparently no nothing about sex.
Hi!
Im in middle school and I start feeling this feeling since November of last year. I hate my life so bad. I always feel depressed. I feel like I'm ugly, I'm stupid,I'm fat and many other things. Then, my friends, I feel like I don't fit in with them. Then, since lately, my boyfriend has been chatting with this blond haired b*tch after class when everyone was gone one day. I'm afraid my boyfriend and I are going to break up and he's going to kiss her. For some reason, we haven't talked since two weeks ago on the phone (He is moving next year). I'm crying while typing this. (I actually cry a lot) What can I do before I hurt myself badly. I'm sorry if you can't understand with my typing I'm just depressed and sad all the time.
I am feeling a wave of self esteem issues here. Sweetie, You are going to experience many relationships I your lifetime. I hate too say it, this boyfriend is not forever. If he is chatting with someone else I promise you, She is not forever either. I know it is hard to see but he is young too and has no idea what it means too truly love someone. The reason for feeling sad can play several factors such as your age too. I promise you, Everyone has had there heart broken one time I'm their life. You just need to move on and focus on you. One thing I learned in life is you never depend upon a man. A man does not make you happy, You need to make yourself happy first. Do not let this get you down. You are stronger then that
Hi,
My best friend of 15 years is getting married next year.
To my surprise she posted up a facebook status the other day listing her four bridesmaids & I was not included.
I've never felt so hurt by someone in my entire life, I was crying all night thinking I had done something wrong & trying to figure out why she didn't pick me.
Now I don't want to be friends with her anymore or even go to her wedding. I don't have a boyfriend, never have so I will be by myself as usual. Also I don't want to be embarrassed in front of her family who I've known for years starring at me wondering why I'm not there.
She lives in Australia but is coming home to New Zealand to get married here then go back to live in Australia.
How do I tell her I don't want to be friends with her cause she really hurt me & that I don't want to go to her wedding?
I know it's mean but I am just so hurt. If I ever got married I would've picked her to be mine.
Her excuse was that she can't afford to have an extra bridesmaid.
I just want to tell her to f off & to go get stuffed.
Hun,
When my sister got married I was not in her bridesmaid party. I was deeply hurt also, but you see the purpose of a wedding is not who gets chosen. It is a date of blessings and celebration. I advise you too go and enjoy the day with her.
If you insist on saying something then I would ask her why she couldn't consider you as a bridesmaid seeing she has known you for a long time. However, Remember she may be stressed due to planning etc. A better time to ask maybe after the wedding.
If you choose not to go, That would be your choice and you have that right. Just think about this before you decide to throw it all away. I say go to the wedding and be happy. You're day will come where you do not have to choose her in your bridal party either.
Hi,
Im a 28 year old female. I dont have any friends & I've never had a boyfriend.
I have been looking for work for the last year, always go to interviews but never get the position.
When I do go out I can never hold a conversation & normally just sit there & listen to everyone else.
I am so lonely & just want to find a husband who love me & respect me.
People who I went to school with are all married and have kids while I live at home.
All I have is my family who I love dearly but just need a man or a friend.
Im a really nice person, Im just really lonely & dont know what to do.
Volunteer, Sometimes it will help promote the chances of possibly getting hired for a position. After you have volunteered for a few months, Try applying. You have to put yourself out there as nobody is going to come and knock on your door. If you want to make friends then try being friendly and talk to people. A good spot for singles is a coffee shop or your local cafe. Try dog walking and hitting up the parks, Even dating sites are not all bad. Maybe someone knows someone? For example, Do you have any cousins around your age? Perhaps they have friends and those friends have friends?... Get involved! For a job, Try looking in the local paper. There is always something out there
can i have sex with my mother?she has no one without me.and she has a huge sexual need.she is also agree to have sex with me.my age is 19+.
Having sex with family members is a crime. It is considered incest which is illegal almost anywhere. You and your mother could face very serious charges as its not something the law takes lightly. Also, that is just disgusting.
Advise you too read up on the law of incest...
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laws_regarding_incest
I am running a drycleaning business.
How can I contact mute people who want to work?
Why does this question have discrimination written all over it?...
I am 13.I have a crush on a girl named Mira. How can i get her to like me? I need to know by Janruary 7, 2013.
You cannot make someone like you. If you want her to become interested in you then be nice to her but it is either she likes you or she doesnt.
I've been with the same guy for almost five years and we share a four month old together. This relationship has definitely not been the best in the begining it well and then after 2 years I found out he was cheating on me with many girls. I tried to break it off but it was really hard and I couldn't go a day without thinking about him. We tried many many times to make things better and so they seemed good for awhile it just went strait back to bad. When he gets mad he screams at me and calls me every name in the book. He is also horrible with money I'm always loaning him money and then when he gets paid I tell him what he owes me and he calls me a liar and starts a huge fight and its like this on a regular basis there's days were he will completely ignore me. After the baby the cheating stopped I haven't been able to find anything suspicious in his phone and he tells me he would never cheat on me again and there's a part of me that wants to trust him but I can't. We currently live together too I really do love him and I think he has the ability to change but I've never left him. This is just really stressing me out I'm not a bad person I love my baby and I love myself and I would love us to be happy but I feel like there's so many issues here. I need some help.
This relationship is toxic for you both mentally and financially. You both have a child together and the guy is not taking responsibility.
Guess what, You are doing you and your child more harm then good by staying with him. I have always believed a person who cheats can never truly love the person they cheated on with. This guy has betrayed you, used you and treats you like shit. You need to pack up and leave him. If he cheated and you dont trust him then your relationship already ended.
Hi I'm 22 and I have been with my boyfriend for about 6 months at the begining he was soo nice to me,apart from that I was pregnant with another man baby but my recent boyfriend didn't mind!he told him mum that the baby I'm havin its his!after I gave birth I moved to his mothers house its a nightmare I hate this place so much!!she's so controling and wants to know evrything,and evrytime me and my boyfriend argue he uses the baby agains me and scares me that he will tell his mum its not his.he has he's own place and I go see him once in a while he became soo abusive he shouts at me over litle things and hits me las time he kicked me in my knee and I coudnt walk he have me black eye,and I got bruises all over my body!!I love him soo much but part off me wants to leave him and part of me doesn't!!he doesn't let me go and see my family,friends all I do is look after the baby and worse thing he takes almost all of my maternity money,he's verry abusive and controling,I want to get out this relationship but don't know how!!
You need to leave, for your sake and your child. Do you have any relatives you can stay with?
Here are a few things to keep in mind
1, Nobody owns you
2, YOU are the mother of your own child, not his mother. You make your own rules and do not ever allow someone to tell you how to raise your child.
When you leave you get a restraining order for you and your child. If he abuses you again you take photos and go to the police department. You are allowing yourself to be abuse and putting your child in a dangerous enviroment. You need to move out asap.
You need to think about the safety and what is best for you and the baby.
Hi, I'm looking for a 12 to 13 year old girl in CA, preferably near Garden Grove. The kind of girl I'm looking is kind, generous, and loving. I don't care too much about looks, just dont be really fat. In case you're wondering, I'm a 13 yo asian guy, and I'm not fat. I'm kind and compassionate, and I'm not like other guys, who only care if the girl theyre dating is hot or not. I care more about attitude than looks, and I would rather listen to other peoples problems and help them with it than bothering them with mine. Right now, I seem to have forgotten where I put my pride and self esteem, so when you first meet me, I seem pretty wierd. However, once you get used to me, you'll find out that Im a nice and caring person at heart. I love games instead of sports, but i do a lot of sports anyways. I hope I can find someone who can accept me for who I am....
This is a site for people who are looking for advice, Not a dating site.
hello,
i have been dating my bf for 10 months now and when we were first together i fell for him very fast. without really getting to know each other we kind of jumped in a relationship. However, now i feel that everything he does kind of makes me mad, i dont think i made him work hard enough for me. he doesnt bring me flowers or take me out. things seem like theyve faded, im not as attracted to him and he gets on my nerves very easily. when i go out with the girls i love the fact that i can just forget about him and go have harmless flirtation with guys. i love my bfs family and friends, they mean so much to me and i really dont want to lose them. I still love him but the spark isnt there i feel and he has a full time job so in the nights he wants to hang out but im going to school and i need to do my home work and he doesnt understand. i think i am over thinking everything so i need someone elses help ! please!!!
thanks
You moved on, The only thing different is you are just beginning to realize it.
You enjoy going out with friends because it gets him off your mind. People who are in love need space but also have their spouse on their minds from time to time. Yours is looking for a way to erase him mentally and permanently.
The problem here is you both live different lives. He works full time, You go to school. People who live different lives in the end tend to want different things in life. In my opinion the only thing toxic is too be with someone who isn't able to be with you vice versa.
Here's the thing: I'm sixteen years old and I really like this guy who's twenty four. You don't need to tell me.. I know. It's bad. Let me start off by saying that it's not a sexual/physical kind of attraction. I mean yes, he's attractive. But that's beside the point.
I'm sure the majority of you are wondering, how could I have even gotten at all involved with someone of his age? The thing is, he's one of the youth leaders at my church. Yeah, I know. You don't have to say it. I know it's terrible. And don't me wrong, I don't plan on doing anything at all, anytime soon. I don't even think I'll ever tell him. At least not until I'm eighteen.
Look, I know it's wrong. I totally get that. It's inapproprate, I totally get that. But there's still that part of me that believes I have a chance with him (not now, of course, but) let me tell you why. Let me start by saying I could be totally wrong about these. But: He's hugged me, totally on his own, without me even needing one. He's joked around with me, while playfully hitting my hand. We've talked on Facebook about how people in today's society need to stop judging people and let them do what they want with who they want. Also, he's sent me smiley faces. But I'm sure that's nothing. Anyways, I've caught him looking at me and looking away right when I do. We've had moments where we look at each other for a while, etc. Whatever, a lot has happened. My point is, it sometimes slightly seems like there's... something there. But at the same time, of course, he's a youth leader. He's a pastor's kid. He's naturally and supposed to be nice. But I seriously feel like some of those things... they're unexplainable. Y'know?
Anyways, like I said, I'm not going to do anything and I'm not going to tell him. I definitely don't want to do anything to get him in trouble or ruin whatever it is that he and I DO have. So I'm definitely waiting for any of that. But there's still that part of me that really likes him. He's so real. And so chill. I don't even know for sure if I want to tell him in the future, for fear of losing him as a friend. Or an accquaintance. Or whatever he is. But at the same time, I've noticed those little things, as aforementioned. You can't tell me that any other youth leader would act that way towards any teen girl. But then again, I could totally be wrong about all of that; although I don't think I am.
I am totally, completely and most definitely over thinking all of this. And I know that. I'm just not sure of what to do about it. Hell, I'm not going to do ANYTHING about it yet. But it's just so hard to hold this inside. Especially when I see him at church and such. And what am I supposed to do when he does something else a little.. "off"? Obviously I can't say or do anything about it!
In conclusion, I really like this guy. And the little things, not gonna lie, I don't hate any of them. Haha. But it's going to be hard waiting like 1.5 years until it'll be okay to tell him how I really feel. But how can I even know for sure that he feels the same way? He SOMETIMES acts like it, sometimes. But what it all comes down to is if how I feel is going to ruin everything. I'm not exactly sure what "everything" is in this case. I'll figure that out later.
And in your answers, please don't restate themes like "only time will tell" or "if it's meant to be, it will happen". They're both true, no doubt about that. But I'm looking more for an answer that will really help me solve all of this.
I'm really sorry this was so long and I really appreciate you guys taking the time to read all of this. Even if it's all stupid.
A tad bit nicer? I told you how it is and you couldn't handle the truth. Obviously you weren't looking for advice, you were seeking approval. A rating is just a rating too me. I come to give advice not get rated high so no hard feelings. ;) next time you ask a question be prepared too get different answers. Not everyone is going to sugar coat it for you!
Happy 2013
If you really knew it was wrong would you be here asking? No.
The fact here is the guy is too old for you and you need to find someone your own age.
Guys who date girls when they are well past the adult age are not only seen as a pedophile by law, but just date the younger generation because they are gullible, easy and 'think' they are in love. Now I agree with the user above me...when it comes to being serious they do not want a kid too bring home. Sorry to harsh but you are indeed a minor. Stay away from him, It is asking for trouble.
hi, im 17/f and currently seeing this guy max who is only a few months older. We are both VERY mature for are age. ive been seeing him for 6 months now, and ive never been this comfortable around anyone, including my best friend. I can be completely myself and we just get on so well.
things you should know before i get to my question:
so basically i live with my mum after a physical abuse from my father. im not a virgin, after a 3 year relationship with my ex and either is max. And also me and max arent dating, although we are exclusive like dating without the lable (max has depression and he doesnt want to hurt me- he thinks i deserve better. he is taking medication and once he feels stable and has both feet on the ground he wants me to be his gf cause he can see this lasting ). Me and max have had sex once.
I have recently told him i don't want to have sex with him again ( not like never, just not at the moment, i just want to wait till we are a couple) he understands.
i REALLY like this guy, but im scared how long am i going to be waiting for? i'm not going anywhere anytime soon, but there is always the risk of someone getting hurt. its bound to happen sometime. i've been through it before i know what its like and i want to help him, but he is a very reserved person. seeing my friends with their boyfriends shatter me, although we do all the same things.. when someone asks me if i have a boyfriend i want to be able to say yes.
another thing is although i dont want sex, we hooked up the other night just kissing and touching extra, max tried to start it off.. i told him no and he said sorry and layed down next to me.. do you think im doing the wrong thing since we already did it? i like him so much but i dont want to confuse the situation more with sex.
sorry for being so long.. any advice will help boys and girls opinions would help :) thankyou
I think fooling around is basically ruining the chance of a relationship ever properly working out for the both of you. He doesn't want to hurt you but he is pretty much using you for sex? Sweetie, Doesn't sound like the right type of guy.
I went through a divorce, lost my house and family, bankruptcy and lost my job all within the last year. I have been diagnosed with clinical depression. I am suicidal most days but haven't attempted yet. What do I do? I have been through lots of therapy also. I don't really want to die, just want pain to stop. Help me please.
You need to start fresh and now that it is the new year I would take it as an opportunity.
Get yourself into counseling. Divorce counseling can help speed the healing process. Focus on you, Start looking for a new job, save money or even consider going back to college.
hi guys....so technically I'm not a virgin I had lost my virginity when I was 14 years old and I am now 17. I've been dating my boyfriend for 10 months and we still haven't had sex because I get really nervous and embarrassed. not to sound awkward or disturbing but he fingers me pretty frequently and plays with my chest all the time. I have him `head` once and that was fine. but hi ow do I build up confidence? and ...how much does it hurt? as I said I was 14 and I don't remember how it felt. and I haven't had sex since than. thank you so much everyone who answers!!!
None of us can answer this as each person is different. However I just wanted to correct you on the title...Once you loose your virginity there is no loosing it again.
How do you make your feet smaller?
There is no way.
If it makes you feel better I wear a size 10-11 so be proud of them!