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Feeling so hurt.
Hi,
My best friend of 15 years is getting married next year.
To my surprise she posted up a facebook status the other day listing her four bridesmaids & I was not included.
I've never felt so hurt by someone in my entire life, I was crying all night thinking I had done something wrong & trying to figure out why she didn't pick me.
Now I don't want to be friends with her anymore or even go to her wedding. I don't have a boyfriend, never have so I will be by myself as usual. Also I don't want to be embarrassed in front of her family who I've known for years starring at me wondering why I'm not there.
She lives in Australia but is coming home to New Zealand to get married here then go back to live in Australia.
How do I tell her I don't want to be friends with her cause she really hurt me & that I don't want to go to her wedding?
I know it's mean but I am just so hurt. If I ever got married I would've picked her to be mine.
Her excuse was that she can't afford to have an extra bridesmaid.
I just want to tell her to f off & to go get stuffed.
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For starters i am a guy 24 so i dont know if what i am going to say will help but anyways here it goes. I understand that u would feel terrible and angry but I still think you should go to the wedding and don't worry about the not having a boyfriend you will find one you might even find mr right at the wedding ? As for your friend I know it's will be hard but try to not let it hurt you and just to go there and enjoy yourself . And hey who knows when you get married you can do some pay back as well lol .
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Kind of a silly thing to end a friendship over, don't you think? Especially such a long lasting friendship.
I understand you're hurt and all, but geez...
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is it really something to lose a friend of 15 year over? close friends wouldnt drop a friend just like that. go to the wedding put on a brave face, and be happy for your friend who is getting married. dont make her dream day be about your feelings, there is time for that afterwards. plus brides have heaps of things to think about.
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Hun,
When my sister got married I was not in her bridesmaid party. I was deeply hurt also, but you see the purpose of a wedding is not who gets chosen. It is a date of blessings and celebration. I advise you too go and enjoy the day with her.
If you insist on saying something then I would ask her why she couldn't consider you as a bridesmaid seeing she has known you for a long time. However, Remember she may be stressed due to planning etc. A better time to ask maybe after the wedding.
If you choose not to go, That would be your choice and you have that right. Just think about this before you decide to throw it all away. I say go to the wedding and be happy. You're day will come where you do not have to choose her in your bridal party either.
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